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Re: I'm Dating My Friend's Sister But He Doesn't Know. by NobleG1(m): 5:06pm On Dec 16, 2013
lasunray: No be person go still marry her ni?
So it musnt be his friend?
anyway, I had a neighbour in School that was dating his friend's sister and his friend knew about it. He even calls her his fiancee.

If you knew it's ok, why hide it from your friend?

Two of my close friends married my sisters. Both of them told me they admire my sisters before they even started hooking up with my sisters (I knew because I was very protective of sisters and monitored what happened around them).

I knew they liked my sisters before they opened up to me. I encouraged them to go ahead if their hearts are truly in. I don't have idiots as friends. I've and maintain very good friends I would like to have as brother-in-laws. What's better than seeing your sister in friendship with a man you know very well and who also happen to be your close friend? And they ended up marrying my sisters.

OP, you're a terrible "friend". In fact, you're very unworthy to be called a friend to anyone. You should go away and bury your head in the sand in shame!

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Re: I'm Dating My Friend's Sister But He Doesn't Know. by lasunray(m): 6:21pm On Dec 16, 2013
Carsonv: The fact you're keeping it secret makes your intention look more suspicious. Truth is, guys don't like their friends dating their sister because only one out of the numerous relationships we(guys) startup end in marriage. The rest is statistics and they don't want their sister to be the statistics that you(the friend) constantly remind them of whenever they see you. Guys love their women finally!

So do the needful. Talk to the guy about it.
But seriously, if you don't have intentions to take the relationship to marriage, just quit it. Cos when the relationship ends, it'll screw up all other relationships that exist between both families(both the office relationship between her dad and your mum, your friendship with the brother, the little likeness the sisters and mum have for you). Infact you'll screw everything up with the little act of indiscretion.

Do some soul-searching. Cos I deduce from your post that it seems the girl kind of initiated the relationship by first showing love and leaving you in a 'helpless' situation. Some girls are like that, they don't know the enormity of a relationship with their brother's friend.
I've no intentions of hurting her & I will inform him now
Re: I'm Dating My Friend's Sister But He Doesn't Know. by lasunray(m): 6:22pm On Dec 16, 2013
extremelygolden:
It depends on the age of the parties involved.

The best friend of my friend married his only sister.

They dated for years without their knowledge, until the
day the guy and his family came formally to seek my friend's sister's
hand in marriage.

Today, they are happily married with kids! And for the fact that he
married his best friend's younger sister, he treats her with the best
any man could give to his wife, at least, for his friend's sake.

And I pray the Op's own last too.
thanks for that piece
Re: I'm Dating My Friend's Sister But He Doesn't Know. by lasunray(m): 6:22pm On Dec 16, 2013
katsim: Make sure you love her from ur heart and try and marry her, but for God sake if you don`t love her please let her be, because if you hurt her your friend will hate you for life put your self on his shoes too so do the right thing
I've noted that.
Re: I'm Dating My Friend's Sister But He Doesn't Know. by lasunray(m): 6:23pm On Dec 16, 2013
katsim: It is not wrong to love but it is wrong for you to lust after her
I'm not lusting after her. if I am, I won't go for her in the first place.
Re: I'm Dating My Friend's Sister But He Doesn't Know. by Stanlyag(m): 7:07pm On Dec 16, 2013
u have already told ur friend.he may well be a nairalander like u
Re: I'm Dating My Friend's Sister But He Doesn't Know. by lasunray(m): 10:27am On Dec 17, 2013
Carsonv: The fact you're keeping it secret makes your intention look more suspicious. Truth is, guys don't like their friends dating their sister because only one out of the numerous relationships we(guys) startup end in marriage. The rest is statistics and they don't want their sister to be the statistics that you(the friend) constantly remind them of whenever they see you. Guys love their women finally!

So do the needful. Talk to the guy about it.
But seriously, if you don't have intentions to take the relationship to marriage, just quit it. Cos when the relationship ends, it'll screw up all other relationships that exist between both families(both the office relationship between her dad and your mum, your friendship with the brother, the little likeness the sisters and mum have for you). Infact you'll screw everything up with the little act of indiscretion.

Do some soul-searching. Cos I deduce from your post that it seems the girl kind of initiated the relationship by first showing love and leaving you in a 'helpless' situation. Some girls are like that, they don't know the enormity of a relationship with their brother's friend.

Thanks, Very Helpful!!!
Re: I'm Dating My Friend's Sister But He Doesn't Know. by lasunray(m): 8:10pm On Nov 21, 2014
NobleG1:


If you knew it's ok, why hide it from your friend?

Two of my close friends married my sisters. Both of them told me they admire my sisters before they even started hooking up with my sisters (I knew because I was very protective of sisters and monitored what happened around them).

I knew they liked my sisters before they opened up to me. I encouraged them to go ahead if their hearts are truly in. I don't have idiots as friends. I've and maintain very good friends I would like to have as brother-in-laws. What's better than seeing your sister in friendship with a man you know very well and who also happen to be your close friend? And they ended up marrying my sisters.

OP, you're a terrible "friend". In fact, you're very unworthy to be called a friend to anyone. You should go away and bury your head in the sand in shame!
c4sam:
missy he no make sense nah. Ω̴̩̩̩̥α big time bleeped up mehn. U̶̲̥̅̊ can be М̣̣̥̇̊Ɣ friend and still dating М̣̣̥̇̊Ɣ sister Oº°˚˚°ºo . ℓ̊ can only gree if U̶̲̥̅̊ first meet М̣̣̥̇̊Ɣ sista b4 me and can't be best friend.
NobleG1:


If you knew it's ok, why hide it from your friend?

Two of my close friends married my sisters. Both of them told me they admire my sisters before they even started hooking up with my sisters (I knew because I was very protective of sisters and monitored what happened around them).

I knew they liked my sisters before they opened up to me. I encouraged them to go ahead if their hearts are truly in. I don't have idiots as friends. I've and maintain very good friends I would like to have as brother-in-laws. What's better than seeing your sister in friendship with a man you know very well and who also happen to be your close friend? And they ended up marrying my sisters.

OP, you're a terrible "friend". In fact, you're very unworthy to be called a friend to anyone. You should go away and bury your head in the sand in shame!


FYI, We are now married

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Re: I'm Dating My Friend's Sister But He Doesn't Know. by gunpoint(m): 7:42pm On Dec 30, 2015
lasunray:
We ve gone Far (Me&her). I'm 2+yrs Older than her. She really loves me & I am very sure about that. She told her mum and Sister about me, but they kept it from the Men in the house (her dad & brother). Her dad is my mum's boss at work, I am usually scared of him but he likes me.
I and the girl could be in the sitting room in his presence & be chatting via fb or whatsapp.
When our other friend talks about my sister, I usually "kick" with a frown or I will just "blast" him; I hope I'm not selfish I doubt if I can allow a friend of mine date my sister but this relationship came suddenly and unexpected (Or is love planned?), I can't explain it. She once told me that her brother wouldn't like it if he knows.

What's your take? Is this awkward? Have you experienced this before?
So OP, you guys still together?
Re: I'm Dating My Friend's Sister But He Doesn't Know. by fF01(m): 11:27am On Feb 10, 2016
sanspiffy:
ammendment 3 on the #brocode if the sister is really hot she is no longer protected under article 19.... so the question..... is the sister hot?
Gbayi!

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