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Though left to me I wud choose Games of thrones.....wat abt yu? |
Was she carried unconsciously thru d street ni...abi she waka go there |
TWO young men have been remanded in Agodi Prison by an Ibadan Magistrate Court for allegedly using a magical ring to abduct and gang- rape a 19-year-old secondary school girl in Ibadan. The two suspects, according to a police source, were charged with conspiracy, rape and stealing of a Blackberry phone belonging to the victim. The rape victim said she closed from school at Wofun Iyana Church, and was accosted by the suspects who insisted she should follow them to their residence. But, when she refused, one of them allegedly used a magical ring to hit her on the chest and she was unconscious. “There is a boy who was not my boy friend. He was a student in that school about two years ago. His name is Biola. He had wanted to date me several times which I politely turned down. Just last Wednesday, when I closed from school, Biola came to me in company of two unidentified boys and said his mum wanted to see me. “‘I asked him what led to the invitation by his mum. I then told him I would not go. Then, one of the two other guys who had a ring on his hand hit me on the chest and I was unconscious. They took me to the residence of one of the two boys and raped me. “Before raping me, they gave me alcoholic drink and after the crime had been committed, they gave me ‘covenant water’ threatening me that I would die if I told anybody of the act.” A top policeman who claimed anonymity because he was not instructed to speak, confirmed the story, saying: “On May 15 at 0815 hours, one Adekola living on Akanbi Street, Molade area of Ibadan reported that his younger sister and a secondary school student went to school and did not return home. All efforts to trace her proved abortive. “Then about 23:00hours, an unanimous caller called through the victim’s GSM number and identified himself as kidnapper and demanded N6,000. The DCO led other policemen and the victim was rescued.” She was unconscious and was rushed to a nearby hospital. She later narrated how she was kidnapped and gang-raped by three persons. Two arrests have been made while the third suspect is still at large. The two suspects have been charged to court. |
Alexis Sanchez was once a hot cake before enterin barca now where is he....yu can't take d spotlite from messi..and besides Neymar style of play doesn't suit barca...he is d dribblin and stlyish player like Ronaldo and not a passer |
The Brazil international's switch to Camp Nou has been confirmed, but will he thrive alongside the likes of Lionel Messi or is he set up for a monumental disappointment? After a long, long campaign to win him round, Barcelona have finally confirmed the signing of Neymar . The starlet had caught the eye of clubs the world over with his impressive performances for Santos and the Brazil national team, with the battle for his signature a long, drawn- out process. After the Brazilian club accepted two offers on Friday, the young forward rejected a proposal from Real Madrid in order to move to Camp Nou and play alongside the likes of Lionel Messi. And Iniesta But is it the right decision? Will Neymar be able to fit in well to Tito Vilanova's setup or, as Goal's Paul Macdonald writes, is he set up for an almighty fall? With the hopes of a nation on his shoulders ahead of Brazil's hosting of the World Cup in 2014, is the timing of the transfer right or should he have waited for another year? HAVE YOUR SAY What do you think? Has Neymar made the right choice? |
A cheating boyfriend dumps you after you got pregnant for him. For all the most selfish reasons best known to him, because he believes you will mess up his swag with the pregnancy, he totally denies you. Throws you out into the cold. To make matters worse, he goes aroundtelling people you had been sleeping around, cheating on him and now you got trapped with a pregnancy, you want to push it on him. Your cries, your million explanations all fell on deaf ears - it was obvious he wasn't going to own up and take responsibility. So you moved on.. had your baby despite the namecallings, stigma. At some point, you had to relocate to make a new life for yourself 'cos the gossip and people pointing at you whenyou walked by was just too much. But finally, you were able to get back ontrack. You straightened your life, got back on point, later fell in love with another man who accepted your baby and you. You were living happily ever after until your baby's daddy showed up!! He wants his child, and he wants him now! What would you do? |
Do you think that your boyfriend is crossing the line of healthy flirting with other women? Just because he was popular with women before he met you, does not mean that he has the right to carry the same habits once he is in a relationship with you. Here are some effective ways to deal with the womanizing behavior of your boyfriend. 1. Identify specific instances of his womanizing behavior You will never be able to prove your point unless you confront your boyfriend with proof about specific instances of his womanizing ways. The best way to confront him is to keep a note of all the times you noticed his womanizing ways. When you confront him, list out these specific examples so that you have enough substance to accuse him of being a womanizer. 2. Give him a warning when you confront him There is no point in confronting your boyfriend if you don’t give him a stern warning for his womanizing ways. Let it be very clear to him that you are well aware of his behavior and you will not tolerate with any of it. You can give him an ultimatum and warn him that you will consider breaking off the relationship if he does not stop being a womanizer. 3. Flirt with someone to give him a taste of his own medicine If talking to your boyfriend calmly and having a conversation with him does not work, try to make him realize how bad you feel by flirting with someone in front of him. Set up a situation where you can flirt with a guy when your boyfriend is with you. When he confronts you about your behavior, just tell him that this is exactly how you feel when he flirts with other women. Being at the receiving end of the pain and hurt may open his eyes and make him stop being a womanizer. 4. Walk away and pretend to break up if he breaks his promise once If you find that your boyfriend is still showing signs of being a womanizer even after you served him a warning, pretend that you are thinking of breaking up with him. Do this only if he is actually remorseful of his behavior and pleads for another chance. Use this trump card very carefully because it can create two situations. Either he will do everything he can to stop being a womanizer and prove his love for you, or he will assume that you have seriously broken up with him and never look back. 5. Give him one last chance and be ready to call off the relationship The is the time when you have no other choice but to make a life changing decision, whether you want to break up with your boyfriend if he does not stop his flirty behavior. If you decide that you have had enough, give him one final chance to mend his ways. Be ready to call it quits in your relationship if the results do not work in your favor, because there is no looking back after you give him a last chance. If you take him back even after your ultimatum, he will take you for granted and continue being a womanizer. |
