Mac and chaircover tanx Fø̲̣̣я̅ d word of encouragement. I've learnt frm my mistakes Oº°˚˚°º . And I knw truly life must continue. I've left all Fø̲̣̣я̅ God τ̅☺ take control of my marital life.

I posted this in my diary and I thought it might help a few people.
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The journey that started this diary last year has
been successfully completed . The offer for
resumption came in a few hours ago.
I learnt a lot of lessons no doubt. God has been
goood to me. He has restored the captivity of my
zion and now it appears na dream I been dey.
I pinch myself. Is this really happening ? This job
was the only one I applied for in almost two years
that I had started my masters.
This recruitment process itself too exactly 9months.
Now I know with the support of God it is possible for
a camel to pass through the eye of a needle.
I appreciate my wonderful diaryland friends that had
stood by me all the while. They'd always call and
without ever physically meeting any of them, they
have made it to the list of some of the few people
who stood by me when it was cold.
I love you Tmama, I love you skillet, I love you 16,
bright, SOM, schboi(*winks*), alosiby, mynd, and to
the few guys I may have skipped their names kindly
bear with me.
If things are going well with you then enjoy and
remember others are not as lucky and try to do
enough good. If you are not doing fine relax cos no
condition is permanent. Things will soon change for
the better. Please never give up.
I got this offer that most would likely kill for without
having godfather as is commonplace in Nigeria
today.
The last interview I went for before applying for this
job I left it in tears. I buried my head in my laps and
swore I would never apply for a job again till I got a
Ph.D. Because of the terrible manner the guys
treated me. Even my last job was with an Indian
firm that treated its staffs like slaves.
I actually fought the Oga-at-the -top there and left
with out them paying my outstanding salary.
All that as become a story today. Your time will
come. Things will change for you sooner than you
think. Hang in there please do not give up. God
bless you all.

Thank U.

Never call suicidal people cowards.

Hmmm, Coward is not a word for someone who is suicidal........ Not everybody has the emotional and psychology strength to absorb an overwhelming situation. Hence the need for each other. If people gave listening ears to those that committed suicide, they wouldn't have done it....

Yoruba has an adage translated as "He who has not seen a big fight will call himself a man". Some struggles cannot be fought alone, they need soothing and comforting words of others to pull through it. If not, it gets overwhelming and consuming.

I pray that you do not experience such. You will not have opportunity to call people cowards.

It is well with you

Cowardice and mental illness are non-super imposable. I am fed up of mistaken beliefs surrounding mental health. If you have spoken to someone who is suicidal you will soon realise they are not well. Do not mistakenly assume that they can reason like you do; or else you'd be unwell too.

Ahhh! E neva reach quarrel ooo. Terming people who are contemplating suicide "coward" was just my own way of telling them to be brave. You could see me assuring them there was light at the end of the tunnel on the same post. No offence or insults intended please. I humbly withdraw my statement ooo.

But make person no die or contemplate dying ooo. There are a whole lot of reasons worth living for abeg.

I am out of here.

Flytefalls:

Cowardice and mental illness are non-superimposable. I am fed up of mistaken beliefs surrounding mental health. If you have spoken to someone who is suicidal you will soon realise they are not well. Do not mistakenly assume that they can reason like you do; or else you'd be unwell too.

Not true....

$ugardaddy:
Ahhh! E neva reach quarrel ooo. Terming people who are contemplating suicide "coward" was just my own way of telling them to be brave. You could see me assuring them there was light at the end of the tunnel on the same post. No offence insults intended please. I humbly withdraw my statement ooo.

But make person no die or contemplate dying ooo. There are a whole lot of reasons worth living for abeg.

I am out of here.

... just please don't use that word again!

onegig:

Not true....

Okay. Exempting the minority who impulsively kill themselves for ritualistic/pleasurable/sacrificial/whatever reason; mental disorders (or milder negative feelings of sadness, hopelessness, despair, etc) remain a major risk factor for global suicide rates.

A suicidal person needs help, not judgement; that's the focal message.

Flytefalls:
Okay. Exempting the minority who impulsively kill themselves for ritualistic/pleasurable/sacrificial/whatever reason; mental disorders (or milder negative feelings of sadness, hopelessness, despair, etc) remain a major risk factor for global suicide rates.

