Frankly, it is stupid for a girl to go out with a guy who cannot take good care of her.
And to the struggling guys who want you to bear with them, my best advice is don't waste your quality time on chasing girls when you are still struggling for survival. It would be better for you to wait until you have finished struggling. Because, when you still broke and poor, you will not have the wherewithal to chase and date the girls of your dream and only go for the cheap girls you can pretend to and even oppress, because majority of poor girls have low esteem. So, why not face your academic or professional pursuits until you have achieved success, then you can date the classy girls and ladies of your dream like those beauties you admire in Vogue, ELLE, Vanity Fair, GQ and other top class magazines or even select the single ones among the 34 beauty queens of Nollywood and Kannywood in the latest edition of NOLLYWOOD MIRROR®.

It is stupid for a girl to claim to have a boyfriend and yet she struggles to have three square meals a day and in fact her poverty stricken boyfriend comes to share her breakfast, lunch and dinner.
Believe it or not, there are girls who are so poor that they cannot even afford sanitary pads and stupidly date equally poor guys who cannot even buy them any.

I always tell poor girls, fornication is fornication. So, if you are going to fornicate, you better make it worth your life and time on earth.
What is the use of hissing at the good time girls on and off campus who are dating comfortable big boys and enjoying their goodies and then whine over your poverty, because you are dating poor guys. And later you turn around to ask the same good time girls for help with basic provisions. That is sheer hypocrisy.
My dear, you need a reality check.

If you are poor and from a poor family and cannot make ends meet, PLEASE, don't worsen your predicament by falling in love or falling in lust with a poor guy from a poor family who cannot even pay bills for his basic needs and is often in debt.
If he tells you, "Please, bear with me", reply with "My dear, bear with me cannot pay our bills" and just leave him alone to worry less about you and face his studies or work to survive and succeed. One headache or bellyache bad enough. Two will be a nightmare for you.
Increase your financial capabilities and decrease your financial liabilities.

Any girl making a poor guy to resort to sharp practices in order to make ends meet and please her does not love him.
Making a poor guy to cheat and steal from others to please you is not love, but robbery.
Stop fooling yourself and making yourself a nuisance to others in the society.

The priority of every poor girl from a poor family is to survive and succeed and help her poor family out of poverty and not dating an equally poor guy from a poor family who cannot help her or her family, but in fact worsens her predicament.
Poor girls and poor guys dating and marrying is what spreads poverty in the world and that is why you see poor couples making poor families living in slums and then breed kids they cannot feed who often end up on the streets and become social misfits and outcasts and criminals who become dangerous nuisance to the society. And we see them everyday messing up the community and committing heinous crimes.
But when a poor girl from a poor family summons up the courage to step up and go out with a comfortable rich guy from the upscale part of town, she will most likely make her way through out of poverty and also help her poor family out of poverty. And move from the ghetto in Ajegunle to the upper class Victoria Garden City, Banana Island or Park View Estate in Lagos.

Why should a poor girl want to keep on sleeping on mats and mattresses on the bare floor when she can move up to sleep in her own well furnished bedrooms in a bed with duvet and roll on Arabian rugs?
C'mon! Who does not like a good life?

The choice is always yours. And don't tell me that comfortable and rich big boys don't know how to love poor girls?
They do, in fact, most of them know how to love and treat poor girls better with class and good taste. Because in most cases, majority of the comfortable rich guys of today were once poor and came from poor families and can empathize with poor girls from their own past experiences of hardship.
Love notes and love letters are better written with smiles of comfort in prosperity than with contorted faces of discomfort in poverty.

When you see a poor woman with poor kids living from crumbs on the streets, you shake your head in pity. But she chose her predicament when she dated and slept or married a poor guy from a poor family. She had a thousand and one chances to make sure that she did not end up in poverty. But she foolishly made one of the common mistakes of life, thinking from her loins instead of thinking right from her brains. So, she ends up with all the warts and all of poverty while the smart and wise girls are enjoying the benefits for making the right choices in relationship and marriage. But unfortunately, we see millions of poor girls repeating the same terrible mistakes in the developing countries and increasing the poverty index instead of joining in the efforts and pursuits to end poverty in the world.

