You should tell her off this is nasty really.

Another thing is if they are popular whenever you have a problem they will focus on talking to other people who are sucking up to them. Instead of sorting out the problems or spend less time with you as they are servicing their popularity. I think it would make things difficult.

McDoe:

One  and the most probable reason is that men often realize that the babe whose number was collected might be a PREDATOR

Hilarious isn't that what men usually are?

McDoe:

I love the phrase "just the way you are wired"

Service with a smile we aim to please.

McDoe:

For one to be popular, he or she popular must have some traits, aura and attributes that an ordinary person may not have. But being popular does not mean one is good. To me, I like the good and popular man and woman.

Me too, but some people confuse popularity and goodness.  Just cause someone is popular doesn't mean they are a good person.

jay bee:

wrong assumption . If he has a GF and obviously willing to cheat on her then i don't see anything stopping him from taking it further.

Yep but some men get hit by their conscience mid way and then just don't call as they really can't cheat on their girlfriend.

I have just given you an answer no they don't work.  Especially if you are a Christian.  Noone can do juju against you if you are a Christian so you must be in love with the woman and thats just the way you are wired.

McDoe:

But I have just said the truth. That was the initial stage. But Now the thoughts about her have been aching my head. I think the issue of conflicting story does not arise. One thing is that you have not answered the quetion of whether charms work, cos I was told most ladies now patronize the so called herbalists.

Your story doesn't agree, but to answer your question its nothing to do with charms. I only seen this once before and that is when a lady travelled and her man tried to cheat and couldn't get it up.  The lady who travelled is my friend and she told me after she found out everything.   Some men if they are in love with a woman will not get an erection with another woman.  It's the only time I heard of such things happening. that is just how it is.  The man I told you about I went to their wedding over a year ago they now have a baby and are happily married.  They met and married in a year so it wasn't too fast or anything she hadn't charmed or bewitched him, he had just fallen in love with her.  I don't think they will ever break up and I don't think he will ever try to cheat on her again.

So the best thing you can do is make it up and start treating her well that way it will be easier for both of you.

posakosa:

@ YUMI: Im not sure if you're a new or old member but I note that you post some good points/applicable comments.

Sometimes, people just come on NL to have fun, to push buttons, or for attention, and sometimes just aren't worth your typing efforts, So urm, just informing you, not take all things seriously.  

Oh ok yeah I think that this would be one of those times.   Thanks  

Ujujoan:

Yeah!

at the risk of stating the obvious, I'd say he's lying!

I hate when men use women for sex don't they have mothers and sisters isn't it?  How would they feel if someone did that to their sister or mother.  Treated her like a prostitute its so nasty and disrespectful.

I was mortified when this happened.  Some people just have no morals or conscience.  Disgusting really.  I say we vote with our pockets and stop supporting him financially, stop buying his music.  We the public made him, we can bring him back down. Then he might learn.

posakosa:


I think someone said this already. It depends on what they are popular for. Is it: credit card fraud, whoring, cheating,

_{James Bassey is a popular male LovePeddler who preys on young women.}

Yep thats it there has to be a distinction between bad and good right, right and wrong. Not everything can be acceptable just because someone is popular.

McDoe:

No, it was only when the sailing was no longer smooth that I decided to "seek greener pasture". I never cheated.

Yeah right you told us already you were only going to use her for one night.  So that was your intention all along. Now you say you went looking for pastures greener when you admitted you would have loved to be with her.

your story is conflicting dear you need to work on it.

McDoe:

I did not. I would have loved to be with her, but the truth is that she doesn't possess the qualities I needed in a babe after a close encounter with her. And when she noticed that I was not showing interest like before, she threatened to deal with me.

If you loved to be with her and she needed to work on things, why didn't you work on them together if you really loved to be with her.  Well you probably hurt her by not showing her interest like before, she probably didn't mean the threat but was upset about what you did.  If I was you I would admit you both are all not perfect and work things out.  

I don't think you are being honest you wouldnt have loved to be with a babe that has no qualities.  You probably just ignored her after hitting it and she got upset with you.

