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Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by Abujafood: 12:25pm On Dec 04, 2012
I'm putting this out to you women just out of curiosity, if you could be the only wife of a poor man will you be happier than if you were a second wife to a very rich man?

Honest responses please (after all nobody knows you anyway so no need to lie)
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by k2039(m): 12:41pm On Dec 04, 2012
I would rather cry in a rolls royce than laugh on a bicycle
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by KAYD007(m): 12:55pm On Dec 04, 2012
javascript:void(0); grin
I would rather cry in a rolls royce than laugh on a bicycle

sadly the mentality of our naija babes
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by Nnekacherry: 1:07pm On Dec 04, 2012
I believe in treating people the way i will want to be treated..

Yes... I will rather marry a poor man than invade some else home..
Because i wont want anybody to do that to me...

Second wife ko.. concubine ni
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by Nobody: 1:10pm On Dec 04, 2012
@Abujafood

The new generational runz girls (an average 9ja girl) would accept the post of a concubine. They'll reject the word '2nd wife' cos of a deceitful & religious hypocrisy as well as family oppositions.
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by Abujafood: 1:13pm On Dec 04, 2012
k2039: I would rather cry in a rolls royce than laugh on a bicycle

Are you a woman?
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by Abujafood: 1:13pm On Dec 04, 2012
Nnekacherry: I believe in treating people the way i will want to be treated..

Yes... I will rather marry a poor man than invade some else home..
Because i wont want anybody to do that to me...

Second wife ko.. concubine ni

Okay so you'll rather be a concubine?
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by Abujafood: 1:15pm On Dec 04, 2012
acidosis™:
@Abujafood

The new generational runz girls (an average 9ja girl) would accept the post of a concubine. They'll reject the word '2nd wife' cos of a deceitful & religious hypocrisy as well as family oppositions.

Sure concubine but so long as they act like a wife what's the difference except for surnames? The point is would she rather be the one and only of a poor man or play second fiddle to a rich man's wife?
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by Nnekacherry: 1:42pm On Dec 04, 2012
Abujafood:

Okay so you'll rather be a concubine?

I wont dignify this with an answer because i don't think you even understand the question you asked...

I have already answered you..
Go back and read my post..
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by Abujafood: 1:53pm On Dec 04, 2012
But you already have by replying me! I just asked a question hoping to get more clarifications! Don't take it that way!

Nnekacherry:

I wont dignify this with an answer because i don't think you even understand the question you asked...

I have already answered you..
Go back and read my post..
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by k2039(m): 5:15pm On Dec 04, 2012
Abujafood:

Are you a woman?
I spoke on behalf of some of them
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by Temi231(f): 5:33pm On Dec 04, 2012
MBAR...Cant be a second wife oh... I will forever endure with my hubby than being a second wife. cool
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by Goldieluks: 5:36pm On Dec 04, 2012
k2039: I would rather cry in a rolls royce than laugh on a bicycle

abi oooh. If the rich man is caring, loving and understanding.Then why not?
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by Abujafood: 5:45pm On Dec 04, 2012
Goldieluks:

abi oooh. If the rich man is caring, loving and understanding.Then why not?

What happened to true love, what if the poor man loves is more caring, loving and understanding than the rich man will still prefer the rich man?
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by Goldieluks: 5:49pm On Dec 04, 2012
Abujafood:

What happened to true love, what if the poor man loves is more caring, loving and understanding than the rich man will still prefer the rich man?

Re-read my post, the rich man should also be loving, caring, and understanding. Else i'd stick to the poor man.


Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by Abujafood: 5:56pm On Dec 04, 2012
Goldieluks:

Re-read my post, the rich man should also be loving, caring, and understanding. Else i'd stick to the poor man.



Second time on this thread I've been asked to re-read a post! Hmmm! What's going on today?
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by larrymoore(m): 6:07pm On Dec 04, 2012
Ladies, this is 4 u
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by carefreewannabe(f): 6:19pm On Dec 04, 2012
Both options are terrible.
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by Abujafood: 6:48pm On Dec 04, 2012
carefreewannabe: Both options are terrible.

But if you had to make a choice which would it be?
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by carefreewannabe(f): 6:53pm On Dec 04, 2012
Abujafood:

But if you had to make a choice which would it be?

What kind of poverty are you talking about? Like having nothing to eat?

