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Samantha125:
Well, another part of me doesn't blame her, I mean he did promised her marriage and plenty children.

You can't promise someone heaven on earth only to not live up to your expectations, some people don't take betrayals likely... Imagine staying faithful in a relationship and turning down various suitors, only to get dumped like a hot potato over another woman.

I like your being objective

[quote author=EmmyMaestro post=139876175]“My Husband Is The God I'm Seeing” – Woman Praises Husband For Transforming Her Life, Lists Achievements

A Nigerian woman has gone viral after showering praises on her husband, crediting him for transforming her life and insisting he deserves her lifelong respect and submission.

In a video making the rounds on social media, the woman recounted how her husband changed her living conditions, sponsored her education and exposed her to opportunities she never imagined.

According to her, she moved from living in a public compound to a comfortable flat, completed her education and owned her first iPhone, BlackBerry and Android phone, all thanks to her husband’s support.

Recounting her experience, she said:

“Because of my husband, I left public yard. I no dey run again to take turn to bath or poo. Because of him, I started living in a flat. Because of my husband, I finished my school. Because of that man, I used my first iPhone, my first BlackBerry and my first Android.”

She went on to say that her husband also made her a mother and gave her a better life, stressing that she could not have attained those milestones on her own or through her parents.

Maintaining that she would never stop appreciating him despite criticism online, the woman declared that she would continue to honour and submit to her husband for the rest of her life.

“Before God in heaven, he is the God I am seeing. I will keep respecting and submitting all the days of my life. They hate when you appreciate a man that does good in your life. I can never take someone’s glory. I appreciate him,” she added.

The video has since sparked mixed reactions on social media, with many praising her gratitude, while others criticised her for describing her husband as “the God I am seeing.”

“Because of my husband, I now sit in the front seat of a car, I now live in a compound where I don't share toilet or bathroom, because of him, I now live in a flat, I use Android. I will keep on submitting to him all the days of my life”

Nigerian Woman sing praises of her… pic.twitter.com/rR9gXzwI1i

— Oyindamola🙄 (@dammiedammie35) June 29, 2026

"Redpill#ers, where you?

I know you guys will have a response to this.

Is the husband a simp? Or the wife is just using him?

I really want to hear you guys' opinion.

Oya let's talk.

toprealman:
In 2019, you got married to your Lekki bros. Had kids etc… then I guess in your parallel universe, UK and ILR happened.
Same you announced that you are broke before 25th of every month.
Same you announced to the world that in 2020 , you were living in a one rim apartment. No husband, etc….
You copied the story from someone…bless your heart!

Means she is just telling lies, but why should anyone do that? For what exactly?

[quote author=Nwaikpe post=139330901]So why didn't the people go and make the same money for themselves if they could?

This slavery mentality must stop.

They make Billions for your company, all they are requesting is Millions, not even the Billions...

Dude, where is our humanity?

This is what encourages fravd.

bewisemasses:
U don't necessarily. U just need a mode of transportation and they r many.
Coupled with d fact that u need lots of daily walks for exercise, owning a car is not a necessity.
There r countries where they care little abt owning cars and their lives r more meaningful than ours

Those countries, not our Naija.

You want to take your family out for lunch or dinner in a scorching sun or rain?

Hey!

Oyindamolah:
If an intern becomes valuable enough to leave after learning from you, that doesn’t automatically mean the investment was wasted. it means you helped build talent. The bigger question is: why do people feel the need to leave so quickly?

In many cases, people leave because of poor pay, no growth path, toxic work culture, or feeling undervalued. And if someone is threatening you after gaining experience, that’s a separate character issue not a reason to stop developing people entirely.

Also, bonding employees for years can backfire. Most talented people won’t agree to being tied down unless there’s a strong incentive attached (sponsorship, certifications, relocation support, etc.). Even then, forcing retention rarely builds loyalty.

I think this approach is better:
- Hire people with good character and willingness to learn
- Create clear expectations from day one
- Pay fairly as they grow
- Build systems so your business doesn’t depend on one person
- Make your workplace good enough that people want to stay

Because the real risk isn’t training people and losing them. It’s refusing to train people and being stuck with mediocre talent forever.

Because the real risk isn’t training people and losing them. It’s refusing to train people and being stuck with mediocre talent forever.

I agree 100%

I read a quote somewhere, that goes like this (not verbatim though)- "If you scared of training your employees because they will leave after sometime, think about not training them, and they staying",

Which is more disastrous?

