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5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by money121(m): 10:42pm On Aug 30, 2015
There are different kinds of abusive relationships. While some are physical, others can be emotional or mental; but whatever the case, it is still abuse.

Most abusive partners have become so good at manipulation that you, as the victim, might actually be doubting whether or not you are being abused. They can be so remorseful after certain acts that you even start to convince yourself that it is love, that they made a mistake, when, in fact, they are only taking advantage of your weakness.

The signs below point to the fact that you are in an abusive relationship


1. You fear your partner:What do you feel when your partner walks through the door? Do you feel excitement, love or do you feel afraid?

Love never means being afraid of your partner. If you catch yourself feeling fear or dread anytime you are around your partner, because you are terrified of what mood he/she will be in, then you are most likely in an abusive relationship.


2. You feel insecure:Walking on egg shells around your partner isn’t the best way to build a relationship. Abusive people get very good at making you feel insecure. They remind you every day that you are nothing, whether with their actions or their words.

You do not feel confident or amazing when you are with them, you feel little and incompetent. They make you feel like you are good for nothing. If this sounds like your relationship, then it is time to re-examine why you are with this person.


3. You are isolated from your family/friends:An abuser needs to have complete power and control over you, this would not be achieved if you are able to run to friends and family whenever issues come up. An abuser will make sure that you have little or no friends, and that you are isolated from your family.

They make you feel guilty whenever you bring up the fact that you want to be with other people. They make you think, whether through inflicting pain or manipulation, that they are all you need and no one else has your best interests at heart.


4. You feel controlled:If you are in a relationship where every single step you take is being scrutinized and controlled by your partner, then you might be with an abuser. If they control where you go, how you dress, what you eat, who you see, basically every single aspect of your life, then this is not the relationship to be in.

Every individual is different and being in a relationship means understanding and embracing your differences, not bending over backwards to do exactly what the other person wants every single time.


5. You feel depressed:Yes, your relationship will not be 100 percent happy every single minute of every day, but you should also not be feeling depressed.

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Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by doublewisdom: 10:45pm On Aug 30, 2015
She denies you intimacy when you need it the most! That is the worst form of abuse!

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Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by AmakaDNB(f): 10:45pm On Aug 30, 2015
Truth is, real-life relationships are much more complex than what's stated above.
My feeling insecure doesn't necessarily mean my partner is abusive and so is depression n other factors.
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Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by CUM4WHAT(m): 10:46pm On Aug 30, 2015
NONSENSE

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Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by olafum1(m): 10:46pm On Aug 30, 2015
What of if she always demands for money; and I have to prepare for trouble in times like that because I always say I don't have cool. Isn't that abusive?

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Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by chymystique(f): 11:13pm On Aug 30, 2015
Hi! Am Anastasia Steele comes to mind.



#50shades cool


And the most appalling thing is those gals in such relationship related cases above do say that the guy care about them very much thats why he acts such way.

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Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by Miracle4Sure: 11:17pm On Aug 30, 2015
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Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by powerfulsettingz: 10:22am On Aug 31, 2015
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Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by esmarcq(m): 10:23am On Aug 31, 2015
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Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by okooloyun1(m): 10:23am On Aug 31, 2015
6. You feel like a sex machine

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Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by SUGARBEE(f): 10:23am On Aug 31, 2015
Hmmmn ok

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Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by donsteady(m): 10:24am On Aug 31, 2015
I disagree with no5
Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by vizkiz: 10:25am On Aug 31, 2015
undecided

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Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by DiegoNakel(m): 10:25am On Aug 31, 2015
Physical and emotional torture !!?

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Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by freecocoa(f): 10:25am On Aug 31, 2015
I don't agree with no 5 and 2 totally.

Some people are just insecure no matter what you do, also someone being depressed doesn't have to be the fault of a partner, like some other issues besides relationship matters can't cause depression.

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Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by temitayoag(m): 10:25am On Aug 31, 2015
undisputed ...................
Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by Austindark(m): 10:25am On Aug 31, 2015
When she tells her friends that you are her brother

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Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by Tonnniey: 10:26am On Aug 31, 2015
Ok
Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by mentorandfriend(m): 10:26am On Aug 31, 2015
doublewisdom:
She denies you intimacy when you need it the most! That is the worst form of abuse!
undecided
Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by Nobody: 10:27am On Aug 31, 2015
ok
Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by Blazinraj01(f): 10:27am On Aug 31, 2015
This can also happen when you are not in love with who you are in a relationship with and you don't want to hurt their feelings. sad

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Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by Remilekun101: 10:27am On Aug 31, 2015
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Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by Remilekun101: 10:27am On Aug 31, 2015
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Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by Remilekun101: 10:27am On Aug 31, 2015
Remilekun101:
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Well i'm joking. I just dislike it when people beg for likes and share.... like if you agree, share if you disagree
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Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by muhammed10: 10:27am On Aug 31, 2015
Wow
Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by Lyzbet: 10:28am On Aug 31, 2015
Ok
Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by chi4ik4(m): 10:28am On Aug 31, 2015
the most Abuse is d abuse of parasitism. (selfishness)

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Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by mentorandfriend(m): 10:29am On Aug 31, 2015
SUGARBEE:
Hmmmn ok

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Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by Nobody: 10:29am On Aug 31, 2015
Re: 5 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship by seanjy4konji: 10:30am On Aug 31, 2015
i haff hear.

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