It all boils down to mind set.
They believed that if you are not slaving away as an employee, you are a nobody. it is pathetic!

Why r women running the lives of men?

Why do they set the standard for which man is good or not, rich or poor? We are all living in the reality of women, we strive for them and not for self development, duty and manly honour. Why? Well...




Vegine.


It runs the progress of men. Many men live and die for that hollow inbetween. Only to discover its not what its cracked up to be. Women have used their private part against the sanity of men, by creating a matrix that keeps men 'busy' and constantly thirsty. Many men believe that if they 'make it', they will win the undying devotion of some woman or women. We've been, at a point in time, all reduced to loaves of bread because of the need of self validation on the part of women. Most men will either get rich or die trying and the one who will get rich will remain in this female matrix that is constantly reinforced by media, humanities, daddy and momny (especially daddy thanks to mommy) church system and pretty much all other redundant social institutions: to feed her emotional requirement to keep her man obedient, generous and stupid.


Men should get rich and be good at what they do because they are masculine and ordained by God almighty to run this entire elaborate movie called humanity. Men are called rule with justice and truth in all they do. Women are machines of emotions and fic⅝kle sentiments. They have no ability to instinctively admister justice and truth. Its all about them. They can only but submit to the sheer yolk of the masculinity of patriarchy.

Man is ON TOP of woman. FOREVER.


But, men have LISTENED to women. They ignore God only to pay for it in mental slavery and drudgery...the matrix...that women conveniently keep them busy in.

It is time to take the Red Pill men. A real man is a spiritual man, not a church goer or an adherant of christendom (run by women). A spiritual man is spiritually MINDED, doggedly focused on pleasing God and doing his commandments, NOT pleasing women to do their bidding. A real man does to right thing, a real man is honourable, able to sacrifice and administer justice in truth. A real man fears and TRUSTS God. A real man rules his woman and children, leads and supports them, provides for them, protects them from danger, develops them spiritually and physically. A real man knows that things of the world are transient compared to eternal things. He knows he will die one day and looks forward for what comes next, as such he is focused on HIGHER things.

NOT all men will be wealthy famous and powerful. Some will, some will not. Upon seeing a real man who does he lot in life in the manner described above, women will cower in submission. However, if they don't...



A real man CARES NOT. He is too focused on his purpose and pleasing his maker.


Will all the real men stand up?

Sweetlemon:

Businesses are more secure only when you've done your home work well. Learn the ropes and even if your business fails, you can always bounce back cos you've mastered your field.

a few questions please,

1. So in other words Jobs are more secure in other many cases except in contrast to a business where one has done his home work well?

2. is it possible to have a job, be able to save for rainy days and/or have a side business?

3. Please explain 'always bounce back'. 'Cause the way I understood it I could also say if one is sacked from a job & has a certain level of experience he/she can always bounce back to a new one soon.

Good morning

Its because the want to be secured. They feel buisness can turn sour in future not realising that a buisness man is a buisness man if he falls he will stand, its the drive in him that makes him who he is but a man with a white color job if fired hmmmm

Meanwhile see five things a girl can't change about a guy http://www.dsuperwoman.com/2014/06/5-things-you-just-cant-change-about-guy.html?m=1

I dont believe U Op, maybe is recharge cards they're selling.

I dont see a reasonable lady telling a successful businessman to quit his business and go look for bank job.

Dont tell me nonsense..

Just passing ooooo

okpara ugo: I am a humble guy who has some rich friends who struggled their ways to the top without the golden spoon syndrome when they were born.

I happen to see that some guys who are out of relationship for one thing or the other or were unable to marry their first love are finding it very hard to settle down with ladies of their choice. These ladies aged between 22-27 tend to come around to enjoy expensive dates and enjoy driving in their cars but will hardly accede to a discussion on marriage.

One question they often ask these successful guys is, " Why not get another job ". One can easily see the concern on their faces when asking this question. Oftentimes these guys are shocked by these questions as some of them have worked in banks and telecom firms before meeting these girls. But right now developed businesses which they do and earn good profit comparable to their salaries as paid employees. In addition some have built good houses, own cars and businesses.

Very vivid is mike's case who was formerly a white collar job worker who when he was living in a one room apartment had many girlfriends and most of these girls were begging him for marriage. He counted about 3 girls who once knelt down in his room to ask for his hands in marriage. Mike now finds it hard to comprehend that now that he owns a business and drives a big car and occupy a big house, what he meets are player ladies. Mike has counted at least 5 of his lady friends who are asking him to get another bank job.

