Obiagu1: Guy, there's nothing you can do about the situation at the moment.
It's not her fault.

Since she fits into your model 'wife', the only thing you can do is to be patient, don't force or pressure her anymore, just remain friends.
Don't make her your priority either but remain close to her. Keep the communication open.
Let her enjoy her university life, I bet you, she'll break up with that dude someday, in a year or two.

You'll notice when she starts showing more interest in you.
If she ever tells you she has problem with the guy or they've broken up, don't wait, take advantage of the situation.

The truth is that, as she matures, she'll start thinking more about marriage and start weighing her options, which of course you are one.
If she feels she can't wait for the guy, she'll turn to you.

Be patient, at the same time, keep your eyes open for a substitute, she can't be the only girl for you.

Good luck!


May your fountain of wisdom never run dry. I salute you. Well said.

Nuzo':
Which kind mentality be this?

"I am working and comfortable thereby, the girl should fall for me and not her brokeazz school boyfriend".

You are Joker. Didn't you experience such in your school days where some girls would rather die for her school bf than date a supposedly rich dude in town?

No problem if you can wait for her, but I will advise you to move on.

Sometimes, when we meet certain people at some points in our lives, we get so afraid of loosing them to the extent of loosing our sense of judgment....only for us to realize later how our fear for nothing had made a mess of our lives.

Allow her enjoy her uni days.

Royal^^Pearl^^:
You say she is a good girl but she is cheating on her boyfriend with you If she can do that to her boyfriend that she really "loves". She can do it to you too one day. Love is not by force! If it"s not meant for you, let it go.

proficienthand:


I have careful read all shapes of opinions on this matter. But before I take my final decision, it would be necessary to provide additional clarifications on this matter.

1. I was also a school boy and had a girlfriend in school who got married to an already established working while I was still in youth service.

2. As for the girl not loving me, it may not be entirely true. She said she can't just love me overnight and she is not the pretentious type. She makes no demands from me. Whatever I have given or done for her so far was out of my free will and volition.

3. In one of our quarrels/, she once said rather than always complain about the other school boy, it would be better to concentrate effort at winning her over. (She asked, was I thinking it would be easy for me to come in and just win her over just like that? considering the fact that she may be skeptical that I might use and dump her). But that is far from my intention.

4. I sent her a mail asking her to be open, honest and sincere if I represent her ideal husband in the future and she confirmed in the positive with strong conviction.

5. Don't forget I said in my original post that I told her I want to be introduced to her parents but she said I should wait until she gets to 3rd year in school. Will she say this if she is not interested? Am not concluding, I want your opinion on this. She already mentioned to her Mum she has this friend that works with (The name of my organisation). Her Mum knows about me but I want to meet them in person.

6. It is not as if I am fully set to even get married in the next 1 year but I think by 2015, I would have met all the pre-conditions and targets and goals I set for myself to achieve before getting married. Ironically, that time coincides with when she said I could be introduced to her parents.

7. I think I have been somewhat too hard on her. I am very possessive and have this domineering spirit. It could be that my expectations are high and not well managed. I stand to be corrected.

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