"Because I'm afraid to be alone," When asked what a woman is doing in an abusive and unloving.

I hear this time and time again from both men and women. Why are so many people afraid to be lonely? The underlying cause of the fear of being lonely is self abandonement. Imagine yourself as a baby being left alone -- a terrifying situation. As a tiny child, you cannot take care of yourself. You cannot get food to eat or water to drink. You cannot change your own diaper. Left alone long enough, you will die.

As an adult, this is certainly not the situation. However, if you have handed over to your partner the job of your physical and/or emotional well-being, it feels the same as being an abandoned child. This is may cause a fear of being alone and lonely. If you were to take full responsibility for yourself -- valuing yourself, listening to yourself, taking loving care of yourself physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually -- you might not fear being alone.

In your relationships, what do you do out of fear of being lonely? Do you try to control your partner or others with anger, blame, tears or compliance? Do you put up with intolerable or abusive behavior? Do you rationalize that, no matter how bad it is, it is better than being alone? Does it feel as if you can't go on if you end up alone and lonely?

The truth is that the only time we actually feel alone is when we abandon ourselves. We may feel lonely when we want to share love with another and there isn't anyone there, or the other person is closed to connection. But being lonely is a fact of life. It can occur within a relationship or without.You are never alone, and when you learn to connect deeply with your true self and your guidance, you will know you are never alone. It is this deep inner connection that takes away the fear of being alone.

Remember there is a big difference between the fear of being alone and the fear of being lonely. It sounds like in some relationships, people are lonely - even more lonely than being alone. Loneliness is a completely different issue. We feel alone when we are disconnected from ourselves. We feel lonely when we can't connect with the person we are with, or there is no one to connect with. If it sounds like you have made peace with being alone, but there may be some loneliness, as you want to share your life with another. I hope you find that person with whom you share your love, as for me, sharing love is the highest

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Nah! I'ld rada be ALONE and HAPPY dan attached and wishing to be alone!

Used to in an un loving relationship but not anymore