dikkybutt: You live in Abuja; his friend, a Senior Manager on the Island......
I tot Island is in lagos.

That got me confused

pfii: My dear, don't go calling any pastor, friend , family or anything. Girlfriend, go out and see wat babes r wearing, wear "nutty" stuff @ home, DON'T EVER EVER take his phone and check again. Join a bbm group that send joke,wen he's around read d jokes again and keep laughing and having fun. Don't bury urself in his matter. Anytime he comes home, welcome him with a smile. Try to discuss general matters and leave his babes issues aside.
Get urself nice things, smell good, take urself and children out. Take lovely pics and upload as dp.
In all make URSELF HAPPY. Cos dats all dat matters in all this. YOU!!! Love.

Karamy: kip on prayin for him,there is notin God can nt do, divoz is nt d solution probably may be d wost for u.

ednut1: Dis woman deserves what she is getting, instead of knwin ur BF well, u spend d whole time think of gettin him married, now u have it, reality noni

Nelton: Let me be very blunt here,you need financial freedom. This is because the only way a man can do all these and get away with it is if and when you depend solely on him for everything. If you were to be independent and a career woman who earns her money, there's no way any man can rubbish you this way. Yes I can understand that men would always be men, but rubbing it on ur face like this and even giving you STD leaves so much to be desired. Now, like I said before, its because u depend on him for everything that is why this is happening. He sees you as his property, after all he will say he takes care of you and provides all your need, and besides you won't have the courage and wherewithal to leave him considering the fact that you have depended on him these past 6 yrs and probably he has given you the best, expensive cars, clothes, going abroad as you desire and all that. His thinking rite now is that, you won't want to leave such a life so you will of course want to take any bullshit he rubs on ur face. This is why its very necessary for everywoman to be independent and not depend solely on ur hubby. Even if you are not working, try and create smtin, a biz or smtin to do. However, going forward, you need to be proactive. First, u need to do a comprehensive test to find out ur status, secondly, you need to stop sleeping with him withoyut condom. You will have to insist on this, till you can confirm, he's a changed man. Then the most important thing, is that you need to bring this to the notice of your pastor and make him realize that if he does not stop what he's doing, then you will be forced to leave d marriage. Lastly you need to start doing something to equip urself for any eventuality. However, in everything, divorce shld be d last option. Like I said all men are the same, sometimes all they need is checking, those steps I have ealier given, wud definitely go a long way to check him. It mite not be thaty he dosent love you, its just that he believes he's ur provider and as such free to do wateva he wants. Finally, continue praying, God wud definitely see u thru. Cheers.

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Here is a lady who needs help as she is having marital issues.

My name is Tola, I live in Abuja, I have been married for over 6 years with two beautiful kids. My husband before we got married was the best thing ever, flawless, generous to a fault, God fearing, trust worthy and anything a woman would desire. But just into marriage, the lid fell from my eyes I have been deceived and have lived with all his excesses for 6 years now and it is just too late to back out now.

When we got married I began to see his true color, there was no friday he stayed at home he partied out and came back the next day by noon, I can't remember when last I had a date night or and outing with my husband since our honey moon, he Performs his duty regularly, provides enough up keep for the family, provides for the children, sponsor vacations abroad for I and the children excluding himself. He has a heightened sex drive.

I try my best and give it to him anytime he desires it. But it doesn't stop him from cheating on me; he even does it in the open. Other husbands take their wives out for wedding ceremonies; he takes his concubines in place of me in the open even in front of my friends. He has turned me into a house wife and baby making machine and a laughing stock amongst my friends.

The funny thing is that he is a worker in church, he is a Christian. On Sunday, he spends the entire day in church, but asides Sundays, he is a pagan, he sleeps with anythingin skirts, I have cried my eyes out, he flirts with my friends, and he even has them as contact via BBM. Anytime he comes back from business trips, I see packs of condoms in his brief case and his shirt smells of feminine perfumes. The worst still is that he has FOOLS as friends, I cry out every day, I pray and fast but for the past six years it only gets worse.

He and his group of friends (married men)have a BBM group called "RELOADED" where they organise weekend get aways. Organise the latest chick to lay in cheap hotels, plan get together, where they have numerous vulnerable chicks to Bleep, party all night with their concubines, organize random bbm group with many university chicks (married men for that matter)they hook up with this girls, giving silly excuse that they are travelling for business trips.

One of his friends a senior manager in a company on the island recently travelled to kenya with one of his concubines and posts pictures of them having a sex rump, I see this through the bbm group der organised, my husband has no remourse, he lives his fone open and knows I go through it but he doesn't care.

My sister it might sound unbelievable, but many things are happening via social media, twitter, facebook were they hook up with chicks, as old as this men are, they organise private boat cruise trips with a maximum of 12 girls so dat they are surplus. They lodge on a private beach and Bleep the living day light out of them. Unilag, lasu and osu babes.

The worst has happened. I just got discharged from the hospital, I contacted STD via my husband and he feels no remorse. I have had it, I am tired, I want out, this is too much, I need a divorce. Ladun what do I do? I need comments from your blog readers. I cannot take this anymore, my husband bringing diseases to the home. If I suggest he uses a condom on me, he would beat me and accuse me of cheating on him. This men cannot get their eyes off anything in skirts. I noticed his chat with my neighbours daughter, I can’t confront her, he Is sleeping with her and recently took her clubbing.

Ladun please tell me what this girls have that I do not have, is their vagina gold plated or what. I am living in misery, I wish I we're single, I wish I cud cheat on him but am a firm believer in the word. I wish I could turn back the hands of time and dodge meeting him. Please Help!!!

pro01: "He was generous to a fault". . .I'm sure that was what attracted her in the first place. No doubt she was blinded by the man's money and generosity, and rushed to marry him in a big wedding. Now she has what she has always wanted (and what most Nigerian females also want). . .nice house, fine cars, yearly vacations overseas, a rich husband; YET she also wants faithfulness. . .is she mad?

The earlier you people understand that you can't get married to a very comfortable/rich man and a 'faithful' man at the same time, the better for you. You can't have your cake and eat it. Believe it or not, the more well-to-do and generous a man is, the less likely he is to stay faithful to one woman in this country of ours where the women make life a living hell for guys with a modest income.

No pity at all for the woman in question, she simply got what she bargained for, she should shut the Bleep up and be thankful instead! I assume 92.7% of naija women are ready to trade in their faithful but broke ass husbands for this woman's husband, so whatt the hell is she talking about? Next!

cindyrella: Stories like this makes me scared to even think of marriage.

pfii: My dear, don't go calling any pastor, friend , family or anything. Girlfriend, go out and see wat babes r wearing, wear "nutty" stuff @ home, DON'T EVER EVER take his phone and check again. Join a bbm group that send joke,wen he's around read d jokes again and keep laughing and having fun. Don't bury urself in his matter. Anytime he comes home, welcome him with a smile. Try to discuss general matters and leave his babes issues aside.
Get urself nice things, smell good, take urself and children out. Take lovely pics and upload as dp.
In all make URSELF HAPPY. Cos dats all dat matters in all this. YOU!!! Love.

samfibby: For every cheating husband there is a female cheating partner. Women are their worst enemy

samfibby: For every cheating husband there is a female cheating partner. Women are their worst enemy

cindyrella: Stories like this makes me scared to even think of marriage.

fork adict:

I love you guy. No homo.

Are you based in Lag? I can supply you with 2 chics for an all nite romp. And they are not ashees. You deserve that and much more for this inspirational, motivating, educating and entertaining post