JANUARY 21, 2012 BY VICTOR PRIDE
You have two options: You will get married or you won’t get married. If you will get married then this article is for you. We will not review whether or not you should get married but we will review how to pick the right wife.

Picking the right wife is of utmost importance. Marriage is a life-long commitment and requires a great deal of forethought. Getting married without a plan and without any forethought is a terrible decision.

Getting married is a business decision. Marriage is a contract between two entities. You’ve got to enter into it with the ruthless mind of a determined businessman for it to work.

You’ve got to pick the right wife like a businessman picks a company to invest in. It shouldn’t be left to chance (“love”) – you’ve got to be pro-active, know what you want and then go after it.

Marriage isn’t about love or connecting with your soul-mate. Those are inventions of TV and movies. Marriage is an exchange of resources. Your wife shall provide A and you will provide B. If you’re wife doesn’t, or won’t, provide her share then she should not have the privilege of marriage with you.

Marriage is a contract and you’ve got to try your hardest to make sure that contract is re-inforced. You cannot make the best decision when you’re emotionally love-sick like a 16 year old school girl. No businessman who wants to stay in business will sign a contract in an emotional state of mind and no man who wants to stay married will sign all of his power away just because he loves her. It takes rational, clear-headed planning and thinking to pick the right wife material.

There are only two reasons a man should ever get married:

1) He wants to start a family.

2) His career or political ambitions demand he has a wife (he is interested in going into politics). We will not talk about this except to say that a political wife is for show and show only. For this article we will assume the reader falls into the first category.

There is absolutely no other reason to ever get married. Love is not a reason to get married. When you get married you sign all your power over to your wife – it must be of some benefit for you to do so. That benefit is to grow old with your family.

The goals of a marriage should be:

1) Minimize the chance of divorce theft and child robbery.

2) Maximize wife’s happiness with her wifely and motherly duties (the complete opposite of everything you will see, read or hear). It’s not about empowerment (or any other buzzword designed to kill the modern family), she should be completely devoted to her family. True happiness for a woman comes from her family, it does not come from her career, or her “independence”, or her sexually liberated point of view.

3) Have a healthy, happy family with well educated, respectful children – non-sissified sons and girlish daughters with strong family values.

Be honest about what you want:

Most men don’t want an “independent, empowered” woman. That’s code for bitchy slut with a chip on her shoulder.

We all want a sweet, nice, joyful, feminine woman who treats her man like a King.

Bullshitters will suck up to the dregs and say the opposite in a futile attempt to get some action. These poor suckers get shit on the most and never understand why. Hear this gentlemen – women love men who go after what they want, who don’t take a woman’s BS seriously, and treat her like a woman, not like a man in drag. Women hate suck-ups as much as they hate stepping in dog poop on the street. To a woman, a male suck-up is less than human.

Divorce:

There is no denying that marriage is a very, very bad deal. When you get married you immediately give your wife all the power over your money and your children. “No-fault” divorce really means “his-fault” divorce. If you wife is to decide she wants a divorce she can have all the benefits of being married and none of the drawbacks. Divorce is theft from the man. It’s a redistribution of wealth from men to women. She can live off of your paycheck via alimony and child support and she can keep your children and raise them in a single-mother or step-daddy household. She has the complete and full support of Papa Government behind her. In the eyes of the law she can do no wrong and you can do no right. And there is nothing you can do about any of that. That’s why you have to choose the right wife in the first place to eliminate much of that risk.

Steps should be taken to minimize the chances of divorce. You must take extra special precaution to choosing the right wife so you can avoid the possibility of a financially devastating and family ruining divorce.

When to get married:

The best time for a man to get married is after 30 years of age. At that age he has had a long time to live life, earn money, think of what he wants in a wife, and settle down a little bit. The ages of 20-30 are the wild years but after the 30 year mark men will tend to settle down. Most men under 30 years of age aren’t mature enough to make the best decision about who to spend their life with.

Now remember, 30 years old is the starting age to think of marriage. That doesn’t mean you should get married at 30 or by 30. Anytime between 30-45 is a good time to tie the knot. Between the ages of 30-45 is when a mans marriage value is at its highest.

We have spoken about the need for a good woman here. In the following section we will look at how to determine good women from bad women.

The top 12 rules for picking the right wife to maximize a happy life and minimize the chance of divorce…

1) She should be young.

The woman should 30 years of age MAXIMUM. 25 is even better and 20 is the best age.

A womans body does not age well. You want the most amount of years with your wife having a tight, young, firm body. After 30 it goes downhill fast. At around the age of 31 a woman’s beauty really declines fast.

It’s a trade off, she gives you her good years and you put up with her in her bad years. Never take a woman already in her bad years.

Women do not age well. “Cougars”, older women that younger men find irresistable, are an invention of the movies. Single women over the age of 30 have wasted all their pretty years have a lot of random sex and now they want to find a sucker who will take care of them without having to give him any of her good years. Don’t be that sucker.

A young body is especially important for bearing children. Old women cannot have and don’t have healthy children. At 30 years of age a woman is already 15 years past her child-bearing prime.

But I like talking to smart women. 20 year olds are stupid.

Her IQ won’t grow much with age. A dumb 20 year old is a dumb 30 year old. The difference is that the 30 year old dumb woman is a lot more bitter and has a whole lot less to offer.

2) She has to come from an intact family with original mother and father.

