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Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by frank4ryl(m): 8:19am On Sep 10, 2012 |
Tell your friend to just simply forgive and forget whatever his wife might have done to him during their youthful period. What normally cause such acts is that the woman in context might have cheated on their love because she was a beautiful young girl but the young man remained steadfast. Now the fall-out of the past acts has started hunt the girl un-knowingly. The woman might have fallen deep in love with this man because he is the one who ignored the fact that the woman was cheating on him. Right now, in his mind, he will always reflect back and the anger of imagining his woman around another man`s arm pinches deep down his heart. If you can get across to your friend`s wife, let her make a way to beg your friend and asssure him what ever that went on in the past was a mistake of youthful exuberance. Maybe the man will forget the past and start living the present and focusing on the future. The act is just normal that is why I ask the youths especially the young female folks to be carefull on how they handle datings- Money, Beauty, and whatever influence you have over your patner, if not handled with care, might definitely destroy future value if not forever. But mercy abound above all our past mistakes. |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by Sharp9: 8:22am On Sep 10, 2012 |
May God help us. Simple |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by tissot84: 8:27am On Sep 10, 2012 |
Until Gals stop the habit of sleeping with men that are not their husband that is when all dis would stop. It is becos the guy is sleeping with some else that is y he has found his wife UN-attractive. If he had no choice, am sure he would work on his marriage. Gals should learn to keep their virginity then men would surely stay in their marriage. Gals always give men another option 1 Like |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by WarHorse1(m): 8:34am On Sep 10, 2012 |
wife is beautiful + you love your children + wife even initiates s_e.x. all these should make a man attracted to a wife. My thinking therefore is that there are things he get outside that he cannot request from his wife e.g d_oggyStyle,B_j.obs or two or more girls at at time or some other stupid things. Also,sleeping around with girls before marriage spoils a lot. you get used to not being satisfied with one person. Solution, Read God's Word - The Holy Bible Daily. A relationship with God will help. 1 Like |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by hovic(m): 8:35am On Sep 10, 2012 |
Just passing by, cos this stuff make me sick. Gosh, were you force into it? Am 23years of age but seeing this kinda people on earth made me wanna look behind and hisss! Ok recommendation: Do he really love her in the first place? What turns the love off? Is it because of sex they both agreed to get married? Or kids? One simple magic. Tell yhaw friend, HE SHOULD CARRY HIS WIFE OUT FOR DINNER EVERY WEEKEND or VACATION ALONE KIDS EXCLUDED or finally TELL YHAW FRIEND HE SHOULD WRITE THOSE THINGS HE LOVES MOST IN HER. Marriage is not all bout sex friends, will get it all wrong. Where is the passion, see in order to have a successful marriage life stay away from all this sedutive Guys and Gals. Period. |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by Nobody: 8:44am On Sep 10, 2012 |
He's a very stup*d guy. He didn't count the cost before dabbling into marriage. As far as i'm concerned, he needs to grow up. 1 Like |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by hannydarl(f): 8:45am On Sep 10, 2012 |
mekaboy: [b] EVEN THOUGH THIS SOUNDS LIKE A MOVIE SCRIPT U POSTED HERE BUT FOR REAL THIS WHAT.MOST MARRIED MEN FACE TODAY. So, howmany shoes did your father buy after he got fed up with your mama shoe? And did your mama shoes get a chance to buy her some nice new shoes too. Abi you feel say one prick alone nor dey tire women too. Na wa for some youths sha, WOMAN same value as SHOE. Ok nau, when your second shoe tire you me get some okrika shoes for you. You are allowed to buy more than 3 pairs at once since na money dey shark you wey make you fit afford plenty shoes. 1 Like |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by hannydarl(f): 8:50am On Sep 10, 2012 |
tissot84: Until Gals stop the habit of sleeping with men that are not their husband that is when all dis would stop. True word. |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by Ariyke: 8:59am On Sep 10, 2012 |
he needs serious prayer cus if he call it quit wit his wife and go for sum1 else the same thing is likely gonna repeat itself with that one too after some years, so serious prayer is needed here. |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by 360command: 10:00am On Sep 10, 2012 |
@ op, your friend should look back and think of how he loved his wife, was it for sex or love? Also, during their dating relationship, did they date for long,maybe 10 months to 2years? Or they dated for 6 months before they got married? Little or no dating relationship can spoil a marriage quickly. Now that your friend is tired with the marriage thing, I strongly suggest you advice him on re-packaging the marriage relationship by bringing back the old times into play. Probably, they can travel for a 3 day trip to a neighbouring state, the wife should endeavour to do the things he liked when they were dating back then.- if d wife was wearing jeans, she should wear jean. Let them bring back old memories of their date relationships. |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by megxo(m): 10:05am On Sep 10, 2012 |
