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PAGAN 9JA:
Good. so then why are you crying you yourself just said that it is my "opinion", right? and that im entitled to it and its my prerogative(special power/right/privilege)



there is nothing to insult about my parents, and im sure i would be able to defend it appropriately. When a person belongs to a tribe, he/she has a duty towards preserving its rich, culture, heritage, bloodline, etc. The culture of a tribe depends on the continuation of its purer bloodline.(i dont need to go into details. remember what happened to the Native Americans and the Early Europeans??) When a person cannot commit this basic duty by marrying among his people, within a tribe that has given him everything: his identity, culture, a life, etc., he has no sense of responsibility.

Now the reason why i said that is because its pretty much obvious. A person only does such things when feels horn.y/sexually tempted to such a woman. And everyone knows todays already mixed white woman are expert at the art of seduction. Now, the reason why i called him weak, because such a person who is ready to leave all his past behind for a white-skinned hotness is a man who can be easily misled. who knows what other things can tempt him to do things. maybe money, more women, etc.. This is just my thorough analysis of course.

Blah Blah Blah. I'm sick of hearing about marrying among your kind. As if! Stay in your box and we'll be fine.

PAGAN 9JA:
im not Igbo. and i always speak the truth, so nothing wrong.
i dont care what others feel.

I'm not Igbo either but I have consideration towards other people feelings and their problems. What you are speaking is not truth, its call OPINION and everybody is entitled, and it's your prerogative.

PAGAN 9JA:
oh so you are a half-breed. hmm, i see your dad couldnt control his se.xual desires and temptations after seeing a white woman. your father must be a weak man.

O M G!!! that must be the lowest thing to say to anyone especially one of your own. The culture that speaks Bold and Proud of its heritage.

Temptation is all around and when you grown up, you will come to face more just from that statement.

I'm sorry ACE....I couldn't keep my mouth close.

Melissa, my heart goes out to you! I hope your search for answers become clear for the Almighty God and not this type of form.

Sounds like you and your guy need to sit down and have a long deep conversation. Either he’s not being really honest to you about what’s back home waiting.

What is he to gain by marrying you and or putting his family and you at odds?
Why would he go abroad, seek to married outside his culture and wish to let the family know if he know what the repercussions will be. That’s crazy.

There are so many Nigerian men who are living abroad and look to other women outside their culture and have a happy marriages.

I know an Igbo guy who has had two failed marriges to American white women.

Good Luck!

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hardleyC: Nigeria aint developed as such and if discovered,it might be seen as intruding on her privacy but hey! i gat 2 know wat happens to my baby's huggies cos she practically STEALS them!

What if the camera captures something unpleasant?
should i just "bone" and leave him in the hands of God instead of spying.

Advice/advise needed! Fenks.

If the Nanny is doing something she shouldn't, either way you will be without a Nanny if she finds out. To make urself feel better and know you are getting the quality of care for you child.....I say do it.

If it capture something unpleasnt.....well you need to know that too!

Gud luck on your decision.

violent: You are right, I don't have kids...but i wouldn't join the bandwagon of shallow minded people who are quick to call for the father's head for beating his kid. Yes, it may have been excessive and maybe there's need for someone to speak to him about his disciplinary measures...but what's this rubbish i see with people who have absolutely no idea how the family works calling for "measures".."authorities".."police" and what not? That's just excessively stoooopid!

Neither you nor the "Authorities" nor the "OP" will stay awake all night if the boy as much as catches cold...guess who will?

What in people's shallow mind makes them think the father does not in retrospect regret his actions?

What in people's silly thinking makes them think the father does not love the son or the son the father? and if they both mean the world to each other...then what the FUCCK is people's business?

Those screaming child abuse are just high on horse dung! I wonder how many of them actually know the names of their kid's teachers or bothers to help their kids with homeworks

You people should go fucck a squirrel and if you can stop crying over people's headache then you may need high dose of dopamine! nonsense!

You must realize by now that their are more "shallow minded" people on this "bandwagon" than you standing alone not wanting to do nothing.

This child is being physically and mentally abused by the hands of his father. (loved or unloved) If I were there I would make a stand and do something and not just talk about how people should turn their heads.

When you have children, I pray in advance for their mental health and enriched quality of life.

violent: I bet you are chain smoker! ...how else could a grown ass man type such a load of junk without being possibly high on marijuana?

So what help is needed "NOW"?

It appears many shallow thinkers simply believe that; Not beating a child must = Love! ...#epic fail!

AND you must don't have any children. Don't have to smoke a pipe to know that that father is WRONG for beating his child as the poster said. Beating and discpline are two diferent things.

When you grow up you will know then.

[/color]Sugar is about the money, not the age.
Where do yu people come up with these questions. my laugh of for da day.

moremi2008: @OP, it appears that the father has a limited understanding of child development. First, you can't really compare two children; children are born with different strengths, weaknesses and IQs. Second, no amount of beating and harassment can make that boy as brilliant as his brother if he isn't born with similar academic abilities.