No step-mommies and step-daddies. Children from single mommy homes cannot be healthy. A mother simply cannot raise healthy children alone or with step-daddies. You want an emotionally healthy wife. Women who grew up with divorce have too much baggage, use sluttery as a way to get attention from daddy, and will not know how to act in a proper family setting.

3) She cannot believe in divorce or even imagine getting a divorce.

If she mentions the word ‘divorce’, what to do in case of divorce, praises a friend who got a divorce, or says divorce is an option then she is not a keeper. Throw her back in the water and go fishing some more.

To make a marriage work, both the man and wife must think of divorce as no option at all.

4) She must have the natural body type you prefer.

Every woman will gain a few pounds when they settle with a man. It’s unavoidable. What is unacceptable is a woman blowing up to whale proportions. If a woman was once very fat, lost the weight on crash diets and ultra-gym sessions, that weight will ALL come back plus more when she gets married.

If she has to constantly diet and go to the gym she is about to blow up like a balloon when the ring is on her finger and the vows are spoken.

You must pick the natural body type you like. That means she must have the same body type her whole life, never yo-yo’ing up or down in weight.

She should have a pretty face. When her body goes the only thing that will be left is her face and you will have to see it every single day.

5) She must be image conscious.

A woman who gets pig-fat after marriage is a disgrace to herself and her family. She must be aware of her image and keep her body trim for you. Women will always gain a few pounds after marriage, but there is a difference between a few pounds and one hundred pounds. Take a look at all the women in her family, if they are all pig-fat it’s a good idea to walk away as fast as you can. You will have to see your wife daily, you don’t want to be thinking about skinning some bacon off of her back to cook breakfast.

6) She must be family oriented and not career oriented.

This is going to be the mother of your children and the keeper of your house. An Ass-kicker doesn’t need two incomes, he can provide, what he needs is a keeper of home and heart.

Two income households leave the raising of their children to expensive day cares and schools, and then mommy goes to work so they can afford to pay for day care and babysitters.

I don’t want children.

Don’t get married. The only reason to get married is to have a family.

But I want a career woman.

Doesn’t matter, even if she is a career woman when you meet she will not be when she is older. No woman wants to work but it takes some of them a long time to figure that out. They waste all their youth playing/working their career and then realize what a huge mistake they made and leave their jobs to take care of their (quite possibly retarded – that’s what happens when old ladies have babies) child. How many 45 year old married female lawyers or other professionals do you know?

The women who work in middle age do so because they have no choice and they whine about it every day of their life. They would give anything to leave their jobs and take care of their family instead.

No woman truly wants to work. Work is a mans world and always will be. A woman’s work should be in the home taking care of the home and children.

7) She must be a “good” girl.

She cannot be a drinker or a smoker or have any tattoos. She cannot have a party girl past, a sordid past, and she cannot have gone out more than a couple times drinking. You cannot turn a LovePeddler into a housewife. The more sexual partners she has had the more likely the marriage will end in divorce.

Are you saying all party girls, smokers and drinkers are sluts?

Yes.

The fewer sexual partners your wife has had, the better. The ideal wife should be a virgin. Remember: The more sexual partners she has had the more likely you are to be divorced in about 6 years and lose most of your money, possessions, and your children.

If you think she needs help or that you are helping her and she is changing then you are being foolish and you are being played. It’s going to end badly for you when you get hitched to a woman like this.

Always pick a good girl. That means a virgin (or close), family oriented, pleasant, eager to help, a smiler, and patient.

She must have no problem signing a pre-nuptial agreement.

A Pre-nup probably won’t save you much money, if any, in the case of divorce but her signing a pre-nup does one very important thing for you: it shows you she is serious about making the marriage work.

9) She should change herself for you.

When a woman is in love she will change herself to please and conform with you. Her new favorite food will become steak and eggs, she will enjoy watching all six Rocky movies with you, and she will do things to please you she has never done or liked before.

I don’t want a woman who flip-flops!

A woman who doesn’t flip-flop is a woman who does not respect you.

Women are not men and should not be held to the standards of men. A man who changes his views on the whims of a woman is a sissy. A woman who changes her views on the whims of a man is a woman who is in love. She should not be degraded for that because that’s what ‘keepers’ do.

10) She must look up to you and respect you.

Women marry up and men marry down, since the dawn of marriage. If she looks down on you she will leave with your money and your children. You’ve got to be a man that she can look up to, admire, love and respect – always.

11) She should not have any children from a previous affair.

In the animal kingdom when a Lion takes over a pride he kills the cubs of other Lions.

Raising someone else’s child is cuckoldry with your full knowledge and consent.

If you raise someone else’s child you will be taking care of another mans seedling and there will always be another man in the picture.

Be selfish and keep your wife and children to yourself. They should be yours and only yours. Don’t settle for another mans leavings and sloppy seconds.

Here is what women with children do: They have unprotected sex with a stud, get knocked up, and look for a sucker to raise the bastard.

or..

She has already been married, had children, and then divorced the father and left.

In each case the woman is unfit for marriage.

12) She should be a smiler.

She should smile when she sees you. Her eyes should light up. She should be excited each time she sees you and reward you with her beautiful smile.

A big, bright shining smile from a pretty girl is worth more than any university degree she has, worth more than any job she has, worth more than any other baloney modern women wrongly believe makes them attractive to men.

You want a happy woman. You don’t want a frowning, nagging, pessimistic bride.

