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Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:16pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
jennykadry: Continuation: I am not against people test driving however, don't discourage people that chose not to engage in it. Sexual compartibility or not, it's their choice.I am 100% against it. The only reason that I don't go on the offensive is that I understand human weakness. I meant my wedding night to be my first, but I didn't make it. I understand the temptation and the difficulty. But I will not go easy on anyone who tries to pass off sexxual promiscuity as something right and worthy of social acceptance. It is wrong and morally reprehensible. It is one of the three things that stands this world on its head today. So even though I'm always defending, I take no prisoners here. And I wish Christians will stop this "to each his own" nonsense. 5 Likes |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:16pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
Ihedinobi: Rofl @ mechanical engineering you prefer electrical/electronics |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by coogar: 4:17pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
salsera: both coogar n ihedinobi (no be today) get sense dealing with monotony is easy. this is why everyone should marry their best friend. people you share a lot of things in common with. |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:24pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
Ihedinobi: If people want totest drive what is my business ni? I remember osisi and I disagreed slightly on this a few months ago, the only question I kept asking was "is the bible in support of it or not"...there is no big or small sin, so a virgin might have committed sins without her knowing and might not be as "clear" in the eyes of God than a test driver. David was a man after Gods heart although he got his own portion, Solomon was blessed with so much wisdom even with his straying pen!s. If people cannot afford to wait, it's their business to do tiro not do it... This race we run in life is an individual race , I am running my own race. The bible said , marriage is honorable bed undefiled... My question a few months ago was why are we selective readers? We read what we wanno hear and toss the ones we don't want. |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:27pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
Baby mama:Madam, na wa for you o. I'm a proud Igbo man, it's a double major in water engineering and gynaecology or better. Nothing less. |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by EfemenaXY: 4:28pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
coogar: She isn't 'refusing' to 'fix' her low libido and neither is the man being made to wait. Even Dayo's confirmed that they haven't tried out the sex therapy route, probably out of ignorance on both parts. That notwithstanding, the man is supposed to be the head of his home. The captain of his ship. So without much ado, he should put his hands down in his pants, find his balls and make a decision to sort this out properly. coogar: that's a risk he will have to live with. big rewards come with big risks. You call dicing with death (STDs / STIs) a risk worth taking for big rewards? Like seriously? How is catching HIV a risk worth taking? Or any other STD nasties out there that might affect their fertility? You know that was an irresponsible response of yours. coogar: he is getting sex without having to ask for it all the time. the sëx keeps him safe. it means less argument in the house with his wife. he's less stressed & more focused. he can sleep easy at night without having to upset his wife with sex demands. Safe from what? Seems you've never heard of wives dishing out jungle justice to their husbands wandering third leg. coogar: for better for worse does not cover sex. sex is his conjugal rights. he's being denied his rights if the wife is too frigid. he has 2 options, leave the wife or seek sex outside the marriage. the latter is the easier route. if he leaves the wife the romantics would quickly bring out how much she's invested in the man. You make it sound as though they had a shotgun marriage. He wasn't a sacrificial lamb being led to the alter. It was his decision to get married to her and I bet you, he probably proposed to her and not the other way round. And yes, the for better for worse should cover problem, every issue, every bump on the road called marriage. They are united as one so their problems should be shared. It's no longer 'her' problem or 'his' problem but their problem. Good you've acknowledged he's taken the easier route. I think it's more than that. Let's just say he's taken the coward's way out. Doesn't the fact that the poor woman cried when confronted by him and even offered herself at that point, tell you that she too isn't happy about the situation and would like for it to be resolved? And you honestly think him flapping his thing at every moving skirt is the solution to their problems? coogar: that's exactly what she would do...... Be that as it may, two wrongs never make a right. |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:29pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
