onyinye2:

You can't really put the blame on PMS. . . . . i think she actually has a point.

No suprise here.

You are a woman and you are Onyinye.

If you thought different then that would have been news.

Okija_juju:

No suprise here.
You are a woman and you are Onyinye.
If you thought different then that would have been news.

What is that suppose to mean?

onyinye2:

What im saying Mufasa. . . . is that instead of leaving the girl hanging, why not tell the woman that you can't be as close as you once were. That you want to spend more of your time with your girlfriend.

Men don't really have the time to start explaining their absence.
Women should take it in their strides and move on.

Hannibal:

Men don't really have the time to start explaining their absence.
Women should take it in their strides and move on.

That is just cold hearted and cruel. What is so hard about giving a girl the heads up before you disappear?

onyinye2:

What is that suppose to mean?

No offense intended, just that I dont expect any lady to dispute her especially you _{(you know exactly what I mean   )}.

Okija_juju:

No offense intended, just that I don't expect any lady to dispute her especially you _{(you know exactly what I mean   )}.

Have no idea what you mean. . .

onyinye2:

That is just cold hearted and cruel. What is so hard about giving a girl the heads up before you disappear?

As if women take such lightly. . . . . .
Women should use their church minds. If he is not picking ur calls for the 6th time, let him be.

Hannibal:

As if women take such lightly. . . . . .
Women should use their church minds. If he is not picking your calls for the 6th time, let him be.

So you are basically saying that men are too afraid to tell a woman that they aint no longer tight?

First of all

From my observations on N'land, you always sit on the other side of the divide, opposing men.
The poster is complaining about guys who want more than just friendship with a girl who isnt interested, then he starts acting up, avoiding her, blah, blah, blah.
This has got nothing to do with PMS. It's called jealousy. When most guys cant get what they want, they sulk.

So whats the whole PMS bull about??

onyinye2:

So you are basically saying that men are too afraid to tell a woman that they aint no longer tight?

Not afraid, more like compassionate

Okija_juju:

So whats the whole PMS bull about??

Basically saying that men are just as moody as women.

eldee:

Not afraid, more like compassionate

That is showing compassion? Mayne i would hate to see how being a jerk is. . .

onyinye2:

Basically saying that men are just as moody as women.

Not moody, we just take a break, get our minds right and move on. No drama, no fussing.

onyinye2:

That is showing compassion? Mayne i would hate to see how being a jerk is. . .

Being a jerk would be letting the dogs loose on her ass.

Okija_juju:

Not moody, we just take a break, get our minds right and move on. No drama, no fussing.

Taking a break from what? Why don't you just tell her and get it over with?

Okija_juju:

Being a jerk would be letting the dogs loose on her ass.

You might as well. . . . already gave her heart to the ashes.

onyinye2:

That is showing compassion? Mayne i would hate to see how being a jerk is. . .

Being a jerk would be calling her and saying 'I need a freaking breather . . . get a life for two months' in sugar-coated words

Okija_juju:

Being a jerk would be letting the dogs loose on her ass.

Nah . . . that's been man's man, player's player

onyinye2:

So you are basically saying that men are too afraid to tell a woman that they aint no longer tight?

Afraid??
More like men don't want long hours of unnecessary debates.

And i repeat again and again, I dont need an expalanation for ur PMS, if u r disappearing for a while its absolutely fine, I also need space frm time to time. . . but not responding to messages and making a sista feel like a stalker. . . thats not cool. I can deal with the silence, it just annoys me that i get worried unnecessarily and the bastard doesnt hav the courtesy to at least confirm h is ok. . . now thats just down-right mean.

I dont need to know where u're going or what u're up to, i really dont care, just dont get me worked up unnecessarily. gve me a little heads up. . . thats all i ask and i'm cool

Hannibal:

Afraid??
More like men don't want long hours of unnecessary debates.

Okay stop exaggerating 9 times out 10. . . . the woman would be understanding and get on with her life.

eldee:

Being a jerk would be calling her and saying 'I need a freaking breather . . . get a life for two months' in sugar-coated words

Isn't that basically the same as leaving her on a cliff instead of opening your mouth and telling her.

u guys hang out and talk all the time. He calls regularly, can't get enough of talking to u and hanging out with u. . . then he goes cold turkey, no communication whatsoever, starts avoiding u even, dosnttake your calls, no reply to messages. . . Rather than stress too much, I move on accepting the ride has come to an end. . .

