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Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by whirlout: 2:51pm On Jan 09, 2014 |
AVECDEO: Same exact scenario as mine. Someone said perhaps I should talk to her parents which I did, her dad has pretty much pushed her to the side due to her behavior and her inability to listen to anyone. Her mother on the other hand who by the way is no longer married to her dad seems to be backing her on every action she takes. She's never came to visit her or my child and at this point, I already put my foot down that her mother is not welcomed in my house. I can't allow such devil in my household. Her siblings do come and one of her aunts as well but that's about it. By the way, are u in Nigeria or outside 'cos you know u do have options regrading your kids. I 'll tell you this, NEVER, EVER abandon your kids and don't use the excuse that she took your kids is why you are not seeing them. So much as you know where your kids are, go for them, try to spend time with them and go through the system if you need to to get access to them. You don't ever want your kids to resent you for what seems like their abandonment. Two long months and not seeing your kids is just that. 1 Like |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by Nobody: 4:07pm On Jan 09, 2014 |
whirlout: I gave you the advice earlier. Is she from the North or the South (SC, NC, GA, VA, KY, TN, LA, AL)? If she is from the North, then going to family may not work. However if she was born and raised in the South, you must get someone like her aunts to "talk some sense into her head". As for the mother, it is easy to win her over. Nigeria and the US are not much different when it comes to getting an in law to like you. Invite the mother over and say you want her to see the grandchildren. Take "Momma" shopping and tell her you don't know how any man could leave such a fine woman. If you spoil her mother with gifts and money, you will see how fast she turns her daughter around. 1 Like |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by whirlout: 5:01pm On Jan 09, 2014 |
FlowerPower: Thanks for your advice but at this point, I think everything I do is futile. Keep in mind I am not a young guy per se (in my late 30's) so I have exercised a lot of wisdom in this scenario all of which obviously cannot be delved into on here. She is Nigerian just like myself who now resides in the US but I think she is now more westernized than ever. Even I know 'akatas' that came out of the ghetto that have more manners than her and that is saying a lot. Her dad resides here in the US as well. Her mother lives in UK whom by the way, I have been over to visit and invited her over here. Now I would admit, my wife had been through some challenges in her childhood as she was raised by her grandparents while both her parents ran off to the western world to move on with their life but then again, she never lacked as she was raised by a wealthy grandparents in Nigeria before making her way here to the US. I have essentially being her rock and support system in every way imaginable for as long as I have known her and there has always been problems but I always dealt with them as normal marital problems but now that she seems ultra-comfortable, am I suppose to now be her doormat? Listen, when things start to get to this level of destruction, then one needs to start thinking about one's health and the untimely death that could result and I think that is why I can no longer take any chances. I have much to lose in a divorce especially here in America (boy how I wish I was in Nigeria), but u know what, "what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger". 1 Like |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by Nobody: 5:18pm On Jan 09, 2014 |
whirlout: As I am a black American woman myself, I take offense to the word "akata". However if you truly feel your life is in danger, then you have no choice but to leave. If you are a good man, you will surely find a good woman. Whatever you may have to pay in child support can be offset by finding a woman who makes a good salary also . |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by AVECDEO: 5:29pm On Jan 09, 2014 |
whirlout: To start with i live in Nigeria and My not giving her upkeep is a ploy to frustrate her and get her back home but she seem to have a thick skin in spite of the fact that i know she needs money... a few days a go she called me late in the night to remind me my that my daughter is resuming school(a new one i guess) and i reminded her that the little angel did not get to seat for her term exam just because of she can not control her uncalled for anger....my conclusion is that she doesn't seem to see the bigger picture that its about the kids and not her and i hope she realizes that promptly and get back to her senses. |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by GoodFaith: 5:37pm On Jan 09, 2014 |
whirlout: You cannot buy your happiness After the divorce you might have to get a part-time job Make sure you ask for a minimum of three nights with the kids If the kids are boys and over 10 year old If you think you have the time and resources to keep the kids in your house fight for it A man can teach a boy to be a man Things can get better, I am telling you I have Bleep up $2100 monthly You need to school yourself on child support law - you don't need a lawyer Talk to single mother American they will bring you to speed I have become stronger and better, I have more assets today Thank God for the bad mess housing market You have to make sacrifice to be victorious No sacrifice, No victory |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by whirlout: 7:18pm On Jan 09, 2014 |