Always pick a smiling, warm, happy-go-lucky woman to share your life with.

Things to remember:

American women have been indoctrinated since birth to believe in and embrace divorce. They have been indoctrinated and instructed to believe that their feminine instincts are wrong and bad. This causes a great deal of confusion in their minds and, to put it plainly, many of them are unfit for marriage and raising a family. Especially avoid women who use psychiatric drugs and especially avoid women who go to therapy. Therapy only makes women more insane and teaches them to blame men more for their problems.

Party girls are for fun, good girls are for marriage.

If a woman cannot or will not cook daily, how will she ever care for children? She can’t. To raise non-fat children you must marry a woman who can and will cook.

As a man your options do not dwindle as you age. Your options only increase with your age and wealth. Conversely, as a woman ages her options plummet. That’s because men age gracefully, like a fine wine, and women age like milk. That’s why you must pick a beautiful young lady. It is highly advisable for a man to wait until he is a little older to get married. 30 years of age is an acceptable starting age for a man to start thinking of marriage.

Never, ever take advice from a woman on how to be attractive to women. Be nice, be yourself, be courteous, buy her gifts only works to put you in the friend zone and rightfully so because it’s pathetic behavior.

You should avoid women who have a lazy, entitled, “me-first” attitude.

Don’t let your wife have complete and utter control of the home decor. You don’t want to live in emasculation-station with throw pillows and doilies and dolls and flowers everywhere.

Men are not women and women are not men. Things that women should do do not apply to men and vice versa. Double standards exist. That’s life.

You are the leader. She is the follower. Lead her.

When she loves and respects you she will enjoy all things about you. She will not demand and nag you into changing. If you smoke a big fat cigar and your clothes smell like an ashtray she will enjoy the smell. She should want to sleep in one of your shirts because it has your smell. That’s the power you should have over your wife for her to be happy and content.

If she’s a nagger before marriage then that is a sign you need to give her her walking papers. Nothing is going to get better with marriage, it will only amplify.

Marriage should be old school traditional for it to work. Pick a non-traditional woman and have some baloney non-traditional marriage and you can expect non-traditional results: Alimony payments, child support payments and seeing your children every other weekend.

Never get married just because. Have a purpose and a reason for the things you do.

Getting married is a dangerous proposition – make sure you know how to swim before you dive in head-first.

Dealing with the one who got away:

There are over 3 billion women in the world. The median age for women the entire world over is 29 years old. There are millions of women who are possible marriage material. “She” isn’t the one or your soul-mate or other baloney. There are millions just like her. And if she was your soul-mate you’d still be together. Let her go and move on. There are plenty more where she came from.

Personal recommendation from BOLD & DETERMINED to find a suitable wife:

Picking a woman from your own country and culture is always the best solution. Unfortunately, there is wholesale, systematic destruction of marriage and family in many 1st world countries, especially America and England, which has narrowed the options tremendously. One may have a broader selection if he were to go abroad to another country country where marriage and family are still valued. But, and this is a big but, think long and hard before you marry a woman of another race and father half-breed children.

Remember, it is best to marry a woman of your culture and race. If that option is unappealing for the reasons described above there is a whole, big, wide world for you to choose from.

Conclusion:

Growing old alone and with no children to carry on your name seems a worse prospect than following this checklist and picking the best wife you can.

Civilization exists because of the nuclear family. Certainly marriage has been tainted in the last 50 years, to the detriment of all, but if you make smart decisions you can cut down your risk tremendously.

If you are going to get married, do it the smart way.

If you aren’t going to get married go ahead and have a beer.

Good luck and Godspeed.

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She should...she must...she will...you are the leader...she is the follower...most men don't want an independent woman bla bla bla. Chei! Una dey try. Keep writing manuals on how to 'pick' a wife even as marriages crumble everyday. You can never know your partner 100%. Na after marriage your eye go clear.

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@op, you made some good and important points especially about the type of Family, body type and good girl. But seriosly you wicked o,so women in their 30's should just remain single for the rest of their lives?

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@op, you made some good and important points especially about the type of Family, body type and good girl. But seriosly you wicked o,so women in their 30's should just remain single for the rest of their lives?

wetin happen wey she grow old reach that age this is a good article for all my black brothers to learn from.

Hmmmm OP, some points are debatable, some even degrading to women if I may say so

Interesting write up none the less

Some things are impossible for man but not for God.

tensazangetsu: JANUARY 21, 2012 BY VICTOR PRIDE
You have two options: You will get married or you won’t get married. If you will get married then this article is for you. We will not review whether or not you should get married but we will review how to pick the right wife.

Picking the right wife is of utmost importance. Marriage is a life-long commitment and requires a great deal of forethought. Getting married without a plan and without any forethought is a terrible decision.

Getting married is a business decision. Marriage is a contract between two entities. You’ve got to enter into it with the ruthless mind of a determined businessman for it to work.

You’ve got to pick the right wife like a businessman picks a company to invest in. It shouldn’t be left to chance (“love”) – you’ve got to be pro-active, know what you want and then go after it.

Marriage isn’t about love or connecting with your soul-mate. Those are inventions of TV and movies. Marriage is an exchange of resources. Your wife shall provide A and you will provide B. If you’re wife doesn’t, or won’t, provide her share then she should not have the privilege of marriage with you.

