idnoble135: Over four hours and no comment. This is a good research work.
I would have passed by it but the first point hit what most articles dont say. Vision is priceless. I pity a woman that marries just because of the emotion called love. Love would not put food on the table. Love would not buy things needed by the baby. Love would not put money in the pocket.
Love is a good factor for marriage. But we should not marry for it. A man with a vision is scarce and priceless.

yuzedo:
wuz dat? who is ur deer? MOD plis can u give dis gay alligaytor abouttttt 4yrs ban wit had labour. and get me my special iron pampers plis.

ojubi: There is no such thing as love.
Humans can't love.
Cos love does not change with circumstances.
If you know you can live with the person contract the marriage, and if things changes with time divorce and get out.
I am starting this contraption called marriage with an exit strategy in mind just in case things stop working out with time.

wolajumoke:
1. Vision
Marry someone that believes strongly in your vision.The person doesn't need to do same profession like you. However the person MUST have kin interest in your vision. It will inspire you and help the two of you bond together in an unusual way.

wolajumoke:
2. Mutual respect
Does the person respect you, your opinion and family?
Do you feel free when you are with the person or you always have to pretend whenever you are together?
Does he/she abuse you physically or emotionally?
Is the person proud of you when you are in the company of others?
A marriage that has no mutual respect has a high tendency of break-up.

wolajumoke:

3. Friendship
Does the person inspire or motivate you?
When you marry your friend (someone with whom you understand each other and your spirit connect),chances are that you will enjoy living together as partner. When you and your close friend quarrel, you are quick to resolve it. That is how it should be also in marriage.

wolajumoke:

4. Avoid comparison
Never compare your husband with your father or ex. Same way, never compare your wife with your mother or sister. They are two different people. whenyou start comparing your partner or partner to-be, with someone else, you cannot be happy in such marriage. Whatever qualities you desire, go for someone that has it.

wolajumoke:

5. Manage your differences
Most times people want to marry someone like them. My recommendation is marry someone who is opposite of you (ie. Who has the qualities you are lacking). In that way you will be able to complement each other.

wolajumoke:
6. Mutual understanding
Your partner have different background, hence, both of you will see things differently.
Be willing to shift ground and your partner must be willing to do same .
If your partner truly loves you, he will not want to always have his way.
Be willing to learn his language, favourite game, eat his/her kind of food, dress in a way that appeal to his/her fantasy etc
. If your partner to-be always want to have his/her way in every discussion, watch it!

wolajumoke:
7. Truth and open communication

wolajumoke:

8. Genuine love
Can the person stay with you in bad times?
Does he/she love you for who you are or just because of sex, money or selfish purpose?
Do you enjoy staying with him/her?
Does he/she forgive when offended?
Wonderful marriage is not made of two perfect people but two forgivers

wolajumoke:
9. Testimony of others
What does other people feel or say about him/her?
Does your pastor, parent and friends approve of him/her.
When in love, there are many things we wouldn't see which is obvious to others.

wolajumoke:
10. God factor
Is the relationship based on God's principles or selfish motive?
Does your spirit agree with him or her?
Do you consult God who is the author of marriage?
If your marriage is good without God, I assure you, it will be best with him

Above all, learn from other peoples mistake and avoid repeating it.

okpaniokpani:
You are concerned about financial security,and not vision. From ur statement above you can marry a man from a wealthy background that can provide for ur needs even if he doesn't know what to do with his life.

wolajumoke: 1. Vision
Marry someone that believes strongly in your vision.The person doesn't need to do same profession like you. However the person MUST have kin interest in your vision. It will inspire you and help the two of you bond together in an unusual way.

2. Mutual respect
Does the person respect you, your opinion and family?
Do you feel free when you are with the person or you always have to pretend whenever you are together?
Does he/she abuse you physically or emotionally?
Is the person proud of you when you are in the company of others?
A marriage that has no mutual respect has a high tendency of break-up.

3. Friendship
Does the person inspire or motivate you?
When you marry your friend (someone with whom you understand each other and your spirit connect),chances are that you will enjoy living together as partner. When you and your close friend quarrel, you are quick to resolve it. That is how it should be also in marriage.

