isaacsegun:


i ve been reading through people's contributions here but is only few like you that ve been making sense.there are so many reasons i want to back out that i cannot be xplain all on this media.bros pls,can i pm you so that you can have the comprehensive reason

Sure bro

livinbygrace:



He no go better for everybody accusing this guy for his decision.If it were to be the girl that dumped the boy,most of you will be supporting her ,saying all sort of nonsense.Most ladies dump guys these days for better offer and heaven did not fall,so if the guy feels she is not good for him he has the right to move on.Moreover most ladies would do worse if they had been in same position.I am talking from experience .So guy move on .

True talk... From my very personal experience, ladies do worse and heaven no dey fall.... If he think say E make sense make e marry her, good. If he no make sense to him, make ein zoom. No time to dey form James Bond

In as much as I'd have loved to tell the OP to marry the girl, I think he's not telling the full story. There should be other reasons he's not interested in marrying the girl.

As per everyone talking about the 10 years shit, drilling and abortion stuffs, comparing the male and female lives, everyone makes sacrifices in a relationship. No one knows the condition men are when they sacrifice money...So it's not about money can be replaced or not. It's about the situation or condition the men were while making the sacrifice. When I was younger, I'd have said money can be replaced but time can't.... Now I'd not even attempt saying that because those conditions are priceless.

A lot happens to guys in relationships and they are simply told to man-up. Some guys go dey low so tey dem go dey do like person wey want mad cos of wetin girl do them. So no be say make we dey think say women na weaker vessels, make we come dey use different yardstick for them.

I've seen a lady break up with a guy after 8 years because she found a richer guy. He simply moved on, got married in less than 18 months afterward and he's better than he ever thought. No one killed her. She's fine too and enjoying her life.

So I can't advise you to marry her because you've been together for 10 years or for abortion reasons. IF YOU FEEL IT'S RIGHT WITHIN YOU TO MARRY HER, DO SO. IF YOU FEEL IT'S NOT RIGHT, DON'T DO SO. LET YOUR CONSCIENCE JUDGE YOU. I'M NOT IN YOUR SHOES.

In as much as I'd have loved to tell the OP to marry the girl, I think he's not telling the full story. There should be other reasons he's not interested in marrying the girl.

As per everyone talking about the 10 years shit, drilling and abortion stuffs, comparing the male and female lives, everyone makes sacrifices in a relationship. No one knows the condition men are when they sacrifice money...So it's not about money can be replaced or not. It's about the situation or condition the men were while making the sacrifice. When I was younger, I'd have said money can be replaced but time can't.... Now I'd not even attempt saying that because those conditions are priceless.

I've seen a lady break up with a guy after 8 years because she found a richer guy. He simply moved on, got married in less than 18 months afterward and he's better than he ever thought. No one killed her. She's fine too and enjoying her life.

So I can't advise you to marry her because you've been together for 10 years or for abortion reasons. IF YOU FEEL IT'S RIGHT WITHIN YOU TO MARRY HER, DO SO. IF YOU FEEL IT'S NOT RIGHT, DON'T DO SO. LET YOUR CONSCIENCE JUDGE YOU. I'M NOT IN YOUR SHOES.

usbcable:
Ronaldo too get swag walahi.

Olohun!!!

Krasid:
No Isco, Bale, and Casemiro in the starting line up.

I don't know what Zizou is smoking over there... At least, start Isco for the fans naaaaaaaa

Krasid:
I think the midfield should be made the focal point of the Madrid team. With the fantastic 4(Modric-Kroos-Case-Isco) we will define a new era and dominate football for years to come. Also with attention taken away from the attack, our forwards will be able to wreck havoc to opposition teams. All I need is one decent signing to compete with Benzema or serve as a replacement if injury sets in, then we would be simply unstoppable.

I think getting Hazard or Mbappe would be good for the team and would reduce the workload on Isco and Ronaldo/Benzema respectively. We succeeded in the last 2 seasons because we had depth. when Benzema was benched, Morata was available.... when Isco was benched, James was available.. . Not to undervalue the importance of Asensio and Vazquez.

So I think we need a signature signing which should be an attacker and a suitable replacement for the front 2.5.

If I were Perez, I would sell Bale, buy Hazard and tie Mbappe down at Monaco for one more season, by paying his family or agent an amount upfront, something around €30.
By the end of the season, we could probably be fed up with one of our attackers and that would create space for Mbappe.

Hazard can play across the attack effectively. He's creative, fast, a good dribbler and good at using both feet. The question mark is his goal output but that can be worked upon. As per Mbappe, I don't want to think of him as a one-season wonder because I still remember Hary Kane.

