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Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by jgirl3: 7:21am On Jul 13, 2006
No job doesn't mean no relationship. It only shows that the guy is not ready to settle down anytime soon
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by SOJ(m): 10:36am On Jul 13, 2006
Gals leaving guys becos he is jobless?Stinks to da bone! angry
A jobless guy isn't a hopeless guy,afterall they probably met when things were rosy for the guy.
On the oda hand,if she leaves becos the guy refuses to move on with his life and get himself gainfully employed(either self- or formal ), she's probably taking a step in the right direction.
Ladies, you shouldn't be afraid of dating a guy without a job(yet),what you should run away from is a guy with no sense of purpose and career direction.( , and i mean scoot!)
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by otokx(m): 11:28am On Jul 13, 2006
this is a very common thing and its the easiest. howabout when the babe leaves because the bobo is not earning hundred thousand? that is what is reigning now.
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by etete(m): 9:35am On Jul 14, 2006
well i think for a guy who's not working 2 able 2 hold on 2 relationship with his girlfriend, he shud b a very determined person, cos the truth of te matter is that it's not every one who's
destined 2 work under people,some people hav the gift 2 start of their own bussiness. so if u ask me if a girl c\sees this in her man, shud support d broda, but if ein no get am, make she run grin
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by kellorah: 2:14pm On Jul 14, 2006
if he has not intention of getting another job, then, i'm gonna say good bye to his sorry ass!
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by hibans(f): 2:21pm On Jul 14, 2006
@diddy4, i would have agree with u but nope in another way around, lol, personally, i don't think i'll try it anymore.

shey, u read my story? i was with a guy without a job then we were in peace and everything was perfectly good. immediately he got one what happen diddy4?

out of experience
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by edygirl(f): 2:32pm On Jul 14, 2006
I have never dated or had a boyfriend that is rich but can I leave my boyfriend because he has no job? YES. Unless he is a student then I wouldn't care but if not I would only tolerate him for at most two years. This is because  guys, when you tolerate them alot, they relax and again I am a very hardworking person and I don't want anything that would make me go lazy. I don't want that energy by me at all. I would let him know so he won't be surprised. So if he likes he finds a job otherwise after two years I will drop him like it's hot.
My own Opinion no body should bite me.
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by hibans(f): 2:47pm On Jul 14, 2006
@didd4, its depends sha.
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by mamaput(f): 3:13pm On Jul 14, 2006
A man withoutb a job. Only if i make real good money then he can mind the house.
I have nothing aganist housemen but then he has to do a good job at home.
Take the kids to school pick them up cook for them and for me too.
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by edygirl(f): 3:59pm On Jul 14, 2006
@mummy,
               I used to think that way till I met this friend of mine that went and got herself a jobless boy friend. This girl used to work like h*LL b/4 but now all she does is call off almost everyother day. Because when it is time for her to go to work the boyfriend either starts with sex or asks her to stay home with him and she stupidly does that and when I call her to see if she was ok then she would tell me her boy wants her home with him. I mean if he can't work why would he not let her work either or are they gon' eat sex. I don't think I need that energy by my side at all.
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by mamaput(f): 11:27pm On Jul 14, 2006
Thats why i said the man has to be had working in his own way.(Not house wife but House man) if not it will never work out. Not for long.
Think about it you come back from work and your Husband is still sleeping or sitting in front of the TV and has done nothing.
It is better for your friend to dump the man,
Think about it she marries him has children. He will sleep the whole day and even forget to pick the kids from school. The school will call the child welfare office ,They will ask the woman to take care of the kids and she may end up having to give up her job.
THis happened to a friend of mine. Am very sure she must have started like your friend.

But i also know a family the mum is a DR she works the whole day and sometimes nights at the Hospital. The husband cooks cleans takes cre of the kids and even attendes the PTA meetings.

