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no1madman: Dear 2nd wife,
What ever happened 2 his 1st wife?
What is it like 2 be a 2nd wife?
Y d fuckin hell did u marry dis fuckin man?
Do u sometimes engage in 3some?

Why would you concerened yourself about the sex life and being a 2nd wife. Her life is in danger and the only advise you have is
If you want 3some go find him and the 1st wife.
{sighs}

Apawa: Am married to a man who has no respect for a woman. We dated for a year and got married. I found out that my opinion doesn't count in the marriage. Its only what he wants that happen n decline advice from anyone at all. I tried to stay and make it work no matter what, in that event we had four kids. This children watch their father beat, insult and frustrate me in order to leave his house every passing day but for their sake I refuse. Mind you am just 35yrs while he's 59. My son who will turn 12 told me one day, mummy why can't you just go instead of taking all this beating for our sake, my husband expect me to just leave like that but I took my children with me but he insist i give them to him. I took the matter court which he didn't expect me to because he felt am weak. Now he's hunting me and threaten to deform me. And for the record I was not his first wife.

@Poster, it is sad to be in a marrage for 1 year being unhappy. You are a strong women to have endured 12 years. I'm glad you have decided to take action upon him. Don't allow him to convince you to give up your children. They wouldn't respect him for what they witness throught out the years. Sometimes slience is deadly....

His eyes are shined now on the power you have. Keep pressing and dont' look back.

May God Bless you!!

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E nice: There is this lady, let's say her name is kate. Kate is a christian, in her early 30s, has a good job and has been in a relationship with a guy (lets say his name is mark) for 3 years. Mark has been out of the country for 2years. Though they have a good relationship, kate claims that mark has not spent a dime on her not in nigeria or while abroad. She says mark is stingy and this puts her off. Right now, a married man (say Tony) is asking for her hands in marriage. She claims that tony is caring and loving. Tony lives in the UK, is married to a white woman and has 2 kids with her. Kate says Tony's interest in her as a second wife is because his white wife is not willing to settle down in Nigeria and with that he may loose his kids. Therefore, he needs a backup. The question now is that. Is it proper for a christian to be a second wife giving the fact that she's not getting any younger or should she wait for the single guy she claims to be stingy?

NO NO NO (lets say NO)

She needs to tell that stingy guy that he needs to "sh!t, or get off the pot" He could be spending his money on a single women there and thats why he has no money for her. Tell (Kate)to allow God to show her the right person for her. If she keep waiting on this guy who is abroad, she'll find what's for her.

A true christian will not entertain a relationship with a married man.

Tony married a white women when he knew it wasn't going to work out. Why now is he wanting to risk losing his kids for a second wife. OH! so he can make babies elsewhere.

Tony needs to do what's right and work on his life as it is.

luckgames: Wait a minute?
I don't understand you
You are very right life is what you make of it
On my down time, I like to read NL
Girl I know what is Up, you don't have to tell me 24 yrs of life experience
I am not sure what level of education you have, I have above undergraduate and my AA woman has above undergraduate

Whatz up luckygames.

Who said anything about education? You just wanted to make a plug about you and ur AA's level of education.

Well, everybody clap your hands for the undergraduates of NL.

Is that all you have is 24 years of life experiences?? Keep living so u will b able to tell 24 more.

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luckgames: Lady
Go get a life
Mad he dump your black ass
What the F are you doing here
There are lot of mad ladies like you because you got dump

Life is what you make it, it seems like NL is the life of most Nigerians. People can't post experiences to share becaue ya'll always have something bashing to say. You think WE are mad because WE got dumped. Plz, it's always the other way around! You are quick to draw conclusion that our story is false. Our experiences are just as much as important as your experiences that you post here.

Most of the time the mentality of the post is school talk. Being on this site is enertaining for me and my co-workers. To hear you cut up eachother the way you do, I expect no special treatment.