Marriage is a contract and you’ve got to try your hardest to make sure that contract is re-inforced. You cannot make the best decision when you’re emotionally love-sick like a 16 year old school girl. No businessman who wants to stay in business will sign a contract in an emotional state of mind and no man who wants to stay married will sign all of his power away just because he loves her. It takes rational, clear-headed planning and thinking to pick the right wife material.

There are only two reasons a man should ever get married:

1) He wants to start a family.

2) His career or political ambitions demand he has a wife (he is interested in going into politics). We will not talk about this except to say that a political wife is for show and show only. For this article we will assume the reader falls into the first category.

There is absolutely no other reason to ever get married. Love is not a reason to get married. When you get married you sign all your power over to your wife – it must be of some benefit for you to do so. That benefit is to grow old with your family.

The goals of a marriage should be:

1) Minimize the chance of divorce theft and child robbery.

2) Maximize wife’s happiness with her wifely and motherly duties (the complete opposite of everything you will see, read or hear). It’s not about empowerment (or any other buzzword designed to kill the modern family), she should be completely devoted to her family. True happiness for a woman comes from her family, it does not come from her career, or her “independence”, or her sexually liberated point of view.

3) Have a healthy, happy family with well educated, respectful children – non-sissified sons and girlish daughters with strong family values.

Be honest about what you want:

Most men don’t want an “independent, empowered” woman. That’s code for bitchy slut with a chip on her shoulder.

We all want a sweet, nice, joyful, feminine woman who treats her man like a King.

Bullshitters will suck up to the dregs and say the opposite in a futile attempt to get some action. These poor suckers get shit on the most and never understand why. Hear this gentlemen – women love men who go after what they want, who don’t take a woman’s BS seriously, and treat her like a woman, not like a man in drag. Women hate suck-ups as much as they hate stepping in dog poop on the street. To a woman, a male suck-up is less than human.

Divorce:

There is no denying that marriage is a very, very bad deal. When you get married you immediately give your wife all the power over your money and your children. “No-fault” divorce really means “his-fault” divorce. If you wife is to decide she wants a divorce she can have all the benefits of being married and none of the drawbacks. Divorce is theft from the man. It’s a redistribution of wealth from men to women. She can live off of your paycheck via alimony and child support and she can keep your children and raise them in a single-mother or step-daddy household. She has the complete and full support of Papa Government behind her. In the eyes of the law she can do no wrong and you can do no right. And there is nothing you can do about any of that. That’s why you have to choose the right wife in the first place to eliminate much of that risk.

Steps should be taken to minimize the chances of divorce. You must take extra special precaution to choosing the right wife so you can avoid the possibility of a financially devastating and family ruining divorce.

When to get married:

The best time for a man to get married is after 30 years of age. At that age he has had a long time to live life, earn money, think of what he wants in a wife, and settle down a little bit. The ages of 20-30 are the wild years but after the 30 year mark men will tend to settle down. Most men under 30 years of age aren’t mature enough to make the best decision about who to spend their life with.

Now remember, 30 years old is the starting age to think of marriage. That doesn’t mean you should get married at 30 or by 30. Anytime between 30-45 is a good time to tie the knot. Between the ages of 30-45 is when a mans marriage value is at its highest.

We have spoken about the need for a good woman here. In the following section we will look at how to determine good women from bad women.

The top 12 rules for picking the right wife to maximize a happy life and minimize the chance of divorce…

1) She should be young.

The woman should 30 years of age MAXIMUM. 25 is even better and 20 is the best age.

A womans body does not age well. You want the most amount of years with your wife having a tight, young, firm body. After 30 it goes downhill fast. At around the age of 31 a woman’s beauty really declines fast.

It’s a trade off, she gives you her good years and you put up with her in her bad years. Never take a woman already in her bad years.

Women do not age well. “Cougars”, older women that younger men find irresistable, are an invention of the movies. Single women over the age of 30 have wasted all their pretty years have a lot of random sex and now they want to find a sucker who will take care of them without having to give him any of her good years. Don’t be that sucker.

A young body is especially important for bearing children. Old women cannot have and don’t have healthy children. At 30 years of age a woman is already 15 years past her child-bearing prime.

But I like talking to smart women. 20 year olds are stupid.

Her IQ won’t grow much with age. A dumb 20 year old is a dumb 30 year old. The difference is that the 30 year old dumb woman is a lot more bitter and has a whole lot less to offer.

2) She has to come from an intact family with original mother and father.

No step-mommies and step-daddies. Children from single mommy homes cannot be healthy. A mother simply cannot raise healthy children alone or with step-daddies. You want an emotionally healthy wife. Women who grew up with divorce have too much baggage, use sluttery as a way to get attention from daddy, and will not know how to act in a proper family setting.

3) She cannot believe in divorce or even imagine getting a divorce.

If she mentions the word ‘divorce’, what to do in case of divorce, praises a friend who got a divorce, or says divorce is an option then she is not a keeper. Throw her back in the water and go fishing some more.

To make a marriage work, both the man and wife must think of divorce as no option at all.

4) She must have the natural body type you prefer.

Every woman will gain a few pounds when they settle with a man. It’s unavoidable. What is unacceptable is a woman blowing up to whale proportions. If a woman was once very fat, lost the weight on crash diets and ultra-gym sessions, that weight will ALL come back plus more when she gets married.

If she has to constantly diet and go to the gym she is about to blow up like a balloon when the ring is on her finger and the vows are spoken.

