my mum use to tell me "obiora why wont u be like obasanjo"

DesChyko: It hurts to be compared, yes. But what our parents expect of us is to turn the pain from it into constructive energy, and we cannot blame them for wanting the best from us. If they do so, inspite of the negative feelings it may brew in us at first, they do so for our own good.
Even as you get older, you begin to compare yourself to others to motivate yourself, so, what really is their wrong?
Perhaps they overdo it, perhaps we overeact to it, all in all, lets not lose sight of the message they give.
After all, they do not expose all our wrongdoings to our faces, do they? They notice some, but keep mum on it.
Imagine a life without challenges and targets. The comparisons are essential, I tell you.

not when they become more often and overhyped

Boland: Sometimes it helps the child to be more constructive.

What kind of constructive judgment do you want a child to have when he/she has bullies to deal with in school without you telling him/her that 'someone' is actually better.

Even when she/he has it in her/himself to stand up and avoid being bully the 'my mum thinks I'm not tat good anyway' stops her/him from defending himself. There are ways to achieve constructiveness in a child and it has nothing to do with 'comparison' especially for the wrong reason. It so happens that the person might even be bullying your child behind your back, what harsher weapon can such person have?

"Even your mum thinks I'm way better than, so pick up the bag, you pickleface." that's just wrong on mane levels.

I always thought my mum was the bully and my dad was my ally. But I would rather stick my little nose up and give plenty reasons why I'm better than 'the person' regardless of how true the situation is. And she would smack me but I had said my bit, till I realized that she wasn't the enemy, just a caring woman whose dream for me was 'huuuggggeeee!!!'

Esp when I always acted all tomboyish anyway.

shoefreak:

What kind of constructive judgment do you want a child to have when he/she has bullies to deal with in school without you telling him/her that 'someone' is actually better.

Even when she/he has it in her/himself to stand up and avoid being bully the 'my mum thinks I'm not tat good anyway' stops her/him from defending himself. There are ways to achieve constructiveness in a child and it has nothing to do with 'comparison' especially for the wrong reason. It so happens that the person might even be bullying your child behind your back, what harsher weapon can such person have?

"Even your mum thinks I'm way better than, so pick up the bag, you pickleface." that's just wrong on mane levels.

I always thought my mum was the bully and my dad was my ally. But I would rather stick my little nose up and give plenty reasons why I'm better than 'the person' regardless of how true the situation is. And she would smack me but I had said my bit, till I realized that she wasn't the enemy, just a caring woman whose dream for me was 'huuuggggeeee!!!'

Esp when I always acted all tomboyish anyway.

I wrote "sometimes" ma'am, not in all cases. Nice one though.

ayorwizz: Lol...I dnt think dis can be taken away from african parents, nigerian parents precisely.
of which, it gets to a point where it doesn't work anymore coz the kid tend to grow thick-skinned to it. Compare from now till Jesus come, na wetin hin go do he go still do.

Yes, exactly. Eventually the child will think "why bother" and not even pay you any mind anymore.

It's really not good at all.

obayaya:

Lmao!!!

You dey do like bingo?

That was how mum called me a goat one day and I asked her "who born this goat?"

The look on her face was priceless

LWKMD that's amazing

Boland: I wrote "sometimes" ma'am, not in all cases. Nice one though.

Ok
Thanks. Cheers

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shoefreak:
Ok
Thanks. Cheers

I could bet u've gotten lot of shoes.

jomile: R u blind?did u see reserve dere?u dat is trying 2 correct someone can't even read,teacher teach me nonsense

u need mental check up,read wat u wrote dumbass!

technophile: I wish my mom can read this. The most annoying thing is that all the children she's comparing me with are not better than me, for example one of them saw my O'level result, marvelled at it wishing he could have something like that, this guy sat for 3 exams and still find it very difficult to bring out five credits in all the 3, yet mom wants me to emulate him and some other guys that are not even better than me. It really sucks and most time I really wish I can tell her that:- ' hey woman come here, your own mate too is Michelle Obama' but I can't cos I know she'll be depressed, but she doesn't give a damn whether am depressed or not, I mean she's a parent and she's suppose to know better.

Wow!! I feel the silent pain in your voice, but seriously you can talk to her, tell her how you feel whenever she compared you with someone............................................................

how,i wish my mum can read this,am always compared to ma perfect elder sister,she is in uni,i have not entered nd she kips on saying it,y can't u be lyk ur sis,it sucks hearing it.

