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Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by isalegan2: 1:26pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
Okon.akpan: It appears your wife's issue is medical. Please take her to a doctor, preferably a psychiatrist, if you love her. Anything could be wrong with her. Chemical imbalance; Postpartum depression; extreme loneliness; etc. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Ishilove: 1:27pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
Okon.akpan:Op, she needs deliverance. Na spirit husband dey worry am. |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by deji900: 1:27pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
All she need is more of ur love note do not think of divorce because of ur child. If that happen she we not have that parental care so re-think above all christ is the solution to all storm of life according to john 14 vs 14 |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by kokosheen(m): 1:30pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
debrief08: Kokosheen, while I agree that post partum depression causes some of these attitudes the poster mentioned that this started after they married before pregnancy and child birth. The OP didn't give the timeline of his MIL's visit but from my experience, mothers come for omugwo just before a baby's birth. Even if his wife started the negative behavior during pregnancy, some women tend to behave erratically due to hormonal changes during the period. Its just my opinion but OP would make things clearer if he can help with timelines for his wife's behavioral change and MIL's visit w.r.t. to the pregnancy period. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Onota: 1:48pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
You are probably not giving her the attention she wants. A woman can express herslef in so many ways. Are you sure you are not lacking somewhere interm of satisfying her, both emotionally and otherwise. You will be alarmed how far a woman can go if she is not been satisfied by her man especially emotionally. U need to pray for God's intervention. He owns the solution to all our problems... 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by aydriano(m): 1:48pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
Then divorce ha if u wanna live a lng lyf ma friend.... There cannot b 2 captains in a ship |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by isalegan2: 1:49pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
davidylan: I like the bolded part very much. |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by temi4fash(m): 1:53pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
Ishilove: typical MFM member.. op she say you shlds go prayer city n pray hard.. |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by eaz(f): 1:59pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
Mr Okon from what you've written,I can deduce the following: That your wife has lost respect for you or had no respect for you in the first instance but was pretending. She has serious mood problems. Being the reason why she is suspicious of everyone including her own blood sister. The mood problems could be as a result of child birth or she had them but you were in love but never noticed. She has bad advisers. Yes you can quote me on that. Who are her friends? Who does she normally call? She is completely jobless, has no self esteem and is trying to drag you down with her. Concentrate on that job o, that is what is feeding all of you. That one is number one. Never because of your wife's issue become tardy at work. You know the company you work for, they are super strict now. I will recommend you take these issues to the Lord in prayer first. You can try and take a vacation with her for about a week. make sure you involve her in the planning so that you guys will not start yelling at each other at the airport. Treat her really nice and try to see if you can reach her heart. Let her know the way she makes you feel. Also find out how she wants you to treat her. Since you know say she no want make money dey reach your people, find a way to be taking care of your family without putting her in the picture and try to settle hers once in a while. Stop buying gifts for her. Take her shopping so she can pick out what she wants. Try and take her out once in a while like you used to do when you guys were dating. If you try all these measures the babe no gree calm down, then you activate another mode. If she is still adamant on having the divorce, call her parents in and let them know that you are about to send their daughter back to them based on their daughters request. Believe me, her parents, if they were the ones instigating her before will back pedal. I really feel for you. Its really bad what you are going through but you have to do what you have to do to save your marriage. Marrying another wife may not be the solution. What if you go carry package wey worry pass the one wey you dey manage so? For the sake of your son, give your marriage your best shot. Thanks. 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by troy20(m): 2:01pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
pro01: The more patient a man is, and the more tolerant, and conciliatory and 'decent' he is, the more likely his wife is to constitute herself into a ruthless she-devil. I have noticed that the no-nonsense men generally have the ideal wives, i.e., women who would shut the eff up and do what they are told.my guy u 2 much 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Ninilowo(m): 2:12pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
OP, the kain soap wey una take baf today fine oo. See as una dey get beta beta advice from nairalanders like say na you be dem papa. Well today na your lucky day sha. Buh from your submission or body language, you are also fed up with the relationship abi? Now my own contribution: End the relationship cos there is no LOVE again. Marriage is to be enjoyed and not to be endured. If the court grants your child's custody to her, no cause for alarm. When he grows, you will have him back. ALL THE BEST DEAR! |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Nobody: 2:24pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
Tell her, that you have been promoted at work, and that you have been assigned to go on training for 1 Year in 3 different countries. That you trust her to remain faithful in the marriage. Then pack your stuff and have her drop you at the closest Airport and turn around and travel to your workplace and never return until you catch her. Before leaving, install vidcams in major spots in your home both exterior and interior and route it online TV like JustinTV and watch your wife cheating on you, if this is what you fail to spot cos of the effect of blind love. Love is a job, you have to work it beyond reasonable doubts, women are unpredictable species and you must be a behavioral mafia to be able to give them total happiness, trust me when I say, its best to just pretend with women, especially a wife. You got to fake everything from 'Incessant I love yous" to "Your dress is perfect" as well as occasssional "your nyash na blood". 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Nobody: 2:26pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
Okon.akpan: Your wife may have borderline personality disorder.