Policemen attached to Ilemba Hausa division in Lagos State have arrested a couple and two others who allegedly specialized in abducting children between ages one and four years and selling them to barren women and motherless homes in the eastern part of the country. So far, about seven children reportedly stolen from their parents' homes in Lagos and other parts of the country have been recovered from their new homes in Imo, Anambra and Delta states. One of the stolen children, Ezeaka Uchenna (4) was picked from his parents' home, Madu Street, Jakande Ojo, Ajagbadi area of Lagos by one of the suspects, Adaeze Mba, on March 18, 2013 . Adaeze who packed into same compound with the Ezeakas in January 2013, was said to have gone to purchase tapioca from Uchenna's mother that fateful day, only to abscond with the child. The couple immediately moved out of the area and allegedly sold the child to a couple in Obosi, Anambra State for N600,000. However, during investigation, spokesman for the Lagos State Police Command, Ngozi Braide, while parading the suspects, yesterday, at the Command's headquarters, Ikeja, said the policemen acting on a tip-off stormed Ikot Ekpene in Akwa Ibom State where the couple were arrested. "They confessed to have sold the child to one Mrs Benedict at Asaba, Delta State. We proceeded to Asaba where Mrs Benedict was arrested. She made a confessional statement that she buys and sells children to barren women and that she had sold Uchenna to one Mrs Patricia at Obosi in Anambra State. "Investigation revealed that the couple had earlier stolen Goodluck Amaechi (3) and Promise Amaechi of same parents in Imo State and sold to Mrs Benedict. Mrs Bendict confirmed their statements and we proceeded to Obosi where the children were recovered from one Church of Goodness Motherless Babies Home." Adaeze blames devil Pregnant Adaeze who hails from Mbatolu Local Government Area of Imo State blamed her indulgence on the devil and her husband, disclosing that they have been in the illicit act for five years. "Please forgive me. I was talked into it by my husband. He asked me to get a child for him that he would pay me N400,000. When I asked what he wanted to do with the children, he assured me it was not for ritual purpose that his boss, Mrs Benedict takes them to motherless babies home. Our Modus operandi "Our targets are usually couples with more than three children. What we do is to move into an area, stay for about two to three months to get quainted with the people and immediately we got any child, we would leave the vicinity for another area where we are not known. We usually rent single room apartments without furnishing them." Corroborating her claim, her husband, Mba, said he ventured into the act when his sand dredging business was no longer lucrative. He said: "When I complained to a friend, he introduced me to Mrs Benedict and since I met her, my life never remained the same." He said a male child was more expensive than female, disclosing that Madam Benedict paid him her as much as N600,000 for a male child and four N400,000 for female. But for each child brought by his wife, he said he used to make N200,000 gain. "What we do is immediately we succeed in stealing a child, we send him/her to my boss who in turn sell to motherless babies home and to barren women. I was responsible for my landlord's missing children. I sold them for N400,000 each in Mbatolu, Imo State." How we arrested Benedict -Police Vanguard gathered that Mrs Benedict was arrested after the policemen who posed as pregnant women called her on phone to inform her that they had a baby boy for sale. But on arriving the designated point in Asaba, Delta State, the suspect who sensed trouble was said to have zoomed off with one of the police women in her car, in a bid to escape but was overpowered. The suspects, according to Braide, would be charged to court soon. On her part, the woman whom the couple sold 4- year-old Uchenna to begged the world to forgive her that she opted to buy the child following her inability to give birth to a child of her own. " I was married for 21 years without a child to call mine. Someone introduced me to Benedicta and when I told her I needed a child, she requested for N600,000 but I told her I could not afford that amount. She later called me to meet her at the River Niger bridge at Onitcha. On getting there he handed over the child to me. I told her he was too big but she said that was the only one she had. I changed Uchenna's name to Amarachi and enrolled him in a school where I pay N50,000 per term", said the widow who simply gave her name as Patricia. On her part, 35 year-old Benedicta Ogbonna, who is a mother of four said she was only involved in the act to help barren women. Asked why she did not offer her own children for sale, she kept mute. |
LONDON (AFP) – One of the two alleged killers of a British soldier on a street in south-east London on Wednesday explained his actions on an amateur video obtained by the television channel ITV. The young black man, who is wearing jeans, sports shoes, a jacket and a black hat and holding a bloody kitchen knife and a meat cleaver is filmed approaching the camera. “We swear by almighty Allah we will never stop fighting you unless you leave us alone,” he says. “We must fight them as they fight us. An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth. “I apologise that women have had to witness this today, but in our land our women have to see the same. You people will never be safe. Remove your government, they don’t care about you. “You think David Cameron is going to get caught in the street when we start busting our guns? You think politicians are going to die? No it’s going to be the average guy, like you, and your children. “So get rid of them. Tell them to bring our troops back so can all live in peace.” Other words are inaudible. The British soldier was brutally murdered by suspected Islamists near a London barracks on Wednesday in an attack Prime Minister David Cameron said appeared to be terror-related. Cameron called the attack “appalling”, and said: “There are strong indications that it is a terrorist incident.” Eyewitnesses described how two men attacked a man in the street in broad daylight with knives and a gun and then remained at the scene, asking passers-by to photograph and film them Armed police shot and wounded the two attackers after being called to the incident by bystanders. Reports said the man attacked was wearing a t- shirt bearing the logo of the British military charity Help for Heroes. One eyewitness, identified only as James, told local radio station LBC the two assailants “were hacking at this poor guy”. “We thought they were trying to remove organs or something. “These two guys were crazy, they just were not there, they were just animals.” The government’s emergency response committee, COBRA, met hours after the attack, which took place in broad daylight near the Royal Artillery Barracks in Woolwich, southeast London. Security was reinforced at all army barracks in London following the incident. Cameron, who returned early from talks with French President Francois Hollande in Paris, called the attack “truly shocking”. Hollande said at a press conference with Cameron that the victim was a soldier, but the British prime minister gave no confirmation. Cameron said: “We’ve had this sort of attack before in our country and we never buckle in the face of them. “People across Britain, people in every community, I believe, will utterly condemn this attack.” A local member of parliament, Nick Raynsford, said he believed the dead man was a soldier. Home Secretary Theresa May said: “It has been confirmed to me that a man has been brutally murdered this afternoon in southeast London. “Two other men were shot by armed police and they are currently receiving treatment for their injuries. This is a sickening and barbaric attack.” The Muslim Council of Britain said the killers’ use of “Islamic slogans” indicated they were motivated by their faith. A statement from the council said: “This is a truly barbaric act that has no basis in Islam and we condemn this unreservedly. Our thoughts are with the victim and his family.” Police were called at 2:20 pm (1320 GMT) to reports of one man being assaulted by two others. “A number of weapons were reportedly being used in the attack, and this included reports of a firearm,” said police commander Simon Letchford. Local officers, then firearms police officers arrived on the scene where they found a man who was later pronounced dead. “Two men, who we believe from early reports to have been carrying weapons, were shot by police. They were taken to separate London hospitals, they are receiving treatment for their injuries,” Letchford said. He said there would be a heightened police presence in the area and urged locals to remain calm. A white and blue police evidence tent was visible in the street and police tape sealed off the scene which was being scoured by officers in forensic suits. Eyewitness pictures showed an air ambulance landing in the road and three bodies lying on the ground with dozens of onlookers observing the scene after the police arrived. A Buckingham Palace spokesman said Queen Elizabeth II — who is due to visit the barracks later this month — was “concerned” by the attack and was being kept updated. In Washington, the State Department issued a statement condemning the attack. “We stand with our UK allies in the face of such senseless violence. Our thoughts and condolence are with the family of the victim and the British people,” State Department spokesman Patrick Ventrell said. Source:http://www.vanguardngr.com/2013/05/you-will-never-be-safe-london-attacker/ |
