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@ Poster

My suggestion is for you to remove yourself from this fourm and do some thinking for urself. Here everyone means well but at the end of the day, you are still with your own thoughts. You know you family much better than anyone  here. It might not be as bad as you really think.

You are in your late 20's, life is now.

No need looking back becaue things have already been done, just move forawrd

I wish you well in whatever decision you make. There is not a Right nor a Wrong decision. Just the best for you.

May God guide you and show you the way. He can do it!

BOUNTYDOG:
Its not bout fear or reading meanings to 911,its just what we are ignorant about in their modes of operation,they have a reason for fixing the date as 9 & 11 which you are ignorant bout,it could be just a concert to edify their names just to satisfy him.Just open ur eyes & ears to the signs of the end time

"Their Modes of Operation" God controls the world and thats the only 1 I look up to.

This concert wasn't planned after the death of Whitney, it was planned in advance. It has nothing to do with the signs of the times.

Just go to the concert and enjoy urself.

simps:
Re-occurrance of numbers, ''911'' Trade centre, withney birthday day n death day 911, now Bobby Brown concert in Niaja 911, and the crash landing of APOLLO 13. they Americans thought they are fooling the rest of the world. bleeping Illumininati people!!!

REALLY

Why do people always have to associate "911" as a factor, that's just like playing the "race" card.

Keep reading that illuminianti bullsh!t and you won't be leaving you house for fear they trying to attack you.

Don't go down like that.

[quote author=A-ZeD link=topic=876257.msg10249935#msg10249935 date=1329919967]Since God does not lie then i think he should marry them all so as not to vex GOD[/quote]VEX GOD

Tell him to go read the book of Proberbs:

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor form the Lord. Proverbs 18:22[/b]

Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD. Proverbs 19:14[b]

[quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=835616.msg9869784#msg9869784 date=1325338410]QUESTION!!

When waz the last time u saw a Footballer dating a Black female especialy when she Nigerian? NEVER!
When waz the last time u saw a black female with Michael Jackson or Mc Hammer especially when they Nigerion? NEVER!
When waz the last time u saw a black female with proper table manners in resturants? Never!
When waz the last time a black woman walk pass you and said: HAPPY new YEAR? NEVER!!
When waz the last time a woman bumped into you instead of sayin: EXCUSE ME? NEVER!!
When waz the last time a Black womaN saw u with a white babe and she said: She looks better! NEVER!

OK. Should I go on? [/quote]1.  Magic Johnson and his wife Cookie (still 2gether)
2.  MC Hammer's wife is bladk her name is Stephaine Fuller
3.  I'm sure you have not bumped into the right  black  women
4.  You have to be taught  "proper" edicate and manners it's not part of you DNA

You can't expect because you are in London that everyone has ALL the qualities you think they should have.

Remember some of those things you learned?

lefulefu:
zilja mister Tosinville say he loves very fat women
dis one is ur chance to get another fresh naija bobo ooo .grab it while the offer still stands

Really??

Move on to another topic. This one for me is done. ooo

Think what you want and say what you wil.

[quote author=deal_ordea link=topic=618976.msg10203072#msg10203072 date=1329324613]You are a liar!!! lets see it
/quote]

you would go blind if I show off.[/quote]

jasonbod:
I tried to answer your questions:

First question how does your cousin in Lagos know this girl? He knows her.

second question why did you smoosh the girl without a hat for your jimmy? It happens. That's life.

third question, when you smooshed her did you bust a nut in her? Yeah, I bust three nuts in her.

fourth question how prepared are you to be a daddy? No, I'm not.

fifth question how come you didnt find out about her so called "tricks" untill after she told you she was preggos for you? I'm not psychic

final question: what does she want to do? is she having the baby or is she asking for money to abort? Don't know yet.

You don't seem to know a lot other than sticking your jimmy in without  a hat. I just read somewhere that AIDS  is so prevelant in Nageria that you would risk yourself for a piece a A$$.

This happend to my brother 23years ago and that baby came out looking completely different from the family BUT we raised that baby and he is family no matter what.

If you don't care, no one will either.

[quote author=Mrs, Chima link=topic=871647.msg10202551#msg10202551 date=1329320555]I would do 70 on up[/quote]Funny Mrs. Chima, but as long as they can still boggie LOL

Mekozoral:
Infact was about starting a thread on this topic 2know if i'm ok or somtin is wrong with me cos i'm 28yrs pretty, a career woman nd a virgin but i realise i don't like young guies i like men as in lets say frm 38yrs upward, i don't know why, i had 2 say a bit about myself dat was why i stated my features b4 som pple start harrasin me dat i'm an aristo chick which is far far from it, infact i'm well read nd sound academically and my take home pay is really really fat, so d finance aspect is nt d issue but i seem 2have soft spot for matured men, infact there's these young posh guy datz on my neck 4a relatnship now but i just don't connect wif him,is it normal?

