Odunnu:
then its not from above. God's gifts are perfect.

But please where in the bible did you hear or read that it's God that gives wives/husbands?

Sleep, lol.

lol

Odunnu:
God does not give you that which you cannot handle. He is our strenght. If He gives a woman an everyday man, He sustains her strenght too.

Lol, really? God sustains people's strength for everyday kpekus?

honeric01:

while i gree with you on one hand that`s likely going to give some people a partner they deserve but in some cases, its not so hence the reason we have marriages breaking up due to sexual incompatibility.

Both parties will simply need to adjust - if you are an 'everyday' man and your wife isn't or vice versa, then you will need to reach a compromise. Even though it's a hormonal thing, that's why we are supposed to exercise control.

@ topic

1. When I am dead tired and need to sleep
2. If I'm feeling unwell

debosky:

Both parties will simply need to adjust - if you are an 'everyday' man and your wife isn't or vice versa, then you will need to reach a compromise. Even though it's a hormonal thing, that's why we are supposed to exercise control.

Ose o! Let God give the everyday man too strength to exercise control over his 'kondo'!

when her aunt flo arrives
when she's pregnant

coogar: when her aunt flo arrives
when she's pregnant

If its not a high risk pregnancy 9 months is a long time .For straightforward pregnacies its ok to get jiggy with it esp in the 2nd trimester.

As an aside so there are actually people who want to do it EVERYDAY? Na food?365 days a year konji?O ga o.

damiso:
If its not a high risk pregnancy 9 months is a long time .For straightforward pregnacies its ok to get jiggy with it esp in the 2nd trimester.

As an aside so there are actually people who want to do it EVERYDAY? Na food?365 days a year konji?O ga o.

get jiggy with her bump? thanks but no thanks, i don't want bruises on the face/arms of my baby.

coogar:

get jiggy with her bump? thanks but no thanks, i don't want bruises on the face/arms of my baby.

Lol,the baby is covered by the ammiotic sac(i hope i got the word right)so dont worry Daddy,baby will be fine .Its even advised towards the end if baby is getting too comfortable and does not want to come out.

Speaking for myself here, i feel fat,bloatedand unattractive in pregnancy(everyone says the contrary)but hubby desiring and wanting to do the 'deed' makes me feel slightly better.And in the 2nd trimester you are not that big and awkward yet.

damiso:

Lol,the baby is covered by the ammiotic sac(i hope i got the word right)so dont worry Daddy,baby will be fine .Its even advised towards the end if baby is getting too comfortable and does not want to come out.

Speaking for myself here, i feel fat,bloatedand unattractive in pregnancy(everyone says the contrary)but hubby desiring and wanting to do the 'deed' makes me feel slightly better.And in the 2nd trimester you are not that big and awkward yet.

thanks for the lecture, but i will still have to pass
once the bump is obvious to the nakëd eye, sëx stops!

debosky:

Both parties will simply need to adjust - if you are an 'everyday' man and your wife isn't or vice versa, then you will need to reach a compromise. Even though it's a hormonal thing, that's why we are supposed to exercise control.

@ topic

1. When I am dead tired and need to sleep
2. If I'm feeling unwell

But he's got control, that's why he's only "doing" it with his wife and not going out to have it elsewhere na. isn't that controlling enough?

The two major reasons why i can turn my wife down wen demanding for lovemaking are:
1. Wen she offended me and she has not admitted that she has done something wrong. So instead of fighting or shouting with her, i'll just not answer her on bed;
2. When i'd work all day and i'm tired.

LOL. I dey gbadun dis thread seriously o!

Bidemi1997: LOL. I dey gbadun dis thread seriously o!

of course, you should, that is the essence of opening the thread......to educate ourselves, i, myself have learnt a lot on this thread.
May God help us all.

chaircover:

errrrrrrrm Brother Cooger, what if wifey wanted in in the 9 months that she was pregnant nko?

You do know that some women feel hornier when they are pregnant?? abi those text books that all "hands on daddys" like reading as soon as their wives get pregnant didnt mention that bit or you just skipped it

abeg, Madam, CC, i dont want to believe oga coogar jare, so, if his pregnant wife is in d mood, he will turn her down because she is pregnant?, so if d preggy is obvious from 4 months old, oga coogar fit wait for about 5 months that d preggy will mature for delivery plus at least 6 weeks after delivery.........hhmmmmm....
@ coogar, pls, come back and tell us how you are going to turn her down o and how you are going to cope when konji dey worry you during d time you are in d mood.....................im expecting you sir. Thanks.
May God help us all.

Oh boy see lectures.

Sometimes you don't want to say no to your partner but then he comes home late smelling of alcohol, not sure if he cheats but you discover he wants it badly but because you are not happy with his drinking act, you refuse to respond. men in the house is anything wrong with saying no when your hubby is drunk just to prove to him that you are not happy with his drinking habit or do you still play the good wife and pretend all is well?

toofine765: Sometimes you don't want to say no to your partner but then he comes home late smelling of alcohol, not sure if he cheats but you discover he wants it badly but because you are not happy with his drinking act, you refuse to respond. men in the house is anything wrong with saying no when your hubby is drunk just to prove to him that you are not happy with his drinking habit or do you still play the good wife and pretend all is well?

damn! This is serious, i was never in this shoe before, therefore i may sound somehow.........to me, alcohol is a total turn off for me.............., i cant even stand the smell/odour/heat that the man would be emitting after gettin drunk, so, i cant allow him, no, but lets wait for other people's comment, we are all here to learn.
May God help us all.

chaircover:

greaterGod I am glad that we are now getting into the "realities" of marriage that some people are going through.