BT COM 2 FINK OF IT, HW OLD IS DIS DUDE? ACTING OUT LYK A TEENAGE BOI....... HIM FINK SAY MARRIAGE NA BEANS? |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by DonTim1: 10:07am On Sep 10, 2012 |
mhen! marriage itself as sweet as it sounds is scary! 1 Like |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by megxo(m): 10:10am On Sep 10, 2012 |
Don Tim: mhen! marriage itself as sweet as it sounds is scary!WALAHI.... |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by Nobody: 10:29am On Sep 10, 2012 |
Omo Alata: For fucccking? |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by Ogosoga: 10:57am On Sep 10, 2012 |
If he no longer love her then let him quit, that will be better for both of them because i believe that the woman will be dying in silence by now. The woman must have been enduring the marriage just like typical African woman, so she too is not enjoying her marriage rather she is suffering and smiling all in the name of marriage. |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by rosita112: 11:15am On Sep 10, 2012 |
cap28: most nigerians do not marry people who they have anything in common with, the majority of nigerian men go for women based on how docile they are as they are terrified of women who stand up for themselves and refuse to be treated like crap. this one probably married his wife using the same criteria only to wake up 3 years later and realise that he might as well be living with a maid. Your wife should be your best friend and lover rolled into one so that when the romance starts to wear off you still have a great friend who you have similar things in common with to enjoy your life with. all i can say is that he has made his bed therefore he will have to lie in it, of course that means that he will spend the rest of the marriage cheating on the poor woman and make her life extremely miserable. the divorce laws in nigeria need to be amended so that a man is forced to provide for an ex wife, i think that will reduce the number of dead end marriages that occur in nigeria because if a man knows that if his wife leaves him and he still has to provide for her and any children they have after the marriage has ended he will look well before embarking on a marriage with a woman he isnt sure of.WELL SAID! TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU, OUR LAW ON MARRIAGE AND DIVOURCE IS LONG OVERDUE FOR AN OVER HAUL. MOST PEOPLE WOULD TRUELY THINK TWICE BEFORE SETTLING FOR DIVOURCE AS IF TO SAY ITS THE EASY ROUTE OUT. |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by IbnTimothy: 11:15am On Sep 10, 2012 |
mekaboy: [b] EVEN THOUGH THIS SOUNDS LIKE A MOVIE SCRIPT U POSTED HERE BUT FOR REAL THIS WHAT.MOST MARRIED MEN FACE TODAY. and what happens when the new shoe (second wife) becomes old? |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by nagoma(m): 11:46am On Sep 10, 2012 |
berem: I don't think the guy was prepared for marriage in the first place! He needs to be told that marriage is for better for worse till death do you part. Someone needs to talk sense into him (marriage counsellor) before he makes the biggest mistake of his life.I don't know why some men are so heartless! He has a wonderful wife who still loves him and takes good care of him,still yet he prefers to look outside to fulfil his lustful desires.how can his wife beg of sexxx when he knows its his marital obligation to do so? Damn! This is pure wickedness I must say. You are jumping the gun, if I may say so Dear. This is a real life situation that happens in many many marriages. It is not a decision made by the husband (in this case). I agree that he should see a marriage counsellor but I do sympathise, not only with his wife but with him too. There is so much ignorance on this topic when I look at postings so far. |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by Nobody: 11:50am On Sep 10, 2012 |
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Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by maryswags: 12:16pm On Sep 10, 2012 |
claremont: This is the reason why we say marriage is not for everyone, there are some people who are perfectly happy in a long-term relationship. The mere thought of sleeping and living with the same person for the rest of my life is scary. Boredom is bound to set in. But u were never bored living wit ur parents and siblings (the same set of people) for how many years? Better remain scared and keep on living with ur parents okay, wen u get old, remember to tell us about ur regrets |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by Ninapha(f): 12:51pm On Sep 10, 2012 |
mekaboy: [b] EVEN THOUGH THIS SOUNDS LIKE A MOVIE SCRIPT U POSTED HERE BUT FOR REAL THIS WHAT.MOST MARRIED MEN FACE TODAY.And the new shoes becomes old again and u buy another shoe- shoe 3 lets work it out. U bought ur first cherished shoe at 30yrs and changed it at 35yrs. Now u are destined to spend 100 yrs here on earth. 100yrs-30yrs =70yrs / 5 year duration= 14 shoes. Relatively, u wd be marryn 14 wives. See how wise ur counsel is bro. |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by jeak123(m): 12:51pm On Sep 10, 2012 |
