He Threatened 2 Hit Me Did He Mean It?

I'm involved with this boy for nearly 2months hes 19 (im 15) from africa, nigeria i think, but has lived here for a long time. he was very withdrawn about himself like his real name, he jus told me his tag, his job, his past, where hes from when he asks me i tell him im stupid but i don't understand why he has hinted that he has a criminal past and we had a argument over the phone the other day and he threatened to "smash my face".

Do u think he meant it seriously or just saying it because he was angry, he says he still likes me but less because i lied my age said i was 16, and sometimes he says over the phone why do you call someone who doesnt like you. i asked him what are u trying to say an he said nothing! but he still likes me. obviously your going to say your crazy why do u like him but i don't know what 2 do because i really like him.

im really sorry 4 lyin 2 him he knos that but what if he is playin with my feelins 4 revenge? He recently moved and wont tell me where he is but will speak on the phone but wont reply my texts?! I like him so much i don't know what 2 do. please give me some advice.

Luc966,

Before I can proffer any advice, have u had sex with this guy?

no but we did stuff.

Ok, this is a really big problem. Let us first attempt to work through it logically.

If your boyfriend has a criminal past, that means he has done worse things than just hitting a woman. In other words, his threat to beat you is not empty - he can even do worse than that. Now let that sink in. If the argument you had on phone was a face-to-face argument, he would indeed have smashed your face. Meditate on that.

You need to break up with him as soon as possible, but you also need to be careful about how you go about it.

This relationship of yours is a threat to your security, the security of your family, and the security of your future boyfriends. You need to go to those professional centers were they advice battered women and ask them how you can break up with your boyfriend without anyone getting hurt. They will be able to help.

I understand that you love him, and I'm sorry that you have to dump him, but your safety matters more to us.

i guess but it sounds really scary dont u think. in a way its like hes using me and not wanting me b4 i told him ma real age he said 2 me 'u will hav me u jus gotta wait' wait 4 wot lol!?

fair enough but he doesnt know where i live. his jobs involvin illegal things i dont know much but there is enuff 2 tell police. i dont want to though i dont know

then he must be something else Lucy i'll advice you not to get involve with this guy, he sounds dangerous

It wasn't an empty threat. My sister has been in a similar situation, and believe me, the longer you remain in contact with him, the worse the situation will become. My sis ignored all the advice and ended up in hospital.

Nwoke has given the best advice that you will hear - you need to leave this guy, the sooner the better.

at 15, u still have yrs ahead of you to meet other responsible guys to have fun with. You are too young to get urself mixed up with criminals such as ur "bf". thank God he does not know ur place neither do you know his.
Stop the phone conversations and stop communicating with him.

Obviously u are infatuated (not in love), u eyes will clear very soon but don't let it be too late. Act Now!

Leave that fella alone! He will smash your face? Yeah if u keep seeing him!

At 15, it's possible to meet someone who touches your life in so many inexplicable ways. You have to let him slip away. You love the time you once spent with him. You don't love him. You will have loads of better memories in the near future with ur dream man.

This guy fits the profile of a natural born bully.

Let him slip away. Stop swelling up his ego by sticking to him.

@luc966

It seems you are the one chasing him and not him chasing you? so for him to threaten to smash your face, together with his criminal past, which he wont disclose details, if I were you, I would call-it-quits.

If I were you:
- I would find out which part of Africa is he from, and which kinda family he's from, such background info could help you understand him better. For ex: if you find out that he has a short temper, so you'll know how to deal with it, and complement, so as to sustain the relationship(if you wanna go along with it).

- I would also find out, as you said:he has lived in the U.K for many years,, does he have his papers, there are many Africans still in hiding in Europe and America, and yet theyve been there like donkey years, if his details have shady parts, you better be extra careful.

And whats the big deal about age anyway, so you first lied to him about your age, and he begins to behave nasty, I hope he doesnt have something going wrong upstairs, I wont lie about my age anyway, but i mean its the real world!!
How old is he anyway? has he told you his age?

My advice: Dont wear a shoe you wont be able to remove!!!!!!

