I HAVE BEEN PUZZLED BY THE NUMBER OF PEOPLE OF NAIRALAND WHO COMPLAIN ABOUT THEIR BREAKUPS AND THE FACT THAT, IT DOESNT SEEM LIKE THEY SAW ANY SIGNS BEFORE THEIR BREAK-UP ( MEANING THEY DIDNT SEE IT COMING ).

THERE IS NO MAN/WOMAN THAT WAKES UP IN THE MORNING AND DECIDES TO LEAVE HIS OR HER PARTNER. THERE ARE THINGS THAT HAPPEN FOR AN EXTENDED PERIOD OF TIME BEFORE THE BREAK- UP THAT COULD RING A BELL THAT THINGS ARE NOT HUNKY DOORY.
I BELIEVE THAT BEFORE ANY BREAKUP THERE ARE SOMETHINGS THAT ANY MAN/ WOMAN WOULD DO THAT WILL DEFINITELY INDICATE THAT YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS HEADING TO ''SPLITVILLE''

PERSONALLY, THAT WAS ABOUT 3 YRS AGO BEFORE I BROKE UP WITH HIM I DISPLAYED THE FOLLOWING BEHAVIOURS:
STARTED EXCUSING MYSELF FROM FAMILY RELATED FUNCTIONS
I STOPPED DISHING OUT THE ........
LESS PHONE CALLS
EASILY IRRITATED

THERE IS NO MANUAL THAT IS GIVEN TO ANY OF US TO REMIND US OF THE SIGNS WHEN THE TIME COMES.
CAN WE SHARE WITH EACH OTHER SO THAT WE CAN REDUCE THESE HEARTACHES

WHAT THINGS DID YOU DO/ WHAT BEHAVIORS DID YOU SUDDENLY HAVE / WHAT BEHAVIORS DID HE/ SHE SUDDENLY DISPLAY BEFORE YOUR SPLIT ??


PLEASE GUYS NO JUDGING, JUST HONEST ANSWERS

Sometime, there is no sign whatsoever.
You might just suddenly decide you can't take anymore of the lies, insincerity, nagging, cheating, etc. Especially if you've been warning them that you're not gonna take anymore of it, should it happen again.

Extom: Sometime, there is no sign whatsoever.
You might just suddenly decide you can't take anymore of the lies, insincerity, nagging, cheating, etc. Especially if you've been warning them that you're not gonna take anymore of it, should it happen again.

When you keep on issuing warning is also a sign that you heading towards that door. If I keep hearing the same threats I wont take it lightly

I honesty think that there are always signs, but we keep on ignoring them. What I highlighted above is one of the red flags.

If she keeps repeating an act such as not picking my calls(it must not b all d time) and wont call back and if i complain she says am nagging to me it heads for breakup so that she can have free time.

Op
Why are u shouting?
That was so so loud
*frowns*

Dyt: Op
Why are u shouting?
That was so so loud
*frowns*

Sugar, I understand that alot of people think that always capital letters means shouting. As you could see the emoticons were the opposite.

Apologies, I was not shouting. Never again

eddy spice: If she keeps repeating an act such as not picking my calls(it must not b all d time) and wont call back and if i complain she says am nagging to me it heads for breakup so that she can have free time.

Yes, thats very true. Especially if it was never like that in the beginning. Definitely your exit form is being processed.

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190-the-clown:
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190 the clown, you've started with your trolling.

Look for your rock nah and go spend your time under it

chineloSA:



Yes, thats very true. Especially if it was never like that in the beginning. Definitely your exit form is being processed.

infact thats what am going through and am eagar to walk away as quickly as possible because i cant see myself rendering appology for a candid observation in the sudden change in her attitude

Pathetic