Popular Nigerian female comedian, Princess, and her movie producer/director husband, Adeshola Jeremiah, tied the knot on Wednesday 8th May 2013 at the Balmoral Hall, Oregun, Lagos. It was indeed a happy day for 'Madam' Princess who had almost lost of hope of finding a husband. Below is their very interesting love story... On what attracted her to Adeshola Jeremiah Well he is a quiet person and if not for the fact that I am into entertainment, I also like my privacy, I don't like unnecessary show-off. If I go somewhere and they don't recognize me, that is very okay by me, I just love to be myself. How They Met He saw me when I went for their program in Odunfa Cancus (A Yoruba Theatre Group). I went because of a friend of mine Latifat, who was also trained there. She was in UNILAG and my junior in Theatre Arts. So I went there and that was where he saw me and that was like so many years ago in 2005. Every time I visit my friend, because they are always together, he will see me there, he couldn't approach me, not because of my status but the fact that anytime I come I will just play with everyone for like 5 to 10 minutes and just zoom off. And I play and smile with everyone but I don't give that chance that I am easily approachable in order not to draw unnecessary attention. Things Were Different This Time… Then in 2008, he was shooting his own movie, I also went there to see a friend of mine, he saw me again and went to meet that friend of mine, he told her he wanted to meet me that he would want me to play a role in the movie. My friend discouraged him saying if he should meet me, it will look like they didn't plan themselves well. That same year, he was with that my friend when I came to visit and he told her "I really want to marry Princess" (laughs) and my friend started laughing and she told him it's not possible. He kept on pestering her and told her why don't you tell her first and lets hear what she says, she (Latifat) now said I don't think I can tell her, Princess is my very close friend and I can't tell her that because Princess doesn't have time for men now and she has said it's her work for now. But he continued disturbing her to tell me, so that day we were watching a TV program and I love cooking so she saw a dish and said this dish is very nice how I wish I could eat it now and I said oh you want me to stand up and go prepare this food, so when I went to the kitchen. She later came into the kitchen and said she wanted to tell me something, and I said what is it, she said this person likes me and wants to marry me, so I just started laughing, it was very funny, she felt embarrassed and went back to the sitting room, I asked her why won't I be embarrassed, when the person told you, why didn't you just tell him Princess won't agree and she said that's exactly what she told the person but the person insisted. I told her to give the person my number, and when he called I was just laughing, he asked "what's funny", I said nothing, he now said "well he is Latifat's friend" and I said yes I know that, and I started bombarding him with questions just to discourage him, so he won't call again. So when his credit got finished, he called back again. I said this one I have been asking him many questions na wa o but its okay do I have more questions to ask? and I said yes o and started asking him more questions, I asked him questions again till 11:30 PM, he ran out of credit again and called back, and I am like where are you getting all the money for this credit, he just said "don't worry I will call you back", when he called back again he asked if I had more questions and I said no because it was already past midnight and we have been talking since past 6. Friend to Fiance That was it! We later became friends and got very close, then he said he wanted to marry me and even told me many things about myself. I was quite surprised and wondered how he got to know all about me. That was how we started and things continued but we just decided to keep everything low key. At first I felt it was low key and if he disappionts me, it won't hurt too much, but when everything became too serious that was how everything went then we started meeting our families and I discovered that some people he knew, were also the same people I know. On her sudden wedding announcement Yes we have been planning it but because my sister was getting married on February 14th, we just felt that hers is the reigning wedding and they were the latest couple, so we concentrated more on hers and also we were trying to avoid the news reaching the press. So I think 3 weeks or about a month to our wedding, we had already done the introduction and that was when we now started distributing the invitations, because we said if we give people the IVs earlier, news will go around. My husband started distributing his cards a month to the wedding but I started 2 and a half weeks to the wedding because I just said everybody will hear. On not wanting to publicize her Wedding The thing is, that's the kind of person I am. I am just there, I just believe I am like every other Nigerian and even though my work has exposed me and made me to be seen or perceived as a celebrity, my partner is not a public person like that and we just didn't want too much noise. Even the day I sent text messages to some of my friends, the next day I started reading so many stories on the internet, and you can imagine that people wrote on the internet that Princess is getting married because she was pregnant and now she is trying to get one guy to marry her. It was even my husband who saw it and called my attention to it. He was lying on the couch and just laughing and I was like, what's funny and who are you chatting with?, he just said there is something they wrote on the internet and I said what, he just said it's on Facebook, they said you are pregnant, and I said don't mind them but I just felt bad because people sometimes naturally find it difficult to be happy for others. Even now that I am married, I pray to have kids but you can't start spreading rumours that somebody is getting married because they are pregnant. You don't have an insight nor information about them, you can't reach those people so you just write anything you want. But anyway I didn't let that bother me, I just kept it to myself. Even when I was rehearsing for my show because we had two different dance routines and it was difficult, so I didn't even have time to dwell on that. On what she loves most about him I love everything about him and he is very understanding. He understands the essence of us being on earth which is just to worship God and he is God fearing. That's the first thing I noticed about him and I was even surprised. I have always said If I had choice, I will marry a musician but then which musician can I now marry (laughs). He is very God fearing and at least we are not perfect but if you are God fearing, you will always know when you are doing something wrong. R |
A lot of things have been said concerning women and virginity. We have been told, taught and lectured on how to recognise a woman with virginity and vice versa... I will also want to know how can ladies know if a man is a virgin or not. What are those features and characteristics the man would show for us to conclude if he's a virgin or not. |
Davido not only has big dreams for his future, he wants to leave a legacy behind as he recently announced plans to build affordable schools across the country. Davido made the announcement via social networking site twitter. *Davido Building a school this year… We looking 4 land.. Gonna start with Osun State then move to other states! #providing affordable education. He tweeted. Davido is still basking from the success of his last single, Gobe. Source:http:// www.vanguardngr.com/2013/05/im-building- a-school-this-year-says-davido/