You must pick the natural body type you like. That means she must have the same body type her whole life, never yo-yo’ing up or down in weight.

She should have a pretty face. When her body goes the only thing that will be left is her face and you will have to see it every single day.

5) She must be image conscious.

A woman who gets pig-fat after marriage is a disgrace to herself and her family. She must be aware of her image and keep her body trim for you. Women will always gain a few pounds after marriage, but there is a difference between a few pounds and one hundred pounds. Take a look at all the women in her family, if they are all pig-fat it’s a good idea to walk away as fast as you can. You will have to see your wife daily, you don’t want to be thinking about skinning some bacon off of her back to cook breakfast.

6) She must be family oriented and not career oriented.

This is going to be the mother of your children and the keeper of your house. An Ass-kicker doesn’t need two incomes, he can provide, what he needs is a keeper of home and heart.

Two income households leave the raising of their children to expensive day cares and schools, and then mommy goes to work so they can afford to pay for day care and babysitters.

I don’t want children.

Don’t get married. The only reason to get married is to have a family.

But I want a career woman.

Doesn’t matter, even if she is a career woman when you meet she will not be when she is older. No woman wants to work but it takes some of them a long time to figure that out. They waste all their youth playing/working their career and then realize what a huge mistake they made and leave their jobs to take care of their (quite possibly retarded – that’s what happens when old ladies have babies) child. How many 45 year old married female lawyers or other professionals do you know?

The women who work in middle age do so because they have no choice and they whine about it every day of their life. They would give anything to leave their jobs and take care of their family instead.

No woman truly wants to work. Work is a mans world and always will be. A woman’s work should be in the home taking care of the home and children.

7) She must be a “good” girl.

She cannot be a drinker or a smoker or have any tattoos. She cannot have a party girl past, a sordid past, and she cannot have gone out more than a couple times drinking. You cannot turn a LovePeddler into a housewife. The more sexual partners she has had the more likely the marriage will end in divorce.

Are you saying all party girls, smokers and drinkers are sluts?

Yes.

The fewer sexual partners your wife has had, the better. The ideal wife should be a virgin. Remember: The more sexual partners she has had the more likely you are to be divorced in about 6 years and lose most of your money, possessions, and your children.

If you think she needs help or that you are helping her and she is changing then you are being foolish and you are being played. It’s going to end badly for you when you get hitched to a woman like this.

Always pick a good girl. That means a virgin (or close), family oriented, pleasant, eager to help, a smiler, and patient.

She must have no problem signing a pre-nuptial agreement.

A Pre-nup probably won’t save you much money, if any, in the case of divorce but her signing a pre-nup does one very important thing for you: it shows you she is serious about making the marriage work.

9) She should change herself for you.

When a woman is in love she will change herself to please and conform with you. Her new favorite food will become steak and eggs, she will enjoy watching all six Rocky movies with you, and she will do things to please you she has never done or liked before.

I don’t want a woman who flip-flops!

A woman who doesn’t flip-flop is a woman who does not respect you.

Women are not men and should not be held to the standards of men. A man who changes his views on the whims of a woman is a sissy. A woman who changes her views on the whims of a man is a woman who is in love. She should not be degraded for that because that’s what ‘keepers’ do.

10) She must look up to you and respect you.

Women marry up and men marry down, since the dawn of marriage. If she looks down on you she will leave with your money and your children. You’ve got to be a man that she can look up to, admire, love and respect – always.

11) She should not have any children from a previous affair.

In the animal kingdom when a Lion takes over a pride he kills the cubs of other Lions.

Raising someone else’s child is cuckoldry with your full knowledge and consent.

If you raise someone else’s child you will be taking care of another mans seedling and there will always be another man in the picture.

Be selfish and keep your wife and children to yourself. They should be yours and only yours. Don’t settle for another mans leavings and sloppy seconds.

Here is what women with children do: They have unprotected sex with a stud, get knocked up, and look for a sucker to raise the bastard.

or..

She has already been married, had children, and then divorced the father and left.

In each case the woman is unfit for marriage.

12) She should be a smiler.

She should smile when she sees you. Her eyes should light up. She should be excited each time she sees you and reward you with her beautiful smile.

A big, bright shining smile from a pretty girl is worth more than any university degree she has, worth more than any job she has, worth more than any other baloney modern women wrongly believe makes them attractive to men.

You want a happy woman. You don’t want a frowning, nagging, pessimistic bride.

Always pick a smiling, warm, happy-go-lucky woman to share your life with.

Things to remember:

American women have been indoctrinated since birth to believe in and embrace divorce. They have been indoctrinated and instructed to believe that their feminine instincts are wrong and bad. This causes a great deal of confusion in their minds and, to put it plainly, many of them are unfit for marriage and raising a family. Especially avoid women who use psychiatric drugs and especially avoid women who go to therapy. Therapy only makes women more insane and teaches them to blame men more for their problems.

Party girls are for fun, good girls are for marriage.

If a woman cannot or will not cook daily, how will she ever care for children? She can’t. To raise non-fat children you must marry a woman who can and will cook.

As a man your options do not dwindle as you age. Your options only increase with your age and wealth. Conversely, as a woman ages her options plummet. That’s because men age gracefully, like a fine wine, and women age like milk. That’s why you must pick a beautiful young lady. It is highly advisable for a man to wait until he is a little older to get married. 30 years of age is an acceptable starting age for a man to start thinking of marriage.