I don't think anything is wrong wit you. Sometimes ppl take to older because (sometimes) they are more stable and wise in life. Don't let people discourage you into what you think is best for you. When things start to go wrong, where are the ones that advised you. (gone away)

Gud luck

But what if you the man was 10 years younger than the women?

4wardever:
Are they not just tying the girls down and complicating their lives?

Firstly, no one can tie you down except you are a slave or kidnapped. It is not by force to go into a relationship neither is it for kids. Relationships that will lead to anything are started by two mutually consenting adults. It takes two to tango. If either is tired or does not believe in it going anywhere, the door is always open to walk away.
A broken relationship is far far berra than a broken marriage.

Are they not making the girls loose potential and eligible suitors due to blind love?

No they are not! The lady's decision to stick to that man means you believe in him or something come what may.  It is only a dumb Bottom girl that will not start asking questions about where the relationship is going few months after meeting the guy. If he cannot satisfy you with answers, the answer lies right above.  Let no man manipulate you by crying or threats of suicide if you leave him. While in love, you must always use both your heart and your head.

And btw, there are lots of guys who were not yet "men" that  still married their hearthrobs, women who stayed till the man was made. It's all a matter of perseverance, hope, trust and love. Sure, there are also some ugly stories buh like I said, while in love, you must always use both your heart and your head. and most importantly, always seek God for answers, he knows all.
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Well Said  

Everyone doesn't enter a realationship looking at the end result. That's why the divorce rate is so high. Enter the relationship and enjoy and allow God to mature it.

If you were told you looked 10 years younger than you are, would you seek a man/women 10 years younger than you?

How young/old would you date a person?

Be honest plz.

I have a tat on my wrist. I want a palyboy bunny. Havent' decided where to put it.

Any suggestions

[quote author=~Killz~ link=topic=871208.msg10198667#msg10198667 date=1329286107][color=#000030]. . .And the number will increase significantly after last night! [/color][/quote]OMG

mpmp:
[size=14pt]Dear Zilja, on this auspicious celebration of valentines day, will you be my naijalentine?[/size]

Of course I will. This day only. Tomorrow we go back to our sepearte lives.

^^^ sometimes you have to be the better (bigger) person. It's not worth it the fuss.

I LOVE ya'll with the LOVE of the Lord!

swallu:
i dont need to show myself to prove anything.your actions alone shows you are just a desperate angry old american woman who has been used and dumped by a young nigerian man for papers.maybe you american women ought to be greatful your govt made it in such a way that when foreign men get married to you they get the green card because if there was no green card or papers then no nigerian man or foreign men would want to have anything to do with you.american women are the ugliest species of women and the fattest as well.nigerian women are getting married and a point to note is that those nigerian men who date you women have nigerian wives back home with kids they can go to when they are through with you yankee women.you provide nothing for these nigerian but papers.a nigerian woman is much more better home bred with good wife qualities than the average american woman who is a skank and a slut.

you sound lonely and hurt. Go ahead and get it off you chest. One day you may be my friend. {{{hugs}}}

Etemma1:
Hey Swallu!!! take it easy aight? everybody's got faults. All the hating up in here won't change anything. If Zilja has had a failed relationship with a Nigerian man in the past don't mean that all Nigerian men are bad. All she needs to do is move one with her life and pray for someone better( Life aint a do or die affair). There really aint no need to come up here and make noise about it. Everybody goes through some sort of rejection at one point or the other in their lives.
As for you Zilja, we know it's a free thread and all that, and you can say whatever you want. But please don't go dissing on people just because one person or persons hurt you. It won't change nothing. You should also take the time to look inwards. Check yourself, who knows you may be the problem. seek advice from Professionals(I'm not a Professional oh!), it may just be what you need. Y'all chill ok?

Now back to what Nairaland is all about,

I'll chill but just for the record,  don't need to check myself, I know who I am, who's I am and there is no problem. I'm enjoying life as it is.

See ya around Nairaland.

swallu:
Zilja ask urself why did your nigerian boyfriend dump u?
and the answer is he dumped u because he has already gotten the green card.You are probably fat and very ugly and this is why your own men dont want to date you.I know many of you american women have weight problems but then you dont need to vent your anger on foreigners.Nobody forced that junk food into your mouth.Go lose weight and get a decent man and quit blaming foreign men for your failed relationship.

Your lack of showing yourself tells me the pictures are you and you friend. Lol I se why nigerian man left. Show yourself. I dare you. Junk food or fufu. Find the other post of people talking about hot out of shape you nigerian women are.
I'm laughing at you and you friends.are too ((*_*))

swallu:
This is exactly what i have been saying about foreign women and especially american women going about on nigerian sites blaming nigerians for their failed relationships.I have been talking about this but my fellow nigerian brothers and sisters have been busy attacking me and saying how dare i talk against their esteemed foreign friends on this romance thread.Now this thread below me just proved what i have been saying all along
Now Zilja is a sligtly overweight middle aged black american female and she is blaming nigerians for her failed relationship
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-844719.0.html
she feels why her relationship is not moving well is because of nigerians and instead of her to work on herself and shed off the excess weight she wants to vent her frustration on nigerians.Nigerian men its such a big shame then when you move abroad theses are the rejects you get like Zilja.Such a shame and the continent of africa is weeping for you.