Mike tries to explain to them that getting another bank job is not the problem but meeting the banks deposit targets as he has dumped several offers in the past after he called it quit from the corporate world. One now wonders whether these ladies are disconnected from reality that one, there are no jobs and two, to maintain a job, one cannot actively maintain a thriving business.

Ken once discussed with me how often ladies accepted to be friends with him when he was on tie and suit and worked as an office assistant in a corporate firm. He had a wonderful command of english language though he capped his education at the OND level. He developed love for a particular business and started it while his younger brother ran the business for him he still maintained his job. Later on he found out that his profit from business started exceedinghos salary and he later quit his job to pursue his business fully. Today mike is very successful and lives in his own house, though still single. The ladies he sees are more interested in friendship than in settling down and he has also encountered same questions like," Why not get another job" from his lady friends.

To sum up this write up, why will a lady accept to date a bank contract staff with a salary of N60k or an oil company contract staff with a salary of N80k in preference to a businessman with proof of wealth ?

Those they are meeting are not yet serious ones because most good and marriageable ladies out there even hardly accept offer for expensive shopping and clubbing etc. till they are sure of the commitment of such man.

Tell your friends to check it if they are in search of real life partner then they should stop flashy life style cause everyone knows that it doesn't most times last longer neither is guarantee for steadiness.....

In my opinion, the correlation between businessmen and white collar jobs and their relationships isnt clear. It may be non existent if I may say, or just pure coincidence. In life, everything is a risk. There is a risk of being laid off in white collar jobs especially in banks. However in businesses, you are your own boss, and just as economists will say, demand and supply is also a risk factor. But with deep analysis, if it isnt pure coincidence. The ladies may just like men who have a fixed time schedule, for reasons best known to her. She probably wants him to have a source of living where she would predict his time and movement, unlike a personal business which has a flexible time ( to check insecurities and infidelity) or for just plain planning and reliability.
She may also prefer to have a guy with a white collar status and name like "strategic planner and IT specialist at Guarantee Trust Bank" lol . I don't still understand.

I have thought about it, but the reasons I've come up with as to why the ladies prefer white collar jobs to businessmen is pretty lame or maybe the women are pretty lame too. (Oh, ive probably found another reason) .

A source of income shoukd be legal and sustainable, thats whats most important.

Rich4god: or better still, why do some ladies prefer already made guys than those who are still struggling....

becoz noone knows the future besides GOD.WHAT IF THE GUY NEVER PROSPERS.AND BLACK MEN WHEN THEY RISE THE FIRST THING THEY DO IS CHANGE THE WIFE SO why settle fo less in the name of love as if you cn dish love in a plate and drive love around and love wont take care of the children

soft and sweet: In my opinion, the correlation between businessmen and white collar jobs and their relationships isnt clear. It may be non existent if I may say, or just pure coincidence. In life, everything is a risk. There is a risk of being laid off in white collar jobs especially in banks. However in businesses, you are your own boss, and just as economists will say, demand and supply is also a risk factor. But with deep analysis, if it isnt pure coincidence. The ladies may just like men who have a fixed time schedule, for reasons best known to her. She probably wants him to have a source of living where she would predict his time and movement, unlike a personal business which has a flexible time ( to check insecurities and infidelity) or for just plain planning and reliability.
She may also prefer to have a guy with a white collar status and name like "strategic planner and IT specialist at Guarantee Trust Bank" lol . I don't still understand.

I have thought about it, but the reasons I've come up with as to why the ladies prefer white collar jobs to businessmen is pretty lame or maybe the women are pretty lame too. (Oh, ive probably found another reason) .

A source of income shoukd be legal and sustainable, thats whats most important.

You are very funny.

You just covered all the possible answers.

Votukpa: Why r women running the lives of men?

Why do they set the standard for which man is good or not, rich or poor? We are all living in the reality of women, we strive for them and not for self development, duty and manly honour. Why? Well...




Vegine.


It runs the progress of men. Many men live and die for that hollow inbetween. Only to discover its not what its cracked up to be. Women have used their private part against the sanity of men, by creating a matrix that keeps men 'busy' and constantly thirsty. Many men believe that if they 'make it', they will win the undying devotion of some woman or women. We've been, at a point in time, all reduced to loaves of bread because of the need of self validation on the part of women. Most men will either get rich or die trying and the one who will get rich will remain in this female matrix that is constantly reinforced by media, humanities, daddy and momny (especially daddy thanks to mommy) church system and pretty much all other redundant social institutions: to feed her emotional requirement to keep her man obedient, generous and stupid.


Men should get rich and be good at what they do because they are masculine and ordained by God almighty to run this entire elaborate movie called humanity. Men are called rule with justice and truth in all they do. Women are machines of emotions and fic⅝kle sentiments. They have no ability to instinctively admister justice and truth. Its all about them. They can only but submit to the sheer yolk of the masculinity of patriarchy.

