I HAVE A BIT OF AN ISSUE WITH MY GIRLFRIEND...APART FROM THE USUAL CLICHE LIKE,'HOW ARE U?',OR 'HOW WAS YOUR DAY?',WE HAVEN'T REALLY TALKED MUCH,LIKE HER PRESENTING AN ISSUE OR MAKING UP DISCUSSIONS...YES I DO KNOW THAT THE GUY,SOMETIMES HAS TO START UP CONVERSATION,BUT SHE CAN ALSO DO LIKEWISE...
IT HAS GONE FOR SO LONG THAT,TALKING TO HER ON PHONE CAN BE QUITE BORING OR FRUSTRATING BECAUSE SHE DOESN'T SEEM TO OFFER ANY MEANINGFUL DISCUSSION TO SPICE UP THE RELATIONSHIP....I LOVE HER AND SHE ALSO LOVES ME BUT THIS ASPECT IS REALLY NOT CHEERING AT ALL...AND ANOTHER ISSUE OF HERS IS THAT SHE TAKES LITTLE THINGS FOR GRANTED....
PLEASE MY DEAR COLLEAGUES ON NAIRALAND...WHAT CAN BE THE POSSIBLE PROBLEMS AND SOLUTIONS TO THESE PROBLEMS...PLEASE YOUR WISE SUGGESTIONS WILL BE GREATLY APPRECIATED..THANK YOU.

Try reducing the number of times you call her and try spending time with her (Real life, not on phone). maybe that will help.

^^

Learn to start d conversation, with time, she will blend.
Try understand her nature.
Share wat happened btw d last tym u saw her n ask her about hers. Also raise topic in her interests or field.
Be her friend.......be supportive.....

That's one reason I hate quiet girls in a relationship!!!

And please stop shouting at us! (Writing in caps), probably you shout at her too!

Pacify: And please stop shouting at us! (Writing in caps), probably you shout at her too!

cant seem to understand wat you mean..cud u explain..??

Pacify, I'm sure if he adds exclamation marks too, you'll consider him giving a thunderous roar. Abegi, free the man jor.
OP: There's not much you can do if it's her personality type. If it bothers you so much, rethink your compatibility.

dgreatest1: ...AND ANOTHER ISSUE OF HERS IS THAT SHE TAKES LITTLE THINGS FOR GRANTED....

what *things does she take for granted?

I have discovered that no matter how quiet a girl is, she's always excited with d One she Loves.

Step up ur game bro

@OP,

Talking from Experience, I have the same challenge with my wife at the moment. We have been married for 2 yrs. During our courtship(3yr), I did most of the talking, tried all moves to bring her out and make her contribute in activities with regards to our relationship. She improved for a while but will always relapse to her quiet self. I most time get fustrated as its not fun being the one doing the talking and being the romantic one in the relationship. Its not been easy but I chose to continue with the relationship since I love her and she is hard working and caring. Now we have two kids and my bro, its worsening by the day. So I do my best to spice up the relationship by doing new things with her buh omo it can be tiring, I have to most time go out to hang out with people I could share ideas with and get constructive criticism. it sometimes feel as if one is married to a cleaner/maid. If you have alternatives, pls walk away now as it won't get any better.

baroncy: @OP,

Talking from Experience, I have the same challenge with my wife at the moment. We have been married for 2 yrs. During our courtship(3yr), I did most of the talking, tried all moves to bring her out and make her contribute in activities with regards to our relationship. She improved for a while but will always relapse to her quiet self. I most time get fustrated as its not fun being the one doing the talking and being the romantic one in the relationship. Its not been easy but I chose to continue with the relationship since I love her and she is hard working and caring. Now we have two kids and my bro, its worsening by the day. So I do my best to spice up the relationship by doing new things with her buh omo it can be tiring, I have to most time go out to hang out with people I could share ideas with and get constructive criticism. it sometimes feel as if one is married to a cleaner/maid. If you have alternatives, pls walk away now as it won't get any better.

A very good advice from his experience. She is unlikely to change. She has a quiet character and nature. If you can endure and take her as she is. Go ahead but if not then ........

dgreatest1:
cant seem to understand wat you mean..cud u explain..??

Poster, in internet language, typing in caps lock(capital letters) denotes:
1. You're shouting.
2. Rudeness

He is assuming you also shout at her since you typed your post in caps.

ferhyntorlah:

Poster, in internet language, typing in caps lock(capital letters) denotes:
1. You're shouting.
2. Rudeness

He is assuming you also shout at her since you typed your post in caps.

OHHH..LOL... THATS NOT ACTUALLY WHAT I MEANT..
I WAS ONLY TRYING TO SAY THAT THESE WHERE THE USUAL WORDS OR SALUTATIONS WE USED WHEN WE CALL EACH OTHER...I GUESS I MAY HAVE BEEN MISQUOTED OR MISUNDERSTOOD..AND I HARDLY BARK OR SHOUT AT HER COS SHE IS SO LOVELY.....THANKS ALL THE SAME..

Poster, check the capital letters tab on your laptop or mobile phone so we can understand you better.

I think you are the one carrying the conversation for now because of the topics you raise.

Ask her how her day was, what she likes, what was the latest gist, news, about her hair, her clothes, and so many topics.

All the best.