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Re: My Galfriend, Boyfriend, And Myslf: by Nobody: 10:48am On Oct 09, 2008 |
tutcy4u: Trust me girl, I know how ard it is to stay away. It wont be easy. The first few day would be impossible. But what will spur you on is his indifference. The fact that he dosent care if you call him or not. And he dosent even bother to call you himself. You could call him once in a while, send him text messages, but stay away from him. Let him miss you. Try to go on with it for sometime, then call him and have a chat with him. Tell him you still love him and tell him why you stayed away. I bet he'll tell you what's been on his mind since and dont let him put the blame on you. But be careful how you 'chase' him. You might hate yourself later for stooping that low, because the way I see it, the guy's leaving you. I could be wrong of course time will tell. Take care girl and dont hold the tears back. It releives a lot of pain and tension |
Re: My Galfriend, Boyfriend, And Myslf: by Nobody: 10:54am On Oct 09, 2008 |
tutcy4u: Staying till he calls it off is an option. But girl, I wont subject myself to such heartache. So he eats his cake and gets it back abi?? This is not a child's play, this is a relationship, and possibly courtship. Why play games?? Its either he's in or not. If he's not ready to change his attitude and give a reasonable explianation for his withdrawal, then I'm afriad you'll just waste precious time staying. But if you want stay oh . . . its your choice. |
Re: My Galfriend, Boyfriend, And Myslf: by izinbizi(m): 11:02am On Oct 09, 2008 |
you heard |
Re: My Galfriend, Boyfriend, And Myslf: by Nobody: 11:15am On Oct 09, 2008 |
izi-n-bizi: You do have a point!! |
Re: My Galfriend, Boyfriend, And Myslf: by whitelexi(m): 11:20am On Oct 09, 2008 |
tutcy4u: I simply love the first line of your post because it answers all your questions: 1) am really surprised at you man: I expected u to be surprised, because girls like u r so engrossed in thoughts regarding what u want and what u think, u forget that guys also have a thought of their's and also want stuff in their own way. When u learn to start thinking from different perspectives, things will start getting clearer and maybe then, just maybe, you'll not be surprised at me anymore 2) how could u reason like this?: The answers to this one are clearly represented in the 1st question as highlighted above, but for clarity sake, i reason the way i reason because i reason from both perspectives and therefore, normally get a clearer and more wholistic picture of the situation. . . Did u ever hear of that saying that what an adult sees while sitting down, a child will not see - even if he climbs to the top of an iroko tree? 3) you certainly must be the kind of guy that could do such a thing: There u go again, first it was your bf u accused without any proof, now me? Damn! and i thought u were listening and learning! |
Re: My Galfriend, Boyfriend, And Myslf: by JJYOU: 11:22am On Oct 09, 2008 |
the games people play with thier lives. God help us |
Re: My Galfriend, Boyfriend, And Myslf: by izinbizi(m): 11:28am On Oct 09, 2008 |
tutcy4u this is no time for blames, read my immediate post above, thats the best thing u can do for yourself now, u dont need furthjer turbulence, i think you have had enough. Dont get into was I wrong or not, it will not help so much now. |
Re: My Galfriend, Boyfriend, And Myslf: by whitelexi(m): 11:39am On Oct 09, 2008 |
izi-n-bizi: I think she knows she blew it I think the guy himself is tired of her suspicion and i think she also knows that. I think the best thing for her is to learn from this experience and to use it in future, if u think your guy is still there for u, then u are assuming stuff. Candid advice? Move on and learn for future purposes. . . Nothing kills relationships more than a suspecting partner who has turned insecure. |
Re: My Galfriend, Boyfriend, And Myslf: by tutcy4u: 1:35pm On Oct 09, 2008 |
whitelexi: lexi or whateva you call urslf, y do u have 2 judge me like this, on a more serious note, what was i supposed 2 do? jst sit n watch what evidence do i need again? ok, y is my galfrnd actn up 2? anywys i dnt blaim u at all, u reason jst like him, n like i said, i know you the type that would do such a thing, s**ker |
Re: My Galfriend, Boyfriend, And Myslf: by whitelexi(m): 1:53pm On Oct 09, 2008 |
tutcy4u: My friend, the truth is bitter but we all identify with it from time to time, it is the first stage of growing up. . . I can understand your anguish, and i want u to understand that i dont hate u, i have no hard feelings or anger in my head. . . I'm just placing myself in the different shoes available and wondering how i'd react. My screen name on NL is Whitelexi, but if u choose to call me Lexi - i'll let it pass. I am not judging you, but looking at your application for help from another angle. I wouldnt say i expected u to sit down and watch, I expected u to ask both of them in a good way, and then to drop it there if they say there is nothing between them. You dont have any evidence yet so what u should've done was just ask and let go. It is only when u disagree with what he tells u that he starts to see that you dont trust him and he will most likely react to that, abi u also expected him to sit down and look? I imagine your girlfriend is acting up because she probably cant believe u r constantly suspecting her with your bf. Who wont stay away from someone who keeps suspecting them with her guy? Now she stays away, u say she's acting up, when she was there, u accused her, and with no evidence at all except your insecure obsessions, what do u want the poor girl to do? And finally, i'm the type that will stay the hell away from a suspecting partner cos i'm not ready for the drama, I've seen it happen and i wont get involved, sorry |
Re: My Galfriend, Boyfriend, And Myslf: by MissyB1(m): 2:04pm On Oct 09, 2008 |
