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| Commitment Phobia by amyn(f): 12:14pm On Sep 18, 2008 |
hey people,im in a dilemna,here's the ting-i met a really nice guy some months back,he is very good to me n does all the boyfriendish tings but he says we are not a couple cuz he is not ready 4 a relationship,so im into a friends wit benefits tingy but i stil want more cuz dis is so not secure n he is a very gud kisser but he is commitment-phobic.what do i do?let go or keep prayin for a miracle(chics he bought me an original prada bag on my bday  ) |
| Re: Commitment Phobia by KarmaMod(f): 12:19pm On Sep 18, 2008 |
The chinese make anything to look original That aside if you start pulling away, eg decreasing the calls and meet up that will send a message. If he asks why are you suddenly this and that, tell him it's cos you're not happy with the current situation. If he truly likes you, he'll try to change it. If not, count yout losses and move on with your bag  |
| Re: Commitment Phobia by bigboyslim(m): 12:24pm On Sep 18, 2008 |
@ poster, I advise you to wait for topup's comment. She's a commitment phobia specialist. |
| Re: Commitment Phobia by Nella(f): 12:31pm On Sep 18, 2008 |
bigboyslim: Exactly wht I was goin to say, lol |
| Re: Commitment Phobia by Laurnetta(f): 1:11pm On Sep 18, 2008 |
who is havin phobia? you or him? |
| Re: Commitment Phobia by Easybaby(f): 1:20pm On Sep 18, 2008 |
keep prayin for a miracle yeah . . .with 40dys and 40nite dry fasting   |
| Re: Commitment Phobia by spikedcylinder: 1:22pm On Sep 18, 2008 |
KarmaMod: You ehn! |
| Re: Commitment Phobia by soulamanne(m): 3:04pm On Sep 18, 2008 |
u dont know what u want sef, the guy,the kissor the CHINESE prada bag, girl search ursef |
| Re: Commitment Phobia by topup: 4:01pm On Sep 18, 2008 |
Sorry, but this doesn't sound serious at all, I don't know how old you are, so I don't know whether you are ready for something serious anyways, but anybody who honestly likes someone, will want a committed relationship, if you are true to yourself you will know that you shouldn't have to tolerate the friends with benefits type of relationship, can you imagine how many other girls he has that with? The guy is trying to have his cake and eat it, you should be aware that by continuing this relationship, he could easily back out on you, totally, because you two weren't really a couple to begin with. Also, the things he does for you, are easy for any guy to do, what makes him special, do you two connect on a level, does your 'relationship' have substance? It seems that you are wooed by all the other superficial things that can disguise a failing relationship. If you don't mind being kept on the bench whilst he roams for a better mate, then continue allowing the friendship with benefits, but if you want him to reciprocate the feelings you have for him then you should give him an ultimatum. He knows what he's doing but do you? I wrote a post about commitment phobia here: https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-162560.0.html |
| Re: Commitment Phobia by A40(m): 2:00am On Sep 19, 2008 |
Why not ask him why he is commitment phobic? he might have had a terrible experience in the past and is simply just guarding his grill |
| Re: Commitment Phobia by amyn(f): 10:16am On Sep 30, 2008 |
yeah,i gave him an ultimatum yesterday:told him i was thru wit our 'friendship' if dt wz all he wanted,then he started given me shit about me bein too perfect n nice,,dt i am too gud for him n shit lyk dt.den he tried makin out bt i wz so pissed i cudnt even allow him touch me(dt wz hard)he was surprised cz im normally very willing.30mins, he cald me n told me dt he wz very sorry for everything dt happened,bt he wasnt ready yet.so im done wit dt chapter.im 20 by d way.tanks guys.ryt nw im on my way 2 d nearest ice-cream parlour wit my girlfriends n im gonna drown in its sweetness |
| Re: Commitment Phobia by dayokanu(m): 2:57pm On Sep 30, 2008 |
he bought me an original prada bag on my bday Thats the KOKO!! Money |
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