Never, ever take advice from a woman on how to be attractive to women. Be nice, be yourself, be courteous, buy her gifts only works to put you in the friend zone and rightfully so because it’s pathetic behavior.

You should avoid women who have a lazy, entitled, “me-first” attitude.

Don’t let your wife have complete and utter control of the home decor. You don’t want to live in emasculation-station with throw pillows and doilies and dolls and flowers everywhere.

Men are not women and women are not men. Things that women should do do not apply to men and vice versa. Double standards exist. That’s life.

You are the leader. She is the follower. Lead her.

When she loves and respects you she will enjoy all things about you. She will not demand and nag you into changing. If you smoke a big fat cigar and your clothes smell like an ashtray she will enjoy the smell. She should want to sleep in one of your shirts because it has your smell. That’s the power you should have over your wife for her to be happy and content.

If she’s a nagger before marriage then that is a sign you need to give her her walking papers. Nothing is going to get better with marriage, it will only amplify.

Marriage should be old school traditional for it to work. Pick a non-traditional woman and have some baloney non-traditional marriage and you can expect non-traditional results: Alimony payments, child support payments and seeing your children every other weekend.

Never get married just because. Have a purpose and a reason for the things you do.

Getting married is a dangerous proposition – make sure you know how to swim before you dive in head-first.

Dealing with the one who got away:

There are over 3 billion women in the world. The median age for women the entire world over is 29 years old. There are millions of women who are possible marriage material. “She” isn’t the one or your soul-mate or other baloney. There are millions just like her. And if she was your soul-mate you’d still be together. Let her go and move on. There are plenty more where she came from.

Personal recommendation from BOLD & DETERMINED to find a suitable wife:

Picking a woman from your own country and culture is always the best solution. Unfortunately, there is wholesale, systematic destruction of marriage and family in many 1st world countries, especially America and England, which has narrowed the options tremendously. One may have a broader selection if he were to go abroad to another country country where marriage and family are still valued. But, and this is a big but, think long and hard before you marry a woman of another race and father half-breed children.

Remember, it is best to marry a woman of your culture and race. If that option is unappealing for the reasons described above there is a whole, big, wide world for you to choose from.

Conclusion:

Growing old alone and with no children to carry on your name seems a worse prospect than following this checklist and picking the best wife you can.

Civilization exists because of the nuclear family. Certainly marriage has been tainted in the last 50 years, to the detriment of all, but if you make smart decisions you can cut down your risk tremendously.

If you are going to get married, do it the smart way.

If you aren’t going to get married go ahead and have a beer.

Good luck and Godspeed.

http://boldanddetermined.com/2012/01/21/pick-the-right-wife/

OP, thank you for writing this. Every single point you made is absolute and fantastically correct.

Truer words have never been written.

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Nairaland no go tire for list. Yet divorce rate increases daily

"Every woman will gain a few pounds when settled with a man".Biggest lie of all.

byvan: "Every woman will gain a few pounds when settled with a man".Biggest lie of all.

why do you think guys say why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free cause most women become cows after marriage

tensazangetsu: why do you think guys say why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free cause most women become cows after marriage

And am telling you its a fat lie.

This is awesome....

But the present world won't accept it...so its left for every man to decide how he wants his home to be.

No reasonable man marries a lady because of money or her career. All responsible men take care of their family- they don't need a dime from their wife...she should only contribute when she feels like and not an obligation.

A lady that drinks, smokes, wears tattoos, club and party around is only doing herself harm...she will only realize this at later years...but now they are youth, they won't accept it because some guys will tell them- baby you are hot, you are trendy, it makes you sexy and this and that...but time will tell...use your heads ladies...

work to be productive and active and don't let career or work consume your inner beauty and woman- qualities. be wise...real men don't go after a woman's money or career, it is only poor, classless, gold-digging guys and guys that are afraid of their tomorrow that keep searching for a rich lady or whatever to marry or hook up, a real man know that his future is ensured, guaranteed and well-defined, so he doesn't care if the lady is working, rich or not, so long as she is reasonable and a good home-keeper. real men only want a career woman to ensure she is financially responsible and not running around town with boys, not necessarily for the woman to bring her money to take care of the home, nope...catering for the family financially is a man's responsibility any day, any time and keeping the home in order is the work of the woman.

Nice piece Op, stay blessed

DailyNews: This is awesome....

But the present world won't accept it...so its left for every man to decide how he wants his home to be.

No reasonable man marries a lady because of money or her career. All responsible men take care of their family- they don't need a dime from their wife...she should only contribute when she feels like and not an obligation.

A lady that drinks, smokes, wears tattoos, club and party around is only doing herself harm...she will only realize this at later years...but now they are youth, they won't accept it because some guys will tell them- baby you are hot, you are trendy, it makes you sexy and this and that...but time will tell...use your heads ladies...

work to be productive and active and don't let career or work consume your inner beauty and woman- qualities. be wise...real men don't go after career, they only want career women to ensure she is financially responsible and not running around town with boys.

Nice piece Op, stay blessed

yes thank you spread the word brother.

I don't wanna know!

Did anyone actually read that whole stuff? Wheeew its so long and complicated. The only conclusion i deduced from that sermon is that men should not get married again . Goodluck to those guys who would follow the principles outlined in that post, na you go old without wife or pikin #aristo things.