Man is ON TOP of woman. FOREVER.


But, men have LISTENED to women. They ignore God only to pay for it in mental slavery and drudgery...the matrix...that women conveniently keep them busy in.

It is time to take the Red Pill men. A real man is a spiritual man, not a church goer or an adherant of christendom (run by women). A spiritual man is spiritually MINDED, doggedly focused on pleasing God and doing his commandments, NOT pleasing women to do their bidding. A real man does to right thing, a real man is honourable, able to sacrifice and administer justice in truth. A real man fears and TRUSTS God. A real man rules his woman and children, leads and supports them, provides for them, protects them from danger, develops them spiritually and physically. A real man knows that things of the world are transient compared to eternal things. He knows he will die one day and looks forward for what comes next, as such he is focused on HIGHER things.

NOT all men will be wealthy famous and powerful. Some will, some will not. Upon seeing a real man who does he lot in life in the manner described above, women will cower in submission. However, if they don't...



A real man CARES NOT. He is too focused on his purpose and pleasing his maker.


Will all the real men stand up?

The real man. Thunmbs up !

One man once said in a speech that all what men struggle in life is to secure the kind of woman they admire to be with...

What is that achievement of yours which you won't share with your woman ? None.

So the more achieved/fulfilled you are, the better chances of having that woman of your dreams.

But an experienced man should know where to draw the line on what a woman should not dictate to him..

BiggyB242:

I disagree with you,not for a naija babe

Maybe its ur experience

Eyop:
Sister are you still on this matter? Hmmm you really have the time to explain. It would have been better if the argument was based on passion for business and not that business is not secure.

That's part of what I mean when I talk about doing your home work well.

soft and sweet: . The ladies may just like men who have a fixed time schedule, for reasons best known to her. She probably wants him to have a source of living where she would predict his time and movement, unlike a personal business which has a flexible time ( to check insecurities and infidelity)

This is a plausible angle that I should have thought about earlier. Some women 'prepare' well in advance of marriage for how to waka kurukere without being caught. Husbands with a fixed time schedule/job commitment are arguably the safest bet for such women.

Whay are u all about? My younger brother works with zenith monday to friday and at times saturdays,yet he has time to carry different girls. Me,I do biz monday to saturday and have only sunday to rest and I don't carry girls;so what're u saying? What gives you that idea that all businessmen carry girls? Abeg,who go be cassanova go be cassanova joor. It's not about what the person does for a living.

class0247:


And your wish is for your sister to marry a rich business man who go around looking for girls to sleep with...money is not everything

pro01:
This is a plausible angle that I should have thought about earlier. Some women 'prepare' well in advance of marriage for how to waka kurukere without being caught. Husbands with a fixed time schedule/job commitment are arguably the safest bet for such women.

Guy, banker guys play runs during office hours.

This is off record...

Don't they take eating breaks ?

crudedude:

a few questions please,

1. So in other words Jobs are more secure in other many cases except in contrast to a business where one has done his home work well?

2. is it possible to have a job, be able to save for rainy days and/or have a side business?

3. Please explain 'always bounce back'. 'Cause the way I understood it I could also say if one is sacked from a job & has a certain level of experience he/she can always bounce back to a new one soon.

Good morning

A very good morning to you.

1. You cannot even get a good job without doing your home work well (the needed qualifications, connections) Sorry I don't call any less than 350k salary a good job unless there is a good atmosphere for growth and promotions in that company. Most companies these days lack that due to politics that has steadily crept into the corporate world.

2. Absolutely! I'm not against having jobs at all. I am all for saving to start a business on the side or investments while you have a job (no matter your salary). The advantages of this cannot be over emphasized. Business stimulates your brain and keeps you on your toes. The fear of loosing money and the anticipation of making money will do wonders for your mental abilities, forcing you to think faster than your usual collar job peers. There is nothing like making money for yourself. The amount of zeal you put into your own business cannot be compared to what you put into another man's company. This of course depends on the level of passion/interest you have for the said business. It ultimately improves mental health. Also, when having a business beside a regular job, You will always have something to fall back on in case anything happens to the other. As Warren Buffet advised, never have only one source of income!

3. It is much much much easier to bounce back if a business fails when you have done your homework and learnt the ropes. Your wealth of experience will always come in handy. Bill Gates and co. failed many times while working on many ideas. They've all risked and lost lots of money which would have made them go bankrupt at one point or the other. But their experience, zeal, and their knowledge of the ropes always ensured they bounced back in no time.

