I've been dating this girl for 4 years and she just told me that she intends to leave me if I don't get a job within a couple of months.
I can't believe she could even think of this. I have been providing her needs from the little I make in my small biz and income from small jobs.
I spend more money on her than I do on myself. She;s in school cos I helped her get in, but it seems she may have met someone else in the school I helped her get into.

We have been really great together and I have been seriously searching for a good job. I have sent several applications and submitted my cv's countless times to several places both online and offline.

She has never given me any info to aid me in my job search, that is why I feel so sad that she could be considering walking away from me after 4 years.

God will wipe away my tears and give me joy.

I need your advice peeps

Op its best she leaves!!! Who knows her exit may open that door that has refused to open for you!! It will hurt tthats for sure but kknow this its gonna make you strive and work harder for u succeed.

GENERAL G2: I've been dating this girl for 4 years and she just told me that she intends to leave me if I don't get a job within a couple of months.
I can't believe she could even think of this. I have been providing her needs from the little I make in my small biz and income from small jobs.
I spend more money on her than I do on myself. She;s in school cos I helped her get in, but it seems she may have met someone else in the school I helped her get into.

We have been really great together and I have been seriously searching for a good job. I have sent several applications and submitted my cv's countless times to several places both online and offline.

She has never given me any info to aid me in my job search, that is why I feel so sad that she could be considering walking away from me after 4 years.

God will wipe away my tears and give me joy.

I need your advice peeps

dear op, please, if she want to leave, let her go please, all things work together for good for those who love God. I can say, God loves you and delibrately allowed you to still be unemployed, in order to see the real picture of the woman you intend to spend the rest of your life with, please, dont beg her, if she want to leave, God will provide another lady who will be ready to be through thick and thin with you and you will both enjoy your lives together till old age.


From what you said she said and the ultimatum she gave you, i derive these may likely happen if you both eventually get married...........
*shes the type that will leave you if you suddenly lose your job after marriage.
*shes the type that will leave you if you suddenly fall seriously sick or involve in accident(God forbid).
*shes the type that can run away with another guy, if she discover that the other guy is richer or wealthier than you.
*shes the type that do not believe in enduring any hard or difficult times with men, hence, may abandon you when such time arises.
*shes the type that will always talk about "me", "i" and not "we", "us" in marriage, and such selfish attitude is not healthy in marriage.
*shes the type that will always compare her marriage with other marriages that seems to be more financially stable than hers.
*shes the type that will always complain about you not giving enough money for her upkeep and for her folks.


Lucky you, God is giving you the opportunity of shining your eyes, you better do, love is no longer blind, open your eyes well, before you use your two legs to walk into an everlasting trap and unnecessary ultimatums, which may lead to unending regrets.
May God help you.

Coldfeet: Op its best she leaves!!! Who knows her exit may open that door that has refused to open for you!! It will hurt tthats for sure but kknow this its gonna make you strive and work harder for u succeed.

OP there was a thread opened some time ago https://www.nairaland.com/1244857/why-blame-wives about the importance of relationships and their tole in helping or hindering one's destiny
I believe that God uses people or lets people leave your life for certain reasons

Why dont you go to the Source and commit all in to his hands
A friend of mine left Lagos for Kaduna years ago knowing nobody and he is doing well now
Another ledt Makurdi (assured job etc) after NYSC because she thought lag was better - for the last 3 years now, she has nothing

Dont fret - Be Still and lets things happen
Your end is better than the beginning

@op somtim ago,my gal threaten to leav and I told her she is very free.now am a big boy with cash.
She is d best looser.

Tell her dis:

>>~~~~~~~~~>>>>>

cheap threat..... she is already gone, she just wanna use "no job" threat as an excuse to quit on you

her leaving will give you the much drive n luck to succeed in life....

**thinking outside the box**
how old is she.... cause age factor can make her desperate for marriage

so u are one of those guys wey just de fall our hands abi.she don chop ur head i swear.if na ur fellow guy nw u go de form hard man.mugu

Dude, how many times wld u be told dt, whatever u will regret later, dnt do it!