A suicidal person needs help, not judgement; that's the focal message.

yes they need help but categorising them as un well is very wrong. We all do face problems and due to lack of someone you can open up to you end up doing something very wrong.. Just a counselling session and a listening ear does solve most of these problems..we all need love and affection and when its missing some people may believe its game over..we just have different endurance levels .

how do i fight this feeling of emptiness that seems to be invading my mind. Don't tell me to hold on, because I just can't anymore. I feel like I'm at the point where I have to end it all.

beecool: how do i fight this feeling of emptiness that seems to be invading my mind. Don't tell me to hold on, because I just can't anymore. I feel like I'm at the point where I have to end it all.

Be cool, please remain cool. Don't start having negative thoughts!!
Have u read this thread from the first page? If not please take time out to read from the beginning!!

Or you can locate the family section fun room and share your problems. A problem shared is one half solved.

Stay lifted & bee cool.

beecool: how do i fight this feeling of emptiness that seems to be invading my mind. Don't tell me to hold on, because I just can't anymore. I feel like I'm at the point where I have to end it all.

maybe you start by talking about things that make you feel empty. We can take it onwards from there.

beecool: how do i fight this feeling of emptiness that seems to be invading my mind. Don't tell me to hold on, because I just can't anymore. I feel like I'm at the point where I have to end it all.

Stay true to your moniker and personal text. Read books about the lives of men who were once in your situation and how they pushed through to greatness.

The storm is only for a short time, peace be upon you...

@RR, I think I read the part 1 of this thread some times ago. I would go through the pages of this thread as suggested. About the family fun thread, I've bee following that silently.
@Onegig, I find it difficult to share my life and family issues on a public forum like this.
Perhaps, I am just being too sensitive about it.
@ Bellong, i have been trying, it's just that the whole thing is so depressing.
Thank you all for your words of courage. Thank you.

beecool: @RR, I think I read the part 1 of this thread some times ago. I would go through the pages of this thread as suggested. About the family fun thread, I've bee following that silently.
@Onegig, I find it difficult to share my life and family issues on a public forum like this.
Perhaps, I am just being too sensitive about it.
@ Bellong, i have been trying, it's just that the whole thing is so depressing.
Thank you all for your words of courage. Thank you.

Its a faceless forum and you don't have to give personal details and such. Although you are entitled to your privacy but just hints on what you feel would make helping easier. We don't know you and can't imagine what you are going through except you tell us.

Feels like nothing is going well with me..
I've messed up at young age I've really tried making things better but it seems like I'm just making things worse..I don't no how I do it but sumtyms I feel like I'm cursed..

Suicide has crossed my mind alota times, sometimes I wish that a car could come from nowhere nd take my life..

nadia_SA:
Feels like nothing is going well with me..
I've messed up at young age I've really tried making things better but it seems like I'm just making things worse..I don't no how I do it but sumtyms I feel like I'm cursed..

Suicide has crossed my mind alota times, sometimes I wish that a car could come from nowhere nd take my life..

I saw your thread.Pls,take things easy.You'll receive words of comfort and advice from greatgod2012,chaircover,onegig and the rest soon.Hold on tight.

nadia_SA:
Feels like nothing is going well with me..
I've messed up at young age I've really tried making things better but it seems like I'm just making things worse..I don't no how I do it but sumtyms I feel like I'm cursed..

Suicide has crossed my mind alota times, sometimes I wish that a car could come from nowhere nd take my life..

Nadia... Not you! You are more lively and definitely above those thoughts. Please put the thoughts of suicide aside. It doesn't make things better, it just makes it worse. We all have made mistakes in the past and if everyone were to commit suicide for their past mistakes i doubt any one would be alive on earth presently. Be strong. There's light at the end of the tunnel. Its always easy to destroy but hard to rebuild. Your rebuilding process would take alot of perseverance and hard work. It won't just happen. This is about correcting mistakes of years and trust me there's no short cut or quick fixes in such situations. If you would love to elaborate so we can better appreciate the challenges you face and can render help in form of words and encouragement. Its well with you.

onegig: Nadia... Not you! You are more lively and definitely above those thoughts. Please put the thoughts of suicide aside. It doesn't make things better, it just makes it worse. We all have made mistakes in the past and if everyone were to commit suicide for their past mistakes i doubt any one would be alive on earth presently. Be strong. There's light at the end of the tunnel. Its always easy to destroy but hard to rebuild. Your rebuilding process would take alot of perseverance and hard work. It won't just happen. This is about correcting mistakes of years and trust me there's no short cut or quick fixes in such situations. If you would love to elaborate so we can better appreciate the challenges you face and can render help in form of words and encouragement. Its well with you.