It all dependes ,if you keep your eyey open you see the signs. This boyfriend of your friend should even get up b4 her to make her breakfast or iron her dress or what ever.
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by MerC2(f): 12:15pm On Jul 15, 2006
naaaaaahhh! Not ma thing.
I ain't never financially dependent on
any guy so it's not like I'm with him
for his money. If he don't got a job,
I'll support him for sometime and help him find a
job. It's all love.
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by MerC2(f): 12:16pm On Jul 15, 2006
Besides ma mom works and ma dad doesn't.
No wahala!
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by sucguy(m): 9:59pm On Jul 15, 2006
It's nothing to ponder much on if a girl you love does that for you (it's a big deal).
There has been something existing from the time God made us. You know ladies are cursed that "he will be your head, and to him will your heart draw to". Women are created in such a way like that. They love jamboree so much. If you are just lucky to get a serious and decent lady, she may not ask you of anything like money or material thing, but if you are then a little bit richer than how you are, she will love you the more. Such a thing will help you open your eyes and your heart to great opportunities ahead of you.

It has happened to me sometimes in 2005.
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by lewa(m): 4:28am On Jul 18, 2006
good,cause if she dont leave his brokeass,she would spend eternity caring for some grown baby.
If he is seriously looking for a job then thats something different- she better leave for someone that would better take care of her than some parasite. Just kidding nasty experience just ask any guy whos been there
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by ladykool(f): 4:57pm On Aug 25, 2006
yes of course! who will want to suffer in poverty1 not me anyway. if i want to marry a guy he must have a job for sure! not that he must be very rich but at least have a good job going on! me i no marry person may no go school o! cuz me i dey uni yea so if u no go school forget about me am not they for u that is for sure !
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by boladonas(m): 7:13am On Nov 08, 2006
For better for stay
For bad for go
To them, money is honey
They are available to the Highest bidder
and end up being greedier.
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by MyPeace(f): 9:43am On Nov 08, 2006
personally i left a relationship of 6yrs, when i found out that the guy doesnt want to move forward, i started the relationship when i was in my early 20s. why i was busy developing myself academically and the rest, he was busy waiting on the MANNA that will fall from heaven.

After my education, i got job and he was even worst that what he was 6yrs back. We actually promised to marry, but looking at the situtation on ground, i definately know that the financial burden of the house will rest squarely on me. having tot of these, i found out that my salary can not adequately carry it without me complaning.

It was not easy, but i had to call off the relationship, even my frnds and his could not understand what happened, becos i was actually covering up for him all these years.

Lets face it, its hard to respect a guy who cannot provide for you, which was evident in my relationship with him, i was always not happy. When am broke means am broke, i cant even lean on him for assistance, rather he will collect from me.

Pls guys should understand, its not easy, love and money go hand in hand. Guys should always be the man, not only in bed! even if u dont have job now, always make efforts to get new one, and start doing sometime to fetch u little money until u get a better one, not just sleeping and waking,and upon that collecting from her.
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by boladonas(m): 12:17am On Nov 15, 2006
@ my peace

Give me your unconditional love

wat hppened, a serious bobo came along lol
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by Christino(m): 1:51am On Nov 15, 2006
Depending on the matters arising, I don't blame the poor girl. Love don't pay the bills.

There have been cases whereby the girl pays the bills owns the cars and all that stuff and comes back home only to meet a b***h in her pyjamas on her bed, watching her TV and eating her "FOOD" or even worse still, driving her car, of course, with "UNCLE JOBLESS's" approval.

I don't blame you girl, if you dont see a future in it, collect the baton and swoosh the relay. breaking up is better than divorce.
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by MyPeace(f): 8:39am On Nov 15, 2006
@Boladona

