Popowaa: To each his own.There are some ppl once you become friends,they dont even look at you as a relationship material even if u have all the qualities they are looking for in their partner and some too get scared things might go wrong and they might loose you so they maintain the friendship and keep it strictly friendship so sometimes putting urself in the friends zone can be a bit dangerous while some too are comfortable with dating their friends so it differs from everyone.

Mynd_44:
You van always all out of the friendzone by making what you want known to the person and you want nothing else. Even in the process of being friends, you can drop subtle hints of what you want so the friendship is romantically inclined

Popowaa: I think making ur intention known from the initial begining is the best so that the person knws what you are in for from the word go.Dropping hints,not everyone might see the hints and also sometimes by the time you finish dropping the hints someone would have carried her away.

Mynd_44:
And how do you know you want to date a person without getting to know his/her character? I dont know about you but if I get in a relationship it anyone, I do it with the aim that she is a possible future partner, I dont have time to experiment neither do I date to fill some void so I like to know who I am getting with before I make any move

Popowaa: Same here but what i'm saying is let the person knw you are interested in her from the word go before you start with the frienship thing.Dating your friend doesnt guarantee a successful relationship cos friendship is way different from a relationship.

Mynd_44:
Which is why I said even from the start, you already make something known. You compliment romantically and do everything short of asking him/her out while you study the person.

Dating a friend is actually a lot easier than a stranger cos you know what and what not to expect

Popowaa: What to expect and what not to expect?Human beings are full of surprises and never assume you knw somebody enough cos you can cohabit with someone for many years and u might not know who the person really is.Dropping romantics compliments doesnt make ur intention known.And wait ooo,which one is romantic compliments?Examples pleaseeee

Mynd_44:
People can surprise you but you can get out most gray areas. But if a total strange rocks your boat, have fun.

Popowaa: examples of romatic compliments pleaseee

Mynd_44:
I am not romantic so how will I know?

Popowaa: Ermmmm,am i so suppose to believe that?

Mynd_44:
your choice

Mynd_44:
Which is why I said even from the start, you already make something known. You compliment romantically and do everything short of asking him/her out while you study the person.

Dating a friend is actually a lot easier than a stranger cos you know what and what not to expect

sweet-tease:

This will just push you deeper into the friend zone, feeding her ego so she can use d confidence on another dude.


Lik popowa said, dis is only to an extent and not even in all cases. A dude creating friendship cos he wants a relationship will be on his best behaviour, and if d gal realizes dis and wants the guy, she will do d same. The frndship thng works for neutral friends who fall in love not those psuedo friendship thng.

Mynd_44:
Well I guess you prefer to keep experimenting. Not my problem too.

Why be stuck there when if I ask her out and she says no, I can take to stepping?

Popowaa: I dont understand why yo think not dating a friend means experimenting

Mynd_44:
You have a friend who you know and you like and would hit it off with but would rather date another guy you dont know crap about.

Popowaa: I dont understand why yo think not dating a friend means experimenting

Mynd_44:
You have a friend who you know and you like and would hit it off with but would rather date another guy you dont know crap about.

sweet-tease:

You took dat ryt out of my mouth keypads.







Dats wat am saying, if we were neutral frnds at first and d feelings startd growing at a point, fine, i like dat; but starting a friendship cos of the feelings and hoping to know d person, 1. dats false friendshp dat will put both parties on their best behaviour.
2. Btw d fact dat you weren't friends doesn't mean you met him and agreed to date him same day.

Mynd_44:
1. If you see a guy you like and he walks up to you, although you might front a little but wont you be on you best behaviour so he does not walk away?. The best way to get to know a person is not to come with the idea of dating. It distorts everything and means you taking a jump without looking

2. What has been my point? You already know within you you wanna date her but you dont even try to hit it off but you get to know her first. A couple of dates, some talks to see how she thinks and reacts to some situations. Call me a control freak but I like knowing what I am getting it.

Well it is what I will do and why am I debating this with girls sef? It's not like you ask guys out. Even if you have, it would be a guy you are already friends with

sweet-tease:

1. Dat was never an option, meetn d guy and accepting a proposal on d same day. Who does dat?

2. This has actually deviated from d question of being friends first cos what you described is actually hitting it. You described the period between meeting and accepting or rejecting to start a relationshp, for some, it takes longer but d whole friendship thng is a totally different ballgame.



We are telling you want we want now, be there forming friendship

Mynd_44:
Do I look like I am with the bone head guys who come here to complain about not knowing what girls want?

If I do me and you say no, I walk away. I am timeless

sweet-tease:

Kai! Where is your funny bone? I said dat on a lighter note, wat i want isn't necessarily wat other gals want, we are talkn about wat works for diff individuals. You too serious jor