@bolded that's y its very hard for people to tell that I'm not happy coz of this face I try to put up for everyone, hoping that one day things will change for the better..

But its not I don't understand y this is happening to me ..

I hear u..

nadia_SA: @bolded that's y its very hard for people to tell that I'm not happy coz of this face I try to put up for everyone, hoping that one day things will change for the better..

But its not I don't understand y this is happening to me ..

I hear u..

If I may ask:

What do you regard as "better"?

Describe a set of things you will like to see changed that, if those changes happen, you will regard your life as better.

What are the things that will make you happy?

nadia_SA: @bolded that's y its very hard for people to tell that I'm not happy coz of this face I try to put up for everyone, hoping that one day things will change for the better..

But its not I don't understand y this is happening to me ..

I hear u..

Living in denial of what life really is ain't too good. It makes life superficial .I am not saying you shouldn't pose as happy to everyone but seriously sometimes we all need someone we can share our "little" problems with. Hiding behind a beautiful smile will not make it go away. Also do remember the down trodden. Your problems ain't small nor is it too big but always look for positives in any situation.

Mine is somewhat complicated, I'm in my late teens and an engineering student..always been a high flyer academically in high school and not doing so badly in the university, I hold no religious belief and my views border on atheism..I've been struggling with depression for over two years and I've considered suicide at times....life just feels so empty most times to me and I struggle daily to find a meaning to everything,I also feel like I could be doing so much more with my inherent potential, this coupled with the challenges of being a nerdy introvert teenager with few friends and eccentric thoughts leave me with just a bleak outlook of life....I spend a lot of time alone and I believe that no one really understands me..my parents are too religious and emotionally distant for me to share my fears with them....no matter how I try to deal with it, I always relapse back...I just feel lost and I just wonder whether if I just end it all,maybe I'll just find that elusive peace.it might seem cowardly and sound like overkill but the despair I feel daily, the depths of loneliness,fear and self-loathing I go through daily just drives me crazy
actually wanted to open a thread on it before I came across this

greatgod2012: Thanks @op, hopefully, this is going to help.

What is suicide attempt?
Suicide attempt simply means an attempt to kill oneself or to take one's life.
Being suicidal means to have the feeling of taking one's life.
What can make one feel suicidal?
1. Frustration, when one is frustrated, whether at home, in the family, at workplace, in one's marriage, among friends, one may be tempted to commit suicide, if there is no one to support or encourage.

2. Depression, when one is depressed, it means one's spirit is down or not lifted, and if care is not taken, such a person can be suicidal. Feeling depressed is a psychological problem, hence counselling and psychariatric treatment is advisable, before it degenerates to being suicidal.

3. Self pity, the feeling that you are the only one in a particular problem and that everyone has to sympathise with you can lead one to being suicidal, especially, when there is no one to sympathise with you.
4. Disappointment, when one is dissapointed by a very trusted friend, partner, relative or child, one may feel suicidal in order to permanently prevent repeat of such occurence.
5. Feeling unloved, when one feel unloved by those whom he really loves, its a feeling of rejection, it can make one feel suicidal.
6. Rejection/abandonment by one's folks/friends can also be a cause.
7. Admittance/acceptance of failure, many people dont really understand the concept of failure before they admit or accept that they are failure, and once that acceptability is there, it may degenerate to being suicidal.
And many others.