Let nobody, either male or female come here as a cry baby! At least, she no use juju.

U even mumu to d extent of lavishing on her while u and ur biz suffers!

See, it swings both ways. Guys do so to gurls too. U shld av learnt 90% of such generosity never go positively

Op when a lady starts giving ultimatums, shes' found someone else. Believe me when I tell u that I know how hard it is, especially in a long term relationship such as yours but you'll get over it with time. Don't go and get just any job because u want to keep her. U may end up doing something u have no flair for which will in turn put more strain on ur relationship. When the right job comes so will the right woman with whom you'll have as much fun if not more than ur having with ur current girl

I have heard this type of story a thousand times. What I don't know is why folks like you don't learn.
Hmm, anyway, she is gone and is only looking for a reason, I would advice you to let her do the moonwalk. Who knows, this might spur you to achieve greater things.

Let her walk.

@ op, so u've been fornicating with a girl who's not ur wife and ur here complaining that she wants to leave you.

You have a fully furnished apartment in hell waiting for you!

Let her go..
There are many girls who will love and appreciate you just the way you are..
Every disappointment is a blessing in disguise..

**singing**
when a woman's fed up

Let her go......she probably is d one denying u of ur glory.

Doors did not open for me untill my ex left me. Plaese you can even show her d door, stay away frm fornication n turn to God. Who knows if she has not been a hinderance to you all these years. It worked for me, it will certainly work for u.

mko abiola: @op somtim ago,my gal threaten to leav and I told her she is very free.now am a big boy with cash.
She is d best looser.

Corret levels!!!
Na so e dey suppose be!!!

DECOtech:
Corret levels!!!
Na so e dey suppose be!!!

Na so jare

Poster the energy ur using to complain and fret use that same energy to kick her out of ur life..then chaNnel ur energy to making a better life for yourself..I will always say men are d reason why gurls mess up..imagine a gurl threatening u that she will leave U and ur fretting,cryin and gnashing ur teeth are u a man at all....FrEe her!!!!! Be focused, make a life for urself and b successful and see whether u won't complain of having to many gurls around..b a man and throw that girl out the window of ur LIFE

my fellow Nairalander, please do not be quick to tell him to kick her out of his life cos its not easy. no one has ever thought about it from the girls point of view. no one wants to suffer and in as much as the foundation of every relationship should be love, money is also important and helps the relationship become more enjoyable. if her reason of hiving him that ultimatum is to spur him on or encourage him to get something doing then I don't see anything wrong in it but if its cos of her selfish interest then the op should do what his mind tells him

zeongeon: Poster the energy ur using to complain and fret use that same energy to kick her out of ur life..then chaNnel ur energy to making a better life for yourself..I will always say men are d reason why gurls mess up..imagine a gurl threatening u that she will leave U and ur fretting,cryin and gnashing ur teeth are u a man at all....FrEe her!!!!! Be focused, make a life for urself and b successful and see whether u won't complain of having to many gurls around..b a man and throw that girl out the window of ur LIFE

Truth is I've been so faithful to this girl, that's why I feel sad. To whom much is given, much is expected.
I don't define myself by the size of my bank account. I have plans, prospects and vision.

I work hard in my little biz, and use what comes from it to cater for her needs and mine. I try to provide her school fees, pocket money etc. Fact is,I don't withhold anything from her as long as I can provide it.

firetrap: my fellow Nairalander, please do not be quick to tell him to kick her out of his life cos its not easy. no one has ever thought about it from the girls point of view. no one wants to suffer and in as much as the foundation of every relationship should be love, money is also important and helps the relationship become more enjoyable. if her reason of hiving him that ultimatum is to spur him on or encourage him to get something doing then I don't see anything wrong in it but if its cos of her selfish interest then the op should do what his mind tells him

How much is enough for a lady?
If you could support her education, provide monthly allowance to cover her feeding, rent and clothing, don't you think it's fair to say you're doing much with the little you have?