Here's what the father needs to do:

1) Verify that the child is diligently trying his best. The biggest contributor to academic success (at almost all levels of education) is diligence. As long as the child is hardworking and has a good grasp of delayed gratification, then the child will be just fine. What he is doing to this child is dangerous. In an attempt to "beat" his child into academic excellence, he is running a real risk of permanently scaring the child and introducing problems he wasn't born with. As long as the boy is doing his best, no amount of beating is going to make him "smarter".

2) Identify the child's strengths: Some children are gifted in non-academic areas. It would be a real shame if the father causes the child to neglect the areas where he truly excels.

It would not surprise me if the child the father now beats-up every day turns out to be the more successful sibling. That's just the funny way life works sometimes. He needs to chill-out on the beating; it's a counterproductive and dangerous practice.

ps - The posters recommending that the OP call the police need to STOP IT! Call the police for what? In Nigeria? Please, let's stop giving patently foolish advice.

When things like this happens I give thanks I live abroad.

I agree with your first statement but the rest reads rubbish. This father is in a mental state of his own and will not is not listing to any outsiders. How do you intend for the father to read what you are telling him to do. Is it not follish advise?

The help is needed NOW; waiting for the father to take a class on child develement might very well be too late for the child.

It is a shame that children; no matter where they live have to be subjected to a menace as a parent.

Just because he has money does not make him the best intrest for the child.

Money does not = love.

idprincess: They are both willing and comfortable with the situation. But this is Nigeria, can it work?

Just becasue it didn't work for someone else why wouldn't it work for them. Would the question be da same if it were the other way around?

I agree with someone who said if the boy is mature enough to handle situations. The only issue I see is him not wanting children right away because she will want to have at least one before she hit 35. That will seperate him from the boy that he is.

Culture wise, I can see why the question would come up.

Yield: It depends on the situation. Some people're born into it. And when they're not given the proper aid or don't encounter opportunities to help them get out, the cycle will continue.

I agree with you about the cycle. I'm sure its hard to break when you were born into it and you said proper aid. It seems like you almost have to be destin for greatness day of conception to have different outcome.


I believe that there are different levels of "poor" and some levels are better off than others but yet still considerd poor when you compare to the middle class living. Some middle class people are considered as poverty living. Some wrold contries are "poor" so therefore you have no choice but to live below your means if the means are not available. All peole are Gods people and he knows what they need and when they need it.

You have got to be careful what you allow into your spirit. The more you speak about this the more it becomes alive. Not all Pastors/Preacher are called by God.

Find you a church that you agree with the Doctrine being taught and you won't have to come to NL and ask such a question.

NO NO NO NO NOOOOOOO!

You might want to tell that lady that whoever put her hair n did it all wrong. I see her tracks. Not good.

Is this for white girls? just asking They use the clips in their hair (not the majority)

Why in the world would want you lips pink? If you want permanently go get them tatted red. Then you'll look like "Big Ang" of Mob Wives with red lips. She lives in Staten Island, New Yorkon.

My brother, alcoholism is a bad disease. There is not one way to help a person with this disease. He has got to realize that he has so much to live for. You can’t give him something to focus on NOR can a STRONG woman be able to bring him out. I’ve read some of the comments and quite frankly I think 25% of them you can take to the bank. Most of the time people like that needs to face a near death experience.

My brother was a beer drinker and after two or three beers he was a dirty drunk. He brought up things about the person he was drinking with some most embarrassing moments. He lost friends and drinking buddies. When he started having health problems and insurance and funds was not available for him to see doctors, things started to change for him. He is now a diabetic and taking medication. He has to watch closely what he eats and knows that alcohol is a contributing factor. It was after that when HE decided to get his life back on track.

Today, his mind is focused and clear on his kids. His mind is in a better place.

Allow God to work in him and through him. Keep the prayer lifted up for him daily and some day you’ll see a change.
This doesn’t happen overnight.

God Bless

My brother, alcoholism is a bad disease. There is not one way to help a person with this disease. He has got to realize that he has so much to live for. You can’t give him something to focus on NOR can a STRONG woman be able to bring him out. I’ve read some of the comments and quite frankly I think 25% of them you can take to the bank. Most of the time people like that needs to face a near death experience.

My brother was a beer drinker and after two or three beers he was a dirty drunk. He brought up things about the person he was drinking with some most embarrassing moments. He lost friends and drinking buddies. When he started having health problems and insurance and funds was not available for him to see doctors, things started to change for him. He is now a diabetic and taking medication. He has to watch closely what he eats and knows that alcohol is a contributing factor. It was after that when HE decided to get his life back on track.

Today, his mind is focused and clear on his kids. His mind is in a better place.

Allow God to work in him and through him. Keep the prayer lifted up for him daily and some day you’ll see a change.
This doesn’t happen overnight.

God Bless

WOMEN!!!

Steve Harvey says "Think like a man and act like a women" get the book.

maclatunji: Rokiatu, I hope you don't take this as a personal attack but Girl Grow Up! You are now a wife! All of that shakara in your single days is out the window now. Once you agreed to get married, you also agreed to get pregnant if God allows from the first night! All the other stories about studies and blah! Blah!! Blah!!! is thrash. You had better start having those babies now!

