eddiebruk: Trash, what privacy do you need from someone you are married to for life, she will only have a separate bedroom when we start making babies, more like just to make sure taking care of the baby doesn't have to be done in my own bedroom...because of how Trashy the place can become with those baby stuffs and all of what comes with new born babies, like crying at night, urinating all over the place and what have you.

eddiebruk: Trash, what privacy do you need from someone you are married to for life, she will only have a separate bedroom when we start making babies, more like just to make sure taking care of the baby doesn't have to be done in my own bedroom...because of how Trashy the place can become with those baby stuffs and all of what comes with new born babies, like crying at night, urinating all over the place and what have you.

eddiebruk: Trash, what privacy do you need from someone you are married to for life, she will only have a separate bedroom when we start making babies, more like just to make sure taking care of the baby doesn't have to be done in my own bedroom...because of how Trashy the place can become with those baby stuffs and all of what comes with new born babies, like crying at night, urinating all over the place and what have you.

oyinbogirl:



If your ok having intimacy (and that can get messy too) yet once a baby is born out goes wife & baby? That seems harsh. .. And what 'mess' you talking about anyway? Theres Very little mess from a breAstfed baby, and nappy alone wont be making huge mess...keep a bin for it or better yet put it straight outside in a bin! Why should ur wife n baby be separated from you ? Your wife and baby need you too

eddiebruk:

I am not against husband and wife sharing same room, but during the nursing stage, i would prefer both mother and child be in their own room, because i just cant stand the stress that comes with it, OMG do you even imagine when maybe i have to get something done at night and the Baby for no reason starts crying..? if the child is up to like 3years, the mother can come back fully to sharing same room with me, but while Nursing a new born baby, that one is a no go area

eddiebruk: Trash, what privacy do you need from someone you are married to for life, she will only have a separate bedroom when we start making babies, more like just to make sure taking care of the baby doesn't have to be done in my own bedroom...because of how Trashy the place can become with those baby stuffs and all of what comes with new born babies, like crying at night, urinating all over the place and what have you.

eddiebruk:

I am not against husband and wife sharing same room, but during the nursing stage, i would prefer both mother and child be in their own room, because i just cant stand the stress that comes with it, OMG do you even imagine when maybe i have to get something done at night and the Baby for no reason starts crying..? if the child is up to like 3years, the mother can come back fully to sharing same room with me, but while Nursing a new born baby, that one is a no go area

sexkillz: I understand the parabolic trajectory the OP's argument is taking. He harps about privacy. However, his reasons are purely borne out of a selfish motive and a me-first attitude, which could be catastrophic to the ministry. I could argue for both sides, but the issue about using a baby as an excuse to get a separate room is arranticus nonsenticus! She didn't have the baby alone. When you were making the baby and oh my god-ing, na the room una dey. Now God has answered with the baby and now it becomes a nuisance to you because he urinates? Abi you no piss as a pikin?

The height of insensitivity is living in the same house with your family and ignoring the wail of a baby because of "privacy". What if the mother, your wife, is tired? Or she cant/shouldn't get tired?

I know of a man who takes delight in relieving his wife of the baby at night, so that she gets some sleep. Nothing wrong in taking turns. I don't like the idea of a couple sleeping in different rooms, and I'm not one to force my opinion on a lady, so if it comes to the extent that we are in different rooms(I pray it doesn't), nothing will make me ignore my own baby, biko. When then do you bond with your baby?

oyinbogirl:

was going to further comment, but you pretty much said what I was going to say. Anyways guys like these are better off owning a dog , that is if the noise and mess isnt too much. Me, I cant have a husband who evicts me out of the room till the child is older, i will feel like a single mother. A job allows you to come home, rest eat and relax before beginning again the next day. Children are a 24 hr job without a lot or rest. Men should realise this and help out and be involved, after all its their child as well, and the early years are the bonding years. Yet later on will complain why the child/ren favour the mum? Yehhhh very insensitive and 'me first' kind of attitude here, thank God not all men are this way!

mcdreeezy: I agree with the OP's point of view. If I'll get married, we'll have different rooms. I like my privacy, I dont think that will stop us from bonding, not in the slightest I agree with the OP's point of view. If I'll get married, we'll have different rooms. I like my privacy, I dont think that will stop us from bonding, not in the slightest

Kikiani: (If u'll get married?)oboi u nd d OP r nt normal at alll(no hard feelings tho)bottomline,master bedroom nd a baby's cot..a child dat says d mother wil not sleep,d father must also nt sleep..gudbye

sexkillz: God forbid me to be this way! I saw what my mother went thru raising me and my siblings. I can't let my wife pass thru all that alone. Sharing the same room with her and the baby allows for bonding with both parents, especially during the formative years, 0 - 3.

alutacontinua: i'll have my lil sanctuary. He can have his too if he wishes to. There are just times when i need to be alone....lyk really alone!

Joel.:
i hate it when people don't understand or just being biased any every thing. right from time i like my privacy especially finding my things where i keep them. i love reading and browsing. i love quite place and no child noisy. my younger once can play and messed up my mother room but can't try that in my father's room. not even access not to talk of messing there up. i know what i am talking. everything i keep in my room i always meet them at same positions. i love my privacy i dont joke with my privacy. me only and me alone. that's why i always recommend people to build many rooms with all rooms master so that every body your children and stranger, visitors to have a rooms. i am never a fun of 3 to 4 bedroom flat. but more with all bathroom.

LewsTherin: People. Easy on the young man. He obviously isn't married. And if he is,..........I feel for them. Truly I do. Of what use is being private and secluded from someone you pledged to spend the rest of your life with? Because they'll trash the place? Please. Because of "my privacy"? There is only one reason for failed marriages and relationships. And that is the selfishness of one or both parties. Nothing more. Now you get why I said I feel for him.

Monicasque: if u wana have your ''privacy'' and not treat marriage like its normally treated then why bother getting married?

eddiebruk:

I am not against husband and wife sharing same room, but during the nursing stage, i would prefer both mother and child be in their own room, because i just cant stand the stress that comes with it, OMG do you even imagine when maybe i have to get something done at night and the Baby for no reason starts crying..? if the child is up to like 3years, the mother can come back fully to sharing same room with me, but while Nursing a new born baby, that one is a no go area