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ReineViolet:

I would follow this advice only on one condition: I've got to be 1000% sure I won't be turn down either stylishly or bluntly or I am not told 'I gbadun you too' out of pity.

Lol after girls will say that guys are too proud,just to ask out one guy and you are this self conscious. Even the most handsome guys suffer rejection on a daily yet it has no effect on our self esteem.

One advice to the ladies that want to try hunting for a change,keep in mind that it is a game of numbers if Mr. A doesn't like you,Mr. H might like you. But you need to keep on hunting from B to H. Its nothing personal

ladies and gents the same thing applys if a guy or a lady u are interested on are not showing concern hmmmmmmmmmmmm to me just LET GO.before u enter abeg abeg relationship.

Raymondenyi: OP; I'll advice you, to find a way to bring him close as a friend! Mek him ur friend (platonic) do not tell him anything! Just under d friendship level, allow it dat way; If he really feels sumthing 4 you he 'kll let it loose . Buh iF he doesn't he won't say nothing, n at dat point I'll advice u to let it stay dat way.

The thing with men, is If we cee wat we like we go 4 it (for d bold ones) for the not so bold, they look for a common ground where they can strt 4rm or somehw get to you...

There re also cases, when d guy is not just interested in U, no matter wat u do (perhaps U re not up to his tatse) in such cases, If U go on to tell him wat u feel, he could use it against yu, or try to get along out of pity, or worst still distance himself 4rm yu n kill ur ego!!!
So I'll advice u to follow wat I have written above! N if he doesn't respond, just know he 's truely not interested in you! N carry on ; U'll find some1 4 yu soonest...

Nice one dear. God bless you.

swhiss: mtcheew!

Nothing can be so dissappointing and disheartening as that!

It's like waiting for a ship in an Airport

my brother, u go old for there!

i guess u mean someone shld take a step b4 it to late if there shld b the case i wil make use of ur word

"Loving someone who doesn't love you". This thread has been derailed so much.

If I love u and u don't love me back then I'll have to sing the chorus; "I'm taking back my love, I'm taking back my loooove, I've given away 2much"

Ka chi foo!

I sincerely believe its beTter †̥σ walk away from someone who doesn't dig u than stick around and suffer the inevitable heartbreak because it'll βε̲̣ a one sided affair . . . However if u must go ahead try †̥σ be friends first so if u make a move and get turned down u'll remain friends . . . Who knows , while being friends u might find out u were not really into him/her as u thought

No biggi in askn a guy out, i once asked a guy out and today we are happily married.

ReineViolet:

Hey calm down . I speak for myself when I wrote that up there.

hmmm,i speak 4 myself? That grammar is enough to make a guy turn you down+chase you!

all am saying n this issue is this; always gather up the courage to ask for what u need, the least u can get is a 'no'. am talking from experience, u ll regret it later if u didnt. shikina

If you see the way ladies treat guys that they don't like, you'll have no pity for them when they bring topics like this.

Personally why will i put love on for a person that i'm not even sure loves me back? Does that not make me a fool? The topic title should be changed to lust or 'like'

I have learnt long ago, when I was 16, that whoever loves less has power over a relationship.#tested and trusted#

Mehn.. There's nothing sweeter than loving someone & being loved in return. If the reverse is the case **i don port oo**#in saka's voice

Nothing hurts more than being
DISAPPOINTED by the person you thought
would never hurt you. That person who
came into your life and promised never to
act like your EX, never to make you cry,
never to make you regret...That person who
promised to be your
everything with you
forever...
It really hurts that all those were lies to
soften your heart for that person to USE
you, to get what he or she wanted and
when it was done they moved on not
considering the pain you will go through,
the time you wasted and your energy…
Friends, always take your time and deeply
know someone, never rush to give in your
heart, take your time and think about that
person's intention of loving you, and always be
slow in trusting
someone.

Richiy: I have learnt long ago, when I was 16, that whoever loves less has power over a relationship.#tested and trusted#

Really. Hmm, dat means it's been long u've been in dis business o

ogugua88: Depending on the level of gbadun, it can be a terrible feeling, to the point that you even start doubting your own worth. You have to keep your head up though. Confidence can take you far.