@ Op, this is a situation no one would wish for a friend. your friend needs to know that after the initial euphoria of marriage, comes a down time when you begin to notice things about your spouse that u never did during courtship. at such time, u may be pushed into thinking 'what a mistake u've made'. u didn't make a mistake. it does happen to most marriages so, don't think urs is different. so my question to him is: instead of complaining or going after girls outside, what has he done to normalize things? in my thinking and from the Op, its clear that he has not done much to return to loving her but doing everything to ensure that he got further away from her. i think those girls outside is d problem. get rid of them and the spark in your marriage will return.he needs to dig deeper than what he is presently doing. divorce should be the last thing on his mind for now. his continuous philandering with other girls should stop henceforth in order to reassess his life and marriage. take a vacation here in Nigeria or if you can afford it, go abroad where your ultimate aim will be to rediscover your wife and after all these, ur marriage should be up and running again. i wish him good luck. |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by nagoma(m): 1:03pm On Sep 10, 2012 |
Each woman is a fruit. They are fruits of different sizes, shapes colours, aroma and flavor. But what men love is fruit salad. |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by Harmonyemerald(f): 1:32pm On Sep 10, 2012 |
Dude ur friend does not have a problem am not saying it is normal. It happens sometimes but it should not last long. But they both need help. His wife should be able to keep things sexy and fun, esp. In bed. And if possible the lady should stop demanding for sex from the man rather she should rather keep herself sexy and stay kul and c wah happens |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by faithego(f): 1:57pm On Sep 10, 2012 |
Life is essentialy spiritual,he needs serious prayers n Godly councel |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by koozy(m): 2:18pm On Sep 10, 2012 |
Nosa-Henry:Smh. Some of you have very interesting perspectives, wow |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by miloloml(f): 2:26pm On Sep 10, 2012 |
Tell your friend to call me. He needs to talk to someone. |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by koozy(m): 2:38pm On Sep 10, 2012 |
God needs to deliver my people from the "prayer" thing. The amount for solutions that we have missed because we refused to DO anything about situations, but just wallow in pity and decided to pray. And when nothing happens we say "God knows best". Until we realize that we can actually do things.That God has given us the ability to find solutions to problems instead of always looking elsewhere. Until we know this we will go nowhere. Forget prayer in this case. It is absolutely normally for there to be lulls in marriages and relationships. It doesn't mean he has fallen out of love with. The way I see love is this: if you can answer yes to this question "Are you willing to give your life up for the one you claim to love?". Then you have solid legs to stand on. If he loves his wife and this is purely just a sexual thing, then there's no cause for alarm. They need some excitement in their lives. They need to hang out - go clubbing, do fun things together. Date again and COMMUNICATE. They'll be fine. This will happen again and again. People who are talking about divorce, calling the guy names. You are actually the weak ones. Your friend should just chill and get to reconnect with his "friend", the agro will follow |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by DExplorer1: 2:39pm On Sep 10, 2012 |
mekaboy: [b] EVEN THOUGH THIS SOUNDS LIKE A MOVIE SCRIPT U POSTED HERE BUT FOR REAL THIS WHAT.MOST MARRIED MEN FACE TODAY.It's terrible some does think like this. You could have 20shoes and keep changing and buying more. |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by Nobody: 2:45pm On Sep 10, 2012 |
If he were a lady, I would have called her "Bitch". I often hear of ladies getting fed up with their relationship/marriage. Maybe it was for his wife's "beauty" he married her and not for her "character". he needs prayers though. Now he has seen it all and wants more. I will rather marry a woman for her character than her beauty. |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by koozy(m): 2:49pm On Sep 10, 2012 |
mekaboy: [b] EVEN THOUGH THIS SOUNDS LIKE A MOVIE SCRIPT U POSTED HERE BUT FOR REAL THIS WHAT.MOST MARRIED MEN FACE TODAY. You are making no sense whatsoever. You sound very self centered. This attitude won't get you lasting relationships |
Re: No Longer Finds Spouse Attractive by koozy(m): 2:50pm On Sep 10, 2012 |
okpara ugo: If he were a lady, I would have called her "Bitch". I often hear of ladies getting fed up with their relationship/marriage. Maybe it was for his wife's "beauty" he married her and not for her "character". he needs prayers though. Now he has seen it all and wants more. Please can you explain what the prayer will do? |
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