Every child is different. True! Also what works perfectly for Ada might not work for Chinwe


Its the responsibility of every good parent to chastise and correct his or her ward when necessary. Praise them when they excel and also praise them when they perform below expectations.

In the long run they'd do better,comparism of any sort does more harm than good. It damages their self esteem also.

When things are done in the right manner as regards any kid,it will only get better in future.

technophile: I wish my mom can read this. The most annoying thing is that all the children she's comparing me with are not better than me, for example one of them saw my O'level result, marvelled at it wishing he could have something like that, this guy sat for 3 exams and still find it very difficult to bring out five credits in all the 3, yet mom wants me to emulate him and some other guys that are not even better than me. It really sucks and most time I really wish I can tell her that:- ' hey woman come here, your own mate too is Michelle Obama' but I can't cos I know she'll be depressed, but she doesn't give a damn whether am depressed or not, I mean she's a parent and she's suppose to know better.

Mee tooo

shoefreak:
Ok
Thanks. Cheers

Solami, let's fight

This is two sided, you cannot feel the pressure to compare unless you're a parent or a caregiver. Some children will just rotten if such challenge is not put to them. But such people will be presented to them in a positive sense as a role model and urge the child not to be a failure in future.

tell that to my mum or some nigerian moms always comparing their children to other even when theirs is clearly because of five minutes of charades that those children can do no harm

We have constructive comparation and destructive comparation.


If only they could sticl to the former, the world could have been a more safer.

ATSOMEH:

if a child hears dis everyday, he ll conquer mount everest and obama would be his houseboy.

GBAM!!!!

obayaya:

Lmao!!!

You dey do like bingo?

That was how mum called me a goat one day and I asked her "who born this goat?"

The look on her face was priceless

Na wa.

The easiest way to get me really angry is comparing me to someone else. My mum has done it countless times, even my dad of recent, but then wetin concern me. Mine is to live my life according to my own pace.

Teespice:


Na wa.

The easiest way to get me really angry is comparing me to someone else. My mum has done it countless times, even my dad of recent, but then wetin concern me. Mine is to live my life according to my own pace.

Well, it happens to the best of us.

The best we can do is take the positives from their comments, Shield ourselves from the negatives and move ahead.

This really cause sibling rivary in my own family... the mummy boys think they are the kings and we are just a nobody and that is what they think of us till today. Anyway that never change my love for them but i noticed they both have the entitlement mentality and this almost destroyed the family as a whole.
Parent please, never make a mistake of having a favorite child, this will hunt the family as a whole... I wish this was never the case if only i could change the hands of time.

Mabinu. I don't have the strength. Je ka se erepa instead. **taps him** you are hit!!!!

San Miguel:

Solami, let's fight

shoefreak: Mabinu. I don't have the strength. Je ka se erepa instead. **taps him** you are hit!!!!

http: This really cause sibling rivary in my own family... the mummy boys think they are the kings and we are just a nobody and that is what they think of us till today. Anyway that never change my love for them but i noticed they both have the entitlement mentality and this almost destroyed the family as a whole.
Parent please, never make a mistake of having a favorite child, this will hunt the family as a whole... I wish this was never the case if only i could change the hands of time.

is it polygamy related? The polygamy rivalry is often the worst. And the grownups don't always act accordingly at making the already wierd situation a little less wierd.

Awwww. Who stole your toy? Is it that big bully with the cute face and chubby cheeks? Let's go beat her.

San Miguel:

shoefreak: Awwww. Who stole your toy? Is it that big bully with the cute face and chubby cheeks? Let's go beat her.

hian, who be dat

I have had this done to me my whole life !

You tell me, you were the one with the sad face on a thead like this one.
so I asked if someone stole your toy, didn't mean anyone in particular. But it's probably a (f) since you are a woman wrapper after all.

*runs away**

San Miguel:

hian, who be dat

lepasharon: I have had this done to me my whole life !

You need to stick your cute little nose in their faces and tell them they have got nothing on you! They just haters with running mouth.

shoefreak: You tell me, you were the one with the sad face on a thead like this one.
so I asked if someone stole your toy, didn't mean anyone in particular. But it's probably a (f) since you are a woman wrapper after all.

*runs away**

Hehehehe

Agbaya ni e.. Oloju dudu

You know you love me die!!

Hehehehe

Oloju funfun. Omode ishe!

San Miguel:


Hehehehe

Agbaya ni e.. Oloju dudu