izi-n-bizi:Mehn!!! I agree with every single word of this post. I couldn't have said it any berra.Kudos to you Bizi Posta, I feel your pain but if you adhere to this particular advice. . . I'm 90% sure you won't regret it. |
Re: My Galfriend, Boyfriend, And Myslf: by skillmyman(m): 2:07pm On Oct 09, 2008 |
HMMM, ladies expend a lot of motions into things that are not very appropriate. I dont think a guy will consider any babe that does this to him cos it is the highest form of betrayal and i dont think this guy worthy to have ur hand in marriage (my opinion). cant imagine not trusting my spouse!!!!! |
Re: My Galfriend, Boyfriend, And Myslf: by whitelexi(m): 2:19pm On Oct 09, 2008 |
Missy B: Are we talking about a guy who still wants u or a guy who's as good as gone here? If i follow your own words, he's already stepping backwards, u go there thinking u want to use him but instead u're helping the dude out with some extra bangs When its time to discuss your probs, he turns away and says he's not interested, will u fight him? Always think about the other end before u jump into the ocean |
Re: My Galfriend, Boyfriend, And Myslf: by MissyB1(m): 3:03pm On Oct 09, 2008 |
whitelexi:Listen . . . . . . . It's a fact that when you love someone,inspite of what he/she does, it will always be difficult to pull outt'a the relationship at once.What's the essence tellin' her to 'fashi' the guy at once when we know its not possible?I once agreed and still agree that the advice given above is the best option at the moment until she's able help herself out finally. izi-n-bizi:Like I said initially,it's not possible to let go all those things she once did. Yea,call him when you can't hold back,greet him wella like there's nuttin wrong but be smart to detach yourself frm emotions gradually. izi-n-bizi:If she feels the need to satify her sexual urge,let her get it from him for its far more berra than being a cheerful giver by permittin' every TOM,manliness AND HARRY to have a taste after all the same guy has been eatin' the fruit since.So he can still eat as long as they haven't 'officially' called it off.If she also feels like not lettin' the guy in there,better for her. All she needs is just a little self control(sexually) since it seems the guy ain't interested. izi-n-bizi:Yea. . . this is it!! While doin' the calls and satisfyin' herself, she should prepare her mind for the worst jst in case the situation doesn't get berra.That way,she will feel berra as she was already prepared for it.Plus she should endeavour to show interest in any suitor she finds promising and careless about what the guy does with her friend or any other girl. whitelexi:YeaI have already done that and it seems there's no shark at the other end so she can peacefully jump into it and be free. |
Re: My Galfriend, Boyfriend, And Myslf: by ThoniaSlim(f): 3:08pm On Oct 09, 2008 |
whitelexi: Why do you come here and spit lies? deep down in your mind, you know that if you were to be in the poster's shoe you would do worst. so i would advice you to stop deceiving yourself and try to be honest to yourself for once. No hard feelings. |
Re: My Galfriend, Boyfriend, And Myslf: by izinbizi(m): 3:17pm On Oct 09, 2008 |
why do we have to lie to ourselves, we all know to " forget it" is not as easy as we say - but we keep saying it. we say thesame thing every time but when it gets to our turn we cry for years. Its a hurt to the emotion that should heal gradually, stop lying to her, tell her the truth - my dear use him to heal urself gradually. |
Re: My Galfriend, Boyfriend, And Myslf: by benbella(m): 3:36pm On Oct 09, 2008 |
baby girl i will advice u to pretend u never heard anything even if its true u have to search ur conscience and find out if the fault is nt really urs. and if u have to make up or don't make up try as much as possible not to let ur friends what goes on in ur relationship cus wen ur enemies envy ur love they only do wish it was them and find wat to get close but wen ur friend envies they just slip dwn ur doorpost right under ur noes and take ur place. better still if u make up ur mind to leave him find a way for him to call off the relationship so that tomorrow he will not say after all u left him am talking with experience that was wt i did to my ex. we dated for six years and wen i discovered i she was actually cheating on me questioned her twice abt it thou she initially denied it but as a rude boy i watched her closely and discovered it funny enough i forgave her four good times and after dt she kept doing the same thing i did not call it off she walked out on the relationship cus i set the motive rolling for her not to be comfortable in it and she has tried many times to have me back i try as much as possible to remind her of her statements '' SHE SAID IF I REALLY LOVE HER I SHOULD LET HER IN A NEW FOUND LOVE HER '' so its now my turn if she really loves me and wants my happiness she should do the same cus i respected hers.and this was now becus they where dumping her so anytime she gets dumped she remembers me . i dont blame her much she some friends who lead her astray and the worst is that her aunt uses her to make money cus she is vry beautiful she has even done a bill board advert so make up ur mind on want u want u no relationship we can only advice u but the decision is urs i will assure that if u believe so much in urself u wil get love and thats if ur wiling to open ur hrt again. its had getting some i knw but i will tell u there a lot of single pple out there both male and female and be careful lots of scavengers in town but if u feel u can afford to loose him and u fill is the type to spend ur life with then communication matters alot fight for what u have but not a physical fight nor spiritual u can pray and i bet ur educated so use ur nos six before seven and always have it at the back of ur mind that u can force a carmel to d river but cant force it to drink |
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