Brother brother brother what can i but a smashing piece, u just killed a rat with an RPG.

specialguest: Did anyone actually read that whole stuff? Wheeew its so long and complicated. The only conclusion i deduced from that sermon is that men should not get married again . Goodluck to those guys who would follow the principles outlined in that post, na you go old without wife or pikin #aristo things.

Hello Dear Special, pls make out time to read the whole of that write-up. The writer did a good job.

He isn't saying that guys shouldn't marry pls. He said that the age at which majority of guys start thinking abt settling down is from 30yrs upwards. And that d best age is 33yrs - 40yrs plus, which I quite agree. He said that to assist ladies make best choice of who to date if they want to settle down soonest, than running around with guys of 25yrs, etc.

He also talked abt ladies wearing tattoo, drinking and smoking as bad, and I said YES to that.

He then talked abt ladies and their past, how it affects marriage, so he said the lesser the no of intimate affairs she had in d past, d better it is, and of course that's true. We need to encourage women to regain their respect by keeping their bodies and not sleeping around.

I know people hate me everywhere for reminding them this, but I can't stop becos it is wrong for a lady to be sleeping cheerfully with men who aren't her legal husband and its wrong for a man too. But its mostly wrong for a woman. In the normal and right sense, a woman is supposed to be a virgin till marriage, but so sad our women of today may conspire to kill u if u dare preach that.

Sex before marriage now is a moving trend amongst youths...and we are wondering y there is increased divorce, y won't there be?

Most ladies have already finished marrying- indulging in wild sex and all forms of marital lifestyles with their so-called boyfriends, and same with guys, so when they marry and their hubby or wife isn't meeting up with what they used to enjoy during their so many past dates, they start acting cold and soon, divorce becomes d only option.

If u have a sister, niece, or child tomorrow, pls train her to avoid pre-marital sex, its possible, we all need to start preaching virginity till marriage again to see if things can be restored cos we are lost!!!

Are women disvirginig themselves??why will a man in 40s grab a 20yrold for marriage??well all this ones no concern me.I have married my man in his twenties,yes,women like it young and fresh too.Does that make him deficient in maturity?hell no.

Guys I bet if you follow this rules,you guys will probably wind up single for life.Enter marriage with a businessmAn's mind and it ll be the most disappointing venture you ever invested in.

You can As well marry a woman that ll refer to you as Oga at the top.

byvan: Are women disvirginig themselves??why will a man in 40s grab a 20yrold for marriage??well all this ones no concern me.I have married my man in his twenties,yes,women like it young and fresh too.Does that make him deficient in maturity?hell no.

Guys I bet if you follow this rules,you guys will probably wind up single for life.Enter marriage with a businessmAn's mind and it ll be the most disappointing venture you ever invested in.

You can As well marry a woman that ll refer to you as Oga at the top.

Actually the op made some good and important points except the part that says women in their 30's are not good for marriage and that the best age for men to settle down is between 30-40.

I disagree with those parts, I've seen countless men including my dad who got married in their 20's and are still happy and prosper.

Women on the other hand,there're many factors that may hinder women from getting marry in their prime time,

1. Fail relationship.
2. Education and carrier
3. Her environment
4. Wrong BF or fiance
5. Family
6. Spiritual problems etc.

@op,Contrary to your assumption,some women are decent but remain single till 30's due to the above problems.

D sage:

Actually the op made some good and important points except the part that says women in their 30's are not good for marriage and that the best age for men to settle down is between 30-40.

I disagree with those parts, I've seen countless men including my dad who got married in their 20's and are still happy and prosper.

Women on the other hand,there're many factors that may hinder women from getting marry in their prime time,

1. Fail relationship.
2. Education and carrier
3. Her environment
4. Wrong BF or fiance
5. Family
6. Spiritual problems etc.

@op,Contrary to your assumption,some women are decent but remain single till 30's due to the above problems.

You are on point bro but this is crap" A man who changes his views on the whims of a woman is a sissy. A woman who changes her views on the whims of a man is a woman who is in love".No one knows it all,being a man doesn't mean you can't be wrong,listening to your wife's opinion and weighing your options makes you a smart man not a robot.

Another crap!"When she loves and respects you she will enjoy all things about you. She will not demand and nag you into changing. If you smoke a big fat cigar and your clothes smell like an ashtray she will enjoy the smell. She should want to sleep in one of your shirts because it has your smell. That’s the power you should have over your wife for her to be happy and content".Op should better marry a mannequin,your poo should as well smell like moi moi in your wife's nostrils.

D sage:

Actually the op made some good and important points except the part that says women in their 30's are not good for marriage and that the best age for men to settle down is between 30-40.

I disagree with those parts, I've seen countless men including my dad who got married in their 20's and are still happy and prosper.

Women on the other hand,there're many factors that may hinder women from getting marry in their prime time,

1. Fail relationship.
2. Education and carrier
3. Her environment
4. Wrong BF or fiance
5. Family
6. Spiritual problems etc.

@op,Contrary to your assumption,some women are decent but remain single till 30's due to the above problems.

yes, the only point I also disagree is the part he said- 30yrs plus ladies aren't good for a wife, I disagree with that too, sorry I didn't make it known at first.

But to me he is right when he said the best age for a man to settle down is 30yrs up...