Dipwater: I wuz in a relatioship with this beautiful girl sometime last year. I wuz trully in luv with her. But we broke up cuz she said her family wuldnt accept me cuz of my hair that they ll think am not responsible. I live in owerri where people are been judged by ur appearance,born and raisd in lag tho and it wuznt a big deal in lag cuz people tend to luk beyond the physical. Wat do u think. My luvly people no bashing pls

Tell me what does hair have do with relatinships. If you had no hair whould that be a problem, too. Sometimes parents need to look beyond the outer exterior and see what's on the inside.

It's a shame.

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IYA NGBALI: what a question,kids are gradually taking over NAIRALAND AND TURNING IT TO WONDERLAND. Who cares what you call your mother,if you like call am monkey,na you sabi.

how rude!!!!!!!!!!! what just was not a nice thing to say to anyone

^^^ young girls do that

It really doesnt' matter, as long as you are not robbing the craddle. Love is blind with eyes shut.
Do what's best for you. when you ask for other's opinion you get crazy stuff. Been there done that

In my opinion, I don't believe in any of that. I guess it where you were raised

Proverbs 23:7
For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he:
This verse is usually used to teach that you are a product of your thinking; you become what you think.

How stinky....mayb he like using his hand to. Gross

The reason is because the money is made in entertainment in the US. We have the best cast for the film and locations. Don't forget about timing, timing is everything. Marketing is the most important. If you get Stephen Spillberg to do a film in Nigeria you wouldnt be asking the same question. You'd be buy the movie and going to see it at the same time lol enjoy!

I'm sure this was a difficult decision to make a change. some ppl don't take change well but life is all about change. nothing stays the same.
god job.

IYA NGBALI:
pls how do i get to meet the daughter[b] I AM MADLY IN LOVE WITH HER[/b]

What do you have to offer her? At this point, she doesnt' need anyone in her life that will drag her down any futher than she already is. Being on NL is not the circle she's in. It never happen.

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Posted on: Today at 06:10:00 PM Posted by: Rockamania
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My wife was in her seventh month of pregnancy when suddenly one night she woke up and alas there was fluid all over the bed. i was scared to the bone cos i've never seen such a sight in my whole life and i don't pray to see such again. i immediately rushed her to a hospital nearby where she uses for antenatal. there the doctor on duty said she had premature rupture of the membrane. they administered Ergometrine in a bid to stop the bleeding little did they know that it worsen the situation cos the baby died in her womb hours later without their notice. at dawn i observed that no test or scan had been carried out and i called the medical director's attention to it, all he could do was to give me a referral letter when he knew he was not a specialist. i later got to a specialist doctor who confirmed the baby dead after series of test and scan and he opted for evacuation. it was really a sad scenario.  

my point however is that getting pregnancy tips is one thing while getting a qualified doctor who is ready to work is another most especially when things don't go as planned. the doctors i met that night knew she has a contraction and they would have just carried out basic delivery methods possible but they didn't blaming it on lack of incubator and other flimsy excuses

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I am SO sorry to hear about your loss and what you and your wife endured. Children are a gift from GOD and he's the one who knows the best. I pray things are well and that God will answer your prayers for more children. For every bad that happens, there is always good to follow. Keep your eye on the prize and keep your faith.

I'm in the US and couldn't began to think choosing a doctor who's credentials or his poor quality of work was not up to my standards.  Health care is so important. may God bless.

? If this poster posed this question, then is it not the mentality of the Nigerian women to seek after men to take care of them? Not saying all, it must be based on the maturity level of the women or should I say "girl". What is the age group is he speaking of?

There has been several post about women in relationships for "money"  My thought is "this must be a culture thing" and not a individual thing. 

I was brought up to be independent in everything I do. I don't generally look for any man to do what I can do for myself.

Do the Nigerian women want that?

You got money; me too. . . . .  lets put it together.

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Release pressure on the bulb slowly to suction the mucus out of your baby's nose. Remove the bulb syringe and then squeeze it forcefully over a tissue to expel the mucus collected from your baby's nose.