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is it Dat d education will ßƺ free abi dem go dey pay sch. Fees....abi na anoda business set up |
Another breakthrough has been recorded in Imo State by security agencies in their current fight against the establishment of baby making factories and trafficking in human beings, as no fewer than 14 pregnant teenagers were rescued by security operatives who stormed a building located at Umuguma, Owerri, Imo State. Vanguard gathered that the latest baby making factory is said to be owned and run by a member of the Cherubim and Seraphim Church, simply identified as Pastor Chinedu. Feelers from some residents of Umuguma, claimed that the Pastor was a staff of one the local governments in the state. A villager, who spoke on strict grounds of anonymity, told Vanguard that the security operatives stormed the premises last Wednesday afternoon. “The security personnel rescued about 14 pregnant teenage girls when they stormed the place (baby making factory). They also arrested the owner of the baby factory,” the villager recounted. He recalled that the pastor recently hired an uncompleted building in the community and quartered the pregnant girls in the unhealthy environment. Vanguard recalls that only recently, the state police command raided a baby factory at Umuaka, run by a woman simply identified as Madam One Thousand. In this particular operation, no fewer than 26 pregnant teenagers were rescued, while a 23-year-old boy said to be hired by the woman to impregnate the girls, was also arrested. Source:http://www.vanguardngr.com/2013/05/14-pregnant-teens-rescued-in-another-baby-factory-in-imo/ |
A 24-year-old teacher, Phillip Ebong, was arrested on Wednesday by the Gowon Estate Police Division, Akowonjo, Lagos, for allegedly victimising a 14-year-old pupil (name withheld) and banning her from attending his classes. Ebong, who teaches Physics and Chemistry at the Dee Jewels International College, Gowon Estate, Egbeda, was arrested during school hours after a complaint was lodged at the police station by Spaces for Change, a non- governmental organisation on youth development, on behalf of the pupil and her guardian, Mrs. Theresa Amaechi. A copy of the petition made available to PUNCH Metro revealed that Ebong began harassing the victim from the first day of her enrolment in the school in January 2013. The petition read, "On repeated occasions, Ebong invited the victim to the staff room informing her of his desire to have an intimate relationship with her. Consequently, the victim became a regular visitor to the staff room during break periods. "On such visits, he made sexual advances to her which often involved kissing and hugging. Several times, Ebong followed her home, waiting at the gate to avoid being seen by her guardian." The petition alleged that under much pressure from Ebong, the victim eventually invited the teacher to her guardians' home while they were away. Ebong was alleged to have cajoled her to expose her private part, after handling her breasts and kissing her. It was said the harassment became too persistent, that the victim allegedly earned the title, "Uncle Phillip's wife," among her classmates and friends. Amaechi told PUNCH Metro, "The victim is a timid girl. I did not know the extent of the harassment she was facing until she opened up to me last Friday. Earlier, she had told me Ebong was asking her for a relationship and I told her to reject his advances. I thought it would stop at that. "I was shocked when she told me last week that she was no longer interested in staying in the science class; she wanted to switch to the arts and when I asked why, she said it was because Ebong had banned her from his classes. "Apparently, she had told him that I was aware that he had asked her for a sexual relationship. The revelation angered him. He even went as far as threatening that she would fail her examinations," As of the time of Ebong's arrest, the school principal was said to be busy as the SSS III students were taken the WAEC examination. However the school proprietor, identified as Mrs. Azubuike, who was alerted to the development, rushed down to the school. She said the victim never made a formal report to the school. She said, "We don't condone such acts here. Had we been informed on time, we would have taken appropriate action." When confronted, Ebong allegedly denied the accusation. He blamed the entire situation on his interest in his students' success. He said, "I am close to all my students; that is what I was taught in the College of Education that a teacher had to be friendly. I just took an interest in the victim because I noticed she was not taking her homework seriously. All this talk of my touching and kissing her, they are all lies. I admit going to her house but it was because I wanted to see her guardian." Executive Director of Spaces for Change, Mrs. Victoria Ibezim-Ohaeri, said Amaechi came to her with the case on the same day her ward confided in her. She said, "We are prepared to seek legal redress in the court should the school and police fail to investigate this matter and exercise full disciplinary action against Ebong. "Our investigation has also shown that there are other students currently being abused by this same Ebong. "These acts of misconduct are not only indicative of poor supervision and negligence on the part of the school authorities, but also amount to continuing breeches of the victim's fundamental human rights." As of press time, PUNCH Metro gathered that the police had obtained statements from the victim's classmates and friends. The Lagos State Police Public Relations Officer, DSP Ngozi Braide, when contacted, said, "I will let you know when I have the full details." Source:http://mobile.punchng.com/output.php?link=http://www.punchng.com/news/teacher-arrested-for-handling-14-year-old-pupil/ |
Davido not only has big dreams for his future, he wants to leave a legacy behind as he recently announced plans to build affordable schools across the country. Davido made the announcement via social networking site twitter. *Davido Building a school this year… We looking 4 land.. Gonna start with Osun State then move to other states! #providing affordable education. He tweeted. Davido is still basking from the success of his last single, Gobe. Source:http://www.vanguardngr.com/2013/05/im-building-a-school-this-year-says-davido/
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Another day, another show of fortune. After Wizkid put up photos of his multi-million naira Porsche automobile on Instagram Tuesday, Dr Sid has put up photos of his new Lekki home on the photo sharing site too. It’s still in it’s final stages of completion but Sidney couldn’t wait to show it to the world. Source:http://www.vanguardngr.com/2013/05/dr-sid-shows-off-multi-million-naira-lekki-home/