Typical behavior.

onyinye2:

Isn't that basically the same as leaving her on a cliff instead of opening your mouth and telling her.

Leaving her on a cliff is better jare
Telling her, you know how women act na

Hannibal:

Afraid??
More like men don't want long hours of unnecessary debates.

True that

_{@Hannibal
See, try Google Chrome abeg and tell me what you think
IMO better than Internet Explorer}

eldee:

Leaving her on a cliff is better jare
Telling her, you know how women act na

So are you scared?

you guys r getting it all wrong. . . i'm not talking about a break-up situation,

more like a good friend or buddy suddenly turning cold after a stretch of communication. . . no quarrels or arguements or awkward situation.  , .  he has to be ill or sumthin must be wrong right? so u call, and leave numerous messages onhis machine, send text messages, emails, telegrpahs, leav notes in his mail box. .   then it dawns on u he probabaly has had enough of u so u move on and forget the jerk. . .  fastfoward a month later, he rings u up out of d blue and acts like he last spoke to u yesterday and u r like WTF!!!. . .  PMS i say!

HR.hotness:
  then it dawns on u he probabaly has had enough of u so u move on and forget the jerk. . .  fastfoward a month later, he rings u up out of d blue and acts like he last spoke to u yesterday and you're like WTF!!!. . .  PMS i say!

I think it is like lack of courtesy, fear, and wee bit of selfishness on the side.

HR.hotness:

you guys r getting it all wrong. . . i'm not talking about a break-up situation,

more like a good friend or buddy suddenly turning cold after a stretch of communication. . . no quarrels or arguements or awkward situation.  , .  he has to be ill or sumthin must be wrong right? so u call, and leave numerous messages onhis machine, send text messages, emails, telegrpahs, leav notes in his mail box. .   then it dawns on u he probabaly has had enough of u so u move on and forget the jerk. . .  fastfoward a month later, he rings u up out of d blue and acts like he last spoke to u yesterday and you're like WTF!!!. . .  PMS i say!

It's called a sabbathical. The dude needed to get his mind right. Hes prolly been trying to get your attention for like forever and you prolly keep blowing him off or sumtin.
I agree with you that some guys behave like bithces _{(no offence intended)}, but the percentage is so small that its negligible.

Okija_juju:

I agree with you that most guys behave like bithces _{(no offence intended)}, but the percentage is so small that its negligible.

IRONY!!!

onyinye2:

So are you scared?

As I said . . . the blow's softer then

Okija_juju:

It's called a sabbathical. The dude needed to get his mind right. Hes prolly been trying to get your attention for like forever and you prolly keep blowing him off or sumtin.
I agree with you that most guys behave like bithces _{(no offence intended)}, but the percentage is so small that its negligible.

no one is stopping them frm their sabbatical oh. . .  just give us warning!

its a lot more than a small prcentage, i'v heard a number of complaints

onyinye2:

I think it is like lack of courtesy, fear, and wee bit of selfishness on the side.

Add heartlessness to that.

stillwater:

Add heartlessness to that.

Heartless??
Who stole his heart in the first place??

eldee:

_{@Hannibal
See, try Google Chrome abeg and tell me what you think
IMO better than Internet Explorer}

It's classic. . . . . .
Internet Explorer can FECK off.

@ HR Hotness,

Stop fighting the momentum.
Men will always be men. . . . . . . . . U don't expect me to call u and tell u ma plans for the next 3 weeks.
What makes u think u are the only girl friend i have got?
Give men a break and stop this PMS theory. . . . . .Men don't menstruate so find anutha name already.

stillwater:

Add heartlessness to that.

Thanks for the reminder.

eldee:

As I said . . . the blow's softer then

I'll take that as a YES!!!!!

What you call PMS is a well calculated plan. The dude just dosent want to answer your call period. Maybe he lost his phone and hasnt checked his mail in a long time. who knows??

Female PMS is like a volatile volcano. It just erupts. Not planned, erratic and senseless.

Okija_juju:

Female PMS is like a volatile volcano. It just erupts. Not planned, erratic and senseless.

What women do you be kicking it with? Amazonian women?

Okija_juju:

Heartless??
Who stole his heart in the first place??

Not literarily dear. It's pure heartlessness to leave a friend without informing him/her of your whereabouts.