Nwaikpe:
They are supposed to splash their billions on their employee,
Right?

Who made the billions for them? Goats?

bewisemasses:
If ur workplace, church and kids sch is close to ur house why do u need a car.
Nigerians mentalist if showoff is why we go for cars not it's necessity

You need a car, it is not for show-off, owning a car, no matter how 'small' is not a luxury, it has become a basic necessity of life, just like your mobile phone.

Please let that sink.

Odewaleadesoye:
[font=Georgia]...some people will say it is too early or they'll bottle it, but football can suprise you.

So, you are saying Arsenal will win almighty Bayern Munich? Dey play

Anyway, it's called 'Champions League', they are all Champions, anybody can win.

IyaTola:
I get where this is coming from — rejection stings, and it’s easy to build a whole theory around it. But a lot of what you wrote turns normal human behavior into something one-sided and cynical, and that’ll hurt you more than help you.

First, rejection doesn’t automatically mean “she lost respect for you.” In many cases, it’s the opposite. If you ask someone out directly and handle a “no” calmly, that usually signals confidence and self-respect. What does reduce respect is begging, pressuring, or trying to “buy” affection — not because she’s a woman, but because that behavior shows insecurity.

Also, the idea that women only say yes if they “can’t find someone better” or out of pity is just not grounded in reality. People (men and women) choose partners for all kinds of reasons — attraction, compatibility, timing, shared values, emotional connection. Reducing it to ego games and “fallback options” oversimplifies human relationships and can make you approach dating with distrust from the start.

You’re right about a few important things though:

If someone says no, take it seriously.

Don’t try to force or negotiate attraction.

Keep your dignity and move on.


That part is solid.

But here’s the healthier way to frame it: Rejection isn’t a power move or an ego boost — it’s just a mismatch. Not everyone will be into you, just like you’re not into everyone. It doesn’t make you less valuable, and it doesn’t make them manipulative.

And moving on shouldn’t be about “she’s not special” — it’s better to think: “we’re not a fit.” That keeps you grounded without turning bitter.

If you go into dating believing most women are out to use or disrespect you, you’ll either push good people away or attract the exact situations you’re trying to avoid.

Focus on:
-Being someone you respect
-Choosing people who show genuine interest
-Walking away when it’s not mutual

That’s not about “winning” or proving anything — it’s just how healthy relationships actually work.

Wow! What an intelligent write-up....Standing ovation for you!

essentialone:
Bro, once you ask a w00man out and she rejects you, the next thing that will happen is that she will lose her respect for you. This happened for most w00men.

The moment a w00man rejects you, she starts seeing herself as your equal or as superior.

Understand that w00men boost their ego through rejection.
The most f00lish thing you can ever do in that situation is to keep begging her, f0rcing her or trying so hard to convince her so she can accept you.

There is something you need to know about female attraction.

The moment a w00man say NO to you, know that she means it and there is nothing you can do to change her mind for the real w00men.

But if you go ahead and start seeking for validation, sending data, airtime and gifts to win her over — most of them will pretend to love you because of the benefits and that's all fake.

If a w00man does not see you worthy of a relationship, she will never accept you. In this situation — don't go ahead trying to prove yourself.

Talk to the next w00man — she's not special.

If and only if she will accept you is base on the two conditions:👇

If she can not find another man:
That point where she has being piped, used and dumped by the men she want who doesn't want her and then due to the lack of men and age passing her, she will fall back to you as her available option.

Next one is — She will accept you out of pity : this is the worst position a man can ever be, the truth is any w00man who accept you out of pity will always have a void in her heart painting to be filled by the man she genuinely loves.
She accepted you out of pity base on what you have spent and invested.

And it's the truth she will always be in a look for better man.

So when you ask a w00man out and she declines, walk away and never look back. Talk to the next w00man. Don't walk out of anger or pain but walk out of self respect and value.

The moment you do that, she will by herself respect you more, she will even feel you did her a favour for asking her out. Out of fear she'll be thinking if she didn't make a mistake by rejecting you
She will be monitoring your progress to know if she actually made a wrong decision by rejecting you. She will be comparing you with the man she accepted.
That is why you have to focus on your grind and become better person.