If you didn't want babies, why get married? I see that you already take your husband for granted- he says he wants a baby- you say: Yes sir! I am sure you don't want to come here and start sobbing over another woman having a child for your husband out of wedlock in a few years from now- you said: God forbid! However, this is how it starts!

Just because you get married does not mean you have to have babies right away. Getting her studies out of the way is the best thing she can do for the family. If not now then when? After you start having babies the time seems to sleep away and you'll never finish.

Be careful of what you read and take into your spirit. It's not always good for.

Pray that God's will be done in your life.

MRbrownJAY: absolutely NOTHING!!!!
there are many things written on the bible that are out of context today (thus means absolutely nothing TO ME). if you have a problem with that then so be it.

here are some of the stuff that hypocrites like you see (or do) everyday, but yet keep quiet:
SHAVING, WOMEN WEARING TROUSER, WOMEN TALKING IN CHURCH, WOMEN HAVING AUTHORITY OVER MEN, WOMEN WEARING MAKE UP, WOMEN WEARING JEWELLERY, , CURSING, EATING PORK, EATING FAT, EATING FISH WITHOUT FINS OR SCALES, WEARING CLOTHES MADE FROM 2 DIFFERENT MATERIAL.

dwell on that for a minute.

Hmmm.... Please show me some reference as to where you find this. I'd like to read it.

luckgames: If she is a good woman
You need to give her a break but
You need a heart to heat meeting with her
I was in a mall with my wife and my 6 year old
At a makeup store, my 6 year old ask me to leave the store
I said OK and walk out
Few minutes later, I was walking back into the store and she said leave Dad
It final get done on me why my 6 year old was asking me to leave the store , so that she can get some makeup
She know I don't like her have a makeup

I'm sorry but that's stupid on your part to obey your 6 yr old. Makeup should not even be in her vocabulary let a long asking you to leave the store.

It's just not the same.

This ? was not from his friend, this ? is for him.

Out of the mouth of babes.

REALITY101: Sure why not.

Just wondering why a sis from east got hooked up with a estupid arss yoruba dude. Just wondering

Just wondering, what difference does it make who she hooked up with. Now that her eyes are open she don't want to fall into the same trap as 1st time. "estupid" is EVERWHERE. Just wondering

@poster, take your time and be yourself. Love will come to you, don't go looking for it as you will find the wrong thing.

Gud luck

plappville: I went through the Interview, he made some critical points, but the question still stands. Does Christ even mind this kind of celebrations? Easter, new yr, Christmas, good friday etc ECT, these are not in the bible and are most observed by Christians today.
I believe These celebrations are all mere fabrications of men. according to the bible. Matthew 15:9 But in vain they do worship me, teaching for doctrines the commandments of men. Christians should be focused on the important things!

easter comes from the pagan holiday ishtar named after isis the goddess of fertility. the ancient egyptians invented this holiday and it corrupted its way into christianity. the eggs symbolize fertility

easter comes from the pagan holiday ishtar named after isis the goddess of fertility. the ancient egyptians invented this holiday and it corrupted its way into christianity. the eggs symbolize fertility.

^^^ so you saying that they like women to shut up and let them do it all like superman.

I'm sorry but I must have my say. I can't allow any man to run me without me having a voice. Don't shut me up, I'll get even louder. lol

Mesmerize: No!
Lawwwd! That's a shame on both of the two ppl in this problem. The girl for trying to trap him and the guy for having sex without protection. He's even a bigger fool.
If a guy feels nothing for you and you're trying to trap him, the marriage is likely to become a disaster. duh!
And one of you will tend to cheat in that marriage.
Why would anyone even want pity marriage? gosh! Now, that is just sad!

I don't think they heard you, say it louder!!

Why ppl want to get married just to divorce?

I say NO! Unless you are looking to live off the goverment and that it limited.

Secure urself first and love the baby you have. He's thirty and still have plenty of time.

I'm seeing a guy who is in his late 40's and wants a kid.

@OP I hate to say this but you seem to be lacing in that field as too.
You didn't mention how long u've been married but making babies is a no brainer. If he has no respect for the women
who just gave birth to his kid before asking for a pice of a$$, he could care less about how you feel when you tell him how you feel.

Somethin is wrong with this picture. You have let it go way to long.

Good luck to showing an "old dog new tricks" NO POINT INTENDED

Cheg-goon:
I jux dey wonder,who dis bride is talkin to...hmmmmm..Is she trying to oppress her Ex-boyfriends .... That at last she don marry..or trying to fluent the golden weddin ring...I jux pity the poor boy way don carry dis wahala for house ..!

The golden wedding ring is on the other finger.! This bride was pissed off because she was told she should be a virgin when you get married. Clearly she is not so she got mad and out came the finger.

Someone in the croud told her that wearing white is for virgins only Clearly she is not.

Getting married in a white dress and prego means it was a "SHOOTGUN WEDDING"

That groom was forced to marry her... Show the pic of the groom, he probably has a finger up too! LOL!!!!