4. Avoid comparison
Never compare your husband with your father or ex. Same way, never compare your wife with your mother or sister. They are two different people. whenyou start comparing your partner or partner to-be, with someone else, you cannot be happy in such marriage. Whatever qualities you desire, go for someone that has it.

5. Manage your differences
Most times people want to marry someone like them. My recommendation is marry someone who is opposite of you (ie. Who has the qualities you are lacking). In that way you will be able to complement each other.

6. Mutual understanding
Your partner have different background, hence, both of you will see things differently.
Be willing to shift ground and your partner must be willing to do same .
If your partner truly loves you, he will not want to always have his way.
Be willing to learn his language, favourite game, eat his/her kind of food, dress in a way that appeal to his/her fantasy etc
.If your partner to-be always want to have his/her way in every discussion, watch it!

7. Truth and open communication

8. Genuine love
Can the person stay with you in bad times?
Does he/she love you for who you are or just because of sex, money or selfish purpose?
Do you enjoy staying with him/her?
Does he/she forgive when offended?
Wonderful marriage is not made of two perfect people but two forgivers

9. Testimony of others
What does other people feel or say about him/her?
Does your pastor, parent and friends approve of him/her.
When in love, there are many things we wouldn't see which is obvious to others.

10. God factor
Is the relationship based on God's principles or selfish motive?
Does your spirit agree with him or her?
Do you consult God who is the author of marriage?
If your marriage is good without God, I assure you, it will be best with him

Above all, learn from other peoples mistake and avoid repeating it.

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idnoble135:
chei! See illiteracy! Go back and read the article before you post. It is to enable you be sure of your soon to be spouse and not "what to know about marriage".
Some dudes sef are funny.

wolajumoke: Wonderful marriage is not made of two perfect people but two forgivers

idnoble135: Over four hours and no comment. This is a good research work.
I would have passed by it but the first point hit what most articles dont say. Vision is priceless. I pity a woman that marries just because of the emotion called love. Love would not put food on the table. Love would not buy things needed by the baby. Love would not put money in the pocket.
Love is a good factor for marriage. But we should not marry for it. A man with a vision; a man who has something to live for is scarce and priceless IMO.

zandie: My partner needs to see this, especially number 2 and 4

ogugua88:

I don't think you read the article. It's not about what to expect in marriage. The article discusses 10 aspects to consider about your partner before marrying him or her. There's no foolproof way to know if one is ready for marriage, but I would think that giving one's partner plenty of thought, knowing his or her strengths and weaknesses, and determining whether one's self and said partner can not only marry but make that marriage work is a good start.

Divorce rates are high and I personally believe that's due to people not knowing each other as much as they should have from the start. There's no such thing as too much knowledge, so kudos to the OP for highlighting some of the things people should take into consideration before jumping the broom.

lanre_front: I strongly disagree with number 5 above:Managing your differences.

When people are like in likes, dislikes, tastes, preferences, and lifeztyle, it makes living together as a couple easier; more of joy and less of work. Being alike does notmean u would be alike in bad qualities, but in good qualities.

@johnsonjosbles:
. What makes you think non quick response suggest perfect research work? We are in working hour and reonable pple focus on dia job 1st before later pay attention to any other isue. I'm sure you are jobless,that's why you can observe that perfectly isn't Iτ̅? Cudos to the post cos Iτ̅ speak well, every 1 in relationship needs to observe that in ohter to achieve success. Iτ̅ ȋ̝̊̅§. Well

Niyi47: Nice article. Thumps up.

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Bright2: Gbam gbam gbam gbam gbam gbam gbam gbammmm correcteeeeee! Good research but ladies una go gree listen? He goes to swim every weekend but you don't,he cares much about his dressing but you an engineer you don't, he changes car every 5years but you as an engineer you don't,he ignores every thing his wife does but you an engineer you don't,he does put on italian shoes but you an engineer you prefer safety shoes are you the only engineer in this world? He drives gently with executive car but you drive like a mad man with hilux, he tatoos his left hand but you an engineer said it's irrelevant,he does put on leather wrist watch but an engineer prefer rubber watch,he cheers up with people & visits close friends but you an engineer you don't . Ahhhh! I don tire!!!