Let me give a very close example. Very very close. A guy I know very well once he taste drives, he will just dislike u for no reason. At first we were worried why he has not yet settled down. Ladies were flocking, he continues to test drive( he is all u want in a man times two). It was his nebor(a lady) maybe a psychologist that interrogated him well and found out that he will naturally hate anybody he taste drives. Though he might be telling them sweet nothings just for them to open but inside him, he cannot settle down with those chicks. So one day, a lady friend to that his nebor visited and this guy declared interest. The lady has interest too but this their friend told the lady not to agree to test driving. Today they have three kids. Even after the bride price, she didn't agree till the weddin ban was announced. I can still remember how mad he was the night after d bride price day the wife slept with the sis. He said , I will do my wedding soon, let me c who will stop me again. This is a family member story but we can deduct a lot from it. |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by EfemenaXY: 4:35pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
jennykadry: Jenny, I'm curious. What's your definition of a virgin? Ihedinobi: Yeah, yeah... After tasting, eating and digesting the apple of seduction, you scream foul? Oh please! You'll have a better leg to stand on if you'd never touched it in the first place. You were supposed to 'pluck' out your eyes least they cause you to SIN. So why didn't you? 1 Like |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:38pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
jennykadry:This sounds like it will make an interesting discussion but it can't be on this thread. And I'm trying to get off NL right now so we can only take it on at full steam later. For now and to set the mood, I have the following to say: 1. It's a common fallacy today that all sins are equal. Common, I said, yes, but still a fallacy. The Bible also spoke of sins that are unto death (and even described an example of one such) and sins not unto death. It also talks of a sin that cannot be forgiven. If all sins are equal, all sins should have the same outworking and be treated the same way. 2. Everything about today's world is the Christian's business. This whole world has been bought with very.precious blood. And the Buyer committed its welfare to us. It is a terrible thing to cast off that responsibility. 3. David and Solomon were not blessed either for their sin or in spite of it. It is because of mercy that we are not consumed. Did you notice how David repented? Did you notice that Solomon returned to God after his foolishness? Did you notice what their sin brought? 4. That some people do not receive the recompense of their evil here on earth does not mean that their evil is not evil but only some small difference of opinion. |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:38pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
I know the angle you are coming from efe and I know where it's headed but unfortunately I'm not headed that way right now ......no form of intimacy is my definition of a virgin. It's late here, una good night |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by EfemenaXY: 4:41pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
jennykadry: I know the angle you are coming from efe and I know where it's headed but unfortunately I'm not headed that way right now ......no form of intimacy is my definition of a virgin. Lol! See Ojoro! Okay then, good night babes |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by coogar: 4:43pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
Efemena_xy: what's sex therapy going to achieve? therapy can't conjure up sëxual compatibility. they will just waste money listening to nonsense. she probably finds the man unattractive when he takes his clothes off. it could be body odour, it could be anything. maybe dayo's friend is even uncircumcised - dayo has a lot of weird friends so it's a possibility. what can therapy do to such problems? test-drive - they won't listen until they use their own hands to screw up their marriage.
christ! that was a typo - i was meant to say the sex keeps him sane
i'm sure he's assessed the risks before going for it. surely, he cannot be that morönic to choose an option where the risks outweigh the rewards. he didn't get to where he is today by being stüpid.
his decision to get married to her or not, they both failed to do the needful - they did not test drive. which is worse? premarital sex or infidelity/divorce? i am sure the wife would wish she had test-driven when she finds out her hubby has been eaten forbidden agbalumos
coward's way? you think cheating on one's spouse is easy? jeeeeez - it requires loads of efforts. i can't even start listing what it entails.
which sane man would want pity sex? not me!!!! only räpists would make love to a woman with tears in her eyes. nothing irritates me more than a woman that is forcing herself to give sëx. if she's not willing, she should zip up.
