If to say that there is always a way to skin the mongoose and using this in dealing with daily life challenges and ill fates, men are forced to use the same approach. In situations where three men are to stand in twos, where you are to fry an egg without breaking the egg, then get rid of the third man and to hell with the fried egg, a man is relieved, relieved of pressure of having to deliver the impossible though he might then deliver it by adjusting it. Until you are well grounded in masculinity, dealing with shame will not come to you that easy, and unlike women who dread shameful situations so much that will rather die than to face certain events in their lives. We cannot take that root as we are designed to lead them through it in comfort. Women are soft we are tough, women are weak and we are strong, and life is not all about sunshine and rainbow as a man is aware of the coming arrows or drones than he is aware of the Feast of Christmas.

Saying you are to turn all your shame to strength, might seem Read further here http://ekowambe.com/2013/07/19/handling-shame-like-a-man/

shame seems to be defined by whoever is the accuser, and is quite subjective, it seems.

shamelessness in itself is a property a lot of people possess, but only point out in others who they want to pick on.

As if I will visit your blog

Isi gini?

Agrika: Isi gini?

Not for boys

tpia@:
shame seems to be defined by whoever is the accuser, and is quite subjective, it seems.

shamelessness in itself is a property a lot of people possess, but only point out in others who they want to pick on.

And this affects the victim's self esteem, and self esteem which is crucial for MEN (Real Men )but when some inevitable misfortune strikes , How do you handle it?

Mynd_44: As if I will visit your blog

It's not a problem . . . but you will be left behind

What about avoiding shameful acts like a man.

If your self esteem is based on people instead of God, then of course they will use your self esteem to play football, na you be ninny.

tpia@:
If your self esteem is based on people instead of God, then of course they will use your self esteem to play football, na you be ninny.

Do you have any evidence that God exist? and even if he exist, i don't know what you mean by self esteem based on God . .
Just like my friend always say (Money na self esteem, A poor man is a humble man by force) If you fail when you should win. If life should hit you , you will feel emotional setback, discouraged and even stop believing in yourself and you won't find much encouragement instead you will get mockery . . . i don't know if you know about how people at the bottom always want those at the top to join them . . . Many rich men that became poor,that i know, died of depression, . . . and one you know "Rasheed Yekini" Just one you know and check history for more . . .putting too much emphasis on God will not help you as a man as God will do everything doesn't mean you should suspend your mind.

Excel 30 :
What about avoiding shameful acts like a man.

There is nothing like a shameful acts per se, well external opinion might say that, but you as a man never commits a shameful act. You do what is wrong or right in your own eyes, except if you are forced to conform to other beliefs you subscribe to e.g culture,religion and other ideologies. this is just explanation of shameful acts as you asked.

Shameful acts belongs to Tomboys, If you are committing shameful acts , (You Need To Man Up) If you are sleeping with the housekeeper and your wife finds out, well if you go saying honey em em em let me explain,then you are screwed,telling her you were carried away might settle it,or letting her know she will have to deal with it.

It's a sign you are self conscious and you have to get rid of it