i met this certain girl when i doing my masters in ghana. She was Nigerian, same tribe so we jelled immidiately. she was my best companion, later we started dating, she was of huge help to me. Helping me out with lump sums of money, which till date i still feel she is the best.

On arriving Nigeria, I promised her i was gonna marry her, once i find ma feet! fortunately, my first job was with a multi -national company. Things became cozzy for me, i started living a lavish lifestyle with a lot of random girls. to shorten the whole story!

I told her she should give me some time, ( though i know i was looking for a ruse to quit cos i started seeing someone else)
The babe became very paranoid, came to my office and assaulted me both physically and verbally, she even smashes ma iPhone on the floor.
she is still on ma paycheck monthly, just trying to even things out though.

Please this girl is loosing her mind, continuosly comes to ma office( of course the security denies her entry) Believe me, she would wait outside and weep throughout the entire day, and still attack me when am going..yesterday she threw stones to my car, and smashed my side window.

She is painting a very negative picture of me in the office, wouldnt want my MD to notice this anyway!

Have tried talking to her, but she keeps asking me one question...(baby would you marry me? and i feel so weak when i hear this! pastors have been calling me up and down, friends!and am just so scared what she is gonna do next....

Seems am the only one she wants.

Kindly advise please.

Please Rather than spit shit, just feel free and walk!"""""""

charles009: i met this certain girl when i doing my masters in ghana. She was Nigerian, same tribe so we jelled immidiately. she was my best companion, later we started dating, she was of huge help to me. Helping me out with lump sums of money, [b]which till date i still feel she is the best[/b].

On arriving Nigeria, I promised her i was gonna marry her, once i find ma feet! fortunately, my first job was with a multi -national company. Things became cozzy for me, i started living a lavish lifestyle with a lot of random girls. to shorten the whole story!

I told her she should give me some time, ( though i know i was looking for a ruse to quit cos i started seeing someone else)
The babe became very paranoid, came to my office and assaulted me both physically and verbally, she even smashes ma iPhone on the floor.
she is still on ma paycheck monthly, just trying to even things out though.

Please this girl is loosing her mind, continuosly comes to ma office( of course the security denies her entry) Believe me, she would wait outside and weep throughout the entire day, and still attack me when am going..yesterday she threw stones to my car, and smashed my side window.

She is painting a very negative picture of me in the office, wouldnt want my MD to notice this anyway!

Have tried talking to her, but she keeps asking me one question...(baby would you marry me? and i feel so weak when i hear this! pastors have been calling me up and down, friends!and am just so scared what she is gonna do next....

Seems am the only one she wants.

Kindly advise please.

Please Rather than spit shit, just feel free and walk!!

Look at the bolded statements, when she was giving you large sums of money you were very willing to collect it and you even admit she is the best till date. Guy since you're now working and have @ least found your feet go ahead and marry her since you have promised her already and stop bugging people with your ish.

I guess the random girls you are now seeing is the cause of your indecision. SMH for you.

OP, I sorry for you because you dont know what you are playing with... a girl gave you money , dated and promised her marriage and now you wanna act smart because you feel you have arrived. Lemme give you a friends who left a nice lady and is lamenting today...

I sorry for you because you dont know what you are playing with... there is a thin line between happiness and frustration and I see you living in the latter because in the end, you wont want this lady. if she didnt have anything for you do you think she would give you that money? ah God, why not bless me with this kain woman and see me spoil her with everything I have got.

Neva underestimate a woman scorned.

"Poor Soul"
wish i could see her & gently encourage her outta ur f**king lyf, cos she is indeed losing it n gradually going crazy.


@op, if u'v really gotn som shame- honestly, u wont hv posted dis this. It really depict a clear pix of wot ingrate u re.

Gosh! U'v got "GUTS" n self-centered indeed.

If u must knw, dat girl deserve d VERY BEST from u.

And mind u- after GOD, u hav her to fenk for d 30% of wot u re today.
The death dat kills a dog first takes away its sense of smell.

Straight from Nollywood!
Op, is it your same girlfriend who was a porn artiste?

Are you a man? How can you call yourself a man?

