DJDOLA: I don't no how 2 cook they no me at iya basira joint am there no1 customer

candieangel12:

Exactly, what I have been saying on this thread. I don't know why the guys r takin offense to this. Or are they 2 lazy 2 help their wives or too stingy to hire a cook? nawa 4 sum men.

mondi_cheeks:
if his he is lazy or stingy to that extent he shouldnt get married at all, the world would be a better place that way

candieangel12:

LMAO! Hell yes! I would share a can of beer anyday with Brad Pitt, ha! na dream come true! Your post funny sha but seriously, why is it annoying you that I don't want to cook everyday 4 my husband? You most definately wont be my future husband so wetin concern u 4 d matter? && I am not yankee joor.

mondi_cheeks:
if his he is lazy or stingy to that extent he shouldnt get married at all, the world would be a better place that way

reemix123:
Did your mum cook in your house ? I may be your future husband you can never tell and for sure that will be the day I re-decorate my kitchen for my dear wife. It will have a bed, make up mirror above the cooker, shoe rack next to the fridge plus more because as you know In the beginning of the world God created the earth and rested.Then God created Man and rested.Then God created Woman.Since then, neither God nor Man has rested.

candieangel12:

Yes my mother cooked when she felt like it. She didnt cook all the time and my father respected that. My mom is a working professional so she didn't have time 2 cook daily or weekly. When my mom didn't cook, either we ate out, or i cooked when i had time, or my dad cooked when he had the time to do so. and both of my parents are igbo, so you see there are some igbo men that are tolerable unlike some of you spewing nonsense on this thread. And they've been married for 22yrs and noone has taken my father away. He loves to cook, he would wake up early on weekend mornings and make breakfast 4 the whole family. That's the kind of marriage I want, not some man taking me as his servant.

And I highly doubt that you wud b my future hubby. We wouldn't be able 2 stand being around each other.

candieangel12:

Yes my mother cooked when she felt like it. She didnt cook all the time and my father respected that. My mom is a working professional so she didn't have time 2 cook daily or weekly. When my mom didn't cook, either we ate out, or i cooked when i had time, or my dad cooked when he had the time to do so. and both of my parents are igbo, so you see there are some igbo men that are tolerable unlike some of you spewing nonsense on this thread. And they've been married for 22yrs and noone has taken my father away. He loves to cook, he would wake up early on weekend mornings and make breakfast 4 the whole family. That's the kind of marriage I want, not some man taking me as his servant.

And I highly doubt that you wud b my future hubby. We wouldn't be able 2 stand being around each other.

reemix123:

What do you mean we would be able to stand around each other. I think our partnership would be perfect you stand in the kitchen so that you are close to the cooker at all times....and I will be in the living room watching football. whats wrong with that ? Your are not igbo at all but one day you may wake up from this nightmare

candieangel12:

Yes my mother cooked when she felt like it. She didnt cook all the time and my father respected that. My mom is a working professional so she didn't have time 2 cook daily or weekly. When my mom didn't cook, either we ate out, or i cooked when i had time, or my dad cooked when he had the time to do so. and both of my parents are igbo, so you see there are some igbo men that are tolerable unlike some of you spewing nonsense on this thread. And they've been married for 26yrs and noone has taken my father away. He loves to cook, he would wake up early on weekend mornings and make breakfast 4 the whole family. That's the kind of marriage I want, not some man taking me as his servant.

And I highly doubt that you wud b my future hubby. We wouldn't be able 2 stand being around each other.

mondi_cheeks:
a real men sees the needs of his family and he attends to them without complaining. if you could cook for urself in university, what will make u too important not to cook for ur family when your wife is not able to do so? most men should be like your father

candieangel12:

Hiah! Nawa ooo. I shud b in the kitchen while u balance watching football? Is that your idea of a happily married wife? More the reason why we don't fit each other. Y do u keep sayin I am no igbo? My parents are igbo so therefore I am also igbo

mondi_cheeks: some men want to be treated like kings yet they cant afford paying for such a quality life. you want to rot on the couch whilst watching football yet u cant afford a cook at the same time. if your wife has to work hours to bring more money into the house, then you should get those delusional thoughts that she is ur servant out of ur head and put urself to good use

