This is for those in love or who have been in love with someone. I'm just curious

Do you ever find yourself thinking even for a minute of someone else while you're in a relationship? And i mean 'impure thoughts' and not really wanting to have a relationship with them.
Do you feel guilt(like you're cheating) whenever this happens?
Or is it absolutely normal for this to happen?


P.S I understand this can be tricky esp if you have a relationship with a nairalander, but i still need your responses...plzzzzzzzz *puppy face*

uj_sizzle: This is for those in love or who have been in love with someone. I'm just curious

Do you ever find yourself thinking even for a minute of someone else while you're in a relationship?

I think about hundreds of people but not for a relationship with them. I'm too deep in love to think straight

Do you feel guilt(like you're cheating) whenever this happens?

No

Or is it absolutely normal for this to happen?

If you ask me, na who I go ask?

Caracta:

I think about hundreds of people but not for a relationship with them. I'm too deep in love to think straight



No



If you ask me, na who I go ask?

Maybe not for a relationship with them...just err certain 'impure thoughts'

i try by almeans to control such thoughts even though they do come but when he has made me upset i give myself permission to have allllll sorts of nasty thoughts. i gues its how some of us deal with certain things

D question is not clear

Pls advice me . I have been in a relationship for 2yrs plus now. Nd my Bf has neva introduce to his family members, even we re both planning to get married to each other. Bt my fear is dt he always want me to say sorry to him all the time. Pls shud i go for dis kind of person. Pls... Thanks

spongeback: When am in a relationship' I give it my all I don't have the time to think bout what's in another man's trousers,tbh other guys becomes unattractive to me.

Ewo, ihe love na-eme!

I dnt thnk of other guys at all

uj_sizzle: This is for those in love or who have been in love with someone. I'm just curious

@bolded, Na who we go ask?

Do you ever find yourself thinking even for a minute of someone else while you're in a relationship? And i mean 'impure thoughts' and not really wanting to have a relationship with them.

I used to. Nowadays, I don't "find" myself doing so. I don't know how I got my sexuality more in hand, maybe I'm just growing old sha. What happens now is that I could see a girl and it would strike me that she is real hot and might be interesting in bed but I never do anything about it and always forget the thought as soon as I take my eyes off her which happens pretty fast too.

Do you feel guilt(like you're cheating) whenever this happens?

I used to.

Or is it absolutely normal for this to happen?

For me, it is. But I think it depends on personality, age/experience and sex drive.

P.S I understand this can be tricky esp if you have a relationship with a nairalander, but i still need your responses...plzzzzzzzz *puppy face*

Se only for curiousity ni?

I think its normal! Especially if you see someone more handsome/pretty, richer, lovely and caring than your partner!

OP,are you not dating Or are you preserving yourself for a certain "future husband" I thought you were dating a certain Prince Charming.

Funmyberry: Pls advice me . I have been in a relationship for 2yrs plus now. Nd my Bf has neva introduce to his family members, even we re both planning to get married to each other. Bt my fear is dt he always want me to say sorry to him all the time. Pls shud i go for dis kind of person. Pls... Thanks

I will advise you take a little caution before embarking into marriage, as a guy, all I can say is ur Bf doesn't love you,and it seems you are the one trying to make ur relationship work.
I advise , you pray God give you your bone of bone and flesh of flesh.
The secrets is,a guy that really love you will let you meet his family, and also apologizes when he his wrong.
Just my 2cent

uj_sizzle: This is for those in love or who have been in love with someone. I'm just curious

Do you ever find yourself thinking even for a minute of someone else while you're in a relationship? And i mean 'impure thoughts' and not really wanting to have a relationship with them.

We are humans and that is bound to happen. It happens a lot but I have learnt to think about what I am thinking about ... so before the thought goes impure, I kick it out.

Do you feel guilt(like you're cheating) whenever this happens?
Or is it absolutely normal for this to happen?

It is absolutely normal for it to happen but abnormal when you start giving it too much thought... Its no sin to think about the impure really, but it is sin staying within the bounds of the impure thoughts.

P.S I understand this can be tricky esp if you have a relationship with a nairalander, but i still need your responses...plzzzzzzzz *puppy face*

Danhumprey: OP,are you not dating Or are you preserving yourself for a certain "future husband" I thought you were dating a certain Prince Charming.

What has this got to do with my question?

Ihedinobi:
@bolded, Na who we go ask?


I used to. Nowadays, I don't "find" myself doing so. I don't know how I got my sexuality more in hand, maybe I'm just growing old sha. What happens now is that I could see a girl and it would strike me that she is real hot and might be interesting in bed but I never do anything about it and always forget the thought as soon as I take my eyes off her which happens pretty fast too.


I used to.


For me, it is. But I think it depends on personality, age/experience and sex drive.


Se only for curiousity ni?

Life's a lot easier when you take people's words at face value. Thanks for your input tho

sexkillz: There's a difference between thinking and carrying out your thoughts.

Abeg answer my question if you want to and stop playing smartass. I'm very much aware of the difference young man

uj_sizzle:
Abeg answer my question if you want to and stop playing smartass. I'm very much aware of the difference young man

uj_sizzle:
Life's a lot easier when you take people's words at face value. Thanks for your input tho

Yup, I know I just like teasing sometimes.

uj_sizzle:
What has this got to do with my question?

That was just an innocent observation and a joke,but you took it way too personal.

Hian!

Sorry for encrossing on you thread.

Funmyberry: Pls advice me . I have been in a relationship for 2yrs plus now. Nd my Bf has neva introduce to his family members, even we re both planning to get married to each other. Bt my fear is dt he always want me to say sorry to him all the time. Pls shud i go for dis kind of person. Pls... Thanks

he may be decieving yhu...take a break

thinking is the normal function of the mind so if i think of another though in a relationship...i move on *its just a thought!* my mind is working! shikena...will i make a matter out of it? no i wont...i'm human

Danhumprey: That was just an innocent observation and a joke,but you took it way too personal.

Hian!

Sorry for encrossing on you thread.

I asked an innocent question too. Ok, sorry for misunderstanding you and making you misunderstand me

uj_sizzle: This is for those in love or who have been in love with someone. I'm just curious

Do you ever find yourself thinking even for a minute of someone else while you're in a relationship? And i mean 'impure thoughts' and not really wanting to have a relationship with them.
Do you feel guilt(like you're cheating) whenever this happens?
Or is it absolutely normal for this to happen?


P.S I understand this can be tricky esp if you have a relationship with a nairalander, but i still need your responses...plzzzzzzzz *puppy face*

YES, like all the time. Its not my fault Scarlet Johannson is soooooo gorgeous.

Briareos:


YES, like all the time. Its not my fault Scarlet Johannson is soooooo gorgeous.

lmao

And they say guys cheat more...smh

Hezron Lorraine: I don't think of anyone else.Probably because I don't seem to get vibes from someone else as awesome as my partner.But I've come in contact with people who have thoughts towards someone else and not their partner when they're together.There shouldn't be a sense of guilt just that it's normal to be human.Only thing is it isn't appropriate to continually give into such thoughts.it can be likened to cheating.As time flies,you need to find ways of getting rid of the thoughts,the more you hang on them,there are chances you'll lose the passion and love for your partner.

Well said.

uj_sizzle:
I asked an innocent question too. Ok, sorry for misunderstanding you and making you misunderstand me

Fine. If you say so. No hard feelings. Are we good?