The only poor guy you can risk dating or wedding is the one you are sure of his bright prospects and not mere bragging rights.
He must have a practical plan and life insurance to give you the assurance of a safe and secure life and not the one whose life depends on probabilities and not realities.

Op, i sincerely hope the girl u are trying to impress notices u. I really do

There are some truths in your post. However, it's not all about money. It's better to end up with a poor guy who sincerely loves you than a rich one who does not. Money isn't a constant. It may not be there now but keep trying and trying; it's a matter of time.
Ask some of our parents.

Op! Are u wealthy? Cute? And single? Cos am available.

Zedric: Op, i sincerely hope the girl u are trying to impress notices u. I really do

The OP is happily married.

Orikinla:
The OP is happily married.

And the poster is happy to hear that. Wish u and ur spouse more good things ahead. *gives Op a cask of wine*

adanduka: There are some truths in your post. However, it's not all about money. It's better to end up with a poor guy who sincerely loves you than a rich one who does not. Money isn't a constant. It may not be there now but keep trying and trying; it's a matter of time.
Ask some of our parents.

The post is not about dating or marrying money bags. But about making the right choices in life which most poor girls fail to make and end up in the same vicious circle of poverty of their poor parents.

ALL Z NOT WEALTH

Poor girls should go for go-getters and not the No Future Ambition (NFA) guys.

@OP your post is bias, narrow and misleading. Simply because a girl is in a relationship does not imply that her boyfriend would automatically becom her new parent whose divine responsibility is to provide her with all her neceesities until she is settled and capable of taking care of herself..U even go as far as siding girls who around sleeping with married men all in the name of 'he is settled'

With God all things are possibe # With money all things are answerable!!! If u marry a poor man cos of love nd his condition refuses to turn arnd in due time,my sista! U'll live to hate him cos of poverty!!!

e b like say this op no no the difference between father, husband and boyfriend..... dull op

Orikinla: Poor girls should go for go-getters and not the No Future Ambition (NFA) guys.

Have always wondered why ladies dates guys that can barely provide for himself or themselves . I guess the lady must see some future prospects or as people says, Love is Blind.

There's no truth at all. I can prove to you this OP is a flirt and womanizer, money isn't constant. Not every man would be Rich, but most would be comfortable in their comfort zones. Ladies that goes for wealth, I sorry for them, don't be misled.

OP you have showed how foolish your wife is, and more of the foolishness lies on your shoulder. If you are indeed rich and wealthy why haven't I seen your name close to Dangote's? Because you get small money we no go hear word again.

I know dat girls will be happy to see dis crap
But lemme help u out

Check d percentage of rich ppl to dat of d poor, den make ur choice
Again check d percentage of married to single ladies, den make ur choice
Again, check how old u are now and how many yrs u hav b4 u become old cargo, and den make ur choice

My advice to guys who intend to get married has always been that they marry only when they have enough money to take care of themselves, the lady and at least one kid with some left over to save but in this case I do not agree with the OP.

A guy need not have enough before starting a relationship but this shouldn't be the case when the relationship is ripe for marriage. I do not agree with the OP, particularly because it tried to pass on the responsibilities of the lady's parents to the guy. This is not right by any standards.

How can we imply that the guy should be responsible for ensuring that the girl gets fed 3 meals a day? This is down right silly and shouldn't be the case. I also cannot understand a case where the guy pays the lady's school fees (for those who do). I would understand if the lady has no one to take care of her but when she has parents, those responsibilities necessarily are theirs and not the guy's.

When yr daughter is all grown up, kindly do the needful by showing her this thread.