Solutions/preventive measures to eliminating suicide attempt.
1. Never compare yourself to anyone, we are distinct/different as individuals, with different capacity, ability and purpose.
2. Remember that everything happens in its time, ie, God's time is the best, some are to make it in the morning of their lives, while some, at noon and some at dusk time of their lives.
3. Always remember that, no matter what you are passing through, some other people must have also passed through it before you, and some others will still pass through it after you, the world celebrates the winner, not considering what the winner might have passed through before he becomes the winner, so, winners dont quit, if you want to be remembered as a winner, dont kill yourself, because you can never win in the grave.
4. Never put all your trust in a fellow human being, it is only God who never disappoint, anyone, regardless of who they are can disappoint.
When you feel depressed, sad, unhappy or disappointed or at a crossroad of life., talk out, talk to people, seek advise, seek counselling, meet with people, read about great people who have passed through similar situations.
5. Never think that without someone, you cant make it, no human being is indispensable, its only God that is as strong and reliable as a rock, believe in Him and believe in yourself, think positive about yourself, because, as a man thinks, so is he. If you believe you can, you can.
Above all, remember that God can NEVER tempt us beyond what we can bear, and when we are tempted, He will make a way of escape for us(1cor 10:13).
God bless us all.
It is well with all of us.

MAY GOD BE WITH YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.

Roland17: Although i posted thin on a similar thread on Family section, i feel it would not hurt to post this here and hope it helps someone make a courageous choice.

This is one issue we treat very trivial until the act is done, people who are courageous enough to admit attempts of Suicide are castigated based on some ridiculous religious beliefs, i am very glad whenever awareness about Suicide gets attention because i have personally been privileged to help 2 very mature people out of committing suicide.

CAUSES

The causes of suicide are subjective to every individual contemplating, experience and extensive research has helped me conclude that depression/ unhappiness/ sadness is a constant factor with this issue.

Most people seem happy, but i can tell u, true happiness is one luxury many can't afford, many are going through sooo much in life with no one to trust with their problems they shoulder the burden all to themselves and this leads to stress and depression. i know someone is thinking, Hey we all have problems, but the difference is we are all different, the way we interpret problems as individuals is quite different.

The first person i encountered and i am glad is out of the Suicide list had every thing going for him you would think, he was in his final year of medical school, studying in one of the prestigious medical colleges in the US, a very bright prospect, intelligent but something was not clicking, for the sake of privacy i choose not to divulge the real issue and other vital details, but it proves that, not every one who seems happy is truly happy, so many things happen in our daily lives that alter our consciousness to life.

HOW YOU CAN HELP AS AN INDIVIDUAL

Being TRUSTWORTHY and APPROACHABLE is important, they wish to talk about it, but its very difficult to trust people with your story and when they can not, they resort to Suicide.

SIGNS TO LOOK OUT FOR

The signs are very numerous but mostly discreet, i would mention a few, the suicide would most probably happen on a significant date, either their birthdays or dates that have huge significance to them.

Suicidal people tend to suddenly keep to themselves as the day approaches , they tend to suddenly dissociate themselves from people and spend a whole lot of time on their own, most times contemplating their decision and their lives thus far.
while other might go on without any significant changes, but one thing is, their anxiety level also increases as they tend to become sensitive and would break down easily.

MANAGING STRESS

This is also subjective to every individual because like i mentioned earlier we are all different, contemplating suicide does not necessarily mean mental weakness, we all react to issues differently.
Famous people we revere have contemplated suicide, Halle Berry, Dianna the princess of Wales, Eminem, Michael Jackson, Mike Tyson, the list is very long.

Developing a stress killer routine is very important for every one, personally when i get stressed/ unhappy, i hit the Gym or i go running, play basketball, i spend time speaking with people that make me happy, either over the phone or face to face, i go through my contacts and call my Dad, even though i don't tell him i am stressed out, speaking with him relieves me a whole lot, after that i can tell u i would return to base.

For some eating helps, but the problem is this, eating too much while depressed might worsen the situation in the long run, i know of someone who goes into a cleaning mode, he would clean the whole house even if it is spot clean while listening to music, after couple of mins/hrs he is back to base.

PROFESSIONAL CENTERS

Most suicidal people need someone to confide with anonymously without compromising their privacy and secrets and this is very very hard.

In the USA, i know there is a National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, i understand u are never kept on hold and speak directly with someone who is willing to help.

. Thank you, God bless you & your family.

this thread could save many if it is always on front page.

I've experienced it before, and almost(if not all) everything said on this thread esp. On †he first page is true.

To others who've contributed on this thread. God bless yall. *sighs nairaland is wide. Didn't know something like this is on here.