Dude you should not have promised her marriage that was a wrong move bro, but i respect you for admitting that you did, because most people would deny it Flat.
that said, i think she is trying set herself up, call her and sit her down, explain to her that she cannot force you to marry her because you would only make her life miserable going down that route. Also chasing u about only smells of Desperation, and you would not wanna marry a desperate woman. Tell her you peeps should work things out and if you deem it fit, you would definitely marry her
You need to be sincere with yourself and her too. even if you are gonna date someone else dont rub it in her face. call her once everyday and dont just shut her out like that. I am sure the reason she is mad is bc u shut her out and left her in the cold,
Try to be considerate look at her like your own sis, if a guy does that to her would u be happy? Also consider that fact that getting a good job is not the end of the world, you might still need her someday so close the door gently,
My penny

Where is the human love? It breaks my heart when people brag about the wrong they have done against another. Paying evil for the good deeds of a good woman. If she curses you, trust me you are cursed. Even if you don't love her any more, there is a way you can make her understand and let go gradually. This is very callous. Put her in your sister's position, how would you feel? Karma is a bitch. Remember what goes around comes around. You are a disappointment to good men.

Give a broke azz a lil money and he will act like the biggest azz on this planet

poster you are the biggest coward of 2012

You know what you did and you know what you are doing so coming to NL to ask for advice is dumb as $h1t.
She smashed your car window today tomorrow she will have someone beat you up then the next day you will be killed (escallation)
If you weren't such a coward you would have put this poor lady out of her missery by telling that you want out of the relationship.

Yes it would hurt her but at least she would know where she stands and figure things out for her self. You continue to lead her on and wonder why she is actting the way she is.
you also had the ball$ to say she was paranoid? do you even know what that word means especially when she had a reason to be?

People like you create situations where the class system continues to be a factor around the world. When someone who never had seen money before finally gets a taste they start wilding out.

This is higly lugubrious. Cant you at least keep your part of the bargain?

@ OP u never know the worth of what u have until u loose it. Love is the best thing that u can get, even greater than the best gift money can buy. U may think because u have some few naira notes in ur pocket that u can just dump her and enjoy with all them babes right? U better get things right, otherwise i'm afraid u are a sinking sand....

lrguru: @ OP u never know the worth of what u have until u loose it. Love is the best thing that u can get, even greater than the best gift money can buy. U may think because u have some few naira notes in ur pocket that u can just dump her and enjoy with all them babes right? U better get things right, otherwise i'm afraid u are a sinking sand....

The guy na fool... God knows if I had a lady that will spend just 50k sef for my sake, I will never let her go. Some people see opportunity and throw it away just like that, forgetting that opportunity comes but once.

My own elder brother left a very nice girl for no just reason, a girl who really loved him and it was so obvious in everything she did. Even after a few months, the same girl was calling him but he refused to pick the call... today, he is lamenting over issues with the lady that had his first child.

I sorry for some people sha.

@POster, if you are not careful, that your Job that you have that is making you to carry women will be lost just like that. Women are powerful, she can go to the extent of meeting your HR. Its just because you have been avoiding her that you are having this problems. You are hiding the truth from us. Call her for a discussion. You can can talk and trash it out then move on. Let her see the reasons why it will not work between you guys. But you are wicked and heartless. You dont treat womwen like this. This is not fair at all

I agree the op is a scumbag,lily livered useless excuse of a man..but y'all should just pipe down on all dese karma talk..sh1t happens nd d best one can do is dust his bum nd move on..is it nt better the ungrateful op leaves d gal nw than marry her nd mk her miserable for d rest of her life...I don't nd hv never believed in karma..que sera sera has always bn ma watchword...nd y'all should stop all dese talks about op nt findin a gd gal...good gals yakpa everywhere nd d irony is dat gd gals fall for badt guys like op.. I only pray d jilted gal gets a far better man than dis woman user op..moreover one has to kiss so many frogs b4 meetin her prince charming..she just kissed her frog (op)..her prince charming will locate her.

deshclones: I agree the op is a scumbag,lily livered useless excuse of a man..but y'all should just pipe down on all dese karma talk..sh1t happens nd d best one can do is dust his bum nd move on..is it nt better the ungrateful op leaves d gal nw than marry her nd mk her miserable for d rest of her life...I don't nd hv never believed in karma..que sera sera has always bn ma watchword...nd y'all should stop all dese talks about op nt findin a gd gal...good gals yakpa everywhere nd d irony is dat gd gals fall for badt guys like op.. I only pray d jilted gal gets a far better man than dis woman user op..moreover one has to kiss so many frogs b4 meetin her prince charming..she just kissed her frog (op)..her prince charming will locate her.

i told u to take a walk, rather tha spit too niggi! dont need ur advise bst

op, i dont wanna curse you. but take it from me, it is obvious you will not progress in life. mark my words, one day in the future if not now, you will be running from one pastor to another, one native doctor to another looking for a solution to you problems in life. just mark my words.

