I just got home after a hard day coupled with the s1lly ajah traffic and was startled to see ma ex sprawled on ma staircase with a bag waiting for me..as in ma head burst..this is a gal that I gave 5yrs of ma life,nd she betrayed me by getting pregnant for some drug peddling guy in august..I hv bn thru a lot of pain cos of this gal..I can't even describe ma pain..d annoying thing is that ma heart melted when I saw her..nd all d emotions I felt for her started coming forth...she says she wants me dat nobody can treat her better than I did,d guy even has 3kids nd she neva knew,dat she is ready to abort d preggy nd come back to me that her mom pushed her and all dose BS...am just down..this gal got married just last month,I got to knw of her marriage via facebook..without even telling me..she has even refused to leave crying and begging me..for fccks sake I hv never bn dis confused in ma life...I don't even intend sleeping with another man's wife..never..I don't know how to handle dis..I intend leaving the house for her and calling her wicked greedy mom to come pick her daughter..pls I need matured advice from yall..how do I handle dis?

deshclones: I intend leaving the house for her and calling her wicked greedy mom to come pick her daughter..

Thats exactly what I'd do if I were in your shoes. No need messing around with somebody else's wife, let alone that of a drug peddler, you'd be asking for trouble either way.

190-the-clown:
desh

U mean dat particular gurl u keep complaining about
Here on nairaland is baq and pleading wif u 2take her back
Haba haba haba I didn't even know she wuz married, d pregnancy isn't d issue
D fact she's married even last month shows dat she can't be trusted, biko
Desh ure a smart man, women shud be crawling arund u - ure not tired
2dat particular gurl, she's married for phuck sake and d fact dat
She has issues wit her drug lord doesn't mean dey can't settle it
Den wat happens 2u again wen she leaves d 2nd time

Use ur head man- ure dealing wit a Nigerian girl here
And wen dealing wit dem use ur head never ur heart cus most like dis ex of urs
Av no single trace of heart in dem

She's married - please respect her and leave her alone, forget love here
Please ask her 2leave ur house and leave ur life alone
Uve forgiven her bt she should please go away for good

Ur wife is enroute so don't ruin Gods plan 4ur life -

Jst my 2cent, I mite be wrong doe bt if m in ur shoes - I'l do wah I just adviced

Takia man! God bless

Thanx man..I have explained things to her man...I don dey even heal small small..its just dat ma heart is making me feel like a phool...she should just leave me d hell alone...am even scared her husband will think I slept with her nd come after me with his goons...u knw ow these drug illiterates reason...they go just muud me for nothing...as in..wetin I no go see for dis lagos?..I don tire..I hv promised to pay her hotel bills for d night but she is just being adamant..I dey even fear she carry jazz..ma head is just full.

deshclones:


Thanx man..I have explained things to her man...I don dey even heal small small..its just dat ma heart is making me feel like a phool...she should just leave me d hell alone...am even scared her husband will think I slept with her nd come after me with his goons...u knw ow these drug illiterates reason...they go just muud me for nothing...as in..wetin I no go see for dis lagos?..I don tire..I hv promised to pay her hotel bills for d night but she is just being adamant..I dey even fear she carry jazz..ma head is just full.

Kick dat woman outta ur house this minute
Better safe dan sorry

I never thought in my life I'd say this but 190 is right

She's is worth d stress, luck up ur hrt & send ha away.......she's bk to destroy u, run 4 dier life

Bro the wise men have spoken....i stick with them if i were you.

joeydozzy: I never thought in my life I'd say this but 190 is right

My Brother just kick that clown out with immediate effect! pls dont let her spend a nite in ur apartment, if she resist pls go to police station and lodge complian cos if that girl sleep in ur place 2nit, I dont know the witness that will stand to prove you didnt sleep with her.

please do ask her to leave your house.. afterall, her mama house dey there, why can she not go there?

bennyraz: please do ask her to leave your house.. afterall, her mama house dey there, why can she not go there?

I taya!

Besides I know desclones would never listen 2us
He mst end up sleeping wif dat woman today

Dat boy - hmm he never listens
Disappoints me all d tyme

190-the-clown:


I taya!

Besides I know desclones would never listen 2us
He mst end up sleeping wif dat woman today

Dat boy - hmm he never listens
Disappoints me all d tyme

konji na bastard na Deshclones wud end up sleeping with her no doubt

deshclones: I just got home after a hard day coupled with the s1lly ajah traffic and was startled to see ma ex sprawled on ma staircase with a bag waiting for me..as in ma head burst..this is a gal that I gave 5yrs of ma life,nd she betrayed me by getting pregnant for some drug peddling guy in august..I hv bn thru a lot of pain cos of this gal..I can't even describe ma pain..d annoying thing is that ma heart melted when I saw her..nd all d emotions I felt for her started coming forth...she says she wants me dat nobody can treat her better than I did,d guy even has 3kids nd she neva knew,dat she is ready to abort d preggy nd come back to me that her mom pushed her and all dose BS...am just down..this gal got married just last month,I got to knw of her marriage via facebook..without even telling me..she has even refused to leave crying and begging me..for fccks sake I hv never bn dis confused in ma life...I don't even intend sleeping with another man's wife..never..I don't know how to handle dis..I intend leaving the house for her and calling her wicked greedy mom to come pick her daughter..pls I need matured advice from yall..how do I handle dis?

O boy...no even THINK anything or CONFUSE at all. Just do exactly like you said, be calm and confident about it. Don't even think this ONE time talk less of twice.

joeydozzy: I never thought in my life I'd say this but 190 is right

AsInEhnnnnnn...
Desh, oya follow his advice oo.

