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Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by wazobiaforu(m): 6:54am On Jun 30, 2014 |
evegran: I'm guessing your idea of "arrogant" here means a woman with confidence or one who actually has a mind of her own? A woman who tells her husband when he's doing something wrong and doesn't just sit back and swallow all his BS? Funny! Majority of African men actually just want a puppet as a wife. Its 2014, now a man actually has to listen to his wife for that marriage to work. That's why there should be courtship before marriage, where they both get to spend time together and understand each other better and figure out if they're right for each other and NOT just rush into the marriage. Marriage should 50/50. You get it wrong friend, what kind of man want to a puppet as wife? That must be a man of ages, a woman can not be arrogant and also be submissive, even in modern part of the world Marriage is not 50/50 in a real life, its only on imagination. There is high percentage that the marriage will hit rock if the woman did not show submissiveness and the man fail to Show love. 6 Likes |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by docconceptscom: 6:58am On Jun 30, 2014 |
submission is d baba all people that were saying love,if they are in relation they will want 2 control their husband/wife both parties most subsmitted 2 each other 2 Likes |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by Nobody: 6:59am On Jun 30, 2014 |
wazobia_for_u:well good to know you don't want a puppet as a wife, however a lot of men actually do. Oh and you'll be shocked some of these men are even highly educated. |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by lilmax(m): 7:02am On Jun 30, 2014 |
evegran: what's this one saying? :-S :-/you are too young to understand 2 Likes |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by Nobody: 7:03am On Jun 30, 2014 |
Khalessi: Love comes first during courtship and submission must come first in marriage. It takes more than love to keep a marriage.God bless you! BTW IMO: Love is not an emotion that one should automatically expect, sometimes it starts as lust, crush, infatuation, so it either grows or dwindles. And it also doesn't mean the outcome is to 'sign the doted lines.' this is an automatic reason to be pretentious and robotic. Singing the doted lines (marriage) is a decision that is taken for other several reasons aside love, which to me might just get people a little carried away. And wen people get carried away, calling them back is not very easy. The expectation of 'love me enough' will only always leave a lady panicky and she tends to walk on egg shells around him, he may even take it as 'submission' instead of doubt and uncertainty. Love is when she knows he cares and will go extra miles for the relationship, even if he doesn't say it enough. That should be good enough. Submission is letting him know you trust his judgment and you are comfortable with him making decisions IF its not disrespectful to you in anyway. So, it is dependent on the individual actually and their kind of personalities, some people just go with the flow, whichever happens first. Love also has the tendency of making one submissive sha. 3 Likes |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by Oahray: 7:06am On Jun 30, 2014 |
In every relationship, there's a dominant partner and a submissive one. Most times it's the guy that's dominant, and many girls find that attractive. In turn, most guys are attracted by the girl's submissiveness, which seems very feminine. It even influences the bulk of the human body language in early stages of flirting and of courting. There has to be an establishment of dominant and submissive roles (at least on a subconscious level) before mutual love can even come into the picture. Marriage is no different. 5 Likes |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by Nobody: 7:07am On Jun 30, 2014 |
lil max: you are too young to understandfunny! Yet I'm not the one with "lil" in my name? Funny world we live in. *catwalks away* 4 Likes |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by Nobody: 7:09am On Jun 30, 2014 |
Oahray: In every relationship, there's a dominant partner and a submissive one. Most times it's the guy that's dominant, and many girls find that attractive. In turn, most guys are attracted by the girl's submissiveness, which seems very feminine. It even influences the bulk of the human body language in early stages of flirting and of courting. Some guys like the girls to be dominant though, they might just not say. D/S things. Some ladies are just naturally made to be Alpha-Female. Let's face it, they are out there and their men loves them just like that. evegran: funny! Yet I'm not the one with "lil" in my name? Funny world we live in. *catwalks away*nice! 1 Like |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by Emmaomotob(m): 7:17am On Jun 30, 2014 |
evegran: Exactly! I totally agree.You are wrong,if you look at things today,men marry women with good qualifications,not those that beg to feed.Submission is a natural disposition usually matched by love. evegran: Exactly! I totally agree.You are wrong,if you look at things today,men marry women with good qualifications,not those that beg to feed.Submission is a natural disposition usually matched by love. |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by Nobody: 7:27am On Jun 30, 2014 |
Emmaomotob: You are wrong,if you look at things today,men marry women with good qualifications,not those that beg to feed.Submission is a natural disposition usually matched by love. You are wrong,if you look at things today,men marry women with good qualifications,not those that beg to feed.Submission is a natural disposition usually matched by love.okay! But you should say "Some men". |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by Oahray: 7:38am On Jun 30, 2014 |
shoefreak:True. It's why I said 'most', not 'all'. There are relationships (including marriage) where the woman dominates over the man, and at times those relationships are mutually satisfying. Depends on what you both want. Still, most men like being dominant, and most women are comfortable with submissive roles. Even the alpha-females you mentioned, are alpha with respect to other females. She might be submissive to her man. What we cannot have, however, is two equally dominant or two equally submissive persons in a relationship. One has to dominate and the other submit (at times without even realizing it). When they both try to be dominant, we hear things like "he's a control freak" or "She's disrespectful" When they both try to be submissive, you hear things like "she doesn't have a mind of her own" or "he's weak, a sissy" In either case, they would both be dissatisfied, and love cannot be sustained. Opposites attract. 1 Like |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by Wolison(m): 7:47am On Jun 30, 2014 |