But if you keep trying hard to get her, you just avail yourself for more disrespect.
Must of them will take advantage of that and accept you knowing you can provide their needs.
But believe me bro — she will pun!sh you financially, and still cheat on you with the man she's into.

So bro, if she said no to you or you discovered she's not into you, next her — she's not special.

Control your emotions bro.

Class dismissed.
Till I come your way again.
Keep following for more.f

"Class dismissed"

Nice post bro.

Mariangeles:
Do you think the experience is worth paying $12,000 for?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RKRj0CZ4d_E

I love this .

May poverty not be our portion.

@Green Man, HBD Bro.

Cheers to a blessed new year!

InvertedHammer:
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God works in a mysterious way.

Successful ladies above 35 are God's free gifts to widowers or poor men. The ladies may term it "settling" but God cannot be mocked. Nature is supreme.

/

hmmmm...

franchasofficia:
She is right to some extent but she is completely wrong to a great extent.


She should ask most married ladies in Nigeria, if they would be honest to her, I can personally say that if we have 100 married women in Nigeria, at least 82 slept with their husband before they got married.


Dear single ladies, please I encourage you to live a chaste life, but please men don't leave you or break up with you just because they had sex with you, never!

Men leave you after sex if any of the below scenarios played out:


1.) You proved too stubborn when he was wooing you and formed so much for him only for him to use everything he has and every tactics he knows to get you, the moment that guy finally have sex with you, the spell will fly off from his eyes and he will realize that you were never worth the whole stress and from there, his interest will die a natural death and sooner or later he will leave you in search of a more deserving lady.


2.) You lied to him or pretended to be a virgin and he later realized that you were far from being a virgin, he will develop disdain for you and will definitely run from you.


3.) You appeared too good that he thought having you as partner means having everything in a woman, only for him to realize that you are empty, have nothing else profitable to offer aside sex and material/financial demands that keep draining his pocket, of course he will start looking for the exit door to run.


4.) You are materialistic and very demanding. Today it is hair, tomorrow it is underwear, next tomorrow it's your phone that you want to change, next week it's your birthday, the upper week it's clothes or money to complete asoebi for your friend, next month you are asking for school fees or money to complete house rent, next you are begging for a loan, and the cycle of demand continues, no man will stand such a greedy, insatiable and unreasonable materialistic woman for long. Even if he mistakenly marries you, be sure that the marriage will either end in divorce or in chaos.


5.) You are dirty down there and not making amendments to become better.


6.) You lack respect. Men cherish respect more than gifts. If you want a man to stay longer with you? Respect him. If you respect your man, you will respect his friends, his siblings, his parents, in fact everything about him. But some ladies just pretend to respect their boyfriend while disrespecting their friends and not knowing that it is those his friends that will pass judgement that will decide if you will be married or laid off as soon a possible. Please respect your man's friends and treat them with caution because they are the Supreme Court of your relationship most times lol



6.) You lack vision. You lack ambition. You know, they said after a man ejaculates, he comes back to his senses. After a man cums, he comes back to his senses.


You can only know if your boyfriend truly loves you and want you for keep after sex, yes it's sad but that's the truth. It is after you guys have had sex that he will now face reality and start seeing all your flaws as a lady. If after sex and he sees your flaws and still continues then you are a winner


7.) For some ladies, it is family altar and generational curse that is holding them down, yes, it's real. If you check that you have no issues character wise, being excessively materialistic, being too unrealistic with your demands from men, making yourself expensive, then check the spiritual side of life, something is wrong somewhere.


8.) For some good ladies, it is just the lack of luck that makes them meeting the wrong men. Location also matters. If you are in a location where mostly rich married men lives, it will take the grace of God for you to find a suitor.

Nice write-up. Everything you wrote is on point. 100%

Neddyogu:
Young man,
be careful and think it twice,
before you choose to use
Your device so u don't have rain drops falling.... Abi na hw chairman talk am?

That gender is confused, they really don't know what they want; you better don't let them mess with your mind, just do what makes you happy and move on with your life.

franchasng:
Some of you guys are the reason the ladies are replying the way they did on this thread, just reread your comments, it doesn't make sense.

What is wrong with marrying a 34yrs old lady, and you are here making it look like a big deal marrying 29/30yrs old ladies? People are marrying ladies above 40yrs, I know some that did and they are living absolutely fine and their wives even look hotter than the under 30 ladies. You better change your orientation oh


For your information, I married my wife when she was 29yrs approaching 30.