I think that it's better to be a second wife than NOT to know how to feed one's babies.
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by Beync(f): 6:54pm On Dec 04, 2012
Abujafood: But you already have by replying me! I just asked a question hoping to get more clarifications! Don't take it that way!

she answered your question in her first reply, i guess u dint get her drift.

Nnekacherry: I believe in treating people the way i will want to be treated..

Yes... I will rather marry a poor man than invade some else home..
Because i wont want anybody to do that to me...

Second wife ko.. concubine ni
re read the post may be you'll get it.
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by Abujafood: 7:28pm On Dec 04, 2012
Beync: she answered your question in her first reply, i guess u dint get her drift.

re read the post may be you'll get it.

Ok thank you!
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by Abujafood: 7:32pm On Dec 04, 2012
carefreewannabe:

What kind of poverty are you talking about? Like having nothing to eat?

I think that it's better to be a second wife than NOT to know how to feed one's babies.

Yeah that kind of poverty!

But no condition is permanent, who knows that poor man may become very rich tomorrow and the rich man may become poor, then what happens if you were a second wife to that rich man that became poor?

Then the process is reversed this time the former poor man may become the object of affection of two women who would also think the same way and then .............. Let me stop here!

No condition is permanent, ladies pls marry that pauper who loves you, you never know how rich he might become tomorrow!

#I'm just thinking out loud forget I said anything#
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by Beync(f): 7:33pm On Dec 04, 2012
u r welcome
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by carefreewannabe(f): 7:44pm On Dec 04, 2012
Abujafood:

Yeah that kind of poverty!

But no condition is permanent, who knows that poor man may become very rich tomorrow and the rich man may become poor, then what happens if you were a second wife to that rich man that became poor?
Then the process is reversed this time the former poor man may become the object of affection of two women who would also think the same way and then .............. Let me stop here!

No condition is permanent, ladies pls marry that pauper who loves you, you never know how rich he might become tomorrow!

#I'm just thinking out loud forget I said anything#



I assumed a simple scenario, the one you painted at the beginning, being married to a very poor guy (who doesn't know how to feed his children).
Nobody knows what tomorrow will bring ...

I never said I will not marry who I love. Love wasn't subject of discussion here.
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by dayokanu(m): 7:57pm On Dec 04, 2012
For where Naija babes would rather be the 1,000th wife of a rich cripple
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by Abujafood: 8:06pm On Dec 04, 2012
dayokanu: For where Naija babes would rather be the 1,000th wife of a rich cripple

That's wicked of you! At least say the second wife of a rich cripple not 1000, men you're mean o!
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by Sexxydivaa: 12:34am On Dec 05, 2012
na una sabi
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by Abujafood: 5:37pm On Dec 05, 2012
Sexxydivaa: na una sabi

Wetin be your own, talk something jor!
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by olugirl(f): 10:52pm On Dec 05, 2012
I would rather work hard and make my own money and remain single rather than have to decide between a rich or poor man solely on monetary basis and not love.

Why is the Nigerian mentality so focused on women being after money and insecure men lashing out all the time. Where i work in the UK, you see women who are striving as hard as the men and in many cases make more than their husband/ bf, no qualms.

I currently make slightly below my hubby (he makes a very good amount) and we both know if i change jobs i will most likely surpass his salary. my point is men and women in Nigeria should strive to achieve the best they can in all their endeavors rather than all these follow follow of rich men palava, its quite repulsive.
Re: Only Wife Of A Poor Man Or Second Wife Of A Rich Man? by Abujafood: 4:43pm On Dec 06, 2012
olugirl: I would rather work hard and make my own money and remain single rather than have to decide between a rich or poor man solely on monetary basis and not love.

Why is the Nigerian mentality so focused on women being after money and insecure men lashing out all the time. Where i work in the UK, you see women who are striving as hard as the men and in many cases make more than their husband/ bf, no qualms.

I currently make slightly below my hubby (he makes a very good amount) and we both know if i change jobs i will most likely surpass his salary. my point is men and women in Nigeria should strive to achieve the best they can in all their endeavors rather than all these follow follow of rich men palava, its quite repulsive.

I agree partially with you! What's meat to one man may be poison to another! You may find this topic repulsive but you have to admit that it's thought provoking and therefore interesting to other people.

Down Here in Nigeria it's a sad reality, a woman abandons her husband when things become really hard may be after his business fails or he loses his job. How about a poor man remaining unmarried because girls are too scared to face hardship. No one is stereotyping ladies just presenting a hypothetical situation in order to gain insights!

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