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A British businesswoman and an Irish welder convicted of having drunken sex in the back of a taxi in Dubai have been sentenced to two months in jail after losing an appeal. Rebecca Blake, 30, from Dorking, Surrey, and Conor McRedmond, 28, from Tullamore, Co. Offaly, had spent a year fighting the allegations. Witnesses said recruitment executive Blake stripped off before straddling McRedmond, who had his jeans pulled down. The pair denied the accusations and yesterday said they were 'disappointed' by the outcome, which will see both deported after serving their sentences. Blake, who was sacked from her £120,000-a- year post, said: 'I am devastated by this result and gutted this has been dragging on for a year. I cannot wait to get home and start my life now but I am very scared about going to prison.' McRedmond has been living in Dubai for four years, said: 'I am disappointed after coming this far and fighting these allegations for so long. I feel they are making an example of us.' Blake and McRedmond do not have to go to jail immediately and can decide when to hand themselves in - but if they are arrested in the meantime or get into trouble with the law, they will be taken straight to prison. They cannot leave the country until they have served their sentence. The pair said they had been financially crippled by the case after spending more than €50,000 fighting to clear their names. Blake, who moved to Dubai in September 2011, has not been able to find work since she was sacked and neither of them can leave the country after having their passports confiscated. Blake and McRedmond were arrested on May 4 last year after going on a ten-hour drinking binge. The pair met hours earlier at a brunch, where they admitted getting drunk on free-flowing wine and vodka in an all- inclusive €45-a-head deal. They carried on drinking at a hotel and got into a taxi together at about 10pm. Taxi driver Qaiser Khan, 30, claimed within minutes of getting in, Blake had taken her top off and was writhing on top of McRedmond while 'making the sounds of a woman having sex'. He pulled over on Sheikh Zayed road and summoned policeman Abdullah Obaid Khamis, who told the court that he found the pair having sex and interrupted them by tapping on the window. He told prosecutors: 'They kept having sex for four minutes. The man's shirt was open, his trousers were down to his knees and the woman was not wearing any underwear.' The taxi driver alleged Blake offered him 'a lot of money' to tell prosecutors they had been kissing rather than having sex, but he refused. Blake and McRedmond, who works as a manager at Kelly Steel engineering firm, said the allegations had been trumped up after they rowed with the taxi driver about taking a longer route home. The pair were originally convicted in November in the criminal court, where they were both sentenced to three months in jail and given a €630 fine for drinking alcohol - a crime in the Islamic country. The sentence was challenged in the Court of Appeal in February, which cut the sentence by a month and reduced the fine. But the Supreme Court - the highest court in the United Arab Emirates - refused to drop the charges altogether, despite medical reports proving the couple did not have sex. Their lawyer Shaker al Shammary yesterday said the statements of the two witnesses were inconsistent, adding: 'They threatened to complain about the taxi driver and he beat them to it - yet there is no mention of their dispute in the Supreme Court judgment. 'The medical records show what the witnesses said was not true but this was not taken into account in the ruling.' The duo's only options now are to beg for a royal pardon from Sheikh Mohammed bin Rashid al Maktoum, the ruler of Dubai, or they can serve their time and challenge the deportation order in the courts. McRedmond said: 'We find ourselves in exactly the same position we were in after the original verdict but thousands of pounds poorer. 'Any court in the world would accept the medical evidence above all else. I love Dubai and wanted to carry on living here but I am left without a choice.' There were fears their failure to clear their names is part of a crackdown from Dubai authorities on expats flouting their strict rules. Vince Acors and Michelle Palmer, a British couple caught having sex on a beach, were treated more leniently in 2008 when they were convicted on the same charge of indecency and ordered to serve three months in prison, but received a suspended sentence on appeal. |
Nigeria soccer buffs have hailed the gesture by Africa Cup of Nations star, Emmanuel Emenike's offer to award his colleagues 50,000 dollars (N7.9m) if they defeat the Harambee Stars of Kenya in their June 6 World Cup qualifier. They acknowledged the move as a worthy manner of motivating the players, even with his absence from the squad. Emenike has been sidelined by injury. Some have described his offer as a "motivational therapy'. They reasoned that Nigeria's qualification could hasten Emenike's recovery. Some also said that Emenike's offer was similar to the likes of some African soccer greats like Cameroon's Samuel Eto Fils, George Opone Weah of Liberia and Seydou Keita of Mali who have motivated their colleagues before major competitions. Christian Chukwu, a former Super Eagles coach, told the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) that the offer showed how player regarded the qualification of the team for the World Cup. "It is a very good gesture; if other people can emulate him, we will be better off and have a stronger team. Although he is injured, we pray for him to get better before the match, which will be a good incentive to motivate the players''. Iroha, an ex- International, said that Emenike had proved that he had a heart of gold, to support the boys even in his absence. "I appreciate him for that. It is not easy to pull such a stunt. I wish the team well. I know that the team will miss him on the field but they should work with one mind and with that, they will make a success of the qualifier,'' he said. Ndubuisi Nduka, Head Coach of Heartland FC of Owerri, described Emenike's gesture as an expression of `patriotism'. "The young man is one who is emotionally attached to his country and will want to contribute to the glory of his fatherland as he has shown by that offer. That goes to show that his mind is with the team, whether on or off the pitch. It's a sort of internal motivation for the team, coming from one of them," Nduka said. Chinedu Efugh, Captain of Heartland, said that it was a good sign of oneness in the team. "A good team is one that is made up of inputs from all the departments. The fact that he is not going to be with the team notwithstanding, his contribution will go a long way to spur it to victory," he said. Mutiu Adepoju, an ex Super Eagles player, said for a player to offer that kind of amount showed that he was interested in the team's victory. "If he can offer that, then it means he is capable of doing it,'' he said. Former coach of the Super Falcons, Paul Hamilton, said it was a superb encouragement . "I am astonished at the way he (Emenike) took charge and told his teammates to help him to win, to qualify for the 2014 World Cup in Brazil. I pray that they (Eagles) remain focused on the field of play''. Joe Erico, a former Eagles trainer, also commended Emenike, saying , he was up to the task. I believe words of encouragement would give his team mates the desired push to go all out. "Even when it won't be an easy one for them, but I am positive that the results will be fair enough,'' added the former goalkeeper trainer. Erico noted: "The team needs more of such encouragement from football administrators and fans alike. "The team needs more of our support. We should always have this positive mindset when it comes to football, because it is what brings us together," he added. |
Kabiru Sokoto, who is standing trial for the 2011 Christmas Day bombing of St. Theresa's Catholic Church, Madalla, Niger State, yesterday opened up in court, explaining how they carried out the attack. Sokoto was arraigned for terrorism at the Federal High Court, Maitama in Abuja. The Boko Haram leader and mastermind of the church's bombing, who since his arraignment, had denied involvement or knowledge of the deadly attack, suddenly opened up yesterday on how they plotted and killed over 40 worshippers on December 25, 2011 at about 8.00am. Sokoto dismissed claims that the attack on the church was carried out by a suicide bomber. Another bombshell by Sokoto is the financial link Boko Haram had with Algeria and how a group which is the sect's financial backbone had been instrumental to their means of fund raising to carry out deadly attacks. The sharing of funds by the members of the Islamist sect, he said, led to the major crack in Boko Haram. On the church bombing, Sokoto told the court that the incident was a coordinated attack that was executed by two persons- Bashir Mohammed and Mukthar Kafanchan under the supervision of Sulieman Habib, who is the commander of Boko Haram in Niger State. Giving further insight into how the attack was carried out, he said: "It was not a suicide bomber as many believed. It was a coordinated attack. The car that was used for the operation was parked near the church, laden with explosives and later detonated by the people assigned for the job," he told the court. On the Algerian sponsors, he said an Algerian group, Muslimiyama, which means 'the group from the sunset,' frequently sent money to them. He noted that it was the sharing of N40million sent by the group that split the sect into two factions. "There is a group in Algeria, Muslimiyama, meaning 'the group from the sunset', which normally sends money to us. And it was because of the sharing of N40million they sent to us that our sect split into two. I was given N500,000 out of the money which I used to buy Koran and other books." However, contrary to reports, Sokoto said the Presidential Committee on Dialogue and Peaceful Resolution of Security Challenges had never met with him. |