When you opened this thread, the title made me laugh. I knew that unless people were going to be very very honest, you will only be hearing never never never!!!

I can count on my fingers lots of other reasons why men and women will turn their partners down for sexx but this is nairaland and only the brave come out and say it as it really is what about men that have to watch porn before they are aroused, what about people who have terrible body odor? what about when you have just lost your ogas $20 million on the stock exchange, would you be interested in sexx that night? so many reasons oooooo!

and that is why i opened the thread in the first instance, to learn, to be educated, to share, and we are really getting there, i know that this thread will be helping or teaching some others apart from me, and sincerely, i have learnt alot here and on this thread.
Just this yesterday, my hubby was going thru this thread, and he told me that i've lied, that, did i forget the day he was robbed at gunpoint, he said, d second day, while you made a move, didnt i turned you down?........he said...."inu didun lo nmu ori ya"(pls, help me to interprete that), i said, yes, o, but i couldnt remember again, he said, a partner turning his/her partner's intimacy down, does not mean there is no love btwn them, so many factors could be meaningfully and unavoidably be responsible......my sister, i've learnt, i tell you.
May God help us all.

chaircover:

Hmmmmmm. The devil is a lair o! may we never come across destruction in our lives amen. I hope ur hubby wasn't injured. It is well.

Yes . . .there are many many reasons. so long as the couple have good reasons, they dont refuse each other too often and they dont just outrightly reject/push away, but they still "fa oko/iyawo won mora", they make an effort to make it up to the other person asap & they still do other things to show that they still love their partner and find their partner attractive.

you are absolutely right ma!
oh!!thanks and thanks, he wasnt, they only went away with his gadgets and some cash, with d car also, but d car was retrieved within hours, because of security car track he installed on it............ Its long time ago, close to 4 years, its in our past. Thanks for your concern ma.

CC and , sweet points!

biolabee: CC and , sweet points!

thanks!!!

Toofine really brought in a new perspective,is pathetic that there are really women that have deal with this achohol issue on daily basis.Imagine watching a full grown man vomit and pee on his pants.My mum's friend once had this issue with her hubby.

This Jobless neighbour of ours always come home at ungodly hours of the night,reeking of alchohol and smoke(according to his wife),He doesn't hesitate to demand of his conjugal rights with curses and swearing.His wife always come around to complain to my mum,of which she advised her to go on contraceptives as she doesn't know what else to say to her.

Surprisingly,this woman kept producing babies like a kiddy factory that one is forced to wonder,does it actually mean that this woman sleeps with him in his drunken stupor??Women in the house,isn't it better to sleep with the man than to have herself beaten to stupor?Most drunk people will resort to violence if they are turned down,IMO.

The things some women go through in the name of this marriage,NL has really opened my eyes to unimaginable perspectives.

byvan: Toofine really brought in a new perspective,is pathetic that there are really women that have deal with this achohol issue on daily basis.Imagine watching a full grown man vomit and pee on his pants.My mum's friend once had this issue with her hubby.

This Jobless neighbour of ours always come home at ungodly hours of the night,reeking of alchohol and smoke(according to his wife),He doesn't hesitate to demand of his conjugal rights with curses and swearing.His wife always come around to complain to my mum,of which she advised her to go on contraceptives as she doesn't know what else to say to her.

Surprisingly,this woman kept producing babies like a kiddy factory that one is forced to wonder,does it actually mean that this woman sleeps with him in his drunken stupor??Women in the house,isn't it better to sleep with the man than to have herself beaten to stupor?Most drunk people will resort to violence if they are turned down,IMO.

The things some women go through in the name of this marriage,NL has really opened my eyes to unimaginable perspectives.

Did she not take that advise?

honeric01:

Did she not take that advise?

She obviously didn't bros,at that point my mum had to keep nodding to her sob stories.Two of her babies were born right inside her house due to negligence,she ll always claim is an act of God because God is aware that she can't afford hospital bills.

byvan:


She obviously didn't bros,at that point my mum had to keep nodding to her sob stories.Two of her babies were born right inside her house due to negligence,she ll always claim is an act of God because God is aware that she can't afford hospital bills.

see how some people just they use negligence to kill themselves, so, if she had died during the process, na so dem go say its "amuwa Olorun" and my own God is not a God of confusion, God knew we are going to need some things, like those preventive measures we are talking about here, and he made the appropriate provision by putting it in the mind and brain of some people to make them available for us and for our use.......hhhmmm, na wao!
May God help us all.

greatgod2012:


see how some people just they use negligence to kill themselves, so, if she had died during the process, na so dem go say its "amuwa Olorun" and my own God is not a God of confusion, God knew we are going to need some things, like those preventive measures we are talking about here, and he made the appropriate provision by putting it in the mind and brain of some people to make them available for us and for our use.......hhhmmm, na wao!
May God help us all.

Some women's attitude to life is baffling and this is a supposed graduate.

byvan:

Some women's attitude to life is baffling and this is a supposed graduate.

imagine!