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ojogbontomoye:
I disagree with this post. All the child needs is Sagamite and NL. It is the mother/poster/OP who is in dire need of a doctor. She needs to get her head checked.

Really? and apprently you think Sagamite and NL is the best advise for all. It's not!!!

I hope the poster has enough since to look over your post because it's not useful for the dog to read.

@Poster

I think you need have the school test him and then take those findings to a doctor. It could be a number of things that could cause him to not retain or recall what was done or said in school. Because he loves doing thngs with his hands tells me that he could have some case of Autism or a learning ability.

Don't hesitate, these are the child's wonder years.

Good Luck to you and your son poster!!

what is the age group of these posters. the mentality to this question is self answered

ronkebp:
You can start yourself, by giving him the advice he desperately needs.

If I knew the laws of UR land, I probably would give him some sound advice.  I would contact him directly and not post it for all to see becase of its sensitivity.  

Not one of you lived in his house with him so you really don't know. You are reading and making nonsense accuations at him.  That only feeds the negative side of the post.

silkysam:
Holy spirit is our comforter, that girl is been posses by demon for those are u that are conversant with the bible this is not a news to them. the devil came for 3 main reasons 1. To Kill, 2. To Steal, 3. To destroy.

AND HE ENTER'S THE WEAK. YOU SHOULD EQUIP URSELF AND DON'T BE FOOLED BY FALSE PROPHETS

joeace2020:
i am Joseph in benin dating Ijeoma in lagos, i met her online and since then we've been like 5 and 6, she calls me every single hour of everyday and we are so fond of each other and hoping to meet sometime in march but my problem is that before i was dating her(over the phone) she had another guy by name Ibrahim but still she fell for me and i for her and i couldn't help but remain with her despite the fact that she said she still loves him but doesn't see things working out for them because he's muslim and she's christian, now i cant even begin to tell her not to cheat on me for all i know she may be on top the other guy as i am writing this, please guys help me what should i do, i need help desperately

@ Joe this is not love, you have not even seen her. Don't put all you eggs in one basket. Why are you whining over someting that didn't belong to you in the first place.

If you have problem not living in the same area, then don't engage into a relationship online.
It's all elementary. Think with your OTHER head.

futureadiro:
Hello Everyone. i am currently engaged to a nigerian man. We meet the university we both use to go too. I have to admit that i fell victim to the stereotype about nigerian men when i first started dating him. His actions while we were dating didnt help with what i heard about nigerian men. Also it makes me wary when he is on the phone and he only speaks yoruba, but im learning the language and i ask him to speak english when he is around me. But a older gentleman who know my future husband before i did claims that he is a good man, the best nigerian he meet at the school so far. We have only been together for 2 1/2 years and most of those years are separated by a big distance of 5 states between us. He is pushing marriage but im not committing until we have been living together for at least a 6 months (anyone can fake like a good, loyal person months at a time). So if i would give advise to women who are dating a man who lives in a different place then them, it would be that to not go in to lifelong commitment with a man u have only spent less then 5 months with (consecutively).

You will consider committing to marrage but you have to live together for 6 months If you are in the statesl, that's enough time for common law, community property to be divided if you leave him. He needs to live in the same state as you beore you consider anything. Long distance romance does not last.
Good Luck.

moHot:
thank god this is 2012, i bet this kinda questions can never come up again

one can only hope.

How old is this poster??

@Poster you have to be careful of the trash you get here you might want to through it out. Your story is your story and no1 has the right to say you are lying.

This kid has not had the proper home training if he's acting like that. He's probably ACTING OUT because he has to live with you and the brother. Possibly something beyound his control and this is his way of showing you. There could be a # of reasons why he's doing the things he's doing.

It's better to sort this out urself.

Nayah:
Sure she should be better more natural

^^^ she's got injections in lips and who knows what else is injected. HAHAHAHAHAH

I am so sorry for what you are going through. Marriage is a strong partnership and you have to get to know everything about your partner before moving forward.

Like Feminie A said, what is Jesus saying to you? Continue to pray to find your answers but open ur eyes so you will see your conformation.