GENERAL G2:

Truth is I've been so faithful to this girl, that's why I feel sad. To whom much is given, much is expected.
I don't define myself by the size of my bank account. I have plans, prospects and vision.

I work hard in my little biz, and use what comes from it to cater for her needs and mine. I try to provide her school fees, pocket money etc. Fact is,I don't withhold anything from her as long as I can provide it.

Focus that capital on the biz and let it grow
Maybe your destiny is telling you you are not meant together

Coldfeet: Op its best she leaves!!! Who knows her exit may open that door that has refused to open for you!! It will hurt tthats for sure but kknow this its gonna make you strive and work harder for u succeed.

I concur!
Calling it quits with someone you've dated for 4yours will hurt and will a while to heal. Sometimes when you think your life will crumble, that will actually be the turning point in your life. It could even be her presence that has been holding back your progress.

And yes, she must have met someone whose prolly better off than you and gives her lots of money, only using your not having a good job as an excuse, such is the life of MOST women. Be a man, since she wants to leave, let her be, I bet u'll be happier for it later

let the ungrateful cow go. she aint worth all your energy. she is clearly going to regret her move in the future but it will be too late coz you will be mine then

greatgod2012:


dear op, please, if she want to leave, let her go please, all things work together for good for those who love God. I can say, God loves you and delibrately allowed you to still be unemployed, in order to see the real picture of the woman you intend to spend the rest of your life with, please, dont beg her, if she want to leave, God will provide another lady who will be ready to be through thick and thin with you and you will both enjoy your lives together till old age.


From what you said she said and the ultimatum she gave you, i derive these may likely happen if you both eventually get married...........
*shes the type that will leave you if you suddenly lose your job after marriage.
*shes the type that will leave you if you suddenly fall seriously sick or involve in accident(God forbid).
*shes the type that can run away with another guy, if she discover that the other guy is richer or wealthier than you.
*shes the type that do not believe in enduring any hard or difficult times with men, hence, may abandon you when such time arises.
*shes the type that will always talk about "me", "i" and not "we", "us" in marriage, and such selfish attitude is not healthy in marriage.
*shes the type that will always compare her marriage with other marriages that seems to be more financially stable than hers.
*shes the type that will always complain about you not giving enough money for her upkeep and for her folks.


Lucky you, God is giving you the opportunity of shining your eyes, you better do, love is no longer blind, open your eyes well, before you use your two legs to walk into an everlasting trap and unnecessary ultimatums, which may lead to unending regrets.
May God help you.

One million likes I luv this advise @op dnt ignore it

GENERAL G2: I've been dating this girl for 4 years and she just told me that she intends to leave me if I don't get a job within a couple of months.
I can't believe she could even think of this. I have been providing her needs from the little I make in my small biz and income from small jobs.
I spend more money on her than I do on myself. She;s in school cos I helped her get in, but it seems she may have met someone else in the school I helped her get into.

We have been really great together and I have been seriously searching for a good job. I have sent several applications and submitted my cv's countless times to several places both online and offline.

She has never given me any info to aid me in my job search, that is why I feel so sad that she could be considering walking away from me after 4 years.

God will wipe away my tears and give me joy.

I need your advice peeps

my brother, GOD will definitely wipe your tears away, amen,

My brother let that gal go. even after the getting the job let her go. she's not worth it

@ Op
All has been said. I read through your post and followed statements, and i found out that your case is just like mine. Talking about admission, assigments, pockect money, money for hairdo etc all these i provided. But she left with same excuse admidst all plea from me, families and friends. In my own case i think she gave five months but left after only two months. Later, I got to know she was dating a guy from her place(~he has a job, a car etc). But then i had this strenght within me that i will make it. Two months after she left me, i got a good paying job with an official car, laptop, phone etc. But do you know what happened to my ex? Her new man left her. Though we're still friends, It's been two years, she still searching while i'm married to a more beautiful woman who also has a well paying job.
pls be cheerful and hold onto God. He will surely come to your rescue.e