Lol! In present day Nigeria, should you loose your job, OYO l' o wa! Only God in his infinite mercies will help you get another one. Unless of course if you know your way around.

chronique: Whay are u all about? My younger brother works with zenith monday to friday and at times saturdays,yet he has time to carry different girls. Me,I do biz monday to saturday and have only sunday to rest and I don't carry girls;so what're u saying? What gives you that idea that all businessmen carry girls? Abeg,who go be cassanova go be cassanova joor. It's not about what the person does for a living.

Thank you for the response.

Ladies most times are not realistic.

As a banker, you are likely to have the opportunity of toasting at least one beautiful girl everyday. And they fall so easily because of the way they adore bankers as superhumans.

My gift to a lady who visits me as a banker mostly didn't exceed N200 for t-fare. Yet she will come again. And even when she sees another lady in your house, she will still come again. Ladies are so naive. They love banging the bad guys..

Hmm.

Truth!!! Most times,I only get to think about women when the weather is damn cold and a brother is feeling Hot. Aside that,I'm all work,no play.

Dcmg: oga,which girl wouldn't want to marry a guy with the title of Chairman,CEO,founder of coca cola,facebook,mcdonalds,microsoft,oracle,apple,Google e.t.c.Do they even know what a businessman is?Maybe their defination of
businessmen is those ones in alaba or aba.
To start with,real entrepreneurs dnt even have time for women

I have read all the posts on this thread and I only have this small contribution to make:

What are the contributions of Nigerian Wives and Ladies to their relationships or marriages?

Why do ladies find it hard to contribute financially to towards the success of their marriages?

These are questions that need answers. Thanks.

Redman44: I have read all the posts on this thread and I only have this small contribution to make:

What are the contributions of Nigerian Wives and Ladies to their relationships or marriages?

Why do ladies find it hard to contribute financially to towards the success of their marriages?

These are questions that need answers. Thanks.

Not anymore. Maybe women below 27 years. I know a growing number of women above 29 years willing to foot the bills if only they can just get a husband.

I know a growing number of men looking for such women..........

Sweetlemon:


Not anymore. Maybe women below 27 years. I know a growing number of women above 29 willing to foot the bills if only they can just get a husband.

I know a growing number of men looking for such women..........

then the women and men don't have any problem searching now since you know what they both want. All you do is to connect them together and problem solved.

@Sweetlemon I have a few reservations with 1 & 3 of your response but we do agree on 2. All points were duly noted though. Thanks a lot.

Eyop:
then the women and men don't have any problem searching now since you know what they both want. All you do is to connect them together and problem solved.

LOL

crudedude: @Sweetlemon I have a few reservations with 1 & 3 of your response but we do agree on 2. All points were duly noted though. Thanks a lot.

Of course you won't agree that less than 350k salary is a not a good job. Lol!

Sweetlemon:

LOL

You dey laugh But joke apart,why should a lady be so desperate to get married at the age of 29-32 or even 34? I don't see myself getting married to any girl less than 28 oooh.

Eyop:
You dey laugh But joke apart,why should a lady be so desperate to get married at the age of 29-32 or even 34? I don't see myself getting married to any girl less than 28 oooh.

Don't blame them. Blame the society that look at them like they have a fundamental problem if they are not married yet.

Sweetlemon:

Of course you won't agree that less than 350k salary is a not a good job. Lol!

lol not really. No 1 response was like circumventing the question asked. 350k salary is pretty ok in my dream field not much a huge figure per se. We digress now

Sweetlemon:


Not anymore. Maybe women below 27 years. I know a growing number of women above 29 years willing to foot the bills if only they can just get a husband.

I know a growing number of men looking for such women..........

What percentage of ladies below 30 are earning income in Nigeria ? Maybe 10%

Talking to a lady who you intend marrying and all she bothers to express to you is her desire to run a boutique on your money. Is that her contribution to the bills ?

I know a woman her husband has funded her shop severally yet she is always running it down.

okpara ugo:

What percentage of ladies below 30 are earning income in Nigeria ? Maybe 10%

Talking to a lady who you intend marrying and all she bothers to express to you is her desire to run a boutique on your money. Is that her contribution to the bills ?

I know a woman her husband has funded her shop severally yet she is always running it down.

10% indeed! You berra get your nose out of NL and see the real world! That's just one example. There are many women willing to foot bills these days. You need to go out more often to understand what I'm saying.

crudedude:

lol not really. No 1 response was like circumventing the question asked. 350k salary is pretty ok in my dream field not much a huge figure per se. We digress now

I wasn't circumventing (or whatever you mean) anything. Just saying hard facts most of us would rather deceive ourselves are not true. Can you point at one person who got a good job in a big company after 2007 without connections?