freecocoa: If i remember what this thread and the first question on it is all about, it is

Do you find it disrespectful if your partner reads a new sms on your phone before passing it on to you? Now that's different from them reading an sms you've read and left on your phone.

Whether you believe it or not, there are things meant to be kept to self and many examples have been cited. I have no issue with my partner checking my phone for whatever(well he doesn't without asking first) but he has no right to read my sms before me, unless i ask him to, simple.

I tire ooo. Next thing I am seeing is answering phone calls and what not. I dont have issues with him answering my calls, the question here was new messages.

Ujujoan:

Hmmmn . . . .

Well that's just your opinion!

Yes it is.

jennykadry:

I tire ooo. Next thing I am seeing is answering phone calls and what not. I dont have issues with him answering my calls, the question here was new messages.

It just shows many people don't even get it to start with .

I leave my phones with my fiancee, so she is free to go through my text messages. Though, I dont expect her to open my inbox when a new text arrives my phone(or answer my calls), whether am there or not. I know she wont do that because it amounts to phishing.

I go through her phones/messages if she permits me and if i feel like but that isnt important to me.

The important thing is trust and i trust her and will do everything within my power to make her trust me.

cindylee: i don't know about being disrespectful but I do it. In short a lot, not out of disrespectbut my inquisitive nature and he doesn't get angy and even me I don't mind because he does it it although not every time.

U're right dear. Even those saying it's not right will still hide and do it. I do it a lot when he leaves his phone with me. But reading a new message before passing the phone on to the owner is disrespectful. U two can read it together. This builds trust. Except if U're hiding something.

I didn't cee any big deal reading ur spouse SMS, after all dey ar 1 n av 2 share evry tin in common.... dey don't av 2 be hidin tins 2 each oda because dey ar 1.

freecocoa: It just shows many people don't even get it to start with .

I agree. Shocked I was to see phone calls replace text message.

Just imagine a friend of mine SMS me to tell me she's got a rash in her private part. Why would I want my husband to read that "nonsense"?

linearity:

..for these reasons shall a man leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife and they shall be one.

The day you said 'I do' you give up that privacy; both spouse should be able to read each other's SMS and emails...

Why are you quoting the Bible? Not everyone are Christians or believers of the Bible....You failed.

And you won't be married long (that if and when you are married) Misquoting the bible can get you in trouble....

Don't pick a sentence out of a Bible and then add things to it. That is an offense punishable by a knock on your head.


What was your vows? Your feelings aren't important and I don't trust you.

agabasam: Its nt desrespectful, if u cant cope with it, go n marry anoda man.... As i no hack ha phone ma sef..... Al dz lv and trust stufs are highly exagerated, dats y 1 man close to my place is been fooled by hs wife, hu cheats on him and he goes abt broadcasting hz luv nd trust 4 hz wife, if u tel him d truth, u turn hz enemy... Bleeping idiota

Marrying another man isn't going to increase the previous man's trust level. It is okay that you disagree that it isn't disrespectful but why are you telling people what to do?

Are people telling you to go kill yourself because you disagree that it is not disrespectful? No.

Mrs..Chima:


Marrying another man isn't going to increase the previous man's trust level. It is okay that you disagree that it isn't disrespectful but why are you telling people what to do?

Are people telling you to go kill yourself because you disagree that it is not disrespectful? No.

You guys don't know that marriage is about utmost trust. You shouldn't be hiding anything from your spouse including your anus. he should be able to look whenever and however.

jennykadry:

I agree. Shocked I was to see phone calls replace text message.

Just imagine a friend of mine SMS me to tell me she's got a rash in her private part. Why would I want my husband to read that "nonsense"?

Just ask me abeg, it really beats me how people reason all in the name of "we are one"

jidegirl12:

It's not a big deal maam, my husband sees my paperwork (client stuff) and even helps me with some stuff like say on my iPad , he will never say that info to a third party or even joke with it, that's the trust he'll never break. That's even the peak of being disrespectful .

Abeg leave ethic code jare, you wan kill me with work when I have a extra hand (that has a knowledge of what i do and I trust) to help?

