Hello house, am i the only one trying to really understand what it means when ladies (no matter their distance from u) pop up dis question. Often times when u say 'yes' d next question may be about what u ate and when d answer is 'no or not yet' d next would be 'look for something to eat nah...' dose this actually mean love or just a way of.........

It's a default questions with a default answer.

It has nothing to do with care.

Just like asking how are you, which doesn't necessarilly mean I care, just a form of greeting and conversation starter.

How are you? Fine.

Have you eaten? Yes
What did you eat?........

Have you eaten? No.
Get something to eat? .......

That what they all do to show care and concern. Its kuuul.

suprisingly when a lady says she has not eaten and go further to prob and u find out she broke u wld b compelled to do something, whereas in a guys case she wont even bother suggesting means of u getting some money.

Any day I don't ask my bf if he has eaten, it simply means am angry...
The guy doesn't eat so I try to make him eat...

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Any day I don't ask my bf if he has eaten, it simply means am angry...
The guy doesn't eat so I try to make him eat...

i think yours is kinda geniune, u doing it for a known reason.

I think it's because the person cares. Personally, i don't just ask the question for no reason. In fact, i don't ask all the time...but when i do, it is important.

I like it when people ask me if i have eaten. This is because i'm not a food person, sometimes i even forget that i've not eaten. When they ask, i feel forced to do it.

Most times, I see it as a form of keeping a conversation going!

You can't keep asking him/her everyday if he or she has eaten.

Though, it could be showing that you care but that's a minor, really.

I love to read females comment. I just dont know why.

I ask because he gets off of work late and by the time he gets home he doesn't want to go to the kitchen to eat anything, he just wants to sleep. And he's been losing weight lately so gotta make sure he eats.

I so hate that question!!! I wonder why some guys ALWAYs ask that, right after 'how was ur day?' u say fine and the next thing is 'have u eaten?' and it happens in every conversation
another thing, 'hey i was sleeping wen u called, am really really tired' he acts like he's deaf and goes 'wat did u do that u r tired?' did u go out? 'did u stress yourself?' 'when should i call back?' bla bla bla wen he should just say 'oh then, rest well i will call u back' so annoying

"Have you eaten" has nothing to do with care. Especially the "what did you eat" part when it comes from someone other than my man. Me thinks its a cheap move by guys.

Persnally i ask such question because i care for the person, if i dont care for you, what is my business with you eating or not. In addition, you cant ask a stranger such question, there are few pple i can ask that type of question, definately my hubby, my mum and probably my siblings and my close friends. Apart from these set of pple, what is my business if you chose to eat or not.
So, i can say its a way of showing care and concern.

my question is asking someone u are or think u are in a relationship with, asking a family member dis question during conversations is not the thing here but some one u are not in d same locality with and whenever d answer is "no" d readily available next wld be 'try nd get something to eat' .
i ve really learnt alot frm ur comments on dis thread especially d ladies on dis thread.
never knew guy ask dis question too......
One love!

I usually don't ask such questions but when I do, its only because I care.

I dnt ask animore cuz I know he's a workaholic n hardly remembers to eat. Most times d answer is no n tellin him to find sumthin to eat on d phone is a waste of time so I just cook n take it over or I cook at his place.
Yeah, it usually means they care

Sometimes it's just a modus operandi of keeping a convo in vibrant verve and often times a little way of showing care. If it's coming from someone you love, you'll be excited he/she asked. Have you eaten? No...' okay, can you meet me up for lunch@...

Adolak: I love to read females comment. I just dont know why.

At least you're being positive. The opposite would have been Gaye!

its a sign of caring, cos is nt everyone dat ask you such question, only if that person care,,, it si mostly ask by ladies cos its their responsibility to feed their man,,i have never ask her the question but she always ask me,, that is a sign of love

It just makes emptyhen deduct my money...if you ask then my reply will be "what do you prepare for me"...rawbish...if i say no...na stupid reply go follow

personally,i ask d question because i care muc abt d person,u cn nt go to dat estent if u dt care abt d person,i lv carin friends ad family member to ask me if i hv eaten,i recognise it ad appreciate it.

me: have you eaten?
girl: no.
me: why?
girl: i want to eat at Mr Biggs.
me: eat a fat d*ck bi*tch!

Omg. I'm guilty as charged. Wt me though, its more of caring than default. I think its dat motherly nature in women that make u want to make sure he at least ate. But its funny though cos i ask that question to my friend who is thousand miles away
Am so guilty here

If u like eat if u like don't, u dey toy with ulcer ni

Tell that Great Ife students

It is not necessarily caring to ask someone 'have you eaten?'. This question is suitable only for kids. It is almost similar to 'have you brushed your teeth?'; 'have you done your homework?'... etc.

It can be condescending to ask your mates such a question. It is in fact, utterly disrespectful to ask your elders whether they have eaten or not. For your mates and elders therefore, it is polite, respectful and mature to ask them: 'would you like something to eat?' (if you add '...please' at the end, that is even better).

Although both types of questions aim for the same objective (i.e. the assassination of hunger) but the manner of approach or 'how' the question is paraphrased can determine how the person being questioned takes it. For me, anyone younger than me has no right (or reason) to ask me if I have eaten or not. So what if I have eaten? He/she had better ask if I would like something to eat.

The same logic can also be applied even to kids. If you are really caring to any person (kid or adult), then it is insignificant whether they have 'chopped' or not (i.e. the past is the past). What really matters is would they like some food or not (right here, right now).

Asking me "have you eaten?" without providing the food for me when I say No is definitely not caring

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At least you're being positive. The opposite would have been Gaye!

Okay! I hate to read female comments. I don't know why.

off-topic: But hasn't a similar thread made the front page recently?

@topic: Ladies ask me that question all the time, during chat sessions. On the surface it looks like they 'care', but if the question comes up late in the session, 80% of the time I just interpret it as a way to get the conversation going.