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Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by Ladapo(m): 11:04am On Jul 12, 2006
Gals,

Would you leave your boyfriend of long standing simply because you have a job and he doesn't.

And guys, what would you do, if a girl you love so much leaves you, simply because you fail to get a job.
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by Greatpeter(m): 11:44am On Jul 12, 2006
This is no more strange in our community.
It happened to me before and I am still alive.
I did nothing but it was too painful to bear.
But I want to say to all the victims that there is good in bad.
It makes you open your eyes and hearts to another better opportunities.
It was a moment of change for me.
another chapter of my life was opened afresh.
So, the disappointment of a loved one is never the end.
Braze up!
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by spikedcylinder: 11:54am On Jul 12, 2006
It depends o.
Like,for how long have you been without a job?What are the efforts you are making at securing one?What line of work are you in?
Most people these days are selfish and i mean the good kind of selfish in that they think of their interests on top of everything else.But then again you said you guys have been together for a long time so why the sudden change of mind?
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by Greatpeter(m): 12:09pm On Jul 12, 2006
Well, not quite long she dumped me than I got a very good job.
And I believe i can stand tall among my counterparts.
Not that that i didn't make any efforts in securing job.
But I just know what I am looking for.
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by yankidelta(m): 12:20pm On Jul 12, 2006
Na normal thing for girls in our society.Once dey know u've gotta high paying job ur cellphone starts ringing more than usual!
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by yankidelta(m): 12:23pm On Jul 12, 2006
Na normal thing for girls in our society.Once dey know u've gotta high paying job ur cellphone starts ringing more than usual!
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by spikedcylinder: 12:36pm On Jul 12, 2006
You people are always abusing girls that want better things.How many of you will actually ignore posh girls and go and date omo alata?Few.So why do girls always get the blame for having good tastes?Or is there something wrong with being high maintainance?
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by dwhale(m): 12:51pm On Jul 12, 2006
I have seen it happen, heard it happen and so it is no more a new thing infact it is on the verge of being celebrated. It is a free world. You have the freedom to do anything as long as it is not against the law but disappointments sometimes turn out to be blessings in disguise.
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by ThoniaSlim(f): 1:51pm On Jul 12, 2006
yankidelta:

Na normal thing for girls in our society.Once dey know u've gotta high paying job your cellphone starts ringing more than usual!
not all girls are like that ohh
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by kay4suree(m): 1:55pm On Jul 12, 2006
sad sadIn fact,this type of our society,isnt love supposed to be just .Atleast no condition is permanent that is what they often say. If it is a true love the lady supposed to stay and be prayerful isnt love endureable?As for me it, depends on the degree of the affection. If i have strong affection for her i rather leave the town for her .and totally change my environment.I will stay far far from her in order to start life afresh. cry cry
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by unit(f): 2:46pm On Jul 12, 2006
Well i was ditched by a jobless guy who started making money and thought he deserved more from the decendants of eve.I met him jobless and loved him jobless, so guys its not just the girls doing the dumping but then poo happens and life must go on
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by Hotstepper(f): 3:11pm On Jul 12, 2006
i won't leave him, infact, I will show him that I can still stand by him with or without a job especially if he gat potential and goals and not just sitting home and not making any effort. That he doesn't have a job now does not mean he won't have later, Him being jobless is not the downfall of a man and I also believe that not only guys should be giving money per se in a relationship, It should be a two way thing
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by ToyM28(f): 3:19pm On Jul 12, 2006
Ladapo i tut u wld have known d answer. A gal who trully loves her guy wld stay by him nomatter wat (xcept maybe her popsie is 2 domineering). But a gal who is with a guy cuz of money, wld quickly drop him at the first sign of financial trouble.

As for me i wld stick 2 d guy, as long as he sticks with me simple.
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by hotangel2(f): 4:29pm On Jul 12, 2006
I won't leave my boyfriend just cos he doesn't have a job. He would get a job sooner or later, afterall since you've been at it for so long and claim to love him, the best u can do his help him gather some news papers and help him find a job.

if your girl leaves you after u lose ur job, she don't love you. She never has, and i doubt if she ever will.

But If the boy just sits down and start having this dream about a job coming to knock at his door, i dont think i'll blame any girl that leaves his lazy Bottom.

if your man is not putting any effort into getting another job, well. . . u know wat that means, he's lazy and he's planning on spending the little money u make with you! What better way than you run away from a lazy man?
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by diddy4(m): 5:45pm On Jul 12, 2006
a girl leaves me? cuzz i aint got no job? thats messed up big time. what she trynn@ tell me is she wants me for my financial stuff and not cuzz she really loves me. well, if dats the case, she can go and i will keep ma head up. i aint mad atcha. imm@ get me a job and when i become the million dollar man, i hope she doesnt call cuzz her Bottom will roast in my fireplace.

i know not all girls are like dat cuzz i have seen and met really nice girls dat didnt care about i got but about who i am. i love my african queens.(the good ones).
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by babadee(m): 8:18pm On Jul 12, 2006
it means shine ya eye, no free tin for lagos!
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by babadee(m): 8:23pm On Jul 12, 2006
Hotstepper:

i won't leave him, infact, I will show him that I can still stand by him with or without a job especially if he gat potential and goals and not just sitting home and not making any effort. That he doesn't have a job now does not mean he won't have later, Him being jobless is not the downfall of a man and I also believe that not only guys should be giving money per se in a relationship, It should be a two way thing

all in support say aye!!!

