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Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by PureOhio(f): 9:08pm On Dec 30, 2013 |
bukatyne:Traditional benefits: He pays the bride price. He foots majority of the wedding bill He pays majority of the bills (school fees, rent/mortgage, miscellaneous ) He gives his wife monthly allowance When she gets violent, he can't do anything (she's only a woman, she's allowed to be emotional) Etc Most Nigerian feminists want these benefits (because it's cultural and it's biblical). Like Ewuro said, eating your cake and having it. Btw, if these are the benefits and things expected from a married man, in what area is equality needed ? 8 Likes |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by pickabeau1: 10:48pm On Dec 30, 2013 |
Whew...a Daniella is come to judgement Excellent work putting it into focus To the bolded... The ladies want to be feted but in the event the man loses his job they turn to a dominatrix and lose all respect for the man Nice one from ewuro...shoe shiner PureOhio: 1 Like |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by Nobody: 11:52pm On Dec 30, 2013 |
PureOhio: Wa shere jare. Thanks Bukky, Traditional benefit is tantamount to everything the holy books ordained i.e Responsibilities of the head of the household -Man. Core/ Real feminist find TB degrading likewise frown at big time. Rarely you see these group of extremist wallow in cultural doctrines. Their perception of traditional marriage is backwardness /archaic / sheep / slavery etc These group of women don't wanna be identified by their spouse - Mrs( if they have any). They want to be on their own. These group of women make jest and can't conceal how irritant they feel when we ( married Naija wives) nurture our hubby, they call us mumu and slaves. They see an act of sex/ making love degrading. So yes Men are just sperm donors and they'd rather have a donor if they chose to have kids. And that Bukky my friend is where you fall off the bracket too. So make a choice, are you truly a Christian ( without your Nigerian bible interpretation brouhaha) or a real Feminist or just wannabe? "They (wives) are garments for you, while you are garments for them." Having sought his bride in an honourable way, and married her in the manner prescribed by the Prophet- that is with public celebration but the minimum of fuss and ostentation- what are the Muslim husband’s duties? 1 Timothy 5:8 - But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. 1 Peter 3:7 ESV / 118 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered And so on. P.S Bukky I'm NOT a feminist, I don't see myself as one because I Loooove the sheep mentality of Yoruba Culture ( kneeling for my hubby, cooking for him etc) I just happen to share same attribute as the movement/ Act ( and I'm sure many married & successful career women posses this too) : having strong ambition, and raised to believe whatever a man can do , a woman can execute even polished and vibrantly . If that make me a feminist then hurray! 4 Likes |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by ypepe: 11:52pm On Dec 30, 2013 |
Jenny, nothing happened. Got tired of that handle a long time ago. Topic. Biolabee- sitting on d fence. Coogar-claiming male chauvanist. Sagamite- woman hater Dinachi-running away from his past Dante.....- looking for opportunity to dice Women TV- traditionalist to d core All of u guys hv one thing in common. U were dissapointed by women in ur lives either as a child or an adult. U all need psychological evaluation. Word r powerful. It bares our heart without our permission. Stop fighting women. Go and fight d demons tormenting u guys. (Oya, d bullets should start coming. By d time I log in again, I expect this to reach page 20. Happy bulleting ) 3 Likes |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by Nobody: 11:56pm On Dec 30, 2013 |
Hi YPP |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by Nobody: 1:10am On Dec 31, 2013 |
dinachi: I know that feminism is the greatest cause of divorces in Nigeria at the moment. One of the most recent being the marriage of Commediene Princess which just hit the rocks. Well a little digging has confirmed that none of the world renowned feminists have a great marriage. Most end up as Lesbians or Never married women or multiple divorces. What is wrong with feminism? THERE IS NO SUCCESSFULLY MARRIED FEMINIST OUT THERE. IT IS A CHOICE LADIES. IT IS EITHER YOU ARE MARRIED OR YOU ARE A FEMINIST. THE BALL IS IN YOUR COURT. Abeg Princess is not a Feminist. A woman who publicly said she thanks her husband for removing her shame when she got married is in no way a feminist . So Abeg no put that one under feminist issue. |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by Nobody: 1:14am On Dec 31, 2013 |
dinachi: Actually I know a lot of women that pay equal part of the bills in fact today we have a lot of women who are the major breadwinners in Nigeria so there is nothing wrong with them asking the men to also help on the home front. Things have changed with most women working for as many hours as their husbands so obviously the men have to pitch in at home. 1 Like |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by coogar: 1:39am On Dec 31, 2013 |