As a relationship specialist, one of my biggest concerns has to do with all the emphasis that's placed on the wedding day. Here are some topics to discuss with your spouse-to-be before the big day: 1. Will you have kids and, if so, how will you raise them? Assuming that you both want to be parents someday, how many do you want to have and how will you raise them as co- parents? Will they be raised under one religion? How do you expect to discipline them? What are your expectations about taking them on vacations? What are the expectations about who will be the primary caretaker? If one of you goes on parental leave, will that person be expected to eventually go back to work? 2. How will you manage your finances? What individual assets and debts will you bring to the marriage? Who will pay the bills? What will be considered a "big ticket" item and how much money can spend on a purchase before you should consult your spouse? How will you save? What are your financial goals and how will you reach them together? Will there be joint bank account or separate bank accounts? Will you each have an allowance of spending money and how much? 3. How will you spend free time? How do you expect to spend it -- together or individually? Will you still have time with friends that doesn't include each other? How often would you like to vacation and what kind of destinations would you like to visit? How will you let each other know if you feel like you need space? 4. Do you have expectations about sex? How often will you have sex? When is a good time? How will you keep your sex life from getting boring? How will you share sexual fantasies and desires? Do you have any boundaries when it comes to intimacy? 5. How will you divvy up chores?Who will do what in the home? If your spouse cooks dinner, are you expected to clean the dishes, pots and pans? Who will keep up with the maintenance around the house? Who will mow the lawn or take out the trash? Will the children lend a hand in the chores and will they be given an allowance? How will you divvy up the everyday load? 6. What can you do to openly communicate? How can you make sure that you keep your communication as good as it is now? How will you make sure to handle your conflicts appropriately? Will you check in with each other at the end of the day or once a week? What can you do as an individual to make sure that you keep the health of your marriage a priority? 7. Do you have any annoyances? What annoys you? What annoys your spouse-to-be? How will you let each other know when certain habits or behaviors bother you? How is it best to tell the other person about things regarding family that are upsetting? Paraphrasing a famous commercial from years ago: the more educated you are, the better off you will be. So, have yourselves an intelligent and informative conversation so that when the big day arrives, you'll have a ball! |
Proliferation of small arms and light weapons is increasingly and dangerously becoming a transnational organized crime in Nigeria, with Boko Haram's insurgency, re-emerging Niger Delta crisis and escalating kidnapping, communal crises and armed robbery in the South East providing impetus for arms trafficking. Some border towns, particularly in the North Eastern flank, serve as a hub for trafficking of arms as well as stolen goods, drugs and hostages by criminals, terrorists and their collaborators. The recent kidnap of a French family at a border town between Nigeria and Cameroon is an example. Similarly, many arms and ammunition of various types, sizes and calibre have been intercepted and confiscated by security agencies. The recurrent detection and recovery of cache of arms, ammunition and Improvised Explosive Device Materials by the Joint Task Force, JTF, further buttresses the point. Similarly, the occasional recovery of stolen goods and hard drugs from criminals and terrorists' camps or hideouts is an indication that the illicit trade has been on the rise in recent times. Of concern is the discovery that despite the efforts of security agencies, the "merchants of death" continue to engage in arms trafficking/ trading through covert means largely aided and abetted by the porous nature of the Nigerian borders with Cameroon, Chad, and Niger. Recently, the Comptroller General of Nigerian Immigration Services stated that the Service had discovered hundreds of illegal routes in Nigeria that link or lead to some neighbouring African countries. Nigeria's borders are massive with hundreds of footpaths crisscrossing to neighboring countries of Cameroon, Chad and Niger with links to Mali, Libya and Sudan. From conservative estimate by locals, there are well over 250 footpaths from Damaturu/Maiduguri axis that link or lead direct to Cameroon, Chad or Niger. These paths, which are mostly unknown to security agencies, are unmanned, unprotected and have continued to serve as conveyor belts for arms and ammunitions trafficking into Nigeria. It is disheartening and unfortunate that the "merchants of death" have since devised methods to beat security agencies at the borders, chief among them, through the footpaths. These methods include the use of camels, donkeys and cows to traffic arms, ammunition and drugs such as cocaine into Nigeria. The fact that the weapons are small, light and collapsible makes it easy to be concealed and moved on camels and donkeys' back in a specially crafted skin or thatched bags mainly meant for the illegal "expedition" undetected. Similarly, some cows and grains merchants in the North- East sub - region of the country device means of hiding cache of arms and ammunition in empty fuel tankers, vehicle engines and bags of grains. The "grains" are transported in large number via trucks, trailers, lorries and old model pickup vans and jeeps with little attention given to them by security agents. The use of Jega type of tricycles ( KEKE-NAPEP) as well as camels, donkeys, and cows (moving in flocks) to deceive, hide and conveniently traffic arms in some parts of the North are ways hitherto unknown, not well exposed or documented. Their capacity for arms trafficking is beginning to be uncovered and is being curtailed by security agencies. The security situation in the JTF Operation RESTORE ORDER area of responsibility forced the task force to take on additional responsibility to trace sources of arms and ammunition to Boko Haram insurgents, how the arms are trafficked and are also taking measures to block them. This is one way of effectively checkmating terrorism in Nigeria - destroy its centre of gravity! And this seems to be a task that has so far proved difficult but necessary to be accomplished if the war against insurgency is to be effective and successful. {read_more} A picture taken from a video distributed to journalists in recent days through intermediaries and obtained by AFP on March 5, 2013 reportedly shows Abubakar Shekau (C), the suspected leader of Nigerian Islamist extremist group Boko Haram, flanked by six armed and hooded fighters in an undisclosed place. Similarly, the Libyan and Malian rebels are desperate to exchange arms for money to Boko Haram terrorists, their financiers and collaborators as the sect has since been affiliated to Al-Qaida in the Maghreb. This has added to the overwhelming challenge of the influx of illegal aliens, arms, ammunitions and sophisticated IED materials into the country and an efficient and effective fight against terrorism. Additionally, the water ways/ seaports provide havens for arms trafficking through ships and speed boats on high seas and the use of canoes in the creeks. The exchange of