And guess what? We have our beautiful kids that give me super joy today without a single delay.


I know the issue is most of you have wrong notion and belief about women's fertility and childbearing. You guys believe ladies around 29/30 won't give birth easily which is totally wrong.

I am not mocking anyone, just for the sake of this thread, let me share my real life experience with you guys.


I married my wife 29 going 30yrs and immediately after our wedding she took in and had our first baby without delay.

Unfortunately I have 3 friends who married their wives at; 24, 25 and 26. All of them had serious childrearing delay. The one that married his at 24 had 8 years delay. They even resorted to IVF which all failed twice. It was prayers and God's intervention that made them later had a child. The other one just had his not long ago, it was close to 7yrs too.


My point, these things are all in God's hands and your destiny in life also matters plus your family background and the spiritual battles in your family and your wife's family too, those are the things that cause delay in giving birth in Nigeria. Some come from men too, a lot of men are not potent but won't know cos they can still ejaculate spm.


My point?

There is nothing wrong in marrying 29, 30, 31, etc ladies.



In fact while single I never liked the idea of marrying any girl below 28yrs, I always knew I would marry someone mature and sensible, though there are ladies that are very sensible and mature at even 22yrs, so all these things are individual based. Just pray to marry the right person, someone that have human conscience, empathy, zero or less spiritual baggages and from a good/reasonable family. All these age and other things don't usually matter at the long run.


Until you guys marry, you won't understand some things about life and marriage sha


If you make sex and sexual matters (she must be a virgin this, body count that) a top priority in deciding who to marry, take it from me, you will most likely end up marrying the wrong person that will make you regret ever getting married.

Well said. Thanks for sharing this beautiful piece.

If you make sex and sexual matters (she must be a virgin this, body count that) a top priority in deciding who to marry, take it from me, you will most likely end up marrying the wrong person that will make you regret ever getting married

Can you please shed more light on this?

From Chronic Critic to Ardent Supporter....that transformation needs to be studied mehn...Reno, Reno...

ZUBY77:
Pastor indeed. His dealings will be busted someday and all of you will be surprised.

Exactly my thought, his shady dealings will be exposed someday, just like Hushpuppi.

Kobojunkie:
. Here are two straightforward scenarios for you to analyze and give straightforward answers in response to. 🤔

Scenario A: A pastor married a wife, and after about 5 years of what seemed a loveless union, decided he had found love with another woman — he fell out of love with his wife almost immediately after the marriage. It started with him emotionally cheating on his wife.(He was a pastor with a sleek tongue, so he could explain away even the most awkward of moments with ease.)Eventually, he tagged his wife as a bad woman, and began heaping blame on her in attempts to create a reason for his eventual divorce/abandonment of her and the children she had for him. All this so he could eventually make room for the new woman to come into his life. 😐

Scenario B: A brother-in-the-lord who had been born-again for over 10 years. He fell in love with another lady, but the woman he desired wanted nothing to do with him. She was also in the church, but her eyes were on another man. She later married that other man and had a child with him. Fast forward 3 years, our brother-in-the-lord finally saw himself seeing what he referred to as visions of another woman whom he believed his lord had chosen for him to marry. He and this other woman were asked to enter into prayer, and they came out of it convinced they were meant for each other. The two— our brother-in-the-lord and this other woman who believed they were both right for each other — eventually got married. And no sooner had this happened than all hell broke loose for this new wife. In public, our brother-in-the-lord maintained his spiritual persona, but at home, this man saw his wife as a punching bag for all his shortcomings and lost dreams. He gaslighted his wife into believing his abuse of her was all her fault.

Our brother-in-the-lord is filled with regret and hurt every time he sees the first woman he longed for but never could have with her husband in the church. He hated that the woman he married was nothing like the woman he desired, and each time the other woman's husband showed her affection in the church, our brother-in-the-lord came home to take out his angst on his poor wife, who knew nothing of what was going on in her husband's head. 😐

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Now @Amarachieze, please tell us, in each case above, which of the individuals would be classified as the unequally yoked individual in the marriage, and which would be the compatible or incompatible one. 😶

I'll like to know what exactly your points in these 2 scenarios are, because these are deep situations which happen in real life... sincerely asking.

Thanks.

bigiyaro:
Nobody knack within the church like choir members and elders. Almost 95% of choir members in all churches knack themselves.

95%?



Really? The percentage may not up to that o............