yankidelta:

Na normal thing for girls in our society.Once dey know u've gotta high paying job your cellphone starts ringing more than usual!

true talk!!!
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by Raymand(m): 8:25pm On Jul 12, 2006
if a girl leaves me because im broke she'd be sorry, because when i finally realize my dreams, what her new boyfriend makes in a year i'd make in a day! tongue
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by babadee(m): 8:27pm On Jul 12, 2006
Raymand:

if a girl leaves me because im broke she'd be sorry, because when i finally actaliza my dreams, what her new boyfriend makes in a year i'd make in a day! tongue

yeah, like sound sultan!
more of that
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by Raymand(m): 8:43pm On Jul 12, 2006
lol yea man soulnd sultan is great, i can't get that song off my head, smiley, back in day, the never use to,
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by beyonce1(f): 9:30pm On Jul 12, 2006
I think the question should be why do guys fail to appreciate girls who stay with them in times of need ? --- I stayed with this guy for 2yrs, paid his rent , fed him ,  drove my car like his, infact no one knew he was jobless, then i went broke,    angry , he kept pulling me along that he had financial plans, eventually, he left me in serious debt all because I couldn't cope anymore ---  so what do you call this ?  for someone like me shouldn't i lay my card s on the table ? sad
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by inspira(f): 9:47pm On Jul 12, 2006
i would if he suddenly became resentful about it.only God knows what he will do in marriage.but like i said IF
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by chinani(f): 11:47pm On Jul 12, 2006
beyonce1:

I think the question should be why do guys fail to appreciate girls who stay with them in times of need ? --- I stayed with this guy for 2yrs, paid his rent , fed him , drove my car like his, infact no one knew he was jobless, then i went broke, angry , he kept pulling me along that he had financial plans, eventually, he left me in serious debt all because I couldn't cope anymore --- so what do you call this ? for someone like me shouldn't i lay my card s on the table ? sad
Well er you went a bit farther than I would've but you're point is still valid.

My contribution: I wouldn't leave him but this happens everyday in every society. I think it's excusable if one partner thinks the other is lazy or unmotivated. If one partner is simply greedy than it hurts but you are better off w/o him/her (though it doesn't seem that way t/o the tears). Interesting to note many people (especially men) choice their careers for the increased mating status. As in "I'm a be a ball player so I can get a gang o' hoes" or even doctor, engineer, blah blah blah. Men often "trade up" after they've reached their new economic status so ya'll are none to innocent.

You people are always abusing girls that want better things.How many of you will actually ignore posh girls and go and date omo alata?Few.So why do girls always get the blame for having good tastes?Or is there something wrong with being high maintainance?
Spiked you ain't never lied. And that's the truth. How you livin mama?
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by diddy4(m): 12:12am On Jul 13, 2006
in as much as i wud hate to admit it, i think everygirl get price. posh girls no their worth and they go for it. i wont blame them one bit cuzz no one wants to suffer but that doesnt mean they should be like dat always cuzz it can turn around and bite them in the Bottom. winki was stalking chinani
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by chinani(f): 12:24am On Jul 13, 2006
How you doing Diddy? Hmmm, every girl has a price. . . what'd'ya mean exactly? You mean posh girls know they can pull ppsh guys so don't wanna settle for less?
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by diddy4(m): 12:26am On Jul 13, 2006
im good hun.hope u aiight.

yeah dats basically what i mean. not all of them though cuzz i dont want to generalize but most of them, especially those from a well known background wont settle for less and u wont blame them cuzz dats basically the way it has been all their life.
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by chinani(f): 12:29am On Jul 13, 2006
I'm doing well too.

True talk. As long as people keep it honest I ain't going to hiss. cool
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by diddy4(m): 12:32am On Jul 13, 2006
oh hiss, i tot u said kiss cuzz i wud have asked for one. wink







i always tell the truth, even when i lie. wink
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by chinani(f): 12:38am On Jul 13, 2006
diddy4:

i always tell the truth, even when i lie. wink
See! You ain't no good! But I'm gonna kiss you anyway. kiss I'm kind@ bad myself. Shhh! It's a secret. grin
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by diddy4(m): 12:40am On Jul 13, 2006
@chinani, dat was a quote from my favorite movie, scarface.
thanks for the kiss, my heart melted the minute i got it. kiss wink



**whispering**
and yes i can keep a secret.
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by lagerwhenindoubt(m): 2:20am On Jul 13, 2006
Guyz work hard to put the food on the table, girls make babies grin

That was in the old dayz, now country hard (and this is global), so girlz now get to work hard and make babies at the same time, leaving us guyz to figure out why just being a guyz aint enough these dayz.

I do not blame any girl for leaving her guy because he has not got a job, that is reality for you, this world is not a field with honey and pancakes, you've got to work to live in a world of honey and pancakes, so girls need to know you want to live in that world, if you are not down with it (due to country hard or u just being plain lazy) then stay single and figure out how to make babies and eat at the same time. tongue

It is time we accept this plain fact, Love is all good, but after that, you need the cruzeros to keep it going
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by diddy4(m): 2:25am On Jul 13, 2006
true talk my man. im with you on that.

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