one wrong won't make a right too. |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:44pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
zinnyy: Thanks Babymama for this great thread, I read this again and felt very sad for you It would destroy me emotionally to have my man compare me to another woman I am not too happy about what you tell me about this guy I doubt if I could ever love a man that tells me to my face that he married me for the spiritual In other words he is not attracted whatsoever to me I would feel 419ed,maggard,mugued,, deceived,conned ,used and abused He needs to do the work to remedy this marriage not you because I don't know how to tell a woman to make a man love her when he never did and tells you that He loves fair skinned women but married you? Unbelievable!! This is emotional abuse my dear That man doesn't care a thing about you He has said everything that needs to be said He is not attracted to you He Doesn't like being with you Perhaps doesn't even like taking you out to be seen with you There are other women out there he would rather you became like Nne you are in the wrong marriage Let me be blunt This is why I strongly recommend courtship and hate long distance " courtships" too Everywoman needs that period of discovery Do not marry anyone without getting to know him closely If I were you,I would open my eyes and find a man that loves me ,file for a divorce and leave him I can never beg a man to love me Never!! |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:46pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
Efemena_xy: These days I am too lazy to type or argue, I do more of observing.you people like argument too much abeg Good night darling...go and enjoy hoodless more oooops I meant go and sin no more |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:47pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
Efemena_xy: Yeah, yeah...Efe, you wan use laff kill me, abi? If I didn't have experience, however immoral, you would accuse me of being idealistic and impractical. Now that I do, I'm not worthy to preach. LOL! Seriously you need to see how I'm laughing here. Temptation is real and everybody faces it one way or another. Some fall and recover from their failure. Some fall and refuse to accept their failure and rather than recover let it claim their soul. Yet others do not fall at all. I fell, Efe. Bit I didn't stay down. I'm still in the fight and I don't plan on losing it. Now that's reality, not idealism And I'm in the very best position. I know the taste of failure as many do. I know the insides of weakness and the allure to yield. But I also know the strength to say No. I'm right where I ought to be. Besides, everybody knows, tasting it once does not make you tired of it So it's not like I've had my fun and wanna deny others. |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:49pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
Baby mama: Please include contraception to your advise ASAP. that girl should not make the mistake of falling pregnant. I am just seeing her post cos you quoted it and damnation I am feeling sleepy |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:49pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
jennykadry: I know the angle you are coming from efe and I know where it's headed but unfortunately I'm not headed that way right now ......no form of intimacy is my definition of a virgin.Good night o |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:51pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
jennykadry: Gbam! The marriage is only 8 months,she could get it annulled This was no marriage |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:52pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
Ihedinobi: Una good night, let me go and eat the allowable apple. This is Xmas period ....the period of baby making, the period were kpekus is experimented to its fullest capacity SAgamite, debosky oya lets go diaaaaa |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:52pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
So now at the 13th page the thread hits front page Hehehehe |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:53pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
jennykadry: |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by coogar: 4:54pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
Baby mama: this thread has reached front page..... damn, this is going to be a long day. however, annul the marriage? he might have said those things without really meaning it. jokingly or in anger. people say things they don't really mean. zinny can also start dressing the way her hubby wants her to be. wives should put in the effort. |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:55pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
Baby mama: So now at the 13th page the thread hits front pageYAAAAAYYYYY!!!! |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:55pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
Ihedinobi: The period exercising a man's weapon of mass destruction. The period yekinis all over the world are standing at attention saluting the late yardua |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:55pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
jennykadry: Night dear Ukwu Sara mbara na di ya nma |
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Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:56pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
Baby mama: That one no be marriage. She should just not fall preggers |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 4:59pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
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Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by carmelion(f): 4:59pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
Lord I thank you o for this delay/preparation for marital life. My eyes are really opening to a lot of things.So many mistakes I would have made if I had married earlier,clothed with naivity. I can't say I have known it all but but am much wiser now Thanks babymama,cc and efemena.ther guys too. |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 5:00pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
carmelion: Lord I thank you o for this delay/preparation for marital life. Many more stuff you will learn on your own when the time comes Glad the thread is helpful I hope Seun sef is reading |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by EfemenaXY: 5:01pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
coogar: I think there's more to those therapy sessions than the couple being talked at. I think they also do intensive, demonstration classes where the couples are made to explore and experiment with each other. I suspect they might even be encouraged to go the whole way. I watched (or read) something about those classes. The details elude me - not that I've ever been to one though. As per the rest of your response up there - it's just wack and I'm not going to reply it coogar: christ! Or maybe he's just been plain lucky so far - but one day, his luck will most certainly run out. coogar: his decision to get married to her or not, they both failed to do the needful - they did not test drive. which is worse? premarital sex or infidelity/divorce? i am sure the wife would wish she had test-driven when she finds out her hubby has been eaten forbidden agbalumos I'm not even that concerned about test driving or not. My stance is well known that I advocate it 101% My gripe here is what the man's doing to his wife with his frolicking about town. It's not fair to her and if he's not careful, that marriage of his will hit the rocks. No one's perfect, but from the gist we've been told about the couple, she is almost perfect for him except in the bedroom department. coogar: coward's way? you think cheating on one's spouse is easy? jeeeeez - it requires loads of efforts. i can't even start listing what it entails. All the more reason why he should take the lead and help themselves sort this out. Having a low libido isn't the crime of the century. coogar: one wrong won't make a right too. Agreed. |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by EfemenaXY: 5:04pm On Dec 14, 2013 |
Ihedinobi: Re: the bolded - yes, I can imagine. Baby mama: Indeed. Na to unfollow this thread remain. It's been nice chatting with you lot though. |
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