It doesn't matter if you feel that your husband will not share information to the public. You broke the code of ethics bottom line. If you wanted extra hands...STOP BEING CHEAP and hire an extra hand. Make sure they are bound by confidentially clause. And also if you don't think there is nothing wrong with you sharing your clients' information with your spouse....did you inform your clients?

That's lack of professionalism. Bad for business.....

I am willing to bet....no, you didn't inform your clients.

Glad to know I am not your client. Good riddance.

afam4eva:
You guys don't know that marriage is about utmost trust. You shouldn't be hiding anything from your spouse including your anus. he should be able to look whenever and however.

Marriage isn't about cellphones and text messages...there are more to marriage and the bigger picture. It includes RESPECT, UNDERSTANDING, TRUST, STABILITY, LOYALTY, and COMPASSION. From the look of it...you don't understand the definitions.

You are not married so why should I take marital advice from you

Mrs..Chima:


You are not married so why should I take advice from you

I've been studying marriages all my life and i am an authority in that department. It's unfortunate that the married ones that are supposed to know these things don't know any better than the unmarried people.

afam4eva:
I've been studying marriages all my life and i am an authority in that department. It's unfortunate that the married ones that are supposed to know these things don't know any better than the unmarried people.

No thanks. I will pass.

My spouse and I are doing exceptionally well.

Mrs..Chima:


No thanks. I will pass.

My marriage lessons will change your life forever and will put you on a pedestal that's filled with joy for the rest of your life. Take my advise today and be made whole.

Mrs..Chima:

My spouse and I are doing exceptionally well.

For someone who can't let her husband see her anus, i doubt this very much.

afam4eva:
My marriage lessons will change your life forever and will put you on a pedestal that's filled with joy for the rest of your life. Take my advise today and be made whole.

Read my previous post again.

Nothing like a trusting and faithful partner. To bad many will never experience such partner.

afam4eva:
For someone who can't let her husband see her anus, i doubt this very much.

Now I see why you are single.

Mrs..Chima:


Now I see why you are single.

I'm single be cause that's where i wanna be. As it may not be easy for me to meet of with the many essentials of marriage which some of you take for granted. When you're in marriage, you let your guard down.

afam4eva:
I'm single be cause that's where i wanna be. As it may not be easy for me to meet of with the many essentials of marriage which some of you take for granted. When you're in marriage, you let your guard down.

And you STILL do not understand marriage even after "studying" marriage.


Sure. Tell the lies to the birds. My middle finger salutes you.

Afam what is your own with anus? Is that where you keep your important documents?

freecocoa: Afam what is your own with anus? Is that where you keep your important documents?

He is pissed that I won't open my anus.....I think he was fingered before.....

Mrs..Chima:


And you STILL do not understand marriage even after "studying" marriage.


Sure. Tell the lies to the birds. My middle finger salutes you.

I never said that i don't understand marriage. My point is that i may not be able to meet up with some of the 1diosyncratic nature of marriage, so i'm aloof to the institution.

freecocoa: Afam what is your own with anus? Is that where you keep your important documents?

I want to believe that part of the body is the most sacred for most human beings. Are you trying to tell me that you can't share your most sacred part of the body with your husband?

afam4eva:
I want to believe that part of the body is the most sacred for most human beings. Are you trying to tell me that you can't share your most sacred part of the body with your husband?

Share it with him in what sense please?

freecocoa: Share it with him in what sense please?

Just to allow him see it.

freecocoa: Share it with him in what sense please?

Girl...i know you are not falling for his bullshit!

Mrs..Chima:



Girl...i know you are not falling for his bullshit!

You should know better na, just let me understand him better

Mrs..Chima:



Girl...i know you are not falling for his bullshit!

Do you know that some newly married women are shy to go n*aked in front of their husband? Some of these women even feel more comfortable going n*aked in front of their female friends than their husband. I don't think it's right.

afam4eva:
Just to allow him see it.

Hian

My dear he didn't or doesn't keep anything inside there so i don't see how allowing him to see it comes into play.

As if he says he wants to see it.

#you are weird

freecocoa: Hian

My dear he didn't or doesn't keep anything inside there so i don't see how allowing him to see it comes into play.

As if he says he wants to see it.

#you are weird

I wish i could express myself better in English...Just look at it as a sign that you're very free with your spouse.