well, its still love. but circumstances happen. But no matter how much one grows out of love, u still care bout ur past love.

There is a difference btw, ordinary love nd true love. Dats why there is a diffrence btw ur first nd ur hubby. U loved dem both, but the love u have for ur hubby, is sacrificial. nd full of hurt.

The exact opposite of true love is hate, cuz dats how deep emotions run, u loved so much u now have d opposite reaction. Hate is a very deep negative emotion.

I fail to understand, ToyM28. How can love be full of hurt?

If love is reciprocal, where does hurt come into the equation?

Bhola:

Love and pain do not go together. I totally disagree. If you are in a relationship and you are sad and u feel pain, get the h**l out. Pain is a sign that something is not right. That being said, does not mean unhappy times will not come, it will surely come, because we are human, but if u truly love the person, u'll forgive. but that does not mean, u have to keep forgiving. If it is a continuous offence, then you have to draw the line.

That sounds a bit more sensible to me.

I like the way u reason, especially the proverbs on ur introduction thread, keep up the good work.

Ok, Genial, then I can definitely post on ur thread.  

So, ToyM, what u saying is that, you have to sacrifice for love, even if the guy is about to send u to early grave? I think, people marry for the wrong reasons, and then they have to stay with the guy. True love means, u dont have to sacrifice. U give willing. Keyword, is willing!

Bhola:

Genial, u can't pay me enough. U and diddy's combined.

Would you consider doing it as a charity?

How about love - can you not be paid with love?

Cuz, its full of deep deep emotions dat seem 2 be in full effect. Like i sed, true love is sacrifical. Egs of sacrificial is, maybe givvng up ur dream job 4 ur love, aborting ur babby cuz ur ove doesnt wnt. Thats all sacrifices dat hurt. But done out of love.

Now do u get?

@Bhola

Thank you. But my question still begs for an answer.

Sorry Toym, i hate to break it to u, that is not love. Living ur dream job? For what, who? Deep emotions Abort a baby


Ok, before I break out my counselling skills, how old are u, ToyM? I kinda like to know the age of who I am dealing with, cos that would help me in replying.

dont insult her cuz of what she said. just reply her wihtout her age. peace

ToyM28:

Cuz, its full of deep deep emotions that seem 2 be in full effect. Like i sed, true love is sacrifical. Egs of sacrificial is, maybe givvng up your dream job 4 your love, aborting your babby because your ove doesnt wnt. Thats all sacrifices that hurt. But done out of love.

Now do u get?

Ah! Curiouser and curiuoser!

Should true love not look out for the good of the other party? If I truly have love for you, would it not mean that I would consider your own good, ahead of my own inconvenience?

My bad, Genial. Which of all ur questions? The getting paid, the age, the love part?

I can't be paid in love, cos I love greens,  

Age, I am btw 25-29, sorry, cant tell u the exact age. I am 28.

Love can not be bought, but it does help, if he got some money, lol. I ain't messing with no,

My age is non of ur biz BHOLA. But if u've ever bn in real love, den u'll know wat i mean. My examples might ve bn far fetched, but whether u use simpler examples or not, its still how it works.

Bhola:

My bad, Genial. Which of all your questions? The getting paid, the age, the love part?

I can't be paid in love, because I love greens,  

_*sighs*

So much for the benefits of love. . . .

Diddy, I am not in the game of insult. And what I typed is not insulting. It is just a question, cos like i said, true love is interpreted differently. Peace to u too.

Hope u ain't getting much rain in NJ, diddy?

_{*Pours some cold water over Diddy, Bhola and ToyM28*}

Now, can the education continue?

@bhola

d rain is much. i hate it. but it was sunny today. thanks for asking.

Definitely, Toy, ur age aint my business. You don't even have to reply my post.

Genial, like I said, I am too old for a whole lotta things.

P.S: Toy, I will never, ever do anything I dont want to do, all in the name of love. And yes, I happen to know what true love is and I am very loved.

Bhola:

And yes, I happen to know what true love is and I am very loved.

I take it that you're not in short supply of love then. Apart from greens, what other modes of payment do you accept?

Hmmmm, I do appreciate good conversations. I definitely detest stupidity. Mode of payment, hmmm, thinking, I think that's abt it. Oh, i rememeber something, respect. That is a mode of payment, that I can take anytime, cos I do my share of respecting others.

Diddy, I might take some of ur rain. it is hot, hot, hot. mehn, i hate heat. i love the rain, but not like it has been hammering NY and u guys.

It's hot here too

@Bhola

OK then. Respect it is.

I respect you.

Now, can you please answer these questions? Thank you in advance.

Are there different kinds of love? If there are, which is the best kind of love?

When people say they are looking for 'true love', does it mean that there is false love? How is that possible?

@bhola, i think respect is essential in a relationship.



u can come and take some of our rain please. i have some freinds at TX and dey are cry fowl for me. they said they are roasting like plaintain there. funny though. lol

j-girl:

It's hot here too

Where is here?

Louisiana - it is like in its 80, 90s - so hot

j-girl:

Louisiana - it is like in its 80, 90s - so hot

That would be in fahrenheits, I presume.

Otherwise you wouldn't be at your computer!

@diddy4dt,
where have u been?

yeah, fahrenheits - if not i would have been roasted alive

Pls don't roast alive.
We need u on Nairaland.

Let me know about your experiences with love.

Is love unconditional?

@hucss
i have been here. didnt have your, i would have hit u up. but u can hit me up on yahoo. just click my yahoo stuff and hit me up.

Are there different kinds of love? If there are, which is the best kind of love?

When people say they are looking for 'true love', does it mean that there is false love? How is that possible?

Different kinds of love? Definitely. You can't tell me the kind of love u have for ur parents, is the same that u have for ur future wife. The best kind of love, is the love where u don't have to change anything about the person or about urself, in order to love the person.

Looking for true love. Yes there is false love. That is the one I term "Stupid love". True love looks out for the other person, false love, looks out for themself. It is all about me, me, me in false love. False love is when u have to attach somethg or a reason for loving the person e.g. money and things like that.

I hope I kinda answered your questions. I guess it is much more easier to say all these, than type them.

J-girl, Louisiana, what part are u? Got friends that attend LSU.

hi hucarson, lol.
I am not in Baton rouge, that is where LSU is, i am in New Orleans