On a more realistic approach, how many Nigerian guys are financially buoyant enough to take good care of a family (wife and kids) when they are 20yrs to 29yrs? How many? Very very few of them, and its cos of our sluggish education system, bad leadership, economy hardship and several other constraints, so he is right.

But then, in every rule, there is an exception, so there must be guys who will marry at 25yrs, 26yrs and still have a happy home but its not ideal with today's situation and global economy.

Aside those two points, the writer made vital points that people should meditate on.

And y do we still have people making same old mistakes and again y are we having increased divorce rates? Its cos people are no longer willing to learn from others or to apply knowledge, everyone claims to know it best and goes on making same old mistakes.

Pls when u stumble upon articles like this, take time to read it and pick good points than castigating and criticising it unnecessarily.

Literature is for enlightenment, education, exposure, correction, entertainment, but we Nigerians of today tend to only embrace the entertainment aspects more.

We only love to ready celebrity gossips and juicy entertainment news, that's absurd.

Another mistake people should avoid is measuring their relationship or marriage with media standard, with what u see in a movie, music, or read in a novel, those are fiction o, be realistic and u will have a happy life.

Infidelity and physical abuse alone will cut down divorce by 50per.

byvan:


You are on point bro but this is crap" A man who changes his views on the whims of a woman is a sissy. A woman who changes her views on the whims of a man is a woman who is in love".No one knows it all,being a man doesn't mean you can't be wrong,listening to your wife's opinion and weighing your options makes you a smart man not a robot.

Another crap!"When she loves and respects you she will enjoy all things about you. She will not demand and nag you into changing. If you smoke a big fat cigar and your clothes smell like an ashtray she will enjoy the smell. She should want to sleep in one of your shirts because it has your smell. That’s the power you should have over your wife for her to be happy and content".Op should better marry a mannequin,your poo should as well smell like moi moi in your wife's nostrils.

Is the above post directed to me or op? If to me, sorry I don't see any correlation between my post and your reply.

D sage:

Is the above post directed to me or op? If to me, sorry I don't see any correlation between my post and your reply.

Directed at Op,with the intention that your attention will be called to it.I want to know your opinion on that too.

@Dailynews, nice reply! Those are the points I thought should be corrected when I read the whole article. The rest of the points are perfectly said.

byvan:


Directed at Op,with the intention that your attention will be called to it.I want to know your opinion on that too.

Alright!

According to your post, you said "no one know it all,being a man does not mean you can't be wrong" and at the same in your second paragraph, you also said "if she loves and respects you, she will enjoy all things about you, she will not demand or nag you into changing".

Don't you think your second paragraph has answered the first one.

Can you please bring out what/the points you really dislike about the article so that we reason with it together?

byvan: Are women disvirginig themselves??why will a man in 40s grab a 20yrold for marriage??well all this ones no concern me.I have married my man in his twenties,yes,women like it young and fresh too.Does that make him deficient in maturity?hell no.

Guys I bet if you follow this rules,you guys will probably wind up single for life.Enter marriage with a businessmAn's mind and it ll be the most disappointing venture you ever invested in.

You can As well marry a woman that ll refer to you as Oga at the top.

you married a man younger than you while you're much older? no wonder...now I understand why you would kill if he cheated...

as much as most of the write up is debatable, its true.
a woman loses value after 30. I don't like that idea as well but its true as its evident in the rush of single ladies over 27 to get married..we all know this...
one key success factor of a marriage is a submissive wife.hence the part where its said that the wife can change her self on the whims of the husband.
don't marry single mother? I don't agree with that...
all in all, marriage is a strategic alliance of a man and a woman. its not about love or like anything portrayed in the movies. american movies has deceived us hugely.
I guess the happiest thing one can have is to have such strategic alliance with someone you're in love with..cheers

in addition to that, am currently in love with someone two years older than me. though the age difference bothers us both am convinced a strategic alliance with her is the best chance I've ever seen in my life but she is scared I will hunger for younger flesh in the long run...so I can like to disagree with marrying older women as well , accorfing to the write up,on a personal level

This was very interesting, op thank you for taking the time out to make all these points it was a good read. I'm a woman and I believe the cultural values in marriage have been diluted dramatically but the world has changed gone are the days when a man had to fend for his family or they wouldn't eat that day men have become very lazy it's hard to find one that can uphold the family and meet all their needs. Men should aim to be married between 29-35 that's alright women before 25 I agree women do deffinately expire by 30 what was wrong with you that you couldn't find a husband? I wouldn't let my brothers marry women that are 30+ my family won't even accept such old cargo!

The point o got from the whole read was that men should be men if a man runs his household like a boss the wife will equally run the household like a queen but the stress of today's society isn't making any of this easy we're all just trying. Sometimes a man must lean on his wife for support after all when you marry you become one so its about support and balance.

D sage:

Actually the op made some good and important points except the part that says women in their 30's are not good for marriage and that the best age for men to settle down is between 30-40.

I disagree with those parts, I've seen countless men including my dad who got married in their 20's and are still happy and prosper.

Women on the other hand,there're many factors that may hinder women from getting marry in their prime time,

1. Fail relationship.
2. Education and carrier
3. Her environment
4. Wrong BF or fiance
5. Family
6. Spiritual problems etc.

@op,Contrary to your assumption,some women are decent but remain single till 30's due to the above problems.

@Angelbaby22, the above are some of the reasons why some women remain single till their 30's. I've seen many instance of these. Just thank God for your life and stop blaming them.