Consider psychological help. |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by biolabee(m): 2:27pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
pro01: The more patient a man is, and the more tolerant, and conciliatory and 'decent' he is, the more likely his wife is to constitute herself into a ruthless she-devil. I have noticed that the no-nonsense men generally have the ideal wives, i.e., women who would shut the eff up and do what they are told. Freaky and weird advice Where is the place for conflict resolution 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Krucifax(m): 2:47pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
donlyone: GBAM!!!!!!!!!!! |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by cyzzy: 2:49pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
Mayflowa: You deserve to be happy. A week vacation will be good 4 two of you.just play to her demand during the vacation. Then ask her a night before the last day if she still love u as you still love her very much. Bulls eye! Sex life crisis. Bros she aint sexually satisfied and that is hurting ur marriage. U have to do something about this cause that's d root cause! |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Krucifax(m): 2:51pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
Oshiite: If u think she ll change ,then u are a dreamer,it can only get worse because u are allowing,stamp ur feet down and call her bluff,ignore her when she starts,dont come back home when u are off shore or onshore ,i dont even know which is which, u can even pretend theres someone else,we dont value wot we have until there competition,u sound like ur too soft,i tell u,am a woman and we dont cherish wimps,all the best GBAM 2!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by brilapluz(m): 2:52pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
debrief08: Sadly what I have come to realise is that when women want to get married they fit into your "standard" of "wife material"dat is a brillant idea..100000000likes 4 d bolded words..@op,over 2 U..dont also 4get 2 commit wateva U do 2 d lord..all d best! |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Okonakpan: 2:54pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
I appreciate your comments. To answer some of your questions; I don't cheat on my wife and she knows it. She changed immediately after our marriage that was before she conceived and it got worst when her mother came but her mother has gone. Presently, she is not answering my calls neither do she call me after our argument about two weeks ago. |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Telthetruth(m): 2:54pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
Okon.akpan: chaiii....."BAD MARKET" if she threatens u with divorce tel her she is long due for divorce, act as if u meant every word u said since that can solve the problem and see if she will not come to her senses. all this women wey get bed but no kn how to lie on it. |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Krucifax(m): 2:55pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
pro01: The more patient a man is, and the more tolerant, and conciliatory and 'decent' he is, the more likely his wife is to constitute herself into a ruthless she-devil. I have noticed that the no-nonsense men generally have the ideal wives, i.e., women who would shut the eff up and do what they are told. I need to buy you a drink buddy,it's good to see we still have people with a pair dangling! Cheers jare! |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by blaise26abj(m): 3:01pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
OP: You are a man.Don't ever lose sight of this fact. If u understood the magnitude of being a man, u won't be here asking for advice.We will only hear of your actions. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by vanstanzy(m): 3:03pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
From the beginning, u two married urselves for the wrong reason(s). But now she doesn't see that which she married in u, and it frustrates the $h!7 out of her, thats the reason for her short temper towards u. U people started on a wrong footing but, good news , u can make things right if u wanna. BEST OF LUCK! |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by mkoabiola: 3:05pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
Bring anoda babe to d house and watch her change 4 gud. |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by druid06(m): 3:06pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
tithe: To be frank she's possessed by evil spirit, take her for deliverance. I recommend synagogue. I agree with you a 100%. I think she has water spirit. |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Nobody: 3:07pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
ITbomb: I would assume u spoilt her with gifts and enough caring when u were dating her for ONE year and u just didn't give her the opportunity to developed deep natural affections for you.on point sir,I served in eket and you have just related some facts that usually come up. |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Nobody: 3:14pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
I am sorry, I refuse to believe the mental illness theory, why were all the issues hidden before marriage? I may be wrong but I have seen so many similar cases, as the hunter has learnt to shoot without missing the bird learnt to fly without perching. As men continue to want a perfect super woman who will accomdate their flaws without complaining, some women too have perfected the art of pretending till they get that ring and unleash the dragon. You want a cook, cleaner, s3x on demnad babe, who won't complain when you disrespect her, who will pet you when you cheat, who will never get angry when you hurt her, who will say yes to everything you want, the one who is honest with her flaws you say no that one is not "wife material" Some have now learnt to perfectly play along and just marry, that's their aim. All the things they swallowed while auditioning they will hunt you and frustrate you with vengence 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Tombola1(m): 3:22pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
[/color][color=#990000] butta: @op you married a very BAD market . . butta: @op you married a very BAD market . . butta: @op you married a very BAD market . Sometimes in life u have to learn to manage what u use your hand to buy divorce is not an option anyways sorry for ur predicament manage her like that and bear whatever your eye see with her it is all part of being married enjoy . Godspeed to u . butta: @op you married a very BAD market . . butta: @op you married a very BAD market . . butta: @op you married a very BAD market . Sometimes in life u have to learn to manage what u use your hand to buy divorce is not an option anyways sorry for ur predicament manage her like that and bear whatever your eye see with her it is all part of being married enjoy . Godspeed to u . |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Ogadtop(m): 3:24pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
Okon.akpan:i dont know why ppl see divorce as a threat.i am married but not scared of divorce.i may love my spouse and she doesnt love me in return.i go kill her? If divorce will save u from high blood pressure,so be it my brother.i dont wish you divorce but if it comes,accept it in good faith and ride on.life is TOO short to live it in bondage and perpetual fear.haba! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by andyanders: 3:29pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
All she needs now is deliverance. Pla a trip with her to Synagogue Church of All Nations and get her delivered. She must be having spiritual problem or spiritual husband that could be the problem of her even saying that does not have any more feelings for you. She should be a good woman but that spiritual husband issue can't not allow her have a happy marriage. |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by Tintinix: 3:30pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
@OP Research Postnatal depression. |
Re: My Wife Has Changed Negatively, Please Advice Me. by biolabee(m): 3:32pm On Apr 20, 2013 |
debrief08: I am sorry, I refuse to believe the mental illness theory, why were all the issues hidden before marriage? Correct!!While mental illness may be plausible, i feel we are too quick to throw this card One thread about someone who wanted to have his personal space and not sleep in the same bed with his wife, yet again mental illness Other options should be considered like maybe she is angry or he is communicating or etc , this psycho card.. i fear o There may be other options we shd throw out before we start calling big big words like this eh |
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