Am not always around here, but I have to say, this is the first time am reading a sensible and genuine post by 190 (that's a compliment)

Op, 190 said it all, forget the old flame and do what is right, that woman should not spend a night in your house for your sake. The world we live in is evil, no one is gonna believe you didn't sleep with her should trouble arise. Biko, send her away

Abobi, use ya head o! Discharge dat babe with immediate effect...no gree am sleep for dia dis nite o! I dey tells you, make wrong men no waste u just lyk dat.

Finally settled..called up her mom..she promised to come pik her up in d morning...she is currently staying in ma neighbour's place...its a pity d way gals just tk silly decisions dat will mess up their lives...all I hv for her is pity..the guy dey even flog am belt..in just few weeks..as in..may she nd her mom go thru worse pain than I went thru..for messing up our beautiful relationship..may she nd her mom neva know peace..am depressed as am typin dis..may God just gimme d grace to move on cos her prescence today reopened ma wounds dat were already healing..5 beautiful yrs gone like dat.all cos of greed nd impatience..smh

Methinks 190's account has been hacked.


As for desh, He wants to phuck that woman if not, this thread would not be existing in the first place.

Desh, please don't curse her, I think this suffering is enough for her already, I don't really know the pain you went through but I think you should be grateful to God things turned out the way it did...dust yourself up and find you a good girl...all the best

190-the-clown:
desh

U mean dat particular gurl u keep complaining about
Here on nairaland is baq and pleading wif u 2take her back
Haba haba haba I didn't even know she wuz married, d pregnancy isn't d issue
D fact she's married even last month shows dat she can't be trusted, biko
Desh ure a smart man, women shud be crawling arund u - ure not tired
2dat particular gurl, she's married for phuck sake and d fact dat
She has issues wit her drug lord doesn't mean dey can't settle it
Den wat happens 2u again wen she leaves d 2nd time

Use ur head man- ure dealing wit a Nigerian girl here
And wen dealing wit dem use ur head never ur heart cus most like dis ex of urs
Av no single trace of heart in dem

She's married - please respect her and leave her alone, forget love here
Please ask her 2leave ur house and leave ur life alone
Uve forgiven her bt she should please go away for good

Ur wife is enroute so don't ruin Gods plan 4ur life -

Jst my 2cent, I mite be wrong doe bt if m in ur shoes - I'l do wah I just adviced

Takia man! God bless

Wow, I wish we can get more posts like this from 190 .

She got married to a man she barely knows cos of money so let her deal with it. Does she think marriage is all about material things and premium nyashing? . She made her bed so its time for her to lie on it.

Please for the sake of your future, disregard her. Let her loss be her lesson. Forget about d emotional aspect. Based on your post, she is an unrepentant and confused creature who deserves no single grain of attention from you. RUN MY BROTHER, RUN!!!

Ishilove: ...Does she think marriage is all about material things and premium nyashing? ...

Ishi, which one be premium nyashing kwa?

Just be careful so that she doesn't pour you acid because girls like that have screw lose.

@OP Guy, how was your night. Wetin u do at last. give us feed back

190-the-clown:


I taya!

Besides I know desclones would never listen 2us
He mst end up sleeping wif dat woman today

Dat boy - hmm he never listens
Disappoints me all d tyme

that is the problem with nigerian men.your advice might fall on deaf ears! He might fucck her this night and let her go finally! Naija men no dey carry last.but damn! I don't know why some married women always think of having sexx with their ex despite being married! I know of a male friend who keeps complaining to me that his 3 ex girlfriends calls him like mad! He said his ex girlfriends are all married but they keep on disturbing him about sexx! Maybe cos he is good on bed. One of them even promised to buy him a car! Just imagine!
I advice deshclones to kick her out and move on with his life! If she insist on staying,just involve the police abeg for security purpose.

I did not sleep atall..was just thinking aloud thruout last night..but a man gats to tk a decision nd stand by it..nd for d records..I DID NOT slepp with her..she slept in ma neighbour's place..her mom is on her way to pick her up..it is over for good..am just filled wit pity for her..regardless of wot has happened,dis gal was a good gal..as in..am still pained..but I have forgiven nd let go..will update as events happen..

^desclones u sure so

Don't lie 2me oooh remember

berem: I don't know why some married women always think of having sexx with their ex despite being married! I know of a male friend who keeps complaining to me that his 3 ex girlfriends calls him like mad! He said his ex girlfriends are all married but they keep on disturbing him about sexx! Maybe cos he is good on bed. One of them even promised to buy him a car! Just imagine!

That's what usually happens when people decide to *date around before getting married...in a bid to analyse *samples and discover what they really want and bla bla bla...

desh

na wah! I won't want to worsen ur pain but the facts are simple. U really are the only one that can do something about it, its begins and remains ur decision and anyone u take, would be urs to make.
O boi luv is pain but still a worthwhile thing to experience.
On one part, she has been unfair to u so u don't owe her a thing. Make sure u tell her that. On the other part, if u still luv her, regardless of all she put u thru then u got to really consider if u can still be happy with her, knowing how she deceived u in the past or without her (its urs 2 decide). If u can't live without her, then by all means hear her out but don't let her deceive u this time. This time, don't ever think with ur heart but think logicaly cos she has already misused ur trust b4.
Luv is pain Desh. I know u'd make the right decision.

Wow, what drama. I think others have said it all.

Poster please update us...