It is great to marry a Virgin if you find one, but Character over Virginity.

Virginity connotes good morals and a high level of discipline, but Character is an entirely different ball game.

10 months down the line after marriage, when going home after work, it is not Virginity you are going to meet; by that time, Virginity would have travelled far away. Rather, it is the true character of the woman you got married to, that you will meet at home.

Better to go home and meet a non-virgin that gives you peace of mind and makes you happy, than go home to meet a virgin that makes your life miserable.

But if you find a virgin that also gives you peace of mind and makes you happy, what a blessed man you are!

pansophist:
Did he actually "begged" for your number? Lol.

Like say your number na job, or presidential nomination to be begged for.

Anyways, some men do ask for number for the thrill of it. Also, a subset of men prefer that the lady show interest since she has his number, then he can take it forward.

such men understands that chasing women is an exercise in futility because if she likes you, it will feel so seamless and without stress.

They also don't know the calibre and amount of men you're comparing him against, so no point to humiliate himself with showering her with attention when she hasn't even played her own part.

Women choose men, and such men won't force you to choose them. They let nature takes its natural course, and they accept if you choose other men in your options.

The idea that playing hard-to-get makes a man keep chasing is a rule that works for men that don't want to give anything, but take something.

A man that brings commitment, provision, protection and leadership won't be begging or pursuing a woman when he is a figure of light. A representation of God in her life.

An evolved good man will show signs, with the hope she respond, and if she ain't responding, he just cut off. Men's Intentionality comes with interest from her firstly.

But since you called and he didn't return your call, then let him go. Don't go and suffer unnecessarily because you won't accept reality by justifying his disinterest with something palatable to your feelings.


Delusion has a price, and the price is avoidable suffering. Move on.

Nice write-up...so so true.

pocohantas:
Declutterdotcom
Ojbdeclutter

Na this two I fit vouch for. 🙌

Noted. Thanks.

pocohantas:
It has been 2 years and she hasn't moved out! But she is enjoying them. Sometimes I will call and notice she is home early. In the past she would stay at work until 9pm to enjoy AC and watch TV. Weekends she would rush out again.

This is 2025, if you want to move out, there are declutter pages to sell off your whole property in 24hrs. I had people that wanted to buy my things, they were even disturbing me. Na me no gree sell.

Minimalism is not sleeping with a mattress on the floor while giving money to men and relatives. That is not minimalism!

Nice move jare my Sister. Thanks for helping her. Make she spend on top herself too, not just on men and relatives.

CJStarz:
You are wrong, bro. I wonder at those that clicked liked on a wrong spelling.
It's RENUMERATION! Use your dictionary. Your autocorrect is there on your phone for use

The correct word is remuneration. Renumeration is a common misspelling. Remuneration refers to the payment or reward for work or services, while renumeration, though a valid word in some contexts, generally refers to recounting or counting again.

John 3:16.-"For God [/b]so loved the world, [b]that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life."

Matthew 3:17- And lo a voice from heaven, saying, This is my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased.


Luke 6:12 And it came to pass in those days, that he went out into a mountain to pray, and continued all night in prayer to God.

John 20:21- Then said Jesus to them again, Peace [be] unto you: as [my] Father hath sent me, even so send I you.

Oshin56:
most married christian guys marry a church girl not knowing that most of the church girl are devil reincarnate....

True, but not all sha...

id4sho:
Womanization
Hard drugs
Alcoholism
Bad wife (common in christian homes 99%)

Bad wife (common in christian homes 99%)

Why did you say this?

delugajackson:
The list can never be complete without a porn site. The rate of porn viewership in this country is alarming.

No. 14

Natbrowny:
This is for deep thinkers. I know I'll be slammed and choke slammed for posting this.

Ur mother loves you because you are her son.
Ur wife's love (if not a golddigger or these mo-f*ckers out there nowadays) is really on another level.
Your siblings will protect and fight 4u coz they are ur brothers and sisters

For the real wifeys out there who loves who they marry for who they are, i salute you (una fit no plenty but my salute to you heads on)

Go broke for a long period of time or have a terminal medical condition and see who will stay with you between your Mother and Wife. Truth is, the endurance of your Wife has limits, that of your Mother does not.

Who was there at the cross of calvary at the crucifixion of our Lord Jesus Christ? The only person holding that cross was his Mother.

A word is enough for the wise.