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Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by dasparrow: 2:04pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
Kobojunkie: I am not talking about life partner such as a spouse. If you read my post again, I said I cannot tolerate any so-called friend (someone I am not in a marital intimate relationship with) or even my siblings going through my phone without my permission. I cannot accept that. I said what I said because Ujujoan said she picks up any phone without even thinking and goes through the owner of the phone's text messages. She does that to her mother, sisters, and friends. Again, I will not tolerate that from someone I am not married too. That's just me. |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by MrsChima1(f): 2:05pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
millionairemind: With permission, yes she can! Thank you. |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Kobojunkie: 2:05pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
dasparrow: Oh OK!! I thought meant the other as well. |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by slimyem: 2:06pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
Lemme give an example here.. . My maternal grandad just died and my mom wasn't told because of her closeness to her dad. Instead,a message was sent to my dad since he'll know better how to break the news to her. . Now,if she was the type who had no respect for such privacies and had stumbled on the message on my dad's phone and had passed out after that,whose problem would it be? . The point is if you both have an understanding of what's acceptable and what's not,there'll be no issues! ...and even though you aren't hiding things on your phone from your spouse,you might have good reasons to not want him/her knowing stuff! |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Nobody: 2:06pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
Mrs..Chima: Maybe you are talking about snooping . . . . I'm not! |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Nobody: 2:06pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
i would like to know what would anyone of the nay sayers say or do if they found their partner looking through their phone?! |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by freecocoa(f): 2:06pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
Ujujoan:If only it were easy as you it looks. An example was cited saying someone could play pranks, what if an incriminating sms in form of a prank comes in and your partner reads it before you? You think its everybody that will actually believe it was a prank? Its best your partner doesn't see such instead of trying to explain whatever. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by dasparrow: 2:07pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
Kobojunkie: Nope! My rule only applies to someone I am not married to. |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by coogar: 2:07pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
MRbrownJAY: it is disrespectful either way for her to want to glance through my phone once in a while or everyday! |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Kobojunkie: 2:08pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
MRbrownJAY: i would like to know what would anyone of the nay sayers say or do if they found their partner looking through their phone?! Dude, even my mother "SNOOPS" through my phone . . . That gadget is public property for all I care. I don't understand why people who don't have business secrets or are using em to run multi-billion dollar empires attach so much importance to em. |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Afam4eva(m): 2:08pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
millionairemind: With permission, yes she can!Your spouse took permission the day He/She got married to you? What other permission do you need? |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Afam4eva(m): 2:08pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
Mrs..Chima:Where did i mention anything about intercourse? I was just using it to paint a picture of what a marriage should be. You should be as free as a wind with your spouse. |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by MrsChima1(f): 2:09pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
Ujujoan: You are right....you absentmindedly goes through people's phones without consent! |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Nobody: 2:10pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
freecocoa: If only it were easy as you it looks. That's where trust should come in. If the message is a prank and hubby explains it as such, I should trust him enough to beleive it. . . . IF I trust him! I still think someone who doesn't want his messages read, for ANY reason, has something to hide! |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by MrsChima1(f): 2:10pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
afam4eva: Then you need use better analogy because this one sucks! Why the Bleep would my husband open my gotdamn anus for The anus is the nastiest part of the body why the Bleep would he want to open it? To look at it? To sniff it? To see if it is clean? Keep playing stup!di if you want to. |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Afam4eva(m): 2:10pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
freecocoa: If only it were easy as you it looks.Even if it's a prank, why should you hide it away from your hubby? He's your husband for crying out loud and so, you should show him anything and everything except you don't know the man you married and in that case you should start filing for a divorce. Marriage is not that diffficult. It's just people thaat are making it seem that way. |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Nobody: 2:11pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
Mrs..Chima: Maybe you need to look up the word 'snooping'! |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by noblechriss(m): 2:11pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
Personally i won't do that aΩ̴̩̩̩̥d̶̲̥̅̊ i'm gonna be angry aΩ̴̩̩̩̥d̶̲̥̅̊ warn her not to read my text messages before passing the fone to me,if she wanna read afterwards or spend the whole day reading the text messages then she should sooth herself!its morally aΩ̴̩̩̩̥d̶̲̥̅̊ ethically wrong to do §Ơ̴̴̴̴͡,be it husband,wife,fiancee,bf,gf,woheva!!!!!!!! |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Afam4eva(m): 2:13pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
Mrs..Chima:Don't run yourself over. It's kinda metaphoric. What is even wrong with opening your a*nus as my wife sef...You're lucky you're not married to me. |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by MrsChima1(f): 2:13pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
Ujujoan: Maybe you need to look up delusions. You are the one saying you go through people's phones without knowing you do and without their consent. |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by MrsChima1(f): 2:14pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
afam4eva: Bite me Afam4eva! |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Kobojunkie: 2:15pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
Mrs..Chima: All you have been doing so far is project your own delusions. . . I mean INSECURE === INQUISITIVE? Really?? |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by slimyem: 2:15pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
afam4eva:Jesus is Lord!! ..but there can be mutual disrespect...right?? |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Nobody: 2:16pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
Mrs..Chima: I didn't know national secrets are stored in phone inbox. Now I know, I'll have to obtain written permissions before reading anyone's message! |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by freecocoa(f): 2:16pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
Ujujoan:Yeah I knew you'd come back with "Trust" Anyways people exaggerate this trust a lot , you forget that we are human and sometimes if not most times we are on guard, ofcourse he would explain it was a prank and you trust him so you believe him, i guess if something like that happens again, you'd still trust and believe him. I'm just saying, prevention is better than cure. |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Afam4eva(m): 2:18pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
freecocoa:That's actually cure and not prevention. Prevention is when you tell your spouse what's on ground and he'll understand such that next time he sees such a messsage in your inbox, he won't suspect anything. |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Kobojunkie: 2:18pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
freecocoa: Yeah I knew you'd come back with "Trust" What are you preventing though? If you have a communication or trust issue, doesn't it make sense to deal with that problem IMMEDIATELY rather than avoid tackling it? If you go as far as to hide a mere prank from him, what else will you not hide from him? You are going to spend your whole life with this person, how long do you expect to play this GAME for, before you slip up? |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Nobody: 2:18pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
Kobojunkie: I wonder too oh . . . |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by coogar: 2:18pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
Ujujoan: go and rid yourself of the amebo spirit in you - it's wrong to pick up people's phones and read their messages! |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Nobody: 2:20pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
freecocoa: Yeah I knew you'd come back with "Trust" Before nko, you guys came up with the trust! You see I disagree. This a marriage, there's no pretence . . . Even if I blow the roof over a message, he's still my husband and we've still got to trash issues out. Hiding the message is only going to make things worse. Honestly, I dont accept that there's anything to hide in my husband's messages, except of course there's something to hide! And that is even more disrespectful than me reading his text messages! |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Nobody: 2:21pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
coogar: Go rid yourself of your shadiness! Wetin concern agbero with overload? I'll read and keep reading . . . nothing dey happen! |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by freecocoa(f): 2:21pm On Sep 05, 2012 |
afam4eva:Nwanne no need for plenty talk. Its not about knowing who you married or not, if there's something i've learnt in my 20 something years on earth, it is that you never get to know anybody completely, you learn them everyday and mr people do change. |
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