I have been dating this guy for 5 weeks now. The first two weeks were great but by the 3rd week I began to notice that there was a distance building between us. He was calling less often and we were spending less time together. Last week I asked him if there was a problem and he said that he felt that the dating was moving quickly towards a relationship/commitment when he was not really ready for one. He said that he was experiencing financial difficulty at the moment and he didn't want to get into anything serious unless he was sure his career was headed in the right direction. I really want this to work because I feel a connection with him and I think that this can be really special. But he is making it more and more difficult for me to get through to him, and I don't want to lose him. What should I do?

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Well,someone is not ready for commitment.

If he loves you he will be committed,all those excuse he gave you is just to justify his action.

I'm afraid he isnt that into you anylonger,the best thing is to give him the space he wants and you move on with your life.

Find the next bus I leave quick.let him av the space he want,its not a do or die thing. If you so bonded to him and he does not feel same for you move ahead gurlfriend.

Before you started dating, he saw some thingd about you that made him go wow. Even after the first few weeks, he was happy that you were gis but now the euphoria has gone down and he feels less about you.

It happens. The finances is just an flimsy excuse. Stay with him for some more time and study him. If he refuses to change, dump him

Then, give him the dem fuckìng space. He is bored!

Move on pretty!...If it will make you feel better, tell to join 'NASA' to experience space he sorts.

k2039: Well,someone is not ready for commitment.

If he loves you he will be committed,all those excuse he gave you is just to justify his action.

I'm afraid he isnt that into you anylonger,the best thing is to give him the space he wants and you move on with your life.

dont u think d guy is amazed on how deep d relationship is going within a very short period, d guy may be afraid to be committed now, thinking that d time-span is too short for him to really know her and be committed to her, hence his excuse. As for me, i will advise d lady to give him more time, so dt they can both understand each other better.

Mynd_44: Before you started dating, he saw some thingd about you that made him go wow. Even after the first few weeks, he was happy that you were gis but now the euphoria has gone down and he feels less about you.

It happens. The finances is just an flimsy excuse. Stay with him for some more time and study him. If he refuses to change, dump him

yes, she should give him more time to know and study her better.

k2039: Well,someone is not ready for commitment.

If he loves you he will be committed,all those excuse he gave you is just to justify his action.

I'm afraid he isnt that into you anylonger,the best thing is to give him the space he wants and you move on with your life.

He has said everything. @Op stop being clingy too. Just give him the space he wants. Love is something we do willingly, you cannot compel him to love you. If he's decided and wants space, ask him plainly if it's a break up or not coz to me that's the best polite break up modus operandi guys use.

Give him space, maybe he is bored already. Some guys are like that.....

cindyrella: Give him space, maybe he is bored already. Some guys are like that.....

Sweetie!

Just give him space or u will force him to send a text that can cause a touching story here on nairaland.

D-Explorer:

Sweetie!

Hi honey

cindyrella:
Hi honey

I saw you in my dream

Give him space

D-Explorer:

I saw you in my dream

Hmmm

D-Explorer:

I saw you in my dream

*blushing*
really?

Mynd_44:
Hmmm

*sneeze*

cindyrella:
*blushing*
really?

Yes darling, with our beautiful kids running around the living room

Mynd_44:
Hmmm

You got hmmming problem? Huh

You both enjoy

D-Explorer:

Yes darling, with our beautiful kids running around the living room

awwwww so sweet!

Give him space and keep ur fingers crossed, cause that relationship might just be over.

cindyrella:

awwwww so sweet!

Yeah baby, lets make this real

D-Explorer:

Yes darling, with our beautiful kids running around the living room

he no go better for roasted yam nd red oil. Na him dey cause this kind dream, girl wey u never see don get children for u? Ojigbijigbi.............

greatgod2012:


dont u think d guy is amazed on how deep d relationship is going within a very short period, d guy may be afraid to be committed now, thinking that d time-span is too short for him to really know her and be committed to her, hence his excuse. As for me, i will advise d lady to give him more time, so dt they can both understand each other better.

If he was amazed,what he would have told her is baby,please lets take it slow.

I just dont understand the concept of space,during that time(they wont be dating I guess).

Well I'm a young engineer,so I think in pictures and figures(I'm almost emotionless).
So lets do some math.

The chances of him coming back is 50%,so if he doesnt come back she has all to lose(the time waiting).

If he wanted this girl badly he wouldnt say space because he understands he may lose her due to the space.


I just think he is trying to be polite,he's done with her,if he probably had se.x with the op I can say with 100% certainity that he is done with her.


It's better for her to assume the worse now than hoping,if he comes back good for her(she may haave to consider hi again,thats her choice then),if he doesnt come back she has nothing to lose but if she hopes and it just doesnt work I'm afraid it will be worse for her emotionaly then.

Give him space to find out where he is headed... He will never make time for the relationship as much as u wld want him to until he has discovered wats going on wit him

He just got overwhelmed. Clear case of "INFLATED EXPECTATIONS"

Now he wants a rethink.

Simple as that

Hey sis,do you want to hear the truth? 5 weeks and he's already tired?I'm sure he has gotten what he wanted frm you.just move on with ur life and be smart in your next rlship.God bless.

Midastorch: Hey sis,do you want to hear the truth? 5 weeks and he's already tired?I'm sure he has gotten what he wanted frm you.just move on with ur life and be smart in your next rlship.God bless.

What if she did not sleep with him?

Mynd_44:
What if she did not sleep with him?

I hope she tells us the truth.buh if not then there must be some demonic forces troublin the guy.asking for space after 5weeks doesnt make sense to me.if he did not think of anything,the tym he wasted in askin her out shld be precious to him or maybe she gave in cheaply sha.*justsaying*

Midastorch:

I hope she tells us the truth.buh if not then there must be some demonic forces troublin the guy.asking for space after 5weeks doesnt make sense to me.if he did not think of anything,the tym he wasted in askin her out shld be precious to him or maybe she gave in cheaply sha.*justsaying*

You can't really be sure. Let's work with the info the OP provided