ypepe: buhahahaha..... disappointed in the women in our lives indeed. how can? you have to understand there are plenty of women who don't share in these feminist ideals. yes, they want women to be educated, take good jobs, work as many hours as they please, etc. however, when it comes to feminists fighting for the interest of women at the expense of the men then this group of sane women scream blue murder. so contrary to what you think, the women in my lives understand their roles while i understand mine with a mutual respect for each other. i am too blessed to shack up with a lethargic devilish feminazi. 1 Like |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by Nobody: 2:10am On Dec 31, 2013 |
And here another angle to these wannabe Nigerian feminists and the mixup : Contradicting Marital Duties with flexing as a Feminist which are two different things IMO. 1. When you marry a good man he will treat you well ( like a princess) and pitch in ( whatever that means) at home, it's a no brainer. Shine your eyes 2. As per bills, cut your coat your coat according to your size. You're not doing anybody a favor paying your bills. If you want good and quality education for your kids, e dey jaburata ( UI vs igbinedoen/ Corona vs Omolewa etc) the choice is yours. If you want Bugatti or Honda halloa , work for it. You wanna stay in VI/banana Iceland vs ketu/ ikorodu, work for it man and that includes you too( woman). And if you marry Adenuga well good for you and that's a bonus plus the shait that comes with alabodoism e.g Gov's wife. OYO oh SMH. If you see real feminist you go run 1 Like |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by Nobody: 2:33am On Dec 31, 2013 |
bukatyne: Are you not defeating your own arguement? The most hilarious thing is that each and everyone of these long winded anti-feminist clowns have defeated their own arguments at some point. That's why it's so tedious and pointless trying to reason with them. They simply can't get their own stories straight. And that's just evidence that they're grasping at straws and have no real point. It's all a mindless knee jerk reaction to the word "feminist". No need using the brain at all. Just bark, bark, bark like a mad dog whenever you see the word "feminist". 2 Likes |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by Nobody: 3:59am On Dec 31, 2013 |
Name calling. SMH Someone needs a quick SA. 3 Likes |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by bukatyne(f): 4:29am On Dec 31, 2013 |
Is this a general observation? If this is the traditional benefits then i laugh in spanish Yorubas return the bride price Yoruba brides cater for the guests You must be watching hollywood to think that most nigerian men usually do nothing when their wives get violent. It is actually new school. PureOhio: |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by bukatyne(f): 4:36am On Dec 31, 2013 |
Sorry, I have such a short memory to engage you in this discussion Most of us don't really read our Bibles anyways and the few that do, water it down with culture Nowhere in the Bible was specific roles given to any gender in marriage A man's headship has nothing to do with his providing; if he is the bread winner or tea winner, he is still the head Ewuro707: |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by PureOhio(f): 5:38am On Dec 31, 2013 |
bukatyne: Is this a general observation? If this is the traditional benefits then i laugh in spanishI hope you know Yorubas isn't equal to Nigeria. Plus, let's assume those aren't benefits, like you said. bukatyne: So, when the wives get violent, the husbands retaliate. Isn't that what feminists want? Equality? 5 Likes |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by pickabeau1: 5:46am On Dec 31, 2013 |
@ypp Lol at women bastardization....Nothing of the such.... There is No need for bashing or as you call it bullets moreover for conjectures of women torture There is no demon tormenting no one @ ewuro putting it excellently 3 Likes |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by Nobody: 6:11am On Dec 31, 2013 |
bukatyne: Sorry,You asked me a question and I responded. Go back and proofread your post history. Most of us don't really read our Bibles anyways and the few that do, water it down with culture Speak for yourself. Nowhere in the Bible was specific roles given to any gender in marriage Oh Really, Are you sure? I've heard it All Below is a short article of a Seasoned Feminist that was kicked out from the Feminist camp because of what You just said there in bolded. Read:
Gotta ask again Buka, are you a Feminist or just a shoe shiner? 6 Likes |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by Dantedasz(m): 6:22am On Dec 31, 2013 |
ypepe: Jenny, nothing happened. Got tired of that handle a long time ago. This is laughable to say the least, from somebody who deactivated her nairaland account yesterday and today is back with a masquerade of the same moniker. Baby all I gotta say to you is if your doing something be seen to stand for it consistently.Even paralysed people gotta stand for something sometimes. Peace. |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by Dantedasz(m): 6:38am On Dec 31, 2013 |
ileobatojo: Why don't you address the meat of the OP, instead of generally acting like a coward and skirting the issues by attacking people. 1.Show us ONE prominent feminist that had/has a successful marriage. OR 2.Show us ONE quote from a prominent feminist extolling the virtues/benefits of marriage. This is a simple enough task and does not require eight ( pages of pussyfooting. I rest my case, your honor, no more questions for this hostile witness..... 4 Likes |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by Dantedasz(m): 6:43am On Dec 31, 2013 |
PureOhio: Thank you for this post. |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by dinachi(m): 8:14am On Dec 31, 2013 |