stolen crude oil for arms/ ammunition is a well known "trading activity" nurtured and ferociously protected by militants or sea pirates and their financiers and collaborators with the possible connivance of unscrupulous law enforcement agents in the Niger Delta. This is one major source of arms and ammunition that strengthens militants' arms and ammunition holding not only in the Niger Delta but also in the South East and South Western parts of the country. Security agencies at the borders and seaports have severally complained of the porosity of the nation's borders and waterways. The problem of porous borders is compounded by inadequate personnel, patrol vehicles, surveillance helicopters and equipment. Consequently, most of the borders are leaky and this makes effective control of intruders, smugglers and "merchants of death" a mirage. The vastness of the nation's borders in the face of these challenges bring to the fore the need for a rethink on the management and security of the Nigeria's borders and seaports - without which effective fight against insurgency, arms trafficking and proliferation will remain an optical illusion. There must be innovative technology; sound policies, proficient process that will help protect our borders. It is worrisome that the exact number of illegal routes and means through which illegal aliens, arms and ammunition are trafficked into the country are largely unknown by the nation's security system. The use of innovative technology - radars and alarm systems- are major ways developed countries utilize to monitor and secure their borders. Some radars can be used as primary detection sensor for long range remote surveillance platforms. The ability to detect slow moving targets, even in complex mountainous, thickly forested terrains and large open areas make some radars such us Blighter Radar ideal for remote surveillance and detection of vehicles and people trying to cross borders illegally. In remote areas, it is common for intruders to follow natural routes across the land, valleys, mountain paths or animal tracks. In these instances, Mobile Surveillance System provides a cost effective way of monitoring key areas with limited resources. Similarly, Blighter Radar, unlike traditional Air Surveillance Radar, can effectively survey both the land and low air zone simultaneously. Correspondingly, the fundamental problem of border security, arms trafficking, efficient and effective fight against terrorism in Nigeria can be linked to what Mr. Olusegun Adeniyi tersely identified as institutional fragmentation, intelligence and policy non- coordination among the security agencies. These challenges are real and must be addressed for the fight against terrorism, arms proliferation and border security to be effective. Musa, a lieutenant colonel in Nigerian Army, is the spokesperson for Operation Restore Order, Maiduguri, Borno State |
LONDON (AFP) – Factfile on Alex Ferguson, who announced his retirement as Manchester United manager on Wednesday: Name: Alexander Chapman Ferguson Age: 71 Date of birth: December 31, 1941 Place of birth: Glasgow, Scotland Playing career Position: Striker Teams: Queen’s Park (1957-1960), St Johnstone (1960-1964), Dunfermline Athletic (1964-1967), Rangers (1967-1969), Falkirk (1969-1973), Ayr United (1973-1974) Playing honours St Johnstone Scottish Football League Division Two (1): 1962-63 Falkirk Scottish Football League Division Two (1): 1969-70 Managerial career Teams: East Stirlingshire (1974), St Mirren (1974-1978), Aberdeen (1978-1986), Scotland (1985-1986), Manchester United (1986-2013) *Sir Alex Ferguson's Managerial honours St Mirren Scottish First Division (1): 1976-77 Aberdeen Scottish Premier Division (3): 1979-80, 1983-84, 1984-85 Scottish Cup (4): 1981-82, 1982-83, 1983-84, 1985-86 Scottish League Cup (1): 1985-86 UEFA Cup Winners’ Cup (1): 1982-83 UEFA Super Cup (1): 1983 Manchester United Premier League (13): 1992-93, 1993-94, 1995-96, 1996-97, 1998-99, 1999-2000, 2000-01, 2002-03, 2006-07, 2007-08, 2008-09, 2010-11, 2012-13 FA Cup (5): 1989-90, 1993-94, 1995-96, 1998-99, 2003-04 League Cup (4): 1991-92, 2005-06, 2008-09, 2009-10 Community Shield (10): 1990 (shared), 1993, 1994, 1996, 1997, 2003, 2007, 2008, 2010, 2011 UEFA Champions League (2): 1998-99, 2007-08 UEFA Cup Winners’ Cup (1): 1990-91 UEFA Super Cup (1): 1991 Intercontinental Cup (1): 1999 FIFA Club World Cup (1): 2008 Individual Premier League Manager of the Season (10): 1993-94, 1995-96, 1996-97, 1998-99, 1999-2000, 2002-03, 2006-07, 2007-08, 2008-09, 2010-11 UEFA Manager of the Year (1): 1998-99 BBC Sports Personality of the Year Coach Award (1): 1999 BBC Sports Personality of the Year Lifetime Achievement Award (1): 2001 English Football Hall of Fame (Manager) : 2002 European Hall of Fame (Manager): 2008 FIFA Presidential Award: 2011 Other Officer of the Order of the British Empire (OBE): 1983 Commander of the Order of the British Empire (CBE): 1995 Knight Bachelor (Kt.): 1999 Source:http://www.vanguardngr.com/2013/05/sir-alex-ferguson-factfile/ |
After spending almost two years in prison for attempted illegal gun possession and tax evasion, US rapper Ja Rule has been released from prison. Ja Rule was released from Ray Brook Federal Prison in New York today Tuesday May 6th but will remain on home confinement until July 28th. Ja Rule was sentenced to two years in prison for attempted criminal possession of a weapon and 28 months for tax evasion. He served both sentences concurrently.
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Obafemi Martins is the fifth highest paid player in Major League Soccer for the 2013 season, according to a players’ union release. He is also the highest ever paid player for Seattle Sounders with an annual basic salary of $1.6million. Martins Martins beat Freddie Ljungberg record of $1.3million at Seattle Sounders as highest paid player ever in the club history in 2009/2010 season. According to a statement by MLS players’ union, Martins is on the basic wage of $1.6million per season and earn guaranteed compensation fee of $1.725million. Robbie Kaene of Los Angeles Galaxy is the highest earner in MLS with $4million salary and $4.333million as his guaranteed compen- sation. Second on the list is ex-Arsenal star Thierry Henry, who earns $3.75million and a guaranteed compensa-tion for New York Red Bull striker is $4.35million. Another New York Red Bull star Tim Cahill is next with an annual wage of $3.5million with guaranteed compensa-tion fee of $3.625million. The fourth on the highest paid players list is Los Angeles Galaxy’s Landon Donovan with an annual wage of $2.5million with a guarantee compensa-tion fee of $2.5million Source:http://www.vanguardngr.com/2013/05/obafemis-fifth-highest-earner-in-us-soccer/ |
Meet the ridiculously good-looking man who was reportedly told to leave Saudi Arabia for being too handsome. Omar Borkan Al Gala, an actor and photographer from Dubai, was given his marching orders along with a number of other men at a cultural festival earlier this month. With his perfectly formed cheekbones, captivating gaze and well groomed appearance, it's easy to see why authorities felt so threatened by his good looks. They were so worried, in fact, they thought the United Arab Emirates delegates might corrupt impressionable women at the annual Janadriyah Festival. Omar Borkan Al Gala was told to leave Saudi Arabia (Picture: YouTube) 'A festival official said the three Emiratis were taken out on the grounds they are too handsome and that the Commission members feared female visitors could fall for them,' Arabic newspaper Elaph reported. Concerned women might suddenly start stripping naked and throwing themselves at the men, police seemingly decided the best option was to remove them from the country. Others have speculated the men may have been asked to leave because of the unexpected arrival of a female UAE artist. 'Her visit to the UAE stand was a coincidence as it was not included in the programme which we had already provided to the festival's management,' said Saeed Al Kaabi, head of the UAE delegation Watch video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OW4M3wulgd0&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DOW4M3wulgd0 |