Thanks e

Ujujoan:

Good for you!!

Thanks dear

jay bee:

I take it you've finally had the courage to dust the dirt of ya shoulder . way to go gurl, gonna help and u most def going to appreciate the brave move in the long run

Hope it hasn't stopped you from dating though, we still have few good brodas out their waiting to do the wooing

The fact he didn't contact me even shows me he really didn't care so am not going to get hung up over a guy that didn't care about me. So it won't stop me from allowing someone an opportunity as I am not going to let his nasty behaviour spoil my future. 

charles316:

be careful next time.

Yep thats it I am going to be very careful in future.  I really trusted and believed this man and its been a real eye opener.

I think maybe you tried to use her and ended up falling in love with her. Maybe you should try to be with her.

destaro:

anyway you have the right to your opinion, i dont care how you make your money but the most important thing to me is how you spend the money

If he conned people to get it he might con you in how he's spending it thats the whole point. You can't trust a con artist or fraudster. You can't even be friends with such people. You never know their limits.

Reason number 1 should be


He met you, he liked you but he hasn't called you as he has a girlfriend.

In that situation he shouldn't really ask for or accept your number though but some men do.

jay bee:

hmmmmmmmm

Yep anyway thats hi, story. Am ready to move on now and put my energy elsewhere.

So this issue is finished really thanks everyone for your support and posts really helpful.

na2day?:

YOU LIE!

No everything I said is really true. Unfortunately.

Oluschenco:

The above connotes that you are of a corrupted mind, not bothering to know how someone made his fame, if you have the chance to kidnap or make money rituals, you will surely do so.

Thats the type of person that go marry you and pressure and ask you go do fraud to pay for the new merccedes. When you end up in prison they no go care they just move on to the next one.

charles316:


what exactly do u mean by this.

``To be honest he was the one who lacked in areas and didn't take care of me properly. So if that was grounds to cheat it should have been me that cheated``.

@german007,
your yarns na correct but i disagree on one aspect.

``and most of all did you do all we like to be done in the bedroom?, did you blow his mind in the bedroom? Il be very honest and open with u,``.

i dont need my woman to be a `horse rider`for our bedmatics to be cool.she just needs to be clean,sexy and stuffs like dat and i would captain our game.

He was quite selfish. Anyway the bedroom stuff was all good for him so thats not an issue. A man should always satisfy his woman before leaving her side. Anyway I understand cause he was sleeping with his ex so he probably didn't have energy really. That kind of makes sense now.

I am always very clean, was very sexy for him always and he was satisfied. Unfortunately he was just not honest and he was not available to begin with.

sexyLeamon:

I really do not care whether he's popular or not I should just be he love with him, and yes he should have a great personality.

I agree and a great character. Character for me is more important, is he honest, faithful and kind anyone can be manipulative which could give you the impression he has a great personality but he might not have a good character and that means he will give you a nice time but treat you like crap.

destaro:

it doesn't matter what you did to gain your fame the most important thing is that you are famous

It does matter if someone can con all those people, what makes you think you won't be conned to.  Are you special?  I don't think you will be, someone with a propensity to lie like that is not a good person to date or marrry.

What if their popularity was fake and they were popular for something that they are not really. Like say they were a singer and they were popular for that and it was someone else's voice being used on the tracks and noone knew. They were conning the original singer by not paying them too for the songs. Would you like them then?

Do you like a man or woman that is popular?

Personally I don't care but if they are arrogant and treat people badly simply because they are popular I really dislike that.

german007:

@charles

Well said.


Im mean, could you have been the problem?, did you nag him all the time?, were u a good listener,

and most of all did you do all we like to be done in the bedroom?, did you blow his mind in the bedroom? Il be very honest and open with u,

trust me if that isnt done right, most of us men run to some1else to get it, thats where the ex comes in, or the side chick comes in
im sorry but charles "your a man, im a man" and we are all adults here ,we all know wat i mean

Not at all I was a very good listener. I never nag if a man doesn't respect me and participate properly, I leave. We are all adults noone is forcing anyone here.   Yep I made him very happy sexually and he told me that himself that it was tight and it was the bomb and he kept coming back for more.   