Missjargo: Op! Are u wealthy? Cute? And single? Cos am available.

If your dp is an archetype of whom you are... then i doubt you really would be available
You should have your pick of admirers

pickabeau1:

If your dp is an archetype of whom you are... then i doubt you really would be available
You should have your pick of admirers

jest tryin to mess around a bit

I think I understand d OP's point; u don't come here shouting foul, if u haven't grasped where d man is coming from
He never said "very reach" he said some1 dat cann tek care of u" meaaning a show of responsibility; my dear U people myt not understand; buh I work in aa sub-urban setting; n I have seen cases; (a case where a man's wife put to bed, n d man couldnn't provide money, 4 delivery (a mere 7k) or even pad or other necessities ) den y bringing d child to d world to suffer or hawk items on d streets? U. All should try to understand n grasp a persons point of view.m..
A man dat caannot tek care of himself, nn @ leaast an extra person comfortaably is not ripe @ all for marriage, or bringing in a lady; it shouldn't be... U musn't be super rich; buh @ least comfortable enof to cateer for basic needs....

Unkle Ray...

Op i disagree with u,what if the guy went bankrupt, the lady should look 4 the next available rich guy, is that it? And what does that make the girl a champion? Or a slut. Btw why cnt she strive for success and be independent. Must a girl depend on a guy for everything?

OP, HOPE U DID NT GET DUMPED BY A GIRL WHO OPTED FOR A POOR DUDE. THERE R GIRLS WHO R NT POOR AT HEART AND WHO KNOW MONEY CAN B ACQUIRED.

OP is sooo on point, I once had a boyfriend who was broke and then I was broke too bt we luved each other. I never agreed to any proposal frm comfortable guys cos I thought I loved him but guess what? The so called "boyfriend" was busy behind me dating rich girls to make ends meet for himself, while I was wallowing in poverty.

Orikinla: Poor girls should go for go-getters and not the No Future Ambition (NFA) guys.

Stop being contradictory mister

Aren't you the same person who tag women as gold diggers.

Pffft.

fattbabakay: With God all things are possibe # With money all things are answerable!!! If u marry a poor man cos of love nd his condition refuses to turn arnd in due time,my sista! U'll live to hate him cos of poverty!!!

True words.

muaa: OP is sooo on point, I once had a boyfriend who was broke and then I was broke too bt we luved each other. I never agreed to any proposal frm comfortable guys cos I thought I loved him but guess what? The so called "boyfriend" was busy behind me dating rich girls to make ends meet for himself, while I was wallowing in poverty.

Some broke and poor guys are misunderstanding the point.

Who wan marry sufferhead?

Teespice:

Stop being contradictory mister

Aren't you the same person who tag women as gold diggers.

Pffft.

Not Orikinla.
Anyway what is wrong with digging for gold?
What should they be digging for?
Cowries?

Yungwizzzy: https://www.nairaland.com/1808657/only-foolish-guys-date-marry

Yes.
They should avoid both predicaments.

Smart poor girls can make ends meet and even help their poor families out of poverty.

They should date and marry guys who can pay their bills or those who have sure prospects for life improvement.
Any guy who lives in the same one room apartment for years and then goes on to marry and have kids in the same one room is RE-TARDED. And majority of them are in the slums.

The attached photo showing kids in a slum is enough to prove my points.
To me it is witchcraft to have innocent kids in slums where they suffer horrible and terrible things, because of poor living conditions and exposed to preventable diseases caused more by their poverty than natural causes.

op it is easier said than done remember that nobody knows tomorrow. only a hoe can agree to with you. what I'd the said girl falls to yahoo boys. ritualist armed robber 419? remember job profession is not written in the fore head. I have a sister that fell victim to 419 all because of dating rich guys

what a lot of bullshit for such a long write up. I have gone after chicks with just a scrappy bathroom sleepers on my feet. Its all about the two people in question. abi no be so?