I knew him when he was in a room apartment and had no money but yet I stayed. Now he got a nice job,a new car and a newly furnished apartment and even building his own house but he doesn't part with money,doesn't care about who he calls his girl.

He doesn't take one shopping,outing unless you force him. Has cheated but yet I forgave him even when his friends told me all he has been doing behind me but now, I want to get anything I want from him and make sure things are not only done his way.

I make new hair,shop for nice cloths and all he does is to admire them,he gave me an unreasonable amount of money and I rejected it. Was I wrong to do that even thou I wasn't dating him because of his money but am tired of his stingy attitude. Can he ever change from been stingy?

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are you reserving the space for front page first to comment things?

Too much unnecessary info

You are his GF not his wife. You should be contented with whatever he gives since he is under no obligation to do so.

You looking good is for your own benefit not his so long as you are still a miss

Your type is kinda rare! You seem patient and stood with him in his trying periods and how does he make it up to you? The ball is your court.

Missmossy: Your type is kinda rare! You seem patient and stood with him in his trying periods and how does he make it up to you? The ball is your court.

Am patient because I don't want to put presure on him and feels he has a lot to do with his money but the situation has gotten out of hand.

jay bee: Too much unnecessary info

You are his GF not his wife. You should be contented with whatever he gives since he is under no obligation to do so.

You looking good is for your own benefit not his so long as you are still a miss

I understand your point of view but he is thinking of proposing and will soon come and see my people but am afraid on how I'll cope with his attitude.

if u want to be rich, pls get a job.

if u love the man, stop thinking obsessively about his pocket.

when he was broke, where u feeding him?

are u expecting ROI for being a good girl and staying by your man...remember the saying "no good deed goes unpunished"

besides why should a woman be compensated for doing what she's supposed to do?

are u aware that there are many women looking for a husband?

could it be that he is spending the money on shallams outside?

arcbabe: I understand your point of view but he is thinking of proposing and will soon come and see my people but am afraid on how I'll cope with his attitude.

How does one think about proposing?

If your main worry is none other than his stingy ways then i'm afraid you might just have to accept him that way.

My girlfriend called me stingy until when I married her,then I started spending money on her

Simple. His head is swelling now that his pocket is jingling.

It is one of 2 things: dump him or carry belle for him.

Before you call him stingy you need to know the answers to the following questions.

1: Do you know the amount he gives to his siblings?

2: Do you know the amount he gives to his parents?

3: Do you know the amount he gives to others that are not related to him?


A stingy man cannot be stingy to only you.

@op pictures

or

its a big fat smelling lie

Giving is a two way thingy. Relationship is about two people not one. Once one party is the one doing most of the giving, he or she feels some kinda pride and might end up demeaning the other partner.


In your scenario, I don't think you're wrong in rejecting his money. Maybe you are just fed up with his stinginess. You aint his wife but judging on how successful he is, he should care more, not only really through giving you Money but some certain gifts and you should buy him gifts from time to time. It goes both ways. Have a heart-to-heart talk with him. Let him know about your grouse with him and sort things out.

If i may ask, Is it the money or his heart-to-love-you that you are after? Cos i don't see any irrational actions he has taken.He is just being fastidious as i see it- That's his nature and if you can cope, fine- but if you can't-it's your call

" It's not easy to hustle as a man and come hit it" It is his money and he can spend it anyhow he deem fit" after all he is not your husband so to say-

kajole: @op pictures

or

its a big fat smelling lie

pictures of what! When he was giving me the money and I rejected it? You got me laughing really loud there

Donalð Genes: If i may ask, Is it the money or his heart-to-love-you that you are after? Cos i don't see any irrational actions he has taken.He is just being fastidious as i see it- That's his nature and if you can cope, fine- but if you can't-it's your call

" It's not easy to hustle as a man and come hit it" It is his money and he can spend it anyhow he deem fit" after all he is not your husband so to say-

if am after his money,I would have left him long ago.