First and foremost, WHO ARE YOU?

Show urself since you think I’m slightly overweight and middle aged.  You don’t know me like that.  You don’t know me at all.  Your opinions and comments of me are empty and have no bearing.  Where I come from I have the right of speech, this board and thread offers the same. You think because you use your strong nigerian women voice make you look better than me?

• Perhaps you are slightly overweight and under aged. 
• You are one of the women that the Nigerian man has left behind  with child and child will never see his/her father again because he started a family with  and American “reject” from abroad;  now you seen a little envious because the “rejects” have something you had and he’s making better for himself.
• I would be pi$$ed off too if my husband or baby daddy left for better life and didn’t return or send for us.
• You see, I’m not blaming Nigerian men; I’m merely asking questions so I can be a better understand the culture with them.

I’m a Beautiful Black American Women with a business and nothing you say will derail me from doing what I chose to do.

This is a free board and I will read, post and comment when I so choose to.
I think the thread should read: Angry Nigerian women mad at AA for , you fill in the blank. lol


@tom28
I have no frustration on the subject. I’ve had some experiences and wanted to express them on this board.
If I had a gun, I wouldn’t waste it on swallu.


@claremont
I’m sorry you had to waste your time bringing out the misfortunes of your country. The reason behind her post is that the truth hurts.   It’s not only Nigerian men who dump their children, American men and European men as well.  No one is weeping but SWALLU, give her tissue and she’ll be ok.

I love reading these kind of post.

bittyend:
I have noticed a lot of Americans, and Nigerians living in America like to point out the worst of the worst in Nigeria and Africa as a whole. So, I decided to peep America to see how "perfect" it is. I was shocked when I saw some of these pics; and bare in mind that this Country is also $14trillion in the hole; which means everyone living there owes thrice what their GDP is. I'm not Nigerian, neither am I anti-American - I just love setting records straight and kicking arses, ya dig?
Poverty is everywhere, ya dig?

You are right, poverty is everywhere but you seem to find pictures off the internet of Katerina victums and now you'll utilizing their most deepest moments to prove a point or poverty? No one is perfect, if it were so you wouldn't be on this board B!tchen about perfection in America.

Try to find a solution to the problem, if you don't have one the Shut-the-front-door.  Do some world traveling and present us with videos of your solutions.

HATERS! HATERS! HATERS!

Why so much hate? Who really cares if the baby was carried by another or if the baby looks white. If no picture surfaced people would talk, now that the picture surfaced people are talking.

Damm if you do AND Damm if you don't. You gunna buy their music, look at their pictures, read stories about them so why be negative.

Let them be happy and enjoy the baby.

Things happen for reasons and beyond our control.  Allow GOD to bless you and the child you are carring.

joerux60:
Thanx for the advice Zilja

Welcome

Why should that matter

She is not connected to you in any way.

If you had met her on the street without knowing who she was, would you feel badly?

No make a big deal from it.

Sounds to me that the both of you need to discuss the level of respect not space. If you suspect your spouse being unfaithful then you might not be able to control yourself when/if things present itself. You might want to have a sit down and talk about what’s on your mind before making things worst.
Now a days with the dialouge and shortcut text messages, you will need a text dictionary to keep up.

Good Luck

waterworks:
EHNN? ME IM CURIOUS TO hear the responses does juju really work? i mean if u believe in the power of God uve got to believ the devil has powers too right?

LOL! The devil has no more power than that God himself allows him to have. Do you know the story of Job?

God gives Satan permission to test Job's righteousness. He allow the devil to distroy Job's family becaue he wanted to see if Job would curse God. After taking Job's family, houses and land Job continued to bless and praise God. Job said "Naked I came out of my mother's womb, and naked shall I return: Lord has given, and Lord has taken away; blessed be the name of Lord"

You can't believe in one thing and confess to believe in another. It's called "straddling the fence"  .


@Poster - Your friend needs to see a doctor for his mind. He nees to know what side of the fence he operating on.
Good Luck to him.

[ If you both already know that you are both not suited or prepared to make a long time commitment to each other - why would you want to remain in that kind of relationship and invest more of your emotions on someone you know is going to leave. That does not seem right to me. Let him go, if he loves you for real he will be back, and put a ring on it!! Dont cheapen the value of your physical and emotion self. That's just my opinion. [/size][/font]
[quote][/quote]You never know what will happen. My options are open. It's not that I'm waiting on him to make a move or decision but right now its working for the both of us. We've talked about it and is pretty honest with eachother on what we are doingl. Respect!  I don't allow my emotions to get in the way only because I have gone in with my eyes open. At the end of the day, I'm cool until either of us decide that it's not working. Thanks for the comments.

It's not my terms that he's not abiding by, it's our tems that we have set for ourselves. There are otherthings involved that I'd rahter not talk about.
I just wanted to get your thoughts on the situation.