@ Ewuro I can't conceal my admiration for your maturity and absolute mastery in this subject. I believe your husband is extremely lucky to have a woman like you, who is not afraid to say her mind. @ Bukatyne it is not yet late to retrace your steps and begin to move in the right direction....I have laboriously reproduced evil satanic quotes from leading world renowned feminists against the institution of marriage. I DID NOT SEE YOU CONDEMN THOSE STATEMENTS! I don't want to believe that you are in support of them! My challenge still stands. Yet none of you have been able to meet it! Produce ONE Notable feminist with a good marriage or if that fails produce ONE quote from a Notable feminist in support of the marriage institution. @ Ileobatojo or chillis or Chillisauce or Soul-glo whatever turned you into a misandrist, i hope one day after a visit to your shrink and proper medication you may be able to see the light, if not, happy trolling! @ pureOHio you are another smart woman that portends joy to your husband. You are a big asset. 4 Likes |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by dinachi(m): 8:16am On Dec 31, 2013 |
Dantedasz: Classic! I endorse this message. |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by SisiKill1: 8:36am On Dec 31, 2013 |
Dinachi and co....From your postings on this thread, it is safe to conclude you guys are anti-feminist, yes? May I ask a huge favor....please go read up on Masculism and the Masculist Movement. I'd love to read your thoughts on it. |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by Nobody: 8:44am On Dec 31, 2013 |
Dantedasz: This re*tarded question has been long asked and answered. Only someone who lacks common sense will believe that this daft question by the OP is a good one. Anyway, since you appear to have problems counting up to one, let's give it another shot. Perhaps practicing your counting has made you perfect. Meryl Streep. Married since 1978. Now here's a list of prominent and divorced non feminists: Katy Perry, Madonna, Demi Moore. Add to that list of divorced non feminists probably the majority of divorce in Nigeria both celebrity and non celebrity. Which leads me back to my question to the OP (or any of you other clowns that wants to answer) that you swooped in to rescue him from answering. Can you set off this "intellectual debate" by providing proof of your opening statement and the premise for your thread? dinachi: I know that feminism is the greatest cause of divorces in Nigeria at the moment. 2 Likes |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by Nobody: 8:51am On Dec 31, 2013 |
dinachi: Take a break from barking, and answer the question: Can you set off this "intellectual debate" by providing proof of your opening statement and the premise for your thread? dinachi: I know that feminism is the greatest cause of divorces in Nigeria at the moment. |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by tintingz(m): 9:21am On Dec 31, 2013 |
Dantedasz:LOL |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by Nobody: 9:30am On Dec 31, 2013 |
Sisi_Kill: Dinachi and co....From your postings on this thread, it is safe to conclude you guys are anti-feminist, yes?I wouldn't say I'm anti-feminism/feminist but I'm definitely decidedly anti-bitch, don't suffer feminist goons. As to masculism, it seems to be a response to the excesses of feminism, I'm cool with that. |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by Dantedasz(m): 9:44am On Dec 31, 2013 |
Sisi_Kill: Dinachi and co....From your postings on this thread, it is safe to conclude you guys are anti-feminist, yes? Why not open a thread about it instead of trying to derail this one. . 1 Like |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by Dantedasz(m): 9:47am On Dec 31, 2013 |
ileobatojo: English...speak English. 1 Like |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by Nobody: 9:50am On Dec 31, 2013 |
Dantedasz: Rotfl!! And these are the caliber of people the OP has backing him up? Bwahahaha! Like I said, empty barrel….. Next please!!! 2 Likes |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by tintingz(m): 9:52am On Dec 31, 2013 |
bukatyne: Is this a general observation? If this is the traditional benefits then i laugh in spanishReturning bride price was not what our fathers practiced, this was started by the new generation/recent yoruba people they say it is like selling their daughters off. It is not part of yoruba culture to return bride price by must but willingly. This is what my father once told me. Yoruba brides cater for the guestsagree but the groom family also contribute as well. |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by Dantedasz(m): 10:10am On Dec 31, 2013 |
ileobatojo: Ileobatojo, I thought you said I am the same person as the OP, a while ago? Suddenly I am one of his backers.LOL! The gibberish you posted made no sense to me that is why I am requesting you put it in English. The OPs request is simple enough but alas eight pages of cyberspace latter non of you paper weight fake feminists have been able to answer him properly. Posters like sisi kill and bukatyne have even made an intellectual effort even if flawed to explain their points logically. On the other hand you Ileobatojo have spent this thread as usual throwing insults like a coward and showing how much an intellectual Lilliputian you are. I suggest you read up on the subject of feminism properly and stop misrepresenting the movement. 4 Likes |
Re: Open Challenge! Show Me One Recent Notable Feminist Who Had A Great Marriage by coogar: 10:16am On Dec 31, 2013 |
Dantedasz: 1 Like |
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