What other advise do you want here!!!!
@Jaybee, has said it all.

Regards,

pDude: Simple. His head is swelling now that his pocket is jingling.

It is one of 2 things: dump him or carry belle for him.

I don't want to be pregnant outside wedlock. I have seen where people get pregnant for guys because they feel he will change. It worked for some but some got more than what they bargained for and became traped.

jay bee:
How does one think about proposing?

If your main worry is none other than his stingy ways then i'm afraid you might just have to accept him that way.

well he already thinks am his wife and asked when he should come and see my people but each time he brings the matter up,I change the topic. Am not after his money but he should atleast do little things to make me feel appreciated.

scribble: if u want to be rich, pls get a job.

if u love the man, stop thinking obsessively about his pocket.

when he was broke, where u feeding him?

are u expecting ROI for being a good girl and staying by your man...remember the saying "[b]no good deed goes unpunished"[/b]

besides why should a woman be compensated for doing what she's supposed to do?

are u aware that there are many women looking for a husband?

could it be that he is spending the money on shallams outside?

common that's too harsh on her

she just felt she stood by him when he was still hustling and since he bucks up..

he should give her some nice treatment!

Since the guy wants to propose atleast he should start showing some attitude

I think the poster is feeling unsecured like is this how this guy would be behaving after we get married I mean you have got cash and you don't want to spend even she's not demanding as prescribed

are you guys saying you don't spend for your babes? so because she's not your wife so you don't want to spend to make her happy atleast

you guys are bunch of hypocrites, I bet some of you have spent recklessly on babes!!!

ochon: Giving is a two way thingy. Relationship is about two people not one. Once one party is the one doing most of the giving, he or she feels some kinda pride and might end up demeaning the other partner.


In your scenario, I don't think you're wrong in rejecting his money. Maybe you are just fed up with his stinginess. You aint his wife but judging on how successful he is, he should care more, not only really through giving you Money but some certain gifts and you should buy him gifts from time to time. It goes both ways. Have a heart-to-heart talk with him. Let him know about your grouse with him and sort things out.

On point

jay bee: Too much unnecessary info

You are his GF not his wife. You should be contented with whatever he gives since he is under no obligation to do so.

You looking good is for your own benefit not his so long as you are still a miss

gbam.

You said he's developing his site? Have u considered maybe he's not really stingy and just putting all his money in the house project so u two can get married and move to d new house?

xtervaganza: You said he's developing his site? Have u considered maybe he's not really stingy and just putting all his money in the house project so u two can get married and move to d new house?

he has been like that even before he started building the house. Am not asking for too much,just a little show of love.

arcbabe: he has been like that even before he started building the house. Am not asking for too much,just a little show of love.

if u really love keep praying for him then.

And are you sure he loves you? U said he's cheated on u b4

If u really love him*

xtervaganza: if u really love keep praying for him then.

And are you sure he loves you? U said he's cheated on u b4

I caught him when he cheated. People where saying I have to forgive him since am not yet married to him and that he will change,he kept pleading and I forgave him.

arcbabe: well he already thinks am his wife and asked when he should come and see my people but each time he brings the matter up,I change the topic. Am not after his money but he should atleast do little things to make me feel appreciated.

Why? Don't you love him enough to settle down with him, or are you evaluating his said stingy attitude with money towards you? which in that case makes you more concerned with his money not how he treats you, not how you guys are compatible with each other or even if you truly love him and vice-versa .
Op no offence but i think you are more concerned about his Owoh, ask me why and i will show notable points from your first post.

Huh? How can he be ready 4 marriage wen he's nt ready 2 part with a little cash My advice 2 pple is alwaz tell ur partner what's troubling u about him/her bcz until u share it, it will keep bothering u.
Give him a test jor, cook up a story abt u needing a specific amt of money 4 sometin urgent, watch how he will react 2 it. If he gives u, gud; but if not, OYO when u guys get married. Project or no project, so wen u guys r married, u will be using feeding money 2 do project ba