You can easily ask a guy out or tell him your feelings, instead of waiting for him. Some guys are too shy to ask out a woman. You doing so could be some relief to him. It may even make him like you more. You have nothing to lose.

hmmm confidence is the key word here

Dis one no suppoose b case. If yu r sure den just accept the person don't love u and move ahead. Just d same way u don't love some people that love u. Just move the Bleep on wit ur life.

Richiy: I have learnt long ago, when I was 16, that whoever loves less has power over a relationship.#tested and trusted#

yimu!!!lol

If the case were to be reversed, ending up with me being scared of asking her out. And when I gather courage and she declines...........

Am a victim of such, bt later got to knw the girl really love me too...by the time I got to realize, had already got stuck with someone...the feelings is still there, I love my new girlfriend, don't want to hurt her feelings too...am now caught in the middle of two angels...

mustaphagreens: hmmm,i speak 4 myself? That grammar is enough to make a guy turn you down+chase you!

So why turn me down when he wants me, right? We are both targeting the same place aren't we?

Owo Lee: Am a victim of such, bt later got to knw the girl really love me too...by the time I got to realize, had already got stuck with someone...the feelings is still there, I love my new girlfriend, don't want to hurt her feelings too...am now caught in the middle of two angels...

This way you'll get to heaven faster and you'll not to be scared of falling

Oh well I don't have a problem showing a guy I like that I'm into him and fortunately for me I've only liked a guy that hadn't asked me out that much only once.

I showed him I was into him and luckily, he also was into me and kissed me while we were talking one day, it turned out to be that he wanted to make sure I won't resist him before making his move, you could feel the passion from afar when we were together and I showed him I liked him because I could sense he felt the same way from the way he looked at me, his eyes told me.

So OP, you could try your luck, you never know .

sometimes body language does the magic,you don't have to say it out before the guy can grab the message u are passing to him,a sharp guy will understand what you want when he sees it

It can be painful n patethic..a lady once fell in love wth me but I never loved her..not an inch..she'l come over to my place,wash,clean do all sort of tinz but I'd best I cud do is to pity her..I ddnt love her..I tried to develop d affection but it never worked..I alws feel d guilt..scared of wat cud be of her I let her know dat I never loved her..my conscience pricks me often times...I eventually told her my mind..she went ahead to tell me dat even if I sud get married to sm1 else,I sud still keep her..funny..she got over it wt time n we parted ways..I 8 such feelings

Well well. If you've been doing the loving from a distance you need to let him know. Maybe not in an obvious manner but then you ladies know how you do it--subtle is always better. And then if he still doesn't like you, I've observed that sometimes in the dynamics of affection nd relationships, feelings can be quite fluid, changing from time to time. A person who may not like you now probably because they feel you don't measure up to their standards might later wonder how they managed let you slip. Just be yourself, love yourself and show how it's anyone's loss to miss out on you. Hopefully he'll come around and if he doesn't, life's too short to be sad and lovesick. You'll find another who'll like you for you.

Mindependent: Sorry to vent on here but don't you girls or guys just hate it when the person you gbadun doesn't feel the same, or maybe is in a relationship or even worse does not realize you feel that way or even exist!!!!

Arghhh the life of a woman

[/b]Men have it way easier to just be able to walk upto a lady and be like hey you, my room tonight. Don't be late[b] and not get judged

Hilarious.

freecocoa: Oh well I don't have a problem showing a guy I like that I'm into him and fortunately for me I've only liked a guy that hadn't asked me out that much only once.

I showed him I was into him and luckily, he also was into me and kissed me while we were talking one day, it turned out to be that he wanted to make sure I won't resist him before making his move, you could feel the passion from afar when we were together and I showed him I liked him because I could sense he felt the same way from the way he looked at me, his eyes told me.

So OP, you could try your luck, you never know .

what is the title of this nolly-wood movie?just kidding

What I notice in this page is that the number of female viewing this topic is more than normal topics. Ladies are soft minded when it comes to love. Not abusing oooo, just observing.

smoosh15: It sometimes happen when you're attached to him/her for some reasons. But i wonder how a female can make herself noticed abd given equal attention without being seen or used as "Cheap".

. . . It solely depends on how the lady carries herself, and how mature the guy is.

Stop pitying yourself. Whoever is meant to be with you will not cause you all this unnecessary heartache.
Crush, infatuation, love, like etc are not the same thing. Try and look up what each stand for OK. You sound like a pretty little angel, hope you meet someone special to take care of you. Be yourself, leave the past behind you and move on.