justplainpaul: First of all i`m not your dear. And if u dont want to exchange word with me, why did u bother to quote me atall. i don`t want any ill infested kiss from u. And congratulation, u have entered the list of my most stupi,d people on the net. you`ll get your award in due time.

Matthew briggs: I am not surprised by this development, Moreover I think this is a serious cause to be alarmed not just for women but for we Males. Because this report is about the scarcity of "Men" not "Males".

This means that the rate at which boys are turning into real men is dwindling rapidly.

I think the rise in unemployment, Increase in standard of living and the high cost of running a family are some of the factors responsible. But most importantly I think the rapid decline in morals, values and the lack of emotional maturity of the Nigerian male is a major cause of this development. Most guys are not marriageable they are still boys.

The irony is that majority of males on this thread are laughing at this development seeing it as an opportunity to mock females instead of asking them self This question

Am I still a boy or when I should be a man?

For we males most of us have some serious growing up to do.

For the females don't wait for Men. Who says you can't go for the boys and groom them to become Men, just make sure he really sees you in his future. Also lower your expectations but still keep your standards, amidst all live life and enjoy it, don't tie your happiness to a man lest you look desperate. When it's your time, your man will come be it at 20 or 40 just make sure you're eyes is wide open to notice him when he comes around, don't allow pride and your character defects to send him running. Learn to go after potential not after physical cash, think long term in relationships and stop wasting you time with the wrong un serious partner.

#just Saying.

Matthew briggs: I will forgive But Seek a Divorce. My trust and love dies automatically on finding out.

The only conditions I can consider forgiving her is if by my action in our marriage I Clearly led her to commit adultery.

Actions like
-Neglecting her and not showing her love for extended period of time for no just cause.
-Unknowingly starving her of sex and neglecting her emotional needs due to my work.
-I engaged in an affair she found Out About.
-Leaving her for work or other things when she is emotionally vulnerable

As a person I am passionate by default, therefore showing love comes to me naturally. I intend to love, care, provide and protect my future wife, treat her like my queen. But if she abuses my love for her by cheating. I am off the marriage, without Blinking... I expect her to do same if I am guilty also.

To me adultery is less about the fact another man had access to my wife's honey pot. Because if she was Molested I will still have as my wife and help her in the healing Process.

But more of a breach of trust, and a sign of loss of respect and sanctity towards The Value of our union.

And as a person Trust and Respect is what I value more than even Love

Matthew briggs: Kai, looking at some of the post by Nigerians in diaspora I am not surprised.

Nigeria is a work in progress, it's either you choose to be a driver of this progress or run for shelter in the comfortable life the diaspora presents.

As for me I intend to be among those who will redefine her future. My personal motto as a young Nigerian is "never seek the easyway out, do the hardwork".

One of my key life's work is to make her a force to be reckoned with in the committee of nations in all ramifications. I once told my parents, if having a nice car, living in the best house, with a beautiful wife, lovely kids, and a well paying job is my purpose in life I better die.

I will be leaving soon for the US, but have no intention of building a life there, am just going there to build my knowledge base, get exposure and form relationships that will help me on my life's mission.

Nigeria needs me, I will pay the price to build a nation where the next generation will be proud off. I will not seek the easy way out by running off to another nation, whose parent's have already built in blood and sweat.

I know I'll face big challenges down the line, but by his grace I'll scale through

Nigeria is a work in progress, my work in progress.

As for the diasporans who never intend to come back, trust me you will not be missed.

Matthew briggs: I just finished reading this thread,(https://www.nairaland.com/1301528/how-long-lived-diaspora-when)!looking at some of the post by Nigerians in diaspora I am not surprised.

Most of them see Nigeria as poo, a nation filled with so many problems Ranging from infrastructure to prevalence of corruption, truth be told they are not far from the fact.

It saddens me how our valuable minds and talents are out there building the economies of other nations while their's is in penury.

I understand you want a better life for You and your kids, and the fact you are in a place where everything works...and all gives You joy... This I can live with, infact I am happy for you, but to insult my nation and look down on her citizen Because of the challenges and obstacles we face as a nation is something I seriously detest, plus the fact you are A Nigerian adds salt to the injury..

I am a Nigerian, a very proud one, not just for what she is presently but for what she will soon become.

Nigeria is a work in progress, it's either you choose to be a driver of this progress or run for shelter in the comfortable life the diaspora presents. The choice is yours.

As for me I intend to be among those who will redefine her future. My personal motto as a young Nigerian is "never seek the easy way out, do the hardwork".

One of my key life's work is to make her a force to be reckoned with in the committee of nations in all ramifications economically and ethically. I once told my parents, if having a nice car, living in the best house, with a beautiful wife, lovely kids, and a well paying job, is my purpose in life I better die.

I will be leaving soon for the US, but have no intention of building a life there, am just going there to build my knowledge base, get more exposure to add to the one I already have and form relationships that will help me on my life's mission.