To be honest he was the one who lacked in areas and didn't take care of me properly.  So if that was grounds to cheat it should have been me that cheated. 

Apparently he has been with his ex for about 7 years and now they have a baby together.  I caught him lying about a lot of things.

Sorry but I am the victim here he blatantly lied to me he was not romantically or sexually involved with anyone else when we started and I found out later he was so he clearly lied.

charles316:

@poster,
before u jump into another relationship,look back to the things u didnt do right and especially what u did to drive your guy back to his ex.it is not possible dat u didnt do anything wrong and he left u.besides,u need a break to get urself together.

u love him but i dont think he loves u.thats the crazy thing abt love.

I didn't do anything to drive him back to his ex, I found have found out now they never actually broke up.  So he was playing us both. 

I am not going to miss out on someone special who might want something good and serious with me simply because a man played around with me and treated me bad. If I get a good offer I will consider it as he didn't treat me well and he is still with his ex. 

Your right he doesn't love me or care for me if he did, he would have called or contacted me in that week.  He didn't so that concludes it.

TheSeeker:

Being in a 'real life' relationship doesn't guarantee you'll know him or not. If you've had anything to do with players, you'll know what I'm talking about. There are some people who are bold-faced liars and it doesn't matter where you meet them - online or 'real life'. If women can meet dishonest men on the internet, so can the men too. Distrust and dishonesty in a relationship goes both ways - men and women, in both modes - online or 'reality'.

Thats true I met one just recently total con artist I was astonished. He bold face lied and in a manner I found astounding, his whole life was a lie, his career, his everything. I met him in real life.

This is how I see it: When you meet a real person, no matter where it is you meet them, they carry on their attitudes and be who they are regardless of whatever situation it is. If a man is a liar by habit, he'll keep lying wherever he finds himself; if a man's honest, he'll be honest no matter where and at what level he operates. What I could admit if you had mentioned it is the facial expression (only if it mattered in any relationship), the physical aspect (sex-related activities) and of course, having someone to lean on - physically - when the going gets a little tough.

Cheaters will cheat no matter what unless they are not chronic cheats.

Thats true but if I met someone in real life, I can visit his house anytime (so am more likely to catch him if hes cheating and lying) and can verify more details. The only advantage of meeting someone online is that you can see if they are a player and keep them at a distance before being physically intimate. However its a big risk to take I have a few friends who have done it. Only one has been successful its rare that it works out especially if he is far and you have never met before as most men find it hard to wait and be faithful to a woman they never met before. We have to be realistic about these things.

justwise:

Exactly! Dogy pple are everywhere online or real life. It doesn't matter where u met the person, if it will workout it will definately work. Online is just another way of meeting pple, then arrange to meet in real life.  

Yep but its is riskier as when you meet in real life you have verify more of the information they give you.  So you are less likely to be lied to as its easier to catch the person out.

Blame Nigerians for most of the negative things that happens online. We Nigerians have contributed in making online dating, buying and selling a very bad experience for innocent and decent individuals.

Yes I think its time we cleaned up our act and stop being an international symbol of fraud and dodgy dealings.

Secretz:

Sweetheart, this has nothing to do with him having a child, he's just a complete self-service!
Regardless, as long as there is always an 'ex' girlfriend or chic on the scene to accept him with open arms, this running back and forth from you to her/them is always gonna be an issue. Some people are not worth valuable energy that can be aimed in another direction.

Your right dear and I think I will aim that energy in another direction now as its clear he doesn't really care about me. Thanks so much for your supportive comments and you are 100% right.

TheSeeker:

Do you know how many liars have existed in this your 'real life' relationship? I want to ask though, the internet, isn't it real life? Is it in heaven?

I am not saying it can't work in the rare occasion I think it can. However the norm is that it doesn't, usually you have to get it offline and into reality as quickly as possible for it to have a chance of survival. There are many liars out there and the internet because of anonymity seems to attract an unhealthy share so women definitely have to be more careful in my opinion if dating someone online.