It is because of people like you that children suffer from what they know not what they have done, suffering from their fathers sins. It will be very late for you, keep on enjoynig with all the new girls you can get now because of your new found status. It is a must, mark my words, you will regret to the extent of wanting to commit suicide.

I dont even know why the girl is disturbing you self, someone you promised marriage only for you to come on nairaland to call her your EX. keep it up. Do you think you have arrived, i would have told you a real life story, but you dont deserve to know. You are wicked. You must regret, thats for sure.

charles009:


i told u to take a walk, rather tha spit too niggi! dont need ur advise bst

Fcck you man...u r sick nd bereft of any iota of braincells..phool talking to desh..go grab some balls nd tell ur ex galfriend d plain truth..u can't stand up to some gal dat gave u life when u had none..its desh u wanna raise ur s1lly voice at..I wish I can B1tch slapp u nw..monkey with home..

2sexy:
Ah God, why not bless me with this kain woman and see me spoil her with everything I have got.

Heheheheheh. 2sexy, you're one heck of a funny dude. Hope you know?

Dear poster,

I remember my Primary School proverbs:
*Make hay while the Sun shines.
*As you lay your bed, so you lie on it.
*A stick in time saves nine.

The above is a reflection fs what you've done, what you're doing and what is yet to come if you don't do something quick and amend your ways.

You're a typical example of why some ladies are resolute in not being with a guy in his thin moments. Once the thickness arrives, he forgets where he is coming from.

No matter where you are, never and I mean never ever forget where you're coming from. Your past is your life history. All these girls you are chasing, where were they when you had nothing?

Some men have goat spirit in them. Goats are known to be very stubborn. You see wahala but won't yield to words of wisdom and reasoning.

Since you aren't interested in her, come clean and free her to move on with her life.

babyface333:
I would have told you a real life story, but you dont deserve to know. You are wicked. You must regret, thats for sure.

Please go ahead, not for him but for others to read and learn. Thanks.

any iota of brain cells major grammatical fix!


Fcck you man...u r sick nd bereft of any iota of braincells..phool talking to desh..go grab some balls nd tell ur ex galfriend d plain truth..u can't stand up to some gal dat gave u life when u had none..its desh u wanna raise ur s1lly voice at..I wish I can B1tch slapp u nw..monkey with home..[/quote]

charles009:


i told u to take a walk, rather tha spit too niggi! dont need ur advise bst

need a psychiatrist?
Check over there----->
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Am amased @ how some guys toy with  girls emotion and xpect her to sit back and watch. ₩ªªζ manner of guy are U̶̲̥̅̊.to lose such treasure who stood by U̶̲̥̅̊ in ur trying times.only to go afta d classy ones wen U̶̲̥̅̊ av arrived.hmm such is life.but mark it down ull. Regret it.ull wish U̶̲̥̅̊ neva did ₩ªªζ U̶̲̥̅̊ hd to D̶̲̥̅̊ .wen d tym cms ull wish U̶̲̥̅̊ cld turn bk d hands of tym.selfish bastard.

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poster you are giving us guys a bad name.... mehn its not fair at all. that's why i don't blame girls that leave their struggling boyfriends for more established guys. even if you don't love her at least respect those memories of how she helped sustain you when you needed her. talk to her and treat her like a human being not some silly poor beggar.... the Lord is her strength

addictiv: poster you are giving us guys a bad name.... mehn its not fair at all. that's why i don't blame girls that leave their struggling boyfriends for more established guys. even if you don't love her at least respect those memories of how she helped sustain you when you needed her. talk to her and treat her like a human being not some silly poor beggar.... the Lord is her strength

she just passed on according to the poster. so sad.

Beync: she just passed on according to the poster. so sad.

you can't bellieve what this guy writes because if you look at his post history you will see contradictory posts.

omega25red: you can't bellieve what this guy writes because if you look at his post history you will see contradictory posts.

could he be that he is joking with someones life when he said the girl passed on? i dont think this one is joke even if he jokes a lot.

Beync: she just passed on according to the poster. so sad.

you see am. poster if she really passed on know that you had a hand in it. you literally killed her with your attitude,she gave up cos she felt life had noting else to offer. may her gentle soul RIP. if it isn't haunting you already.