Elebiju: u wrote that Ūя mum is a working professional but u never tell us W̶̲̥̅̊α̇̇̇t Ūя old man does cos we know d type of men that condone this type of act from a woman

mondi_cheeks: some men want to be treated like kings yet they cant afford paying for such a quality life. you want to rot on the couch whilst watching football yet u cant afford a cook at the same time. if your wife has to work hours to bring more money into the house, then you should get those delusional thoughts that she is ur servant out of ur head and put urself to good use

candieangel12:

Very very true. Marriage is not slavery. Our African men need to start realizing this. Just because you are married doesn't mean you shouldn't help with the cooking, or cleaning, or laundry, or child rearing. It's these little things that a husband does around the house that keeps their wife happy.

candieangel12:

Very very true. Marriage is not slavery. Our African men need to start realizing this. Just because you are married doesn't mean you shouldn't help with the cooking, or cleaning, or laundry, or child rearing. It's these little things that a husband does around the house that keeps their wife happy.

reemix123:
So cooking is now slavery ? You see what happens when the nigerian women leave africa for yankee they forget who they are and then bring alll the bad habits back home and polute the minds of our well bred women

Elebiju: the fact that Ūя parents are igbo doesn't make u a thoroughbred igbo,cos u lack the real igbo quality

candieangel12:

My mother is working professional and my father read business admin. He owns a couple businesses and thus sets his own schedule so he is at home more often than my mother. Any other question?

candieangel12:

So what is a thorough bred Igbo then?

mondi_cheeks:
he wore the damn clothes why is it an obligation on the woman to put the clothes in the washing machine for him? he ate from the damn plate, he could have starved himself to death if he didnt want to wash it! he contributed in bring those kids into this world what makes him too special to look after them once in a while. pure laziness has turned some men into unbearable creatures.

mondi_cheeks:
he wore the damn clothes why is it an obligation on the woman to put the clothes in the washing machine for him? he ate from the damn plate, he could have starved himself to death if he didnt want to wash it! he contributed in bring those kids into this world what makes him too special to look after them once in a while. pure laziness has turned some men into unbearable creatures.

Elebiju: hmmmm father stays at home more often than mother,now I see d source of Ūя feminist's opinion of an ideal husband,ABI something like full househusband or housedad

Macky2: Your just a black lady trying to live like whites. Talk like your still a teen.

Wow, so if a guy decides to marry me then he is an idiot? I am glad not all men think like you. I have happily married girlfriends here that don't even cook at all 4 their hubbys,atleast white guys don't put too much value on cooking/food. Will you marry food? I thought you are to marry out of love? I didn't say I will never cook for my hubby, I am a career driven woman and once I finish with dental school I will be working a lot so the last thing I need is after a stressful work day is to come home and slave over a hot stove. I will cook every once in a while but it won't be an everyday or week affair. Geeze, this is 1 of the reasons why I can't picture myself marrying a Nigerian man. As if you can't enter into the kitchen and cook something for yourself.

candieangel12:

I didnt say cooking is slavery. But for you to marry a woman, and expect her to do everything around the house and also work and also do the child rearing, while you just work and watch football, that is slavery. As a man you should be able 2 help your wife when she needs it. that is what we call a good marriage.

candieangel12:

Yeah, you made a correct guess. Too busy to slave over a stove 4 now. Even when I get married, my husband shouldn't expect a home cooked meal every day or week, unless he cooks it 4 himself. I will cook only when I feel like it and have the time and strength to do so.

reemix123: [i][/i]
I have looked up "good marriage" in the dictionary - Definition of good - having the required qualities... Definition of marriage : The formal union of a man and a woman, typically as recognized by law, by which they become husband and wife and woman agrees to cook and look after the house

Elebiju: check d tribe thread

candieangel12:

I don't have to marry myself. All the white men I have dated didn't put food/cooking as a priority. Instead they cooked for me. So hopefully I will end up marrying a white man.