Serious bobo indeed!! grin
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by Nobody: 5:03pm On Mar 14, 2007
women have a nose for success and can smell money from a mile.
approach a woman and she sizes u up and asks in their honey coated voice,
What do you do or where do u work?
the'yre all the same
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by Raphaelito(m): 12:17am On Mar 16, 2007
that was a good question, but you know what, from my experience, if i dont have a job or just lost my job and my girlfriend just for that reason, i wont be upset, instead i will be happy that my pathhas crossed.
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by Raphaelito(m): 12:25am On Mar 16, 2007
na wa o. some lady are so weird that they dont give a shit
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by rastar: 4:31am On Dec 03, 2007
well to all i say this ~ smiley truthfully speaking man or woman to leave well if the man currently doesnt have a job but as long as there truly trying to find it then they shouldnt leave but if the man doesnt move to seek at all just doesnt do nothing doesnt want to work . then they can decide to but it depends ~ if they have an apartment living togeather or not , see there are some whom just try really hard but they have bad luck in finding one but that is no excuse for the woman to leave if there living in there parents house then there is no rush . but if there married and live in an apartment then its different . there are thoes whom seek and thoes whom dont . but also remember this there are times things happen i dated this materialistic girl whom thought i was a bank i took her everywhere treated her clubs movie theathers diners jewlery etc . then there was a moment i lost a job temporary now she was saying oh im bored or etc i told her for now you haft to wait till i get a job to go out places again but i told her lets do things without cash temp visit friends houses go fishing go to the parks etc rent films lite cash many things bike riding . then out of nowhere she decided to leave .cause she was not paitent to wait she isten to her pesky friends happen got brainwashed 10 years ago . but see there are some that expect to much as for materialistic woman its over done ~ stick a fork in it its cooked ~ this is fairness everyone also has to relize whats more important poor man that is happy or a rich man thats unhappy ~ contentment of what they have already cheesy but to leave well depends on the women how much they expect lol if too much then this is not cloud n rainbow land shocked
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by Nobody: 4:46am On Dec 03, 2007
@post
yea, i will. if you're not responsible enough to get a job, you're not responsible enough to get a gal. . .and it means, you can't provide for her. tongue
no job no girl, guys, remember that!! angry grin
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by niuboy: 8:05am On Dec 03, 2007
But how would u classify a girl that stood by u when u were jobless (and u were trying), and things starts to get rosy(job and all), which she knows, but you were reserved about it cause u have plans for ur earnings for the better. Then she sees someone supposely with more potential and *name*, dress to kill, she left her guy(who is doing really good but reserved) of 6 yrs (love filled relationship) for someone she meet twice and then rubbing it in your face that she found someone better than u when u never, i mean never treated this girl in that manner, infact, she had u wrapped around her fingers, soon to be engaged. And all u were doing was trying to work hard for both of u, spoiling this girl cause of the appreciation of her sticking with u when u had nothing. Imagine LIFE,

My question is how can a girl who has true love, compatibility and all, stick it through bad times and when her guy is doing good she leaves for a guy she knows nothing about? Ladies express your self



**Mistake many women make is, they think cause a guy dress like a million bucks, he has money(potential), but I know many guys who dress to kill in and out but little or nothing for pocket. On the other hand, I know guys (which i'm one)who dress but not to kill but has above average to ridiculous pockets but don't feel the need to show off. And guys are playing their cards towards this corny mistake by many women.
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by chidichris(m): 9:27am On Dec 03, 2007
for writting sake, it is not good but if we want to face reality, we have to consider exactly the conditions of not getting a job and the time frame.
girls are mearnt to be supporters and not to let them bear the burden alone.
men shld not go for sympathy love where the woman will love u out of sympathy.
men must continue trying. the man must remain the man at all times.
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by rastar: 9:48am On Dec 03, 2007
let me ask you ~ should i support a woman or a atm vending lady ~ haw haw haw shocked
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by tumzy(m): 10:56am On Dec 03, 2007
dats true,but who doesnt like beta tin ,but gurls u dont kno wat is going to happen tomorrow,so guys 4get d chick and be strong
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by yewaman1(m): 11:25am On Dec 03, 2007
The most important thing here is mutal unerstanding for each other, they have to know where
they are going from day one, there will always come challenges in life and its always easy to take
the exist,instead of find a solution to the problem.
Re: Girl Leaving Boyfriend Because He Doesn't Have A Job? by gentledove(f): 10:06am On Apr 04, 2008
@ poster,

leaving your guy because he has no job is not a reason at all. i have seen relationships that it was the lady who funded the marraige and also the first three years of marriage before husband finally got a job in chevron. your presence in a guy's life will either make or mar him. it depends on your intention whether it is genuine or not.

i love to start from thescratch with a guy. it makes me understand him beta and when he has the money, he wont change. when my parents got married, my mum use to make jests that my dad had only one reading table, one chair and a lantern that has being patched with paper where the shade was broken. today, they are doing extremely well and if my mum wants to eat gold, she will.

when you are in a relationship and you have that peace of mind, nothing will move you because you know the guy will make it in no long time. Suru (Patience) o lere (has its gains). but majority of our ladies are after Olorunsogo (God has performed gloriously). any foundation that is not based on true love and understanding is zero. God is Love. the God in your relationship makes the difference whether the guy has a job or not. smiley

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