Run away from this guy, and please, at 15, you should be facing your studies, instead of getting involved in love affairs.

he is 19 and i lied because he wouldnt get involved with me. after ur 16 its ok for people other 16 in the uk 2 have sexual involvement and shit. i think hes from nigeria but he refuses to tell me coz he always asks wher im from. plus my studies dont matter much more coz im out in 2 months
do you think i should tell the police or not? apprently i have enough to go to the police.
i dont know i really like him and i kind of blame myself for causing trouble because he had a go at me for lying so i said your lying to me you dont tell me nothing and so on, i dont know.

luc966:

he is 19 and i lied because he wouldnt get involved with me. after your 16 its ok for people other 16 in the uk 2 have sexual involvement and rubbish. i think hes from nigeria but he refuses to tell me because he always asks wher im from. plus my studies don't matter much more because im out in 2 months
do you think i should tell the police or not? apprently i have enough to go to the police.
i don't know i really like him and i kind of blame myself for causing trouble because he had a go at me for lying so i said your lying to me you don't tell me nothing and so on, i don't know.

i'm one step away from calling you dumb. honest if you were my sister or cousin u won't be telling me all these. Sorry for the harsh words!

But what on earth do you like about a guy at 15? So you lied you were 16 so you could become sexually active? suppose he "were" a good guy and he had a go at you and someone found out? the poor guy would be in prison by now!
Do you need to have your face smashed before you stay out of his life?

Don't make a habit o hanging around criminals, if you have enough to go to the police pls do but remember that criminals most times do not act alone! in your best interest, end your "relationship?" (more like infatuation) and on with your life, most likely he'd be in jail by the time u're 18 anyway!

i agree with you david

im answering peoples questions,
well i told him before anything happened so he can never get in trouble,

plus after like 2 months of knowing him ive just found out hes been in prison and only recently has he threatened me!

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Hey luc966 . [b]If he says he would smash your face he means it. [/b]I understand that girls like bad guys, it seems you hit the lottery on this one, now run!!!

pls sorry to ask but are you white?

zebudaya:

hey rhodalyn

quick question how do you upload animation? i have this animation of scarface shooting guns, and i want to upload it unto my profile but I can't figure out a way. holla at me


Hey luc966 . [b]If he says he would smash your face he means it. [/b]I understand that girls like bad guys, it seems you hit the lottery on this one, now run!!!

Rhodalyn come on share the knowledge

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rhoda where is that girl who was being nasty 2 u.

to david? and what does my race have anything to do with my relationships?

thanks luc

you rhoda you suck

leave rhoda alone!

luc966:

rhoda where is that girl who was being nasty 2 u.

i think she's on a ban sweetie

zebudaya:


you rhoda you suck

if i suck then ya @$$ stinks!

luc966:

rhoda did u do it by html;
if the scarface animation is on your computer, upload onto
www.imageshack.us
then copy and paste the URL just plain URL of the image
then go onto signature type in <img src="HTML OF IMAGE HERE">
should work

rhoda where is that girl who was being nasty 2 u.

to david? and what does my race have anything to do with my relationships?

No big deal, i have no qualms about race. i'm black who has dated white so i'm no insinuating anything. i was just wondering if it were a nigerian girl, u'd have hit him on the head by now. You don't sound like a nigerian or a black girl.

mannn ur funny how can u sound like a nationality or a race. im english i look like souf american or arabic or spanish sumthin. ma mums side is afro caribbean and my blood in general is mixed european & english im palest in my family tho lol

Break away from da relationship before it's too late.

luc966:

mannn your funny how can u sound like a nationality or a race. im english i look like souf american or arabic or spanish sumthin. ma mums side is afro caribbean and my blood in general is mixed european & english im palest in my family tho lol

Very possible dear, i can tell if a nigerian girl typed this topic, her responses would be very different from yours. Typical naija girl would have given him a good dressing down. He won't have threatened to smash her face. but then guys have gone crazy these days

oh so every girl from nigeria would hav reacted da same yerr? well it depends how u r as a person hun coz i doubt every girl from nigeria is da same. im a sensitive girl with low self esteem & i admit it im da type 2 run back 2 it all i was jus askin advice. so coz im english ur sayin basically dat english girls hav physical violence. u cnt dress dis boy down no matter even if ur rite u cnt argue wit him hes hard.