GoodFaith: Trust me, I have learned a lot about child support law in this country and it is certainly stacked against the man. I already know potentially what I am going to have to pay out but at this point it is what it is. I 'll do all of that and certainly will come back stronger I believe. For the lady that advised that I might be able to offset that if I marry a good woman with good salary, I agree that is a good idea but after this, am not so sure if I will ever get married again. My focus would probably be more towards rebuilding wealth to make up for what I will be losing and taking care of my child. Though never say never, but right now, I am not interested and better believe that if I do go down the line in the future, I am going in with an iron clad prenup. Fu.c all the married for love nonsense. 2 Likes |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by GoodFaith: 8:29pm On Jan 09, 2014 |
whirlout:Listen dude You are talking to a dude that have paid very close to $1600 monthly for a child and paying other person $500 monthly To manage the payment for your child support you have to fight for three nights If you fail to get three nights or any night You are going to pay a lot The more nights you get, the less you pay So if you get three nights your payment will be 60% I understand that it is stack against men but you can fight it I work with an India dude that have his three daughters his ex wife is paying the child support the ex is white Prenup is very good and I have one today If you ever going to remarry open yourself to all women not just Nigerian women |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by whirlout: 8:44pm On Jan 09, 2014 |
GoodFaith: Point taken. Thanks for the advice. Am definitely not just going to lay down and not fight so I understand. By the way, I might have some questions down the line as I go through the process, so if u can, pls shoot me your email. |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by GoodFaith: 8:53pm On Jan 09, 2014 |
whirlout:Be very careful how you talking to other Nigerian They might past information back to her or cause you more problem |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by Saraha1(f): 10:04pm On Jan 09, 2014 |
AVECDEO:ha that is serious. It seems it getting more compicated than I thought. I pray the lord lead you , you must break that nonses tread is not your children portion. |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by gsalvatore: 11:39am On Jan 10, 2014 |
every family is not yout family...you have siblings whereas the Op is the only son,the Op parents are part of the family and the wife was married into that very family. 3days holiday cant be too much to ask for,atleast for the kid to know his roots. mind you the Op parents trained the Op and without the parents she wont marry the Op. look at it objectively not tru your family lens 1 Like |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by tensor77(m): 8:15pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Sarah a: Not every thing that we should be praying about,some time you need to take action .Ach the impetuousness of youth. First of all there is nothing like Heaven helps those who help themselves in the bible so be careful. Another thing marriage is one-chance as nobody is perfect. We are all work-in-progress in one way or the other. Finally this situation does not call for getting rid of anyone but careful repentance and discussion with the wife whereby her fears which may be irrational are calmed. 1 Like |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by khia: 10:29pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
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Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by mistywole: 10:48am On May 23, 2017 |
I have grown to understand that not everything can be solved thru diplomacy and gentility, somethings are better the hard way. I don't support violence but the day you try nonsense with mama lanre you go back home for lectures on a loving home. I will never tell you not to see ur parents but I will send you back to them to learn how to be a good wife. you won't even try nonsense with my mama nigba too ya were |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by MrCuteAndLoaded: 3:11am On Mar 24, 2021 |
opetu: Ye!!! You are dealing with the Devil Incarnate. The same thing happened to me where she tore my clothes. i gave the torn cloth to my divorce lawyer as exhibit and i won complete custody of my kids while divorcing her ass. They now visit my parents everyday day . She later came back kneeling down and begging while confessing that people gave her the wrong advice so u r right! She is receiving the wrong advice. I chased her away with my dog. I later gathered that she don go kolo and she is in one mental hospital while i am happily remarried to a gentle and caring woman who is even a model. My mom praised me for my swift action! My guy u r the man here. Do the needful in time or else u will suffer forever |
Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by lasisi69(f): 4:02am On Mar 24, 2021 |
immortalvoices:you no dey hear 'voices' again lol 4 Likes |
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