I think the chief architect of all these is LOVE....there can't be submission without Love,love must come to play b4 submission cos if I don't love you, it will be hell difficult for me to be submissive.........love should come first, that's my own point of view!!.....ka chineke mezie okwu!! 2 Likes |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by naijaboyof4life(m): 7:49am On Jun 30, 2014 |
Nemeka: Submission comes first! Don't forget that accepting to date you is an act of submission, and there is no way two people will go to next level without first submitting to each other. No matter the infatuation, nobody (right thinking person) will propose marriage to somebody thats not submissive even in courtship. Love comes first in everything. |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by Kingshegz(m): 7:51am On Jun 30, 2014 |
It starts with LOVE and ends with LOVE. wen dre is love, submission follows. 2 Likes |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by PaulSeun89(m): 8:00am On Jun 30, 2014 |
Dolly-Parton: Well said Dolly-Parton! 1 Like |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by Oahray: 8:10am On Jun 30, 2014 |
naijaboyof4life:dude, romantic love is overrated. Most times, love isn't even a cause but an effect. Some things have to happen first before love can grow, but since they are not always consciously carried out, we think love is a magic seed that grows everywhere and anywhere. 2 Likes |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by Oahray: 8:13am On Jun 30, 2014 |
Dolly-Parton:one day you'd read this post and laugh at yourself. No love is unconditional, not even a mother's love. 1 Like |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by 5minsmadness: 8:13am On Jun 30, 2014 |
wazobia_for_u: Just tell me a Man that love an arrogant wife... Complete! Nothing else to add. 1 Like |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by Bodmas06: 8:19am On Jun 30, 2014 |
If she Love him she will be submissive to him. Love first |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by buoye1(m): 8:29am On Jun 30, 2014 |
Totally disagree with dis post Dolly-Parton: 1 Like |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by jeff1607(m): 8:30am On Jun 30, 2014 |
I just have only one question to ask. What has made marriages of old last? And also what has made recent marriages(so called modern relationship\marriages)fail? when a woman wants equal rights as d same with her husband we all kw what happens afterwards. 2 Likes |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by buoye1(m): 8:31am On Jun 30, 2014 |
Just what's on my mind! lil max: Is there any need to stress this? As you can see in the bible submission comes first,i cant even love a woman that is not submissive |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by best4momoh(m): 8:33am On Jun 30, 2014 |
I think you should ask Google |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by Nobody: 8:35am On Jun 30, 2014 |
Oahray: dude, romantic love is overrated. Most times, love isn't even a cause but an effect. Some things have to happen first before love can grow, but since they are not always consciously carried out, we think love is a magic seed that grows everywhere and anywhere. Tell it!!!! The bolded are so true! People love to live in this fairy tale fantasy-like, consciously or unconsciously, life where the sky is blue and the roses and butterflies flutter. When the reality of true life situation hit them, they become confused and start questioning every emotion that stirs inside them. Well, ladies tend to see love in every smile and romantic gesture, we really need to snap out of it and face reality. Love is beautiful as it is, only matters when it's deep-rotted and not fluttery. In marriage, IMO, Submitting to him, simply means, be a man and don't frigging mess up my life, now tats attached to yours. Oahray: one day you'd read this post and laugh at yourself. No love is unconditional, not even a mother's love.yes. Steal and become. Public nuisance, you'd surprise how the love will start dwindling. @dolly Parton, Miss, some men are loving but will only express same when she is not there. ISFJ is a personality that as problems voicing out their true feelings, it's worse If it's a male. in female, we are forgiven because we are supposed to be delicate and fragile after all. |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by Nobody: 8:35am On Jun 30, 2014 |
Submission will create enabling environment for love to grow. 1 Like |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by Emmaomotob(m): 8:36am On Jun 30, 2014 |
3Dimension: Submission and love...I have no Idea of what u are talking about,who wants a dummy as wife? 3Dimension: Submission and love...I have no Idea of what u are talking about,who wants a dummy as wife? |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by mifavour(f): 8:40am On Jun 30, 2014 |
3Dimension: Submission and love... God bless you! |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by JEITO: 8:42am On Jun 30, 2014 |
Love and submission are two different qualities required in any union. There is no order(1st or 2nd) but both should be present. As far as they are married, The man should love his wife even if she isn't submissive; likewise the woman should submit to her husband even if he doesn't love her 2 Likes |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by 3Dimension: 8:47am On Jun 30, 2014 |
Emmaomotob: I have no Idea of what u are talking about,who wants a dummy as wife?if all you want from your wife is not to have a say all inthe name of submission then... I have many instances whereby the man is a control freak and whenever the wife raises an objection she becomes insubmissive. |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by UjSizzle(f): 8:59am On Jun 30, 2014 |
A woman's show of love is via submission/respect or whatever you mean to call it. I don't think that one should be an offshoot of the other though Don't believe marital love should be very conditional, or you both are bound to break up sooner or later. 3 Likes |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by Bigsteveg(m): 9:03am On Jun 30, 2014 |
ismokeweed: Nyashing Na wetin concern u be dat, diff things for different folks |
Re: Love Or Submission...which Should Come First In Marriage? by mezebel(f): 9:08am On Jun 30, 2014 |
Sijo01: LOVE!......... A woman can submit the whole of her and forget about herself is she's loved.GNS 101 |
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