LAGOS — Controversy currently trails the parenthood of five-month-old twins who were presented at the United States of America’s embassy by their supposed parents for the procurement of visa. This follows result of a DNA test ordered by the embassy which reports showed that the couple were not the biological parents of the twins as claimed. Consequently, the couple have been arrested and are being interrogated at the Special Fraud Unit, SFU Milverton, for alleged child-trafficking. Although investigation, according to the unit, had not been concluded, there were indication that the children could have been bought for N1.8 million somewhere in Port Harcourt, Rivers State. Following the discovery, the passport of the supposed father, Mr Adenuga Shoyibo, a Nigerian based in America has been seized pending the outcome of the investigation. But Soyibo, who claimed to be a USA citizen, maintained that the children were theirs, disclosing that the twins came at a traditional home in Port Harcourt, 15 years after they got married. He further revealed that he paid N1.8 million to the trado-medical practitioner for the herbs administered to his wife which eventually led to her conception. But in the course of investigation, Commissioner of Police in charge of the unit, Mr Tunde Ogunsaki, was said to have detailed some policemen to accompany Elizabeth to the trado medical home where she claimed the babies were delivered,with a view to ascertaining her claim. The CP said: “During investigation, detectives travelled to Port-Harcourt, Rivers State where the woman claimed she gave birth to the twins in a private small house. But on reaching Port-Harcourt, the woman claimed she could no longer locate the place, she also stated that she had no antenatal record anywhere as she did not attend any. “Adenuga Soyibo, who claimed to be the father of the twins, on his own part, said he was also given local herbs that boosted his sperm count that produced the babies. Both suspects claimed they could no longer trace the woman whom they paid the N1.8 million for the local herbs for the babies delivery. They also could not produce anyone who knew about the conception and the subsequent delivery of the babies.” Mr Soyibo, however, said he met the woman, one Mrs Okoro, last year, adding that when the delivery date was near, he arrived the country November 19, 2012 and four days later his wife travelled to Port Harcourt where she was delivered same day and returned to their Ikorodu abode the following day. He further stated that he did not go to Port Harcourt with his wife, saying he was too tired because of the journey. Currently, Soyibo’s travelling documents have been seized pending the outcome of investigation. But the couple were released on bail, yesterday, and advised to be visiting for further interrogation. http://www.vanguardngr.com/2013/05/us-based-couple-fail-dna-test-for-twins-at-embassy/
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Months after opening his night club, PoP, in Victoria Island, Mavin CEO and ace music producer Don Jazzy has shut it down. Heard he shut down the club down after realizing running a music label is different from running a night club. PoP was shut down because it wasn't making money as expected. Heard some people will show up at the club just to take photos with him and leave. Also, some important people will buy drinks and not pay. Naija people sef. Lol. Well, he has shut the club down to concentrate fully on his music label. Source:www.lindaikeji..com/2013/05/don-jazzy-shuts-down-pop-night-club.html?m=1 |
Marriage is the dream of every woman, and every man. Finding a good partner, for life, is like finding your divine blessing, that can last you for a lifetime. In this part of the world, we are more idealists than realists. If we face setbacks in our businesses, we are always comfortable with reciting the famous words: “it is well”. If rain soaks you on the way to the office, it’s “showers of blessings” and a promotion is probably on the way. If our right palm itches, it means some long lost relative will send cash soon. It is no wonder that for many ladies, marriage seems to be the escape route from society’s pressures. Many of us fantasize, dream or even start planning a wedding before meeting “the right one”. Worse still, the romantic movies of heroes falling in love with less than perfect women and sweeping them off their feet in a proposal at the airport, add fuel to our flame of fantasy. The truth is: idealism is great, but the idealist never knows what to do when the real situation hits hard like a deadly punch from a wrestler’s fist. The Most Glamorous Part Of A Marriage Is The Wedding A gorgeous cake, fresh flowers, wedding gown by Vera Wang, the exotic honeymoon, the paparazzi – all these come into play at the wedding. From the moment the bride wakes up on her wedding day to the moment she spends her first official night as a married woman, she feels on top of the world. Too bad, the party can’t last forever. When you see an elderly couple retaking their marriage vows, with tears in their eyes, please note that those tears are not just tears of happiness; there are tears of a story well told – of joy, pain, courage, sadness and victory against all odds. If you’re not ready to deal with these, it’s not a sin to wait a little. Marriage is hard work and sacrifice. The Word ‘Sacrifice’ Will Suddenly Come Up More Often In Your Dictionary This word, we all dread – sacrifice. From the first day, you would find out that you may have to place the needs of others before yours, and if you are blessed with children, get ready for more sacrifices. Will there be times you wish you were single? Yes! Will there be times you wish for one minute to yourself? Definitely! If given the opportunity, would you do it all over again? For most people, YES – especially if you are with the right person. Marriage Is Not For Pretenses Or Show-Off Whether you cook with diamonds in your Egusi soup, or look like a goddess, or even know a thousand styles in bed, a man always knows to whom his heart belongs. The meaning is simple: Be yourself before marriage, and don’t try to portray what you are not. Let him fall in love with the essence of you, not with an image you have created. It’s difficult to fall out of such love, except either of you change sometime during the marriage. You Never Really Know A Man/Woman Until You Get Married Forget that you two lived in the same house for a few years before marriage, as far as there is no contract binding the two of you together in matrimony, you have not started. People tend to let down their hair when they are married, and like an onion, the real us we have kept to ourselves start to unravel. The only thing to do is adjust and move on – you’re in it for real this time. Marriage Is Team Work Like a job, if you like team work, this role is for you. Just kidding. What I am saying here is that if you don’t work together as a team, you are heading for a major disaster. The unfortunate thing is that you can’t control the other person’s mind, and vice versa. So, one just has to respect the other person’s boundaries, and it’s difficult if both of you are always bent on having your way. Like A Rollercoaster, There Are Ups And Downs Don’t think that in marriage, every day will be a holiday. You are kidding yourself. In fact, the most ecstatic moments in marriage come after a low period. Like every good story, you will be faced with challenges and tests. Even if you fail one, life will give you an opportunity to repeat the test. But when you pass one, the rewards are priceless. Marriage Is The Ultimate Gamble Sometimes, marriage leads to happily ever after. Sometimes, it doesn’t. All is fair in love and war. If it doesn’t, dust your feet, learn from past mistakes, and start painting a rosy future without giving in to society’s pressures. Many times, society looks down on divorced women. We are quick to point fingers that it is a woman’s fault that things did not work out. The fact is, it could be anybody’s fault. Either man or woman. In the end, marriage is about two selfless people living together to achieve each other’s goals. If you find the right person to make that sacrifice with you, you are extremely lucky. |
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