Nigeria needs me, I will pay the price to build a nation where the next generation will be proud off. I will not seek the easy way out by running off to another nation, whose parent's have already built in blood and sweat.

I'll face big challenges down the line, even my fellow Nigerians will turn against me, but I will stand undeterred by his grace. I'll scale through Definitely

Nigeria is a work in progress, my work in progress.

As for the diasporans who never intend to come back to add value to the land of their father's, for Whatever Reasons, trust me you will not be missed... Enjoy Your Beautiful and very lovely life [/font]


#Matthew Briggs.

biolabee:

The corper man was stupid and no one has said that is not so

Two timing two single mothers who are financially driven was a bad move but losin his eye is over the top

Corpers should understand emotional intelligence in their relationships not only during nysc but even their budding careers

Matthew briggs: Going through some of the comments so far it disheartening to see the level of Inhumanity some of us are willing to condone.

What type of society do we want to become, is It one were jungle justice is given a pat in the back, and neglect towards the rule of law Is received with accolades.

What he did was MORALLY wrong, It's soooooooo Wrong, but that doesn't justify what she did.
her action was selfish, barbaric and inhumane.
Destroying the life of a man, a mother's son, a brother.

It is sad most people are blinded by emotion and have hence killed their sense of right and wrong, and have gone on wishing she did more damage to him.

Yes he cheated, do u like It "no". Is he the only guy on the planet earth 'no', can I leave him "yes". Simple as that.


I think women prone to commit such an act are the clingy, needy, low self esteem ones. The type who believe their life revolves around a man. Moreover The confident, emotionally sound and responsible ones Can't even think of doing this or supporting it. They will be like "dude your loss sorry i wasted my time On You"


If every MAN or woman is to inflict bodily injury, pour acid or kill. Anyone who breaks HIS or her heart, what are the odds majority of us will still be left unharmed.

Like I once said, If as a man or woman you are looking for reasons to justify Evil you will surely find PLENTY.

Call evil for what it is and don't justify it.

#Matthew Briggs.

tpia@:
anonymity is a myth.

hackers know you even if you feel nobody online does [the latter is an extremely erroneous assumption].

Matthew briggs: I respect the choices of others especially those that are afraid or detest confident women.
But I would like us not to confuse confidence for stubbornness or pride. once again I respect your taste and choices.

Personally I love women with a fine blend of confidence & humility. A woman that believes in herself, her ideas , convictions and dreams, she's hardly swayed by public opinions. A woman that is very comfortable in her own skin. She is goal driven and takes initiative.

Confident women are smart. They engage your mind, They bring ideas to the table, They add value to a relationship instead of taking it, they make you sit up as a man. They are have strong character and will.

She will be a Michelle to your Obama, she can hardly fall your hand any place but instead take you higher.

When a confident woman loves you, She truly does, Because in the first place she can do without you, but chooses not.

Blessed is the man that can Tame them. Moreover if you are not a very confident, intelligent and of strong character you can't handle or tame them.

Three core things that I find attractive in a woman is Confidence, intelligence and sex-appeal with her being God fearing by default.

NB:- The sad thing is that majority of people (men and women) mistake proud, stubborn and assertive women as confident women which should not be so.
#Mathew Briggs.

Matthew briggs: Read through the comments glad some people were able to understand this was a satire, that i am not promoting promiscuity of any kind, but was trying to Kill an ideology, By showcasing the weakness of a thought process, and indirectly create a balance of opinions by making our female folks see the world from our own eyes also.

I have very deep regards and respect for the ladies, and i believe they also have the same level of regards for themselves and their body. Therefore should try and desist from giving in no matter the millions of temptation they face, The only reason a man should be granted access to your body should be because you love him not because of money,the desire for intimacy, peer pressure, materialistic or manipulative agenda etc. Thanks to the moderator that made this post to hit the front page, your singular action has help correct an ideology that would have spread like a virus especially in the mind of teenage girls.


Richfella said something that summarizes the point he wanted to make in his thread but ended up going about it the wrong way.

"The crux of the matter is that:There is a massive disparity between women's legitimate séxual needs and what the society is willing to accept."

THIS IS INDEED IS THE CRUX OF THE MATTER. WHY?...I THINK IT'S A DISCUSSION FOR ANOTHER DAY. No need to apportion blames and raising of motions and counter motions.

Just do what is right...and never try to come up with a reason to do what is wrong becos you will find plenty of reasons to.

Matthew briggs:
[quote author=Richfella]

Bank money is other people's money. It's theft .

re@lchange:
lol op is demented and one of these "born troways" who grew up in lagos -that is assuming he is igbo.
every ejiiot claims to be igbo just to sneak an insult at us. wonder when these ofemanus will grow balls to face us openly. mscheeeeeeeeeeeeeew.

yarodin: Ok how have the others that ruled Nigeria fared? Abi make we give IBB second chance since Obasanjo got his second chance? Fucking retarded country, I hope some die hard sharia loving f**ker becomes the president, we go see who go suffer pass.