Our defense is cool. All positions have been duly covered. I don't think we need to sign a defender. Our midfield is OK, almost overcrowded (used "almost" cos we have some of them that can play in the attack as advanced playmaker and choke the opponents midfield and defence but would tell on our goal output... something like fielding an Isco, Ascension, Ronaldo attack)

Just my thoughts.. . What do I know?

BJ4REEL:


Alright, thanks for your time.

I'm a newbie. Can you please tutor me a lil about this trade? Just a few questions as I've read most part of the thread. You can leave your email so that I can mail you. Thanks

Prosper24:
For over 4 years my father have been accusing my mother of fornications which has been a serious issue in our family. (24 years old marriage)

Please Don't mind my English and focus on the write up, na vex i dey use right all this stuff...

Living in a broken home is a very bad experience. I've been there but my dad never beat my mom and he never raised his voice, at least in our (children) presence.

From experience:

- Don't take sides. Know who you support within you. It'd all be history someday.

- As per domestic violence, let her decide what's best for her. You may help her make a better decision by doubling your hustle so that she doesn't "stay cos of the children". Let her know if she was a kid, you would have known what to advise but she's an adult and she should decide what's best for her. She'd get the message.

- As a matter of fact, double your hustle and help your siblings do the same. You don't necessarily need to get into something illegal. There are a zillion ways to make money.

- Do not write any letter to your dad. From experience, the best is to have a one-to-one discussion with him and be very diplomatic. Show that you are neutral and you want the best for the family.

- During the discussion, push him into telling you his faults in the marriage and your mom's too (there's no way she would be completely innocent. She could have done some wrong things innocently). That would give you an idea of what he thinks about her and how you can help.

- If throughout the discussion he shows he is very right, tell him you hope all his sons take after him and his Sons-in-law take after him.

- Do not visit your home frequently. Reduce it to about 2 times annually. Call your mom regularly to check on her and for updates. She's the weaker of the the two. If some of your sibling have left home for tertiary institutions too, let them do the same. Do not even visit during holidays. Your siblings could visit you and spend their holidays with you. When they are with you, call your dad and let him know you are on holidays but wouldn't be home cos it's a war zone.

- Look a little beyond the finances. He may have a lot of good things to offer beyond finances and she may have less to offer outside finances.

- 'Strongly' encourage him to look for other means to 'correct' your mom aside beating. Tell him it paints a very bad image of the entire family and shows he's a weak man. If you are Yoruba, there's a proverb for that and he would understand perfectly.

- Let him realize, without taking sides, that if the family should break, then both him and HIS WIFE (don't say your mom) have failed as a man and woman, as a father and mother and as role models.

- If you could have the discussion with boldness and tact, he would gradually change for only one reason: his son is speaking to him..... Unless he has been that way before you were born.

- If after the discussion and possibly 2 subsequent ones he doesn't change, especially as per physical assault, advise your mom to leave. You would be saving much more than just a life.

Above all, be neutral, diplomatic and treat your finances like you do not have parents. It helps a lot.

NB: If you are between ages 18 and 30 and your parents are still together, living under the same roof, either happily or not, enjoy it. It's priceless.

Shalom

xavieree:
Is it jus me...or does these happen to everyone?....whenever I see a very and I mean, very very stupid,weird,mean or funny comment these days....I check the moniker to see if it is ....Nwamaikpe's.

You're not alone... In Michael Jackson's voice

listenersky:

First thing in the Morning I called my fiancee that I have impregnated another girl. That the girl was one of my friends she met sometimes ago.u need to hear the way she reacted on phone. She immediately called my mom and my elder sis. It took me a while for me to convince them that it was April fool. I love my girl though ,we did our intro few days ago.

Since her parents know about the situation, sit yourself down and think about what happened between you two on April 1 (as quoted above).
You made a joke on April 1 and she had that reaction even though she was cheating on you. Bro, don't marry her outta pity. If u think you still mumuishly love her despite her actions, go ahead and marry her and please, don't disturb our peace with threads like "I met my wife's uncle in bed with her"....

pasqal09:


His brother is picking interest in the babe. I think that's the issue

It depends on the age of the bro and the level of understanding between the 2 of them

Freak101:
I have a boyfriend that I've been dating for about 5months now,I've not met him before,we met on a facebook open group..he's 5years older than me though and everyone has been engaged with one or two things,he works and I do too.

But he doesn't goto work on Saturday and Sunday and I dont either,but he won't allow us to meet,I've spoken about this several times,he would say *I'm making plans for us* I'm not even tired of him because I luv him,I'm just wondering Y?like I would be somewhere close to him and ask him to come around and he would say he wants our first date to be just us and some funny n sweet excuses.

To the men here,please why do you think he's curving me like this??I'm sure he loves me ,but why is he acting like this.

Plus,we've had a lot of things together,like he ordered one tablet for me for my birthday (DroiPad 7D),it was pay on delivery,and he sent 25,000 to me and I added 10k to it,that's about 35,000naira, but that's not the bone of contention,I just need more of him,I need to see him like badly

Its quite possible. I once dated a girl for almost 2 years before we met. She was as scared as you before we met. We were on about 8 occasions in the same city but couldn't meet because I wanted something special. For her to have a rest of mind, I had to send something thru her to my mum and I already hinted my mum about her. When she met my mum, "her mind touch ground".

So it's very possible he wants your first meeting to be very special.

Mine was so special we........the day we met

dingbang:
Your family members advised that your wife cater for your brother and your father


You nodded to it, your wife nodded to the decision as well... I also believe that your brother nodded in favor of it..

Now tell me, is it that there is no wise person left in your family apart from your father who doesn't want your wife to help him rather another maid?

I wonder oooo!!!!

Your bro getting close to her makes everything easier. No one suspects shit. Play the matured game while ur bro is the Screensaver. Whenever u wanna take her out, take both of them out. In the evening, have normal one on one chats with her. Whenever both of you are free during the day, meet at discreet locations where u just buy 2 drinks and talk......and so on

chuks34:

buy a laptop and contact me

Bro, can I have your email so that I will message you? I don't know how to send PMs on here

I dated her for 6 months but we're together for 4yrs and 9 months. It was in the 6th month I realized she was still effing her ex. I told her I was in city A and was feeling sick. The way she spoke, I knew she wasn't at home as she claimed. I immediately traveled down to her place, went to her house and met her mom. The mom said she left for my place 2 days earlier. I was shocked and felt bad. I called her and gave the phone to her mom. She was shocked and got home in less than 30 mins. She cooked different stories and cos of unexplainable reasons, I helped her stories. She confessed she was with her ex and told some other stories. She apologized and we continued a relationship.

That was the only case I considered cheating. She apologized and we continued a relationship. She was with different guys, married and single, and every time I caught her, she would apologize and act d perfect gf. I always told her I didn't consider it cheating anymore but fun. She never understood.
Meanwhile, I broke up with her inside of me after d first time. The relationship after the first 6 months became something else as I wasn't committed. I saw her as a friend with benefit and I enjoyed all benefits, while trying other girls. When I saw a better girl, I happily officially broke up with her.

I've tried all means to check my present girl and she's been excellently loyal although she get her own wahala just as I have my numerous wahalas

slawomir:
Although no woman have caught me cheating. Not a James Bond though but it is something no woman will ever catch me doing
I can't feel sad even if I see my wife,the one I paid her bride price sleeping with another man not to talk of common girl friend.
Come to female hostel at night in any university to see how ladies cheat with men on flashy cars.
So in life don't always be overwhelm with sadness and shock when you see such Disappointing situation.
Prepare for the worst and pray for the Best .

Too much sense in a comment

Lovely ass but the legs are too thick, I think

Every assy girl is a physical asset... Keep her

As little as I know about nairaland, FP loading

fynestpotato:
I see people saying,yes,why wouldn't they but in real life i'm sure they can't.We all love our mothers.I for one will be ready to protect mine anytime anyday but not like this.As for me na to cry and beg the person not to kill her or just find a way to outsmart and overpower the soldier,i wouldn't dare point a spatula at a gun,even momma will be dissapointed at my level of stupidity.

True... but he's a kid and I believe at his age, I'd have done something like this... He's just brave

"Slayed" corper

Skinnienigga:
Where did you get this poo from ke? I dey uniben now and nothing has been said to this effect. How dem go increase school fees from 14,400 to almost 50k? Dat means dem go increase the certificate from B.Sc straight to M.Sc too na. Rubbish news!

Gbayi!!! Na Nonsense... Make dem kukuma talk say them wan ban education... Nonsense and ingredients

Not surprised.... Some Muslim girls simply cover their hypocrisy with the hijab

Genes don't know Ramadan

If he's more than just a friend, tell him

Otherwise, read 1 Thess 4:11

Nice ideas....

But for the issue of spreading one's money, ur BVN shows the banks u operate and most real criminals have a lot of connections... . Knowing the balance of all ur accounts isn't a problem

If at the base, we have majority of people who cannot tolerate one another, then let those at the top not tolerate one another in embezzling the base's future

Lacomus:
The smart ones are aware the the ratio of women to men is something like this 5:1

Abasi wam mmor !

Based on the last census, for age range <39, the ratio of male to female is 1:11. When one man in that age range gets married, we can guess the new ratio

Checking the topics of stories on